LINK TO ARTICLE April 27, 2016 by Dr. Barbara Winter
Bhizimisi wezvepabonde, Dr. Barbara Winter vanoti vechidiki vanopindwa muropa nekuona zvinonyadzisira vanogona kuva nehukama hwepedyo uye dambudziko rekubatana neshamwari yavo.
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Mazuva maviri apfuura mwana wangu ane makore 18 okukura akauya kwandiri ndokubvunza… "amai, sei muchifunga zvakanyanya nezvebonde ,?" sezvaakandinzwa kazhinji achitaura pamusoro pezvakanaka, zvakashata uye zvakashata pamwe netsika yedu kubatikana nezvebonde redhijitari, kukoshesa kwangu neoculus rift zvisinei. Zvizhinji zveizvi zvave zvichangobva kuitika. Zuva rakatevera panguva yekirasi yake yekona yekona, akashamisika (kana kuti kwete kudaro) kugamuchira kubva kwandiri pikicha yemazuva ekeya tsamba tsamba nguva rine musoro unoti "PORN, ... uye kutyisidzira kuhutu."
Anoshamisika kana ini ndichidya? Zvichida. Zvakanaka, ndinoita nguva inenge ichangopfuura-muhofisi yangu.
| Sezvo zvinodhaka zvinopinda, iyi inogona kukurumidza uye ine hasha. Zvinonyadzisira zvakapararira-hazvizivikanwi, zvisingakwanisi (zvisingabhadharwi mumatambudziko akawanda) uye, zvakakosha, zvingawanika. |
Kwekanguva ikozvino, ndakaona kusvika muhofisi yangu boka revarume, varume vaduku vakuru, avo vanoita zvepabonde kushanda. Iko ndiko kuti, penise yavo haisi kushanda kwete nenzira iyo yavanoda kuti vaite kana ivo vane vanhu chaivo. Uye apo vechidiki vechidiki vangauya kuzorapwa nekuoma muimba yekurara nekuda kwekushungurudzika kwevanhu, madhiragi, Asperger uye dzimwe nyaya dzehukama hwepedyo, nhamba dziri kuwedzera uye zvinonyadzisira kazhinji ndizvo zvinokonzera.
Kukundikana kuwana kana kuchengetedza erection nemunhu chaiye kuri kuratidza muhofisi yevanorwara zvepabonde. PIED-Porn-yakagadzirirwa erectile disorder-seyo ichangobva kunyorwa, yava imwe behavioral addiction or process addiction. Iri kuratidzika mukati mangu.
Teknoloji inowanzopomerwa mhosva mazuva ano kuburikidza nehutano hwepfungwa dzedu uye kupindirana nehukama hwedu. Iye zvino zvinoratidzika sokuti kutadza kwedu nehuwandu hwemagetsi kunobata basa redu muimba yekurara. Uye nepo dambudziko iri rave rakataurirwa kwekanguva ikozvino, nhamba dzinoita seiri kukura.
Nekutsanangurwa, kupindwa muropa kunosanganisira zvinhu zviviri-kushivirira uye kurega. Kushivirira zvinoreva pfungwa yekuti isu tinoda kuwedzera huwandu hwechinhu kuti tiwane zvakafanana maitiro. Kurega zvinoreva kuti nekubviswa kwechinhu isu tine chimwe chiratidzo chinonetesa chiratidzo kudzamara tadzokera kune yekutanga. Zvose izvi zvinosanganisira kuvimba kwepanyama. Kugara-kutsva, kushamisika, uye kushushikana, kunokwidziridza uropi dopamine-uye kwedu kwekutanga mafaro uye mubairo nzira dzinogona kuwanikwa chero kupi, zvakadaro chero nguva. Maitiro acho akaenzana nekushandiswa kwemishonga yakadai secocaine. Zvinonyadzisira ndezvekufungidzira zvinodhaka uye kufamba kubva pachiratidziri kuenda kune chimwe ndicho chikamu chine njodzi nekuti chinosimudzira kugona kwekusimudzira zvakanyanya uye kune kwakaoma kudzoreredza mamiriro. Hazvisi izvo zvinoitika mudzimba dzekurara chaidzo nevanhu chaivo.
| Pamberi pevakomana ava vane mukana chaiwo pahukama hwepedyo ivo vari paIndaneti uye vamwe vavo vakashanda nesimba kuti vaite zvisina kukodzera. |
Sezvo zvinodhaka zvinopinda, iyi inogona kukurumidza uye ine hasha. Zvinonyadzisira zvakapararira-hazvizivikanwi, zvisingakwanisi (zvisingabhadharwi mumatambudziko akawanda) uye, zvakakosha, zvingawanika. Belinda Luscombe, munyori we Time's chinyorwa, akacherechedza maverengi maviri ekutanga kusangana nezvidhori; iye akati dzidzo mbiri dzakasiyana dzakawana yakawandisa yemakore kuva 12 uye 13.
Takaona kuwedzera kwenhamba mukati mehuwandu pamwe chete nevaya vakatanga kushora zvinonyadzisira. Gary Wilson's, anatomy uye physiology teacher, (yourbrainonporn.com) Ted-X Taura mu 2012 zvine musoro The Big Porn Experiment nhasi ine mamiriyoni matanhatu ekuonekwa. Mhedzisiro yake-zvinonyadzisira zvinokonzerwa neuropathways, inogadzira oga uye, se nguva chikamu chinosimbisa, chinokanganisa "kufara kwevarume vechidiki." Gabe Deem, 28, ndiye muvambi weReboot Nation. Akave akapindwa muropa nehutaneti zvinonyangadza pazera rehuduku anodzidzisa varume kuti vadzidzise sei uropi hwavo. Anonyatsoziva nezvekudiwa kwekukurumidzira uye anotaura kuti akanzwa se zombie paakaenda kunotonhora kuTkey, chimwe chinhu chakakosha kuitira kuti atendeuke mararamiro uye zvose zvehupenyu sequale, (chiitiko icho chikonzero chechirwere chekare iyo inofambidzana nayo.) Kunyange zvazvo chirongwa chacho chingave chakajeka (hatina tsvakurudzo sekunge zvakadaro) majaya achada rubatsiro mukufamba kuburikidza naro pamwe chete nekunyadziswa kunobatanidza uye kusakwanira.
Zvinonyadzisira zvinokonzerwa nekuita zvepabonde hazvisi zvekuita zvepabonde zvevakomana ava uye apo mamwe mapoka ataurwa kare angave ari pangozi yakakura yekudzoka kunogona kuva nyore kune vamwe. Iko kunoshushikana uye uchapupu hwehutachiona hwekuti kupora kwevarume vakwegura kunokurumidza kudarika kune varume ava muchikamu nokuti vanoziva kuti kurara kwepabonde nemunhu chaiye anotarisa uye anonzwa sei. Vanogona kazhinji kudzokera kune imwe nheyo nokukurumidza nokuti vane imwe.
Pamberi pevakomana ava vane mukana chaiwo pahukama hwepedyo ivo vari paIndaneti uye vamwe vavo vakashanda nesimba kuti vaite zvisina kukodzera. Iyi mamiriro ezvinhu haavape mukana wekuziva kana ivo vakakwanisa kunyange kuva neukama hwepedyo husingaiti kakawanda hunoitika pakutanga kwepabonde kuonana chero zvakadaro. Kukundikana, kurambwa, uye kusagadzikana pamwe chete nezvakawanda zvakanyanya muzviitiko izvi zvekutanga apo chiitiko chacho chakaipa. Vanoda kudzidza kuti vanoita sei zvepabonde pasina fungiro uye kuti vanyanye kuwirirana nemumwe wavo. Vanofanira kudzidza kudzidza kuva nehukama hwakanaka nemitumbi yavo uye zvepabonde, kwete, zvinonyadzisira. Zvepabonde kazhinji zvinosanganisira zvimwe zvingafungidzira; Zvinonyadzisira ndeyechirwere chinotyisa uye pasinei nekusvika ikozvino pakufunga kwavo zviri pachena kune imwe nzvimbo.
Mumusi waApril 23 Vanity Fair mutero, Prince anonzi akati "" Ini ndinofunga paive nerumwe rudzi rwehurongwa hwekunditangisa inorema uye nekukurumidza. Ndakapihwa Playboy magazini, uye pakanga paine zvinyorwa zvekurara zvakatenderedza. Yakatorwa nyore nyore. Yakanga yakaremerwa panguva iyoyo. "Ndinofunga zvakakanganisa hutano hwangu zvakanyanya."
Ndiani anoziva chaizvo zvaiitwa nemwanakomana wangu panguva iyoyo pandakamutumira chifukidziro pakati pezuva rechikoro. Isu tinoziva kuti mamireniyoni ane wired 24/7; log-on Inokwana kubatidzwa. Kunyange vasikana vangave vanga vari pa Instagram, angave aiongorora hunhu hwake hwekufungidzira (nhabvu iri) kana kutumira Snapchat. Ndiri kutarisira zvirinani kuti iye kana iye, kana mumwe wevaanodzidza navo, anga achiona zvinonyadzisira.
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