"Vakapindwa muropa neViagra: Vanofanira kunge vari pahunhu hwavo hwakanyanya, asi huwandu hwevarume vechidiki haukwanise kurarama vasina mapiritsi madiki ebhuruu"

By Tanith Carey

ZVAKAZARURWA: 3 October 2012

Kumunhu anonyatsocherechedza, Bachelor Daniel Atkinson anotarisa semumwe musikana ane utano, mutambo muhukuru hwehupenyu hwake. 

Ichitanhatu chakareba mamita ane chiselled cheekbones uye chimiro chechimiro, Daniel anobvuma kuti haana kumbobvira aomerwa nekukwezva vakomana nevasikana.

Asi Dhanieri, 32, ane chinyararire. Apo paanoda kuita zvepabonde nemukadzi, anoda kusvika kuviri Viagra mapiritsi kuti aite.

Tiye mahwendefa ebhuruu, ayo anowanikwa pane NHS, ave kwenguva yakareba achionekwa semishonga inokosha yevarume mu 50s avo, 60s uye mberi.

Asi Dhanieri ndeimwe yehuwandu huri kukura hwevarume vechidiki vanotendeukira kuchirwere nekuda kwekushanda kunetseka, kunokonzerwa nehuwandu hwemashoko epfungwa kubva mukupararira kwezvinonyadzisira pahutano kuita 'zvepabonde' zvepabonde kunoratidzika sekunakidza, kumanikidziro emari.

Viagra yakatongerwa mhosva yekuzviuraya komunyori wemakore anonzi 24 kare kare gore rino, mushure mokunge musikana wake aona kuti aiishandisa muchivande.

Muviri waJames Andrews wakawanikwa pachitima chepamhara pakati peBristol neBhati paZuva raValentine. Anobvunzurudza murufu rwake akaratidza kuti aifambidzana sei nemusikana Eleanor Sharpe - mutambi web ballet akaonekwa mumutambo wokuvhara weOlympic - pamusoro pokushandiswa kwake kwechirwere, kunyange zvazvo vaviri vachifarira 'ukama hwakanaka hwepanyama'

Dhanieri, iye zvino varaidzo anosimudzira, akanga ari 20 chete uye pamagumo evhiki neshamwari muAmsterdam paakatora mapiritsi ake okutanga. Yakapiwa kwaari neshamwari, mushure mokunge atora musikana.

Kunyange zvazvo asina kumbobvira aine matambudziko erectile, akashamiswa nehumwe hutano hwakamupa hwakamupa iye akapfuurira kutora mishonga pamwe nevanasikana vashure. 

Pazviitiko zviviri, akatozvinyora neGP, kunyange zvazvo akanyeverwa nezvemigumisiro yenguva refu yakadai sebhuruu-yakarongedzwa, matambudziko emwoyo uye kurasikirwa kwekunzwa.

Iye zvino Dhanieri anoti anogara achichengetedza mishonga-iyo paanoti anowedzera kusvika pa £ 1,000 pagore - kana kuburikidza nekukurukura navanachiremba vari voga kana nekuunganidza zvinhu kana achienda kuSpain kunoshanda.

'Vanachiremba ikoko vachakupai iyo pakarepo. Zvino iwe unoenda kumakemikari uye unowana rubatsiro. Kune nguva dzose vanhu vechiChirungu queuing avo vari shure kwechinhu chimwe chete. '

Asi Dhanieri, anogara muLondon, ari mukuora mwoyo pamusoro pokuvimba kwake nemishonga: 

Anoti: 'Ini ndinodya, ndinoita zvekurovedza muviri nguva dzose uye ini ndinenge ndakagadzikana sezvandakanga ndiri pandaiva achiri kuyaruka. Ndinoda hukama hwevakadzi uye nguva dzose ndine. Asi iye zvino ndiri mumiriri wangu 30, ndave ndakatarisana nevakadzi vakawanda, dzimwe nguva ndinoona zvakaoma kuita pasina Viagra.

           

 Mapiritsi: Varume vazhinji vatendeukira kuViagra kuti vawedzere kuvimba kwavo asi mhedzisiro haisi nguva dzose sezvinotarisirwa

 NDIANI ANOGONA?

'Hazvina mhosva kuti ndinonzwa sei, chii chiri kuitika kuburikidza nemusoro wangu, kana kuti kukwezva kumukadzi wandinayo, hazviiti mutsauko. Iye zvino, kana ndichiziva kuti ndinofanira kuona mukadzi, ndinonyatsozvitora mapiritsi maviri zvisati zvaitika. '

Nokutora mapiritsi matanhatu pavhiki, Daniel anoziva nezvehutano hwehutano.

        

 Kushushikana kwekuita: Dhanieri anotsigira paViagra

Mushonga uyu une sildenafil citrate uye inoshanda kuburikidza nekuvandudza kuteura kweropa mupeni. Dhanieri anobvuma kuti dzimwe nguva anonzwa achirira munzeve dzake. Asi pasinei nengozi, anonzwa semurume asina murume ane chaanosarudza. 

'Ndinoziva kuti zvakaipa kuti ndiwane hutano,' anodaro. 'Ndinogona kunzwa mwoyo wangu uchipeta kana ini ndikatora mahwendefa, uye ini ndinobuda mukunaya kunotonhora. Dzimwe nguva kurohwa kwakanyanya kwazvo, ndinofunga kuti ndichava nekurwadziwa kwemoyo. Ndinoda rubatsiro kuti ndirege. '

Saka nei chirwere, chakambobatanidzwa kune kuuraya, varume vane simba vanopfuura hukuru hwavo, iko zvino vachitora hupenyu hwepabonde hwevechidiki uye vanoita sehupenyu hwakanaka?

Chiizve, chinorevei pamusoro pehutano hwedu hwepabonde apo kunyange hutsika hwemhuka hwechiduku husingakwanisi kuvarume vechidiki nhasi?

Harley Street psychosexual mazano Raymond Francis anoti anoona nezve varume vane 15 mwedzi vanofunga kuti vanovimba neViagra. Avhareji yemakore ndeye 32 - muduku wavo mutengi ndiye 27 chete.

Asi Raymond, uyo akavakirwa paApex Practice, anoti: 'Ndinofunga kuti ichi chaingova chiduku chiduku che dambudziko. Varume ava havana dambudziko repanyama rinogona kukonzera matambudziko erectile. Panzvimbo pacho vanofunga kuti vanochida nokuti vari kuisa zvakawanda zvavanotarisira pavari-zvichienderana nezvavanotenda kuti vakadzi vanoda muimba yekurara. '

Mune zviitiko zvakawanda, Raymond anoti varwere varo vevarume vave vakakurudzirwa nekuona internet zvinonyadzisira kubva mudiki. 'Dzimwe nguva varume ava vachave vakanyatsobatanidzwa uye zvisingaiti zvevakadzi vanoda kurara navo - kana kuti chii chavanofanira kuita.' 

Mumwe wevarwere vakadai ndiSam, 31, uyo aivimba nechirwere mukati memazana ake e20s asati atanga kubatsirwa makore maviri akapfuura. 

Sam anoisa mudzi wechinetso chake paIndaneti, iyo anoti anoti akatanga kutarisa paakanga ari 12 - nguva refu asati asara mhandara. 'Kuona zvidzidzo zvose izvi zvinotora maawa akawanda pakupedzisira zvaiita sokuti zvinonyorera zvandaisagona kuita,' anodaro.

'Ndakanyara kunyara. Ndakanga ndambozvitaurira kuGP yangu asi akanga asina hanya zvikuru saka handina kumbozeza kuunzazve nyaya yacho nomumwe munhu. Ndakatanga kuvarayira pawebhu, kunyange zvazvo ndisina kumboziva kuti ndaiwana chii. '

Asi kunyange Sam akawana mishonga nguva dzose nguva dzose yakamubatsira kuita, pakupedzisira vakava chipingamupinyi kwaari kuti awane ukama hwepedyo, hukama hwepedyo.

Sam anoti: 'Pandakanga ndava nemusikana, ndaitora Viagra chinhu chekutanga mangwanani, saka ndaizoita zvepabonde uye ndiite nekutongwa.'

      Kutuka kwezvinonyadzisira: Zvinonyadzisira zvepaIndaneti zvakasiya varume vakawanda vachifunganya nezvehutano hwavo uye hutano hwepabonde      

Kuisa kuvimba kwake pamusana pemishonga yemishonga, zvisinei, zvakagadzirisa kusawirirana kushamwari: "Zvaireva kuti handigoni kuzvipira zvakakwana mupfungwa nokuti ini ndisingakwanise kutendeseka pamusoro pechinhu ichi chikuru. Ukama hwangu hahuna kumbobva pasi. Izvo zvose zvakanga zvichinyanya kunetsa ini ndakatanga kudzivisa zvepabonde. Vakadzi vandakasangana navo vaiita sevakasimba, ndakafunga kuti ndisingagoni kurarama maererano nezvavaida. Ndainzwa sokuti ndakakundikana. '

Izvo zvakaitika apo Sam akawira murudo nemumwe wake waive nemukomana Emily mushure mekunge vasangana pamutambo iye akaona kuti aida rubatsiro.

'Nguva yokutanga tairara pamwe chete, ndakaizvivanza muchivande, asi zvataitarisira zvakanga zvakakwirira nekuti akanga akandikosha kwandiri. Saka iyo nguva, kunyange Viagra haina kushanda. Ndakanga ndichiona kuti ainetseka uye anogumbura iyo yaiva mhosva yake, saka ndakasarudza kuti ndaifanira kutora-ndokumuudza zvose.

Sam iye zvino ane ukama hwakanaka hwepabonde nemumwe wake. 'Kwakatora mwedzi mitanhatu yekupa mazano, asi nokuda kwake, ndakawana ushingi hwekutarisa zvinetso.'

Raymond anoti chimwe chinhu chakajairika varume vanotaura kuti vanonzwa vachityisidzirwa nehutano hwepabonde uye zvido zvevakadzi vechidiki vemazuva ano.

'Vakadzi vava kutopiwa simba,' anodaro Raymond. 'Vanonzwa kuti vane kodzero yakakwana sevarume kuti vatungamirire kufamba kwepabonde. Hatisi kungotaura pamusoro pevasikana vangave vamboonekwa sevanonyadzisa. 

'Mazuva ano mukadzi wechikoro wemhizha uyo akakurira mumutambo wekubudirira anoda kushandisa rusununguko ichocho uye simba muhupenyu hwake hwepabonde, zvakare.

'Muzera rimwe kana maviri chete, pane kuchinja. Pamberi, kwaive nguva dzose kutarisira kuti murume uyu ndiye mhuka. Iye zvino ladette tsika yakashandura iyo pamusoro wayo. Vanotarisana nekumanikidzwa uku, varume vaduku vanounza kutya kwekutya muimba yekurara nguva refu zvisati zvamboitika zvepabonde. '

Mumwe mukadzi akadaro ane chivimbo chekuita zvepabonde ndiNicola, uyo anokwezva mari yehupfumi muna 20s uyo anobvuma kuti chikamu chimwe chezvido zvepabonde zvaakaisa kune waaifambidzana naye zvakabatsira kubvisa kuzvidya mwoyo kwakakonzera kusava nesimba kwake.

'Apo hutano hwakange husiri hukuru, ndaive akatendeseka pamusoro pekukanganisa kwandaive nako kubva pakutanga, izvo zvakaita kuti dambudziko riwedzere,' anodaro. 

'Takaedza Viagra, asi yakanzwa sechiitiko chakarongwa. Saka zvino handidi kuti andiudze kana akazvitora kana kwete. Ndinongoda kufunga kuti kuita zvepabonde kwaive kwakakura. '

Nicola anoti mafungiro ake kune zvepabonde ndeyechizvarwa chechizvarwa chake, uye vazhinji vevasikana vake vari kutaurira matambudziko akafanana muimba yekurara.

    Yemazuva ano: Vakadzi nhasi vanoziva zvavanoda pamubhedha - uye kune vakawanda majaya, zvinotyisa      

Anoti: 'Vakadzi vemazera edu zvichida vane zvakawanda zvekare zvepabonde. Ndakanga ndiine vashandi ve15, apo mumwe wangu oga aive nemashanu, saka ndiyo imwe nzvimbo yekumanikidzwa kwaari. Nemhaka yokuti ndine unyanzvi hwepabonde, angangodaro anoshamiswa kwandakadzidza kubva uye kuti anoenzanisa sei. '

Chimwe chikonzero chirwere chevarume mu 30 chavo chinoshandura Viagra ndicho chikonzero chavo chekuti vabereke vana mukati mechinguva chakasimba.

Raymond anoti: 'Ava ndivo varume muhukama hwepamutemo apo mukadzi akasarudza kurega kuberekwa kusvikira basa rake rakatangwa ndokuzoona zvakaoma kutora pamuviri.

'Varume ava vanonzwa vachimanikidzirwa kuti vaite panguva yakatarwa uye zvepabonde zvinova maitiro, pane kungotakurwa nekuchiva uye kuchiva. Kuomanikidza murume wacho kunotyisa uye anonzwa achida kuva neViagra up sleeve yake. ' 

IHS inoshandisa paniyoni yeHNUMX mamiriyoni pagore ichipa zvinodarika £ 58 mamiriyoni anodzokorora zvinyorwa zvemishonga isina simba.

Panguva ino, vanhu chete vane utano hwakanaka - kenza yeprostate, chirwere cheshuga, multiple sclerosis kana kushaya kwepfungwa - izvo zvinozivikanwa kuderedza zvepabonde ravo rekuita zvepabonde dzinofanirwa kuvabhadhara pachena, kunyange zvazvo vazhinji vanopa mazano panyaya dzepabonde vanoti vari kupiwa varume vechidiki pasina zvikonzero zvekushaya simba.

Vatungamiri pane dzimwe nhengo dzeHNS vanokurudzira vanachiremba kuti vasapedze nhamba yemapiritsi akapiwa kuti aparadze mari.

Sezvo mushandi wezvinodhaka Pfizer anotaura, mushonga wacho unofanirwa kutorwa chete nemishonga kubva kune unyanzvi hwehutano uye hunoshandiswa maererano nehutungamiri pahuturo. Inoti zvidzidzo zvakawana kuti hazvisi zvepanyama. Asi kunyange kana kupindwa muropa kwacho kwose kuri mupfungwa, hapana mubvunzo kuti mishonga iri kukanganisa upenyu. 

Kwemakore matanhatu adarika, Janice Hiller, chiremba wezvemagariro ekurapa uyo anotungamirira sangano reHIV Healthcare Psychological Services paGoodmayes Hospital muEsssex, anoti anoti akaona kuwedzera kwenhamba yevarwere vevarume vanovimba neViagra. Murwere wake mudiki ari 22.

Janice anokanganisa mafambiro evanhu vanowedzera zvepabonde uye zvisingatarisirwi zvinotarisirwa neInternet.

Anoti: 'Varume vechidiki vanoona vakadzi vachitarisira zvepabonde kare kare muhukama, zvichida pazuva rekutanga kana rechipiri, uye izvo zvinoita kuti vanhu vaite zvinetso kana vasina kunyatsovimba.

'Mushure mokunge vave vachirwisana nehuwandu hwezvinonyadzisira zvepaIndaneti, kukurudzira kwakanyanya kwevarume kunogona kuva chifananidzo chekuona zvinonyadzisira kwete pane musikana wavari. Izvozvo zvinogona kukuvadza. Iyi mifananidzo inotenderera mumisoro yavo uye iyo inobva isingagoni kumutswa nemusikana chaiye.

'Kazhinji vanhu vanotsvaka rubatsiro pavanosangana nemukadzi wavanonyatsoda uye vanoda chaizvo kuti vashande. Muchiitiko ichocho, tinofanira kutaura pamusoro pekuti urefu hwepamuviri wepabonde hausi chinhu chakakosha kune vakadzi, uye kuti vanonyatsoda sei zvinhu zvemarudzi ose muukama, zvakare. '

Kune vakaroorana, kuwanikwa kuti murume ari kunyora Viagra muchivande kunogonawo kuparadza, anodaro Janice. 

'Vakadzi vanoona vanowanzonzwa vave vasina kufadza kune vavakaroorana navo,' anodaro.

'Viagra inobatsira zvikuru kana inoshandiswa mune zvakagadziriswa, nenzira inofungidzirwa pakati pevaya vanoda. Asi kuvarume vaduku hazvigadziri dambudziko. Kazhinji kazhinji pane izvo zvinowedzera hutsva hwekutambudzika. '

Chartered Clinical Psychologist Dr. Abigael San, uyo akabata varwere vakabatanidzwa mudenderedzwa rekushandisa Viagra, anoti: 'Ava varume vaduku vanofunga kuti vari kungogutsa mukadzi nokuti vari kushandisa dhirairi. Mhinduro yacho inova dambudziko. '

Nzira inoshandiswa pakushandiswa kweViagra pakati pevarume vakuru zvikuru zvokuti pasinei nekunyadziswa, Dhanieri arikutaura nokuti anonzwa kuti ndiyo nguva iyo nyaya yakakurukurwa pachena.

'Handina nyadzi pamusoro pokuvimba kwangu - Ndinoziva vanhu vakawanda vezera rangu nematambudziko akafanana avo vakatanga kushandisa kuzvivaraidza uye zvino vanoona zvakaoma kumira.

'Ndinofunga kuti vazhinji vedu tinoshuva kuti hatingazombotora nguva iyoyo. Ini, kune rimwe, ndingadai ndisina rudo. '

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