Vazhinji vachiri kuyaruka vanoona yakaoma-yepamoyo zvinonyadzisira pamhepo nguva refu vasati vaita yavo yekutanga kusangana pabonde. Izvi zvinoshandura maitiro avanoita nezvebonde ravo. Heino nyaya yaDaniel.
MUNUNI - Kutya Dhanyeri anogara achigara naye. Kutya kudzokororazve, kwekudzokera kumashure maitiro ake ekurehwa nekunyadzisa hakusi kusaruramisira nokuti zvingava nyore nyore.
Kuvhiringidza kwake hakusi pamishonga yemishonga, doro kana kutenga, asi zvinonyadzisira. Kunyange mifananidzo yevasikana-vakadzipfeka mumitambo yekudhirodza yakakwana kukanganisa dambudziko rakabatana Daniel akakwanisa kuzvivakira iye nekubatsirwa kwechiremba. Akakwanisa kuwana chikoro chake chekusekondari gore rakapera, asi chete kuburikidza nekudzidzira pachedu, uye nekubatana neboka rekutsigira kune avo vakadhevedzwa zvekuona zvinonyadzisira. Akapedza makore pamberi pe laptop yake, achiona zvinonyadzisira uye kuita bonhora kusvika katatu pazuva. Muongorori wake anotaura kuti anofanirwa kuve nekudada nekupukunyuka kunetseka kunotsika. Asi Dhanieri haanzwi aine manyawi, anongonzwa achinyadziswa.
Anoshanda muCafé mazuva ano kuchengetedza mari uye kutamira kuAustralia, kufamba uye kufambisa, asi kunyanya kukanganwa.
Vechidiki vakagara vachiita zviratidzo zvepabonde nokuti vanoda kuziva zvaunogona kuita paunenge uchiita zvepabonde uye, pamusoro pezvose, kuti zvepabonde zvinoshanda sei. Zvizvarwa zvevechidiki zvakashandisa mapeji e Playboy uye mamwe magazini kuti agutse chido chavo chekuziva pamusoro pehurukuro. Asi mazuva ano, 12 vezera remakore vari kutotarisa zvakaoma zvinonyadzisira mafirimu paIndaneti uye kuita bonhora pavanenge vachivatarisa. Kwete imwe yeGermany federal state yakabatanidza iyo nyaya yezvinonyadzisira mune syllabus, pasinei nokuti vamwe 40% yevose vane makore 11-13 vakaona zvinonyadzisira mifananidzo kana mafirimu kamwechete kamwe muhupenyu hwavo. Vanotungamira mafirimu emhando dzepabonde kune imwe neimwe inogona kuratidzira vanhu vanoita zvepabonde nemhuka kana mukadzi anoita zvepabonde nevarume vashanu panguva imwe chete.
Asi izvi zvine pesvedzero yei pane vechidiki? Danieri ndiye akasarudzika here kana kuti yake nyaya inomiririra yemaitiro anotyisa? Klaus Beier, nyanzvi yezvepabonde muBerlin anoti, "zvingave zvisina musoro kutenda kuti kuona mafirimu ezvinonyadzisira hakunei nevechidiki. Zvinoitwa nevanhu [vanoratidzwa pafirimu nemumifananidzo] zvinoteedzerwa nekuchengetwa muuropi. ”
Iyo nhaurirano kana kuti zvinonyadzisira zvinokanganisa kana kwete, zvakange zvichange zvakapoteredza makumi emakore. Masayendisiti akanga aripo, kusvika zvino, asingazivi kuti zvakanyanya sei zvinoshandisa kushandiswa kwezvinonyadzisira kune zvevechiri kuyaruka uye nei vamwe vechidiki vachiita zvepabonde asi vamwe vasingaiti. Kutsvakurudza kutsva kwakaratidza kuti kwakanyanya, kushandiswa kwezuva nezuva kwepabonde hakungowedzera chete pakati pevechiri kuyaruka asi kuti inogona kutotungamirira kune erectile kudzvinyirira. Chidzidzo cheSweden chakaratidza kuti vechidiki vanoona zvinonyadzisira zuva rega rega vanowanzopesana nevabereki vavo, tora mamwe madhiragi uye vanotambura kubva kumazinga akakwirira ekuora mwoyo kune avo vasiri varaidzo-vachitarisana nevamwe.
Isu takatanga kusangana naDhanieri kuburikidza newebsite yeGermany yakatsaurirwa kudhakwa kwepabonde apo varume vaduku vanotaura nezvekuora mwoyo kwavo sezvavanoona zvinonyadzisira chero nguva ipi zvayo yemasikati kana usiku asi vanokundikana kuita zvepabonde chaiyo nevanhu chaivo. Ukama hwavo huri kutambura nokuti havakwanisi kuwana erection panguva yevamwe vavo, asi pavanenge vachiona zvinonyadzisira.
Dhanieri akatanga kusvuta mbanje kuzorora, kunatsiridza mafungiro ake nekudzinga manzwiro eine mhosva aizowedzera. Vadzidzi vake vakatanga kudengenyeka nokuti iye aigara achiona zvinonyadzisira achiri mukirasi. Vabereki vake nevadzidzisi vaishungurudzika sezvavakakundikana kupfuurira kwaari uye vakamutumira email yakanyatsonyorwa. E-mail yakatsvaga kumutsigira kuti kuva muduku kwaive kwakaoma kwavari, zvakare, uye kuti vaida kuti vawane mumwe munhu aifanira kutaura naye. E-mail iyi inobatanidza mawebsite everapist, anonyanya kuve kuyaruka.
Vanoziva here musiyano pakati pefirimu uye zvechokwadi?
Zvepabonde, vadzidzisi uye vabereki vanotaura nezve "chizvarwa porno," yechizvarwa chinokura nemafirimu ezvinonyadzisira uye vanoziva, nguva refu vasati vamboita yavo yekutanga kusangana pabonde, ndeipi gang-banging iri, semuenzaniso. Iyo indasitiri yezvinonyadzisira chinyorwa chebonde inopa zano kune vechidiki kuti varume vanofanirwa kuva nehunhu hukuru uye kuti vakadzi "zvinhu zvinongotungamirwa neruchiva uye vasingakwanise kupinda zvakakwana uye urume," anodaro Purofesa Beier.
Saka, izvi zvinoitei kune vechidiki? Vose vari mungozi yekusangana nezvose Dhanieri aifanira kupfuura, kana vanoziva musiyano pakati pefirimu nechokwadi?
Beier, uyo anotungamira Institute of Sexology uye Zvepabonde Mushonga paBerlin Charité, anoti zera redu rakasarudzika pakuti "chizvarwa chakazara chinokura" nemafirimu anoratidza mashandiro anoita zvepabonde "zvinofungidzirwa kuti zvinoshanda." Vazhinji uye varume vechidiki vanotaura nezvekusagona kwavo kuva nehukama chaihwo nekuda kwekunyanyisa kwavo kushandisa porn. Asi Beier ane chokwadi chekuti "vashandisi vazhinji" vepa online porn vanoziva kuti chokwadi chehukama hwepedyo "hwakasiyana kwazvo" kune avo vanoratidzwa mu porn.
Danieri aive nemakore gumi nemaviri paakadzvanya paYouporn, imwe yewebhusaiti inobudirira kwazvo pabonde, kekutanga. Akawana kero yewebhusaiti mune yekugezera yevakomana kuchikoro, yakakwenenzverwa pamadziro e cubicle. Akavhunduka asi akamutswawo nezvaakaona uye kuda kwake zvinhu zvitsva kwakakurumidza kubuda mukutonga. Akapedza maawa ari pamberi pekombuta yake uye manzwiro ake akadzikira zvakaenzana nenguva yaakapedza pamberi pekombuta yake. Iyo yakanyanya kuipa manzwiro ake akawana iyo "crasser" iyo mafirimu akawana. Kutyisa kwakadzika pasi.
Ongororo dzinoverengeka dzakaitwa muCalifornia neEurope zvinoratidza kuti zuva nezuva kushandiswa kwepabonde kunotungamirira kuora mwoyo, utsinye, kusagadzikana kwepfungwa pamwe nekusawirirana kwepabonde. Maererano nekuongorora uku Erectile dysfunction pakati pevarume vari pasi pezera re20 vakura zvikuru.
Vamwe vane tarisiro yekurapa dambudziko neaya anonzi "ma-no-fap mazano." Kwete-fap iri izwi rine hukama neshoko rekuti "fapping," izwi reAmerica rekubonyora. Iyo no-fap zano inosanganisira kusatarisa chero porn uye kwete kuita bonhora chero. Daniel akashanyira a no-fap webhusaiti mushure mekuita googled mazwi ekuti "porn" uye "kupindwa muropa" uye akashamisika kuona mangani mawebhusaiti anobata neiyi chaiyo nhaurwa. Daniel akafunga kuenda kunotonhora turkey kwemwedzi uye akazivisa chinangwa chake pawebhusaiti kuti azvimanikidze kuti azvione, uye akaona mazuva mashoma mukuzvidzora kwake kuti aive akanyarara uye, pakupedzisira, aive nenzvimbo yemamwe mafungiro.
Murapi Marlene Henning zvakare ane ruzivo nekukuvara uko kunogona kukonzerwa nezvinonyadzisira. Mumwe murume mukomana murwere achangobva kumuudza kuti "isu tiri chizvarwa chinobata neruoko rweruboshwe apo kurudyi kuchidzora mbeva." Iye zvakare anoshanda mukupa dzidziso yepabonde muzvikoro uye dzimwe nguva anokatyamadzwa nemibvunzo isingazivikanwe yakabvunzwa nevadzidzi vadiki iyo yaanogamuchira vasati vaenda kuchikoro.
Apo mwanakomana wake aive 16 uye achitamba makadhi neshamwari dzake kumba akavabvunza kana vachiona zvinonyadzisira paInternet. Mwanakomana wavo ndiye akatanga kupindura achiti, "Amai, tinoziva kuti izvi hazvisi zvechokwadi!" Asi imwe yeshamwari dzake yakati "pese pandinoita bonde, ndinemifananidzo yepabonde mumusoro mangu." Mumwe akawedzera kuti "vasikana vanofunga kuti vanofanirwa kuita sevasikana mumafirimu ezvinonyadzisira."
Dhanieri, iye zvino 18, anonzwa kuti akaputsa hupombwe hwake, uye kunyange ane musikana anogara akasununguka iye zvino, kunyange dzimwe nguva anotambura zvakare. Asi ndiko kudzoka kunonyatsokurudzira kuti abve pane zvinonyadzisira zvachose.
Yake yekupedzisira yekupinda muchiGerman "no-fap" foramu yakanyorwa makore maviri apfuura, uye itsamba refu yekuonekana. Akanyora nezve iyo nguva yaakawana Youporn, kusurukirwa kwakatevera, kunzwa kwekugara pasi pevhu kwemakore. Asi Daniel akarondedzerawo kupunyuka kwake achiti: "Kuwana vanhu vane mafungiro akafanana ndiko kwakandiponesa."
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