Chimwe chikonzero chinovhiringidza nei zviuru zvemakore zvisingaiti zvepabonde kupfuura ivo vabereki ndiwo maitiro akakombama avanodzidza kubva pa internet. Iye zvino pane boka riri kuyedza 'reboot' yavo pfungwa
"Volakov", sekuzivikanwa kwaanoitwa paforum - uye haadi chero zvimwe zvinopihwa - ane makore gumi nemasere ane dambudziko. Haakwanise kuwana erection nemusikana waanoda. Nyaya yake haisi yepanyama. Uye zvakare harisi iro rinowanzoita dambudziko repfungwa senge kuita kunetseka. Chikonzero Volakov haana simba, anotenda, ndeye internet porn.
Uye haasi oga. Volakov inongova imwe yevamwe vanodarika 200,000 nhengo dzeNoFap - "fap" kuva yeAmerican yakafanana ne "wank" - inharaunda inowanikwa paIndaneti ichiedza kukurira nyaya dzakadaro. Chikonzero chekushungurudzika kwaVolakov kunonzi kunonzi hupombwe-kunokonzerwa erectile dysfunction, dambudziko repabonde repabonde re 21st iyo vanhu vanogona kungoita kana kuchengetedza kukwezva masturbating kune zvinonyadzisira, asi kwete neshamwari chaiye. Uye izvi hazvizi dambudziko chete. Kurambidza kusarudzwa, kurasikirwa kwe libido, uye kukanganiswa kwepenisi ndeimwe yemamwe zviratidzo zvemuviri zvinotaurwa pamusangano, pamwe chete nemafungiro epfungwa zvakadai sehutano hwevanhu, kusagadzikana kwekukurudzira uye kuora mwoyo.
Imwe jaya rakapinda mumatambudziko ose aya ndiro raiva nheyo yeNoFap pachake, 26 ane makore anonzi Alexander Rhodes, wokuPennsylvania. Rhodes anotanga kusununguka kune zvinonyadzisira yakanga yakafanana nomukomana wemakore 11 anokura mumakore makumi mapfumbamwe. Paaifamba webhusaiti yekutamba, akaona huwandu hwemukadzi mune chimwe chiitiko chakabata chibharo. "Icho chaingova chimiro," anodaro Rhodes, "asi zvakange zvakakwana kuti awane kufarira komukomana muduku." Kufukura kweRhodes kunoshandisa nokukurumidza kubva pane zvaanodana kuti "kunonoka" internet kutsvaga mifananidzo se "makumbo" kana "mudumbu" kuona hardcore porn videos maawa ekupedzisira - pane imwe nguva 14 nguva pazuva. Kushandisa zvinonyadzisira kweRhodes kwakabva kwava kwakanyanya zvokuti akazvikuvadza mumuviri. "Ndakaedza kutora rimwe zuva kuti ndibvumira kukuvara kwangu kuporesa uye ndakanga ndisingakwanisi kumira kwezuva. Ndangoita bonyora kuburikidza nemarwadzo. "
Muhupenyu hwake hwekutanga-hwepabonde hwehutano, Rhodes akatambudzika kuti aone kuti aisagona kuchengeta erection. Mukusangana kwaakazoitika akawana kuti aingokwanisa kurarama nekufungidzira nezvekuona zvinonyadzisira asi kunyange panguva iyoyo akanga asingakwanisi kumira. Pakupedzisira, achiziva kuti akanga ane dambudziko, Rhodes akatendeukira kune internet kuti abatsirwe asi haana kuwana chinhu chine chokuita nezvakaitika kwaari. Akatanga kutumira kuhutano hwevarume uye kuzvivandudza kwemaforamu uye munguva pfupi akawana nhamba inokura yevarume vanotarisana nenyaya dzakadaro. Pakanga pasina nzvimbo yakatsaurirwa yekukurukurirana pamusoro pehurukuro, saka mu2011 Rhodes yakagadzira NoFap, boka rinosangana nehutano hwemashumo epaiti Reddit. "Ndaitarisira, sevanhu vasere," anodaro Rhodes. "Makumi makumi mashanu, zvigwenga." Panzvimbo pekuti nhamba dzokutanga dzaive "dzinotyisa kwazvo" uye boka re-Reddit rakakura zvishoma nezvishoma.
Kufambira mberi kwemakore mashanu uye NoFap ine mamiririri e-200,000, kana kuti "Fapstronauts", uye inongova imwe yenharaunda dzakawanda dzakafanana dzemuInternet. Aya mawebsite anopa kwete nzvimbo yekugovana zvinetso asiwo, inoti, mhinduro: "kubvumirazve".
Kudzorerazve kunosanganisira kurega kungoita zvinonyadzisira; zvinonyadzisira nekuita bonhora; kana zvinonyadzisira, kuita bonhora uye zvepabonde, kubva panguva dzezuva 90 kana kupfuura. "Vatsigiri" vanotaura kuti kurega kwenguva refu kubva kune zvinonyadzisira uye zvinotevera "rewiring" zvehupenzi hwavo (saka izwi rekudzorerazve) rinoporesa matambudziko avo ose, kunyange kutadza. Vashandi havangotauri kuti vadzorezve kufarira kwavo zvepabonde nevanobatsirana chaiwo asiwo nehupenyu huripo, kunyange kugovera izwi rokuti "simba guru" rekugona kwavo kutsvaga kuisa pfungwa, kusangana nehurumende uye kuzviita kune mabasa akasiyana.
Pfungwa yekudzorerazve kune dzimwe dzisiri-zvakakwana-dzakagadzirwa neuroscience dzakabatanidza pamwe nekuwedzerwa kwekuwanika uye kushandiswa kusingaperi kwehupombwe nechinoshandiswa neural nechokudzivirira unhu hwevarume kune zvekuita zvepabonde. Izvi zvinoita kuti vakwanise kutsvaga zvakanyanya uye vanowanzo "hits" uye vanovasiya kuti vasvike kune zviitiko zvepabonde zvepabonde zvenyika izvo zvisingararamiri kune zvavanotarisira zvinonyadzisira.
Sayenzi ichiri kukakavhirwa semuenzaniso wekusvuta kwepabonde iyo inowanzoenda nayo. Asi pasinei nekushaiwa kwehuni hunooma, uchapupu hweanecdotal huri kuwedzera. Imwe nyanzvi yakazviona pakutanga ndeyeRobert Weiss, munyori wechirwere chepabonde uye mukuru mukuru vamiririri weE Elements Behavioral Health, kambani yeUnited States yemakiriniki inobata zvinodhaka zvekuita. Weiss, uyo akaita zvekuita zvepabonde kwemazana emakore anopfuura 20, akaona nhamba yevarume varume vane zvinetso zvehutano zvehutano zvichiwedzera kubva pedyo-zero kusvika kune chikamu chevarwere vese, chikamu chehafu yeiyi inotambura neErectile dysfunction.
Paakabvunzwa kana achifunga zvinonyadzisira-zvinokonzeresa kusagadzikana kweichiitiko chiitiko chaicho, Weiss anoti: "Hongu chaizvo, kana iwe uri kushandisa iyo hyper-kukurudzira kweinternet porn senzira yako yega yekusangana nekumutswa, urikurova huropi hwako ne yakadai yakakwira dopamine, uye yakanyanya yakakwira tarisiro yekutenderedza kuti chii bonde, zvino kana iwe ukapinda muchinhu chaicho, icho chingave chinonhuwirira zvishoma, kunyorova uye kusanzwisisika zvishoma, zvakaita senge - ini ndoda tarisai zvinonyadzisira zvangu. ” Weiss anonongedzerawo kuti dambudziko nyowani rakasiyana nemhando dzechinyakare dzekupindwa muropa pabonde dzinowanzo sanganisira zvakashungurudza zvekutanga senge kushungurudzwa pabonde. Pane kudaro, sekureva kwaWeiss, varapi vari kuramba vachiona mamwe majaya ane hutano ane marererwo akanaka achitendeukira kune zvinonyadzisira senzira yekutiza matambudziko ehupenyu chaihwo.
Asi dambudziko harina kungoitirwa vechidiki vasina kuroora vagere voga mudzimba dzavo dzekurara. Varume vakuru muhukama hwakagadzikana, uye vamwe vavo, vari kuwedzera kuenda kumaforamu kutsvaga rubatsiro. Mumwe anodzorerazve, murume akaroora ane vana vanoisa pasi pezita rekuti "Sender", anotsanangura kuti kuzvibata kwake porn kwakamutungamira sei kuti ashandise mukadzi wake semhando ye "porn fantasy prop". "Ini ndaisakwanisa kuve nehurume kunze kwekunge iye anga asingatarisi neni," anodaro. "Izvi zvakandinetsa kwenguva yakareba." Imwe forum poster ndeye-makore makumi mana nemapfumbamwe mukadzi wechiDutch uye amai vevatatu vanoshandisa zita rekuti Volpool. Volpool anonyora kurwira kwemurume wake wemakore makumi mana neshanu nehupombwe kuvimba neforum Reboot Nation. "Zvinoputsa kuzviremekedza kwako," anodaro. “Kuziva kuti mumwe wako anofarira zvinonyadzisira kwauri. Zvakaoma kubata nazvo. ”
Asi dambudziko harisi kungobata vakadzi sevashandi. Nhamba inowedzera iri kuuya kumisangano nemibvunzo yavo yehupombwe-yehupombwe, kusanganisira fomu yevakadzi-inoita erectile kudzvinyirira kunosanganisira kukundikana kuchengeta kumutsa pasina rubatsiro rwezvinonyadzisira.
Mumwe musikana 'fapstronaut' ndiye 29 ane makore ane Sami Kiley weGeorgia. Nyaya yake inonyatsofanana neyese yevarume mapepa. Akabva pakutanga kuuya nemufananidzo wepabonde pazera re12 nekusvetera maminetsi mashomanana pamakombiyuta emhuri achiri muduku. Kubata kwake zvinonyadzisira kwakawedzera paakawana kombiyuta yake uye internet yakakurumidza. Aizoona zvinonyadzisira kwemaawa akawanda pane imwe nguva kusvikira yakatanga kuipisisa zvidzidzo zvake uye hukama hwake. "Yakatanga kuita kuti ndinzwe nenzira dzandakanga ndisingadi kunzwa," anodaro Kiley. "Yakashandura maonero angu pamusoro pepabonde zvikuru. Zvose zvakanga zvakasvibiswa. Handina kumbobvira ndafunga kuti ndine hukama hwakakosha iyo iwe unobata zvepabonde uye chaizvoizvo unorondedzera kune mumwe munhu. "
Kiley akasarudza kurega zvinonyadzisira munaJune mushure mekunge adzorera NoFap. Kufanana nevakawanda vanogadzirisa zvekare, kushandiswa kwake kwepabonde kwakange kwawedzera kusvika pakuona kwaaitarisa maitiro asingatombozviratidziwo nezvido zvake zvepabonde, kungoti awane inoitika. "Ndainzwa sokuti ndakanga ndasimuka kure nekufunga kwangu zvepabonde, ndakanga ndakashushikana neni. Ndakagara ipapo ndikachema ndikati, izvi zvakakwana. Ndinoda kumira izvi zvino. "
Vatsigiri vevakadzi vanoita zvishoma kudarika 5 muzana yevanhu veNoFap, asi vanhu vazhinji vanotenda kuti nhamba dzinowanikwa pamisangano ndeyochepakati pechando. Vamwe vanototenda kuti dambudziko reInternet-kutarisa zvinonyadzisira, kana risina kubviswa, rinogona kuita kuti chizvarwa chose chiite zvepabonde. Mumwe weiyi ndiye nheyo yeReboot Nation, Gabe Deem, murume ane makore 28-ane makore masere akabatwa nehupenzi-educed erectile dysfunction saka zvakamutora makore maviri kuti awanezve. Maererano neDheem: "Iwe unogona kuva nezera rose revanhu iro chaizvoizvo rinofanira kutarisa vamwe vanhu vachiita zvepabonde pahwindo kuti vawane zvepabonde nemunhu chaiye."
Pane uchapupu hunoratidza kuti Deem's point is more than just hyperbole. Imwe yongororo yeCanada yakashaya kuwana chero varume vasina kumbobvira vatarisa zvinonyadzisira. Uye chidzidzo cheJapan mukuderera kwemazera ekuberekwa akawana kuti chechishanu chevarume vechidiki vose, pavakabvunzwa kana vaifarira zvepabonde nemudiwa chaiye, vakati kwete, vaifara vachibatanidza nehupenzi.
Ichokwadi chikamu chechinetso chingave chisingazivikanwi kwemakore anouya asi munhu wese anobvumirana kuti zvinogadziriswa zvinofanira kuitwa zvino. Vamwe vanoda zvibvumirano pane zvinonyadzisira, zvakadai seVolpool, iyo inoratidza kukanganisa pakati pemabatiro atinoita zvinonyadzisira uye zvimwe zvido zvakadai sekudhakwa. "Shamba rekumwa zvinodhaka hazviuye kumba kwangu kaviri pavhiki kuti ibve mabhodhoro ewaini kwose kwose nokuda kwekusununguka kwavana vangu. Ichi ndicho chinondishungurudza zvikuru - zviri kwose kwose. "
Vamwe, saRhodesi, havabvumi, uye vanoshandisa doro rinodhaka kuti varatidze zvinetso zvinosangana nekuraira. Rhodes anoda kuona kuwedzera kwakanyanya uye dzidzo iri nani muzvikoro. Sezvo inofunga, ndiani anofananidza zvinonyadzisira nemigumisiro yaro kune zvokudya zvisina kudya uye kuwedzera kwekuwedzera kwehutano iko zvino kuiswa muzvikoro.
Kunyange zvakadaro, inoti Weiss, dzidzo yepabonde inogona kungoenda kusvika ikozvino. Anotenda kuti vabereki vane basa rinokosha kutamba - asi pakutanga, anoti, tinoda tsika yekuchinja mumabatiro avabereki vanoona upenyu hwevana vavo zvepabonde. "Tinoda vabereki kuti vatsanangure kuti zvinonyadzisira hazvisi hupenyu chaihwo," anodaro Weiss. "Asi isu tinorarama munharaunda umo pasina munhu anoda kufungisisa nezvekakomana kangu kana musikana muduku achiita zvinhu zvakadaro. Mazuva ayo vabereki vangati, 'Mwana wangu haangamboiti izvozvo' zvaenda. Mwana wose ari kutarisa pikicha. Tinofanira kutarisana nepamusoro pezvo uye tifambire mberi. "
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