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Mark akaroora, 35-year-old realtor. Mudzimai wake, Janet, iine mishonga yekutengesa rep rep iyo inopedza mazuva anoverengeka vhiki imwe neimwe mumugwagwa. Vose vanotaura kuti hupenyu hwavo hwepabonde hwakanga hwakanaka kusvikira makore mashomanana adarika, uye Mark haazive zvakaitika. Akanga achida kutarisa mazuva Janet aive kumba nokuti aiziva kuti chinhu chekutanga chavaizoita chaiva chivete mumubhedha ndokuita rudo rukuru. Kunyangwe mushure mekuberekwa kwemwana wavo wokutanga, avo vaviri vaigara vachiita nguva manheru manheru uye vhiki yevhiki mangwanani nekuda kwekuita rudo. Asi kwete. Mazuva ano apo uchiita zvepabonde naJanet, Mark anonetseka kuti asvike. Akatotanga kuita zvimedu, kungotora zvinhu. Iko Marko asingakwanisi kunzwisisa ndechikonzero nei akagadzirira, achida, uye achigona paanoenda kunzvimbo dzake dzepabonde dzinofarira-chimwe chinhu chaanoita nguva dzose apo Janet ari munzira-asi haakwanisi kushanda paanenge aine chaicho chaiyo ipapo pamberi pake. Mako anonyatsojeka mukuti haasi "kushungurudzwa" nemudzimai wake, uye anoramba achimuwana "sexy, anofadza, uye anomutsa."
Izvo Zvinonyadzisa Kuita Zvepabonde Here?
Mark ari kutambura nekuderedza Ejaculation (DE), dambudziko rakawanda kupfuura vanhu vakawanda vanoziva. Zviratidzo zveDE zvinosanganisira: kutora nguva yakareba kupfuura yakasvibirira kuti iwane orgasm; kungova kukwanise kusvika kumadhipa nekuita bonhora; uye kusave nekukwanisa kusvika kune kanagasm zvachose. Pakutanga Mako haana kufunga nekuti "nguva refu" inowanzoonekwa sechiratidzo chekufara. Akarikurira kusvika pakukura semunhu anodikanwa, achifunga kuti iye zvino zviri nani pakufadza Janet. Zvinosuruvarisa, sezvaakaita nevamwe vakawanda vakawana, pane chinhu chakadaro se zvizhinji zvechinhu chakanaka.
Sezvo nezvose zvinokonzera zvepabonde, kune dzakawanda zvinokonzera kukonzera DE, kusanganisira: kurwara kwepanyama / kuparara; kushandiswa kwe SSRI-based antidepressants, iyo inozivikanwa kunonoka uye mumatambudziko akawanda kubvisa orgasm; pfungwa dzepfungwa dzinokonzera kushungurudzika sekushungurudzika kwezvemari kana kusagadzikana kwemhuri-zvose izvo zvinogona kuvhiringidza varume panguva dzepabonde. Asi chimwe chinowedzera chikonzero chekunyora kwezvinhu zviviri zvakanonoka kuchinjwa uye erectile kusagadzikana ndechokupindira kune-kune vamwe, kukanganisa kwe-zvinonyadzisira nekuita bonhora sechinhu chikuru chekuita zvepabonde. Izvi zvinoratidzika kuti ndizvo zvinokonzerwa nevarume vane utano hwakanaka muhukuru hwehupenyu hwakafanana naMark.
Zvinoratidzika kuti tsunami yekusvikirika, inotengwa, uye inowedzera kuona zvinonyadzisira zveIndaneti zvinowanikwa kuburikidza nemakombiyuta epamba, makombiyuta, mafoni-foni nezvimwe zvigadzirwa zvemagetsi zvino zvatitakura muhomwe dzedu zvinogona, nokuda kwevamwe, zvinokonzera kwete zvinetso zvepfungwa, ukama, uye zvemari , asiwo kusagadzikana kwepabonde. Nenzira, izvi zvinotsigira izvo vazhinji vari mazviri zvepabonde munda wekurapwa unozivikanwa kwenguva yakareba-kuti pakati pezviratidzo zvakawanda nemigumisiro yepabonde uye porn addiction is kuderedzwa kana kunyange kusina kufarira mune zvepabonde, mumuviri, uye mupfungwa nevarume vakaroorana uye / kana kwenguva refu. Dambudziko iri harisi kungokonzerwa nekuwandisa kwepabonde uye yegasgasm kunze kweukama hwepakutanga; zvinowirirana zvakanyanya nechokuti varume vose vari vaviri vari kuratidzika kuratidzirwa uye vanovhiringidzika nehutsva hutsva. Murume anoshandisa 75% yehupenyu hwake hwepabonde nekuita zvepabonde nekufungidzira zvekuona zvinonyadzisira (mifananidzo isingagumi yevaduku, inonakidza, vakasiyana nevamwe uye zvepabonde), pakufamba kwemazuva, zvichida kuwana shamwari yake yakareba kwenguva inonakidza zvishoma uye inokurudzira kupfuura kushandiswa kusingaperi kwezvinhu zvitsva uye zvinofadza mumusoro wake. Zvatiri kuona iye zvino ndeye manzwiro ekubvisa uye vakaroorana nevashandi vari kuratidzira mumuviri sekusagadzikana kwepabonde, ive DE kana kuti mukomana wake anozivikanwa, erectile dysfunction (ED). Zvinonyunyuta zvevarume nevarume vanoona zvinonyadzisira zvepabonde zvinosanganisira:
- Havana dambudziko pakuwana erection kana kurwisana nevekuona zvinonyadzisira, asi mumunhu, neavo vanoda mudzimai kana wepabonde, vanorwisana nemumwe kana kuti vose.
- Vanokwanisa kuita zvepabonde uye vanopedza orgasm pamwe nevakaroorana navo kana shamwari yavo, asi kusvika kugoverwa kunotora nguva yakawanda uye varoorana kana shamwari inonyunyuta kuti vanoita sevasingafadzi.
- Vanogona kuchengetedza kukwidzana nemumwe wako kana mukaroorana, asi vanogona kungosvika orgasm nekudzokorora zvikamu zvepaIndaneti zviri mumisoro yavo.
- Vanokumbira vakaroorana uye vashandi kuti vabatane navo pakuona zvinonyadzisira-kwete sechimwe chimwe chingawedzera kuhupenyu hwakanaka hwepabonde-asi sechinhu chakakosha chekuita erection uye orgasm.
- Vanowedzera "vanoda zvepabonde" kune zvepabonde chaiyo, vachizviwana zvakanyanya uye vachiita.
- Vane kuwedzera zvakavanzika kubva kune vavakaroorana navo (nguva yakawanda inotarisa zvinonyadzisira, mifananidzo yakaonekwa, nezvimwewo), izvo zvinogona kutungamirira kumanzwiro eine mhosva nemasvingo.
- Mumwe wavo kana shamwari yake anotaura kuti ivo vanotanga kunzwa se "mumwe mukadzi."
Apo Vanhu Vanodya Zvakawanda, Vanodya; Zvakadini neToo Much Porn?
Hazvigoneki kuti munhu wose anotambura ne-porn-induced DE ndiye anonyadzisira anonyadzisira. Kunyange zvakadaro, kusagadzikana kwepabonde kunokonzerwa nekuita zvepabonde kunofanira kuonekwa sechinhu chinopedzisira chaita zvekupindwa muropa kwepabonde. Chero munhu upi zvake anoshandisa zvinonyadzisira uye anotambura nekusagadzikana kwepabonde nemumwe wako kana kuti kwenguva yakareba mukomana anofanirwa kufunga nezvekuzorora kubva kune zvinonyadzisira nekuita bonhora kwemazuva 30 kuti aone kana dambudziko racho risati rapera. Kana ikadaro, izvi zvakanaka. Kana munhu iyeye akazorega kurega zvinonyadzisira nekuita bonhora, hupenyu hwake hwepabonde hunofanira kunge hwakanaka. Kana mazuva 30 ekuona zvinonyadzisira uye kuita bonyora kusina kujekesa zvinhu, munhu wacho angave achida kutarisa zvakadzama nokuda kwechikonzero chacho, icho chinogona kunge chiri chepanyama kana chepfungwa kubva pakutanga.
Kana izvi zvikaitika dambudziko rehutano hwepabonde, munhu wacho achada kunzwisisa kuti, kufanana nekudhakwa kwose, kupindwa muropa kwepabonde "kuchinja" uropi nenzira dzinoita kuti zvive zvakaoma kuwana "mafaro" evanhu, kusanganisira kufara kubva pabonde neanoda waroorana kana shamwari. Sezvo akadaro, haafaniri kutarisira dambudziko racho kugadzirisa pacharo usiku huno. Ichokwadi, neuroscience inotitaurira izvozvo zvinogona kutora gore kana kupfuura nokuda kwedopaminergic kana nzira dzinonakidza muuropi, kana dzichinjwa nemaitiro ekurwisa, kuisa tsika.
Zviratidzo zvinogona kuitika kuti kushandiswa kwepabonde kwakawedzera kukura kunosanganisira:
- Kuenderera mberi kwekushandisa zvinonyadzisira pasinei nemigumisiro uye / kana zvipikirwa zvakaitwa kune vamwe kana vamwe kuti vamire
- Kuwedzera nguva yakawanda yakashandiswa pamusana pekushandisa zvinonyadzisira
- Maawa, dzimwe nguva kunyange mazuva, akarasikirwa nokuona zvinonyadzisira
- Kuona zvishoma nezvishoma zvimwe zvinomutsa, zvakasimba, kana zvinoshamisa zvepabonde
- Kunyengera, kuchengeta zvakavanzika, uye kuvhara chimiro uye chiyero chekushandisa zvinonyadzisira
- Hasha kana kutsamwa kana ukabvunzwa kuti urege
- Yakaderedza kana kunyange kusina kufarira mune zvepabonde, zvepanyama, uye zvepfungwa kune vakaroorana kana vashandi
- Mwoyo wakadzika midzi yekusurukirwa, uye shumba kubva kune vamwe vanhu
- Zvinodhaka / doro kushandiswa kana kudhakwa kwezvinodhaka / doro kunodzokorora pamwe chete nekushandisa zvinonyadzisira
- Kuwedzerwa kugadziriswa kwevasingazivi, vachivatarisa sezvikamu zvemuviri panzvimbo pevanhu
- Kuwedzera kwekutarisa mifananidzo miviri-miviri yekushandisa Indaneti kune vasingazivikanwe zvepabonde hook-ups uye kuwana hupombwe
Zvinosuruvarisa kuti vanonyadzisira vanowanzozeza kutsvaka rubatsiro nokuti havaoni maitiro avo ega ega epabonde sechikonzero chekusafara kwavo uye / kana kukwanisa kuita zvepabonde. Vamwe vanongonzwa vachinyara. Uye kana vanhu ava vachitsvaka rubatsiro, vanowanzotsvaka rubatsiro nemararamiro avo anoenderana nemishonga uye kwete dambudziko pacharo-kushanyira chiremba kunobvunza pamusoro pezvinokonzera zvikonzero zvepabonde zvekusagadzikana kwepabonde, kuita bonhora zvine chokuita nehasha dzepenile, kana kutsvaga mazano e "matambudziko ehukama. "Zvinosuruvarisa kuti vazhinji vanoita zvepabonde vanoshanyira vanachiremba uye vanopinda mupfungwa yakakura yepfungwa vasingatauri (kana kunyange kubvunzwa pamusoro) kushandisa kwavo zvinonyadzisira uye / kana kuita bonhora. Nokudaro, dambudziko ravo guru rinogona kuramba riri pasi pasi uye risingateereri.
Vose vadzidzisi vanoporesa varume vane ruchiva / zvinodiwa zvinoshushikana-mupfungwa, mupfungwa, zvepabonde, uye mishonga-vanofanira kunge vakagadzirira kubvunza mibvunzo pamusoro pekushandisa zvinonyadzisira nekuita bonhora. Kana kukanganisa kuita zvepabonde kuzarurirwa, kunyatsorayirirana nemudzidzisi akadzidziswa uye ane chiremera chekuita zvepabonde muyanzvi hwekurapa kunodiwa, kazhinji kanobvumirana nemakaroorana, chirongwa cheboka, uye, kana zvichibatsira, kubatanidzwa neHNUMX-Step recovery program. Zvakakosha kucherechedza kuti kusvuta kwepabonde kunowanzova chiratidzo chepfungwa nehukama hwehukama huchada kwenguva refu-psychotherapy uye rubatsiro kukunda, asi iyi psychotherapy uye rubatsiro runogona kubudirira chete mushure mokunge maitiro ekupa maitiro ave akaonekwa uye akabviswa .
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