Zvinonyadzisira, Ruzivo uye Nhengo yeColidlid (2011)

Pasina Chigumo cheColidge hapangave neIndaneti zvinonyadzisira

Coolidge Effect graph

Nzira yeColidlid is program yekare yehupenyu iyo inogona kukurira kusvibiswa kwako kusina maturo mushure mekusangana if kune vakaroorana vatsva vari kukumbira kuti vagadziriswe. Pasina iyo, paisazova neIndaneti yepaIndaneti. Izvi zvinoshandiswa neurological inoona imwe neimwe mutsva inogona kuitika-kusanganisira iyo iri pachiwande-semukana unokosha wemarita, uye inoita kuti uite chiito nemakemikari akakwirira emakemikari.

Chii chinoitika kana iwe ukadonhedza gonzo rechirume muchizarira rine rinogamuchira gonzo rechikadzi? Kutanga, pane kuita bonde. Ipapo, murume anoramba achineta neiye mukadzi. Kunyangwe kana achida zvimwe iye ave nezvakakwana. Nekudaro, chinja mukadzi wepakutanga neumwe nyowani, uye Presto! Murume wacho anomutsidzira uye achirwa nehasha kuti aite pano. Iwe unogona kudzokorora urongwa uhwu nevakadzi vatsva kusvikira apotsa afa nekuneta. Masayendisiti anoziva chiitiko ichi se Coolidge Effect uye yakange iri yakarongedzwa nevakadziZvakare.

Dopamine

Nyore inotora mushure mechikadzi imwe neimwe itsva nekuda kwekuputika kwe dopamine (a neurochemical) muuropi yake. Hapana chakasikwa chinoswedera pedyo nekusunungura dopamine yakawanda sekuita zvepabonde, nokuti mazamu edu anoda kutora nzira yavo mune ramangwana kupfuura zvimwe zvose. Dopamine surges anorayira rati ku regai mumwe waanoda achida kushandiswa.

Dopamine ndiyo "inofanira kuitora!" neurochemical kumashure kwezvose zvinokurudzira. Pasina iyo isu hatizonetsekana kudare, kutevera mugumo, kana kunyange kudya. Kana dopamine ichidonha, ndizvo zvinoita kukurudzira. Dopamine zvakare chirauro mune zvese zvinodhaka. Uropi hwepfungwa inokura zvishoma kwazviri, uye saizvozvo, zvinonzwisisika, zvakanyanya kufanira.

Dzokera kumatare. Kutevedzera kuwirirana kwega kwega nemukadzi mumwechete mubayiro wake wekufambisa squirts zvishoma nezvishoma dopamine. Funga nezvemafirimu ari pamusoro apa. Nenguva yechishanu puro inobata ne chete mukadzi zvinomutora 17 maminiti kuti aende. Ejaculation nguva inowedzera sezvo dopamine yakabudiswa inoderera. Asi kana akaramba achichinjira kumatare echikadzi, anogona kuita basa rake nokukurumidza kanomwe. Uropi hwake hunovandudza hukama hwake nemasimba akaoma e dopamine mukupindura kune mumwe nomumwe wevadzidzi vatsva. *

Pair kusungwa

Kusiyana nemakonzo, vanhu vari vaviri vasungwa. Tine waya, paavhareji, yekurera vana pamwechete-uye kuwana huwandu hwakaenzana hwekugutsikana mumibatanidzwa yedu (zvingangoita). Asi iyo Coolidge Mhedzisiro inovanda matiri, zvakare, uye inomutsa kana basa mabhosvo zvine ruzha rwakakwana. Ini ndakamboita hurukuro nemurume anga akurira muLos Angeles. “Ndakarega kuverenga vanodanana mazana matatu nemakumi mashanu,” akareurura, “uye ndinofungidzira kuti panofanira kunge paine chimwe chinhu chakakanganisika kwandiri nekuti ini nguva dzose ndairasa kufarira kwavo bonde nekukurumidza. Vamwe vevakadzi ivavo vakanaka chaizvo. ”

Panguva yekutaura naye mudzimai wake wechitatu akanga amusiya ave muFrench uye akaora mwoyo. Akange asina kurashikirwa naye.

Inzenza yepaIndaneti: Chiitiko cheCoolidge pamapatya ane turbos

Online erotica inogona kukonzeresa mushandisi zvisingaregi. Risingaperi novel "vakaroora" chengeta dopamine ichiwedzera. Mumwe mukomana akacherekedza hunyanzvi hwaive hokore:

Ndakaunganidza zvinonyadzisira zvakawanda. Ini ndaifunga kuti ndiri kuunganidza rakanakisa dhatabhesi remufaro. Asi ini handikwanise kuyeuka ndichimbodzokera kumashure. Chikamu chinogombedzera ndiyo nyeredzi nyowani, vhidhiyo yenhau, chiitiko cheinovhero.

Hazvishamisi kuti zvidzidzo zvakawanda zvinoshandisa zvinonyadzisira zvinoratidza kuti makonzo nevanhu havana kusiyana kana zvasvika pakupindura zvinoitika pabonde. Semuenzaniso, riini Vatsvakurudzi veAustralia yakaratidza imwecheteyo erotic firimu kakawanda, bvunzo dzevadzidzi 'penises uye yekuzviisa pasi mishumo zvese zvakaratidza kuderera kunofambira mberi mukumutsa bonde. Iyo "imwechete yekare yekare" inongofinha (habituation, iyo inoratidza kuderera dopamine).

Mushure mokunge 18 kuonekwa-sezvo sangano rekuongorora rakanga richikudzurudza-vatsvakurudzi vakaunza nerotica inozivikanwa ye19th uye 20th maonero. Bingo! Zvidzidzo uye maitiro avo zvakakonzerwa. (Ehe, vakadzi vakaratidza zvakafanana.)

Coolidge Mhedzisiro Novelty spikes dopamine

Masayendisiti akadzidzawo kuti kuita bonhora kune zvinonyorwa zvinonyadzisira inowedzera ejaculate volume uye motile sperm (zvichienzaniswa nekuita bonhora kune mutambi anoziva). Zvakare, iyo nguva yakatora kujaculate yakaderera zvakanyanya. Muchidimbu, hutsva hwepabonde hunoshandura kuita urume hwakaorera uye nekukurumidza kukwirisa, zvichiita kuti chero "mamwe-maviri-maviri ekubatanidza" anyatsoita basa, uye zvinodhura.

Novel yekuita zvepabonde

Iyo Coolidge mhedzisiro inozivikanwa zvakare seyakakura mibairo yedunhu zviitiko kana yakaratidzirwa kune inova yebonde wepabonde. Dopamine inokwira chero chinhu chitsva-kunyanya kana chiri chebonde. Kutsvakurudza kunosimbisa kutarisira kwemubairo uye hutsva zvinowedzerana kuti dziwedzere kunakidzwa uye kudzoreredza iyo limbic uropi. Ichi chikamu chepakutanga chehuropi hachinei kana iwe watove neakawanda kupfuura bonde rakaringana; inoda magene ekuberekwa. Semuenzaniso, Sooty, a male guinea pig, akaputsika mucheka remakumi maviri nevana vakadzi. Kwemazuva mushure mokunge abatwa, aive akaputika. (Tsvakurudzo pane dzimwe makirati inoratidza kuti kupora kwakakwana kweuropi kunotora mazuva manomwe, uye kutsvakurudza pamusoro pevanhu kunoratidzira a post-ejaculation cycle kwemazuva manomwe.)

Majini eSooty akafara asi; akabereka vana makumi mana nevana venguruve. Iyi mikana yaimbove isingawanzo kuve yevanhurume vemarudzi ese, asi iyo Coolidge Mhedzisiro inovimbisa kuti panofanira kuitika chiitiko, vanhurume vanozozvidza kwavo kwese kusakwana uye voenda pairi kusvikira vadonha.

Nguva yekudzorera

Zviri pachena, varume vanoda nguva yeku kudzorera simba ravo uye simba mushure mekukurira kwavo satiation nzira ne dopamine / ruzivo. Asi chii chinoitika kune vanoshandisa zvinonyadzisira zveInternet yanhasi? Vangani vari kukurira yavo yemukati nzira yekugutsa bonde-vasina kuzvipa ivo vhiki rekupedza nguva kuti vadzokere? Kune nguva dzose kune mumwe "mukadzi" anokwezva anoda kuti aiswe urume. Kutaura, apo varume vane porn-inosimudzira erectile dysfunction vanorega kushandisa porn ivo kuona kusagadzikana "flatline. ” Kana vangosimudza rutsoka rwavo kubva mugasi, libido yavo inotora hope inotora kwemavhiki — yakanyanya kunyatsoita nguva yekupora kwaSooty.

Ruzivo runogona kuita kuti vakaroorana vaone sevasina kunaka

Dopamine haina kungoburitswa ichipindura ruzivo. Kana chimwe chinhu chiri kuwedzera kumutsa kupfuura kutarisirwa uropi mubairo wedunhu unoburitsa dopamine nemoto kunge unopenga. Indaneti inogara ichipa chimwe chinhu chisingatarisirwi, chimwe chinhu kinkier.

Mukusiyana, zvepabonde nemunofadza wako ndeye kwete nguva dzose zviri nani kudarika zvinotarisirwa. Kana kuti hazvipi zvisikwa zvisingaperi. Inopa mamwe marudzi e miviri inonyaradza. Zvinosuruvarisa, chikamu chepakutanga chehuropi hwako chinotora huwandu hwedopamine yakaenzana kukosha kwechiitiko kunyangwe isingaite.

rudo madhiragi uye Coolidge MhedzisiroChinonyanya kukosha: Zvakawanda zvokugadzira zvakagadzirwa kunogona kuita kuti mumwe wako aone sechando chine oatmeal. Maererano ne 2007 kudzidza, kungofanana nezvakawanda zvezvifananidzo zvevakadzi vanoita sevasikana zvinokonzera munhu kuti aparadze shamwari yake chaiye. Anotengesa pasi pake kwete pakukwezva, asiwo kune ushamwari uye huchenjeri. Uyewo, mushure mekuona zvinonyadzisira kushandiswa, zvidzidzo mu 1988 kudzidza akataura kusagutsikana kudikidiki newavo wepedyo-kusanganisira rudo rwemumwe, chitarisiko, kuda kwepabonde, uye kuita.

Kunyangwe makumi mashoma mashoma apfuura, bonde nemurume anodziya, anoteerera kazhinji akapa yakawanda dopamine pane kuita bonhora (zvakare) kune anonamira Mutambi. Mushure mezvose, kana Miss Chikunguru akanyatso "kunzwa," iwe wakashomeka nedopamine yakarova kubva kumahombekombe ake emhepo. Iwe waifanira kumirira Miss Nyamavhuvhu. Kwakabva kwauya zvitoro zvevakuru. Asi kangani iwe waunogona kuenda kune imwecheteyo vhidhiyo isati yasvika nguva yekutora imwe nyowani? (Kubhadhara porn… how quaint.)

Kuvhima hakuperi

Mazuva ano zvinonyadzisira zvepaInternet, mukupesana, zvinopa mafireworks asingaperi pakadzvanya mbeva. Iwe unogona kuvhima (imwe dopamine-kuburitsa chiitiko) kwemaawa, uye uchiona vakawanda vebonde bonde vadikani pamaminitsi gumi ega ega kupfuura ako evavhimi-vanounganidza madzitateguru vakasangana muhupenyu. Dopamine yakarova mushure mekurohwa nedopamine inogona kukonzera chinodhaka-senge chakashandurwa nyika. (Cocaine, semuenzaniso, ine chikwereti chakakwirira kusvika pakuwedzeredza dopamine kutenderera muuropi.) Iyo ine simba rakaringana kukunda ako ehuropi akajairwa satiation nzira mushure megasm.

Ndanga ndichiita bonyora kuti ndive nemifananidzo yekutema mifananidzo kubvira ndichiri wechidiki. Handina kumbove nechinetso neED kusvikira makore anopfuura 6 apfuura. Dambudziko racho rakatanga nehuwandu hwekusununguka kwepabonde pepaIndaneti. Sezvo kushamwaridzana nekukurumidza kuchiwedzerwa, ndizvo zvakaitawo kuwanda kwakanyanya kuonekwa sekuwanda kwandingaita. Ndakapedzisira ndichitsvaga huro hwangu kuti ndikumutse chete nekuita bonhora kune zvinonyadzisira. Ndiri muukama nemukadzi akanaka, akanaka kune makore ekupedzisira e4 uye anocherechedza kuderera zvishoma nezvishoma mu libido yangu nekusimudzirwa ED.

Kukuvadza porn?

Iwe unowanzo kunzwa kuti, "Zvinonyadzisira zvave zviripo nekusingaperi, saka hazvifanirwe kunge zvisina kukuvadza." Asi izvi zvinoreva hazvina zvazvinoreva kana simba rine hunyanzvi pauropi rakanyatsonzwisiswa. Mazuva ano 24/7 porn yeInternet ine mhando dzisingaperi haingobvumidze iwe kudzima yako yekuda bonde. Iyo inokutendera iwe kuti uende kure kupfuura icho chido-zvichida nemigumisiro yakaipa. Kune vamwe, kuita bonhora kune zvinonyadzisira zveInternet kunowedzera kukunda kupfuura zvepabonde:

Pane kurega "kubvisa," isu tinorwara masturbator kazhinji tinoita mutsika inonzi "edging": Kuzviunza isu kumucheto wegasmasm kakawanda, pasina ejaculation. Isu tinosimudzira zvakakwirira kwazvo zvikamu zvebonde kumutsa chaizvo kwemaawa. Ini ndiri mutambi anoshingairira mune akati wandei bonhora-anotarisana nemapoka eInternet, uye muongorori weimwe.

Vakawanda vedu tinoenda kure nekusiya mumwe munhu-zvepabonde, kunyange apo mumwe wake anoramba aripo uye achida. Isu tave tichigadzira izwi rokuti "kunyanya kusava nesimba" nekuda kwechiitiko chinowanzokwanisika chekukwanisa kuitora kuIndaneti, asi kwete kune mumwe wako.

Whoa! Shanduko yekugadzirisa inotarirwa kuwedzera vana uye mazita avo emhando dzakasiyana-siyana vanogona kutengesa vanoshandisa zvinonyadzisira kure kubva kune vakaroorana chaivo? Hungu, nokuti iyo mechanism inomhanya pane dopamine. Uropi hwako hunofunga kuti kana chimwe chinhu chikaita kuti iwe unopisa kwazvo, inofanira kunge iri mukana wakatendeseka-kune-god fertilization (kunyangwe kukoshesa kutora njodzi dzengozi, shure kwezuva).

Iyo Coolidge Mhedzisiro inotungamira kune "kufa kwevakomana?"

Kunze kwekunge iwe uchinzwisisa iyo Coolidge Mhedzisiro yakavanzika yehuropi mashandiro, ayo anokukurudzira kuti utsike pane gasi kunyangwe paunenge wave nezvakawanda kudarika, zvakaoma kubatanidza isingagutsike libido nenyaya yekuti uropi hwako kukura zvishoma kuterera nekuda kwedopamine kuwandisa. Mushure mezvose, zvinogona kunzwa sokuti libido yako haina kugadzikana. Mamiriro acho anonyadzisa nokuti anphrodisiac ane simba yehutano hwepabonde pakutanga anotonzwa se mhinduro kune chero dambudziko rekuita zvepabonde.

Ichokwadi, zvisinei, ndechokuti kusagutsikana kwepfungwa-kunokonzera kusagutsikana kwakadzika muuropi kungangove kuchiita kuti unzwe uchida kutsvaga kukurudzira. Chinhu icho libido yako thermostat yakagadziriswa ingave iwe unoda zvinonyadzisira zvepaInternet kuti uwane hutano hwakanaka kana kuti uende. (Hungu, shure musikati, varume vanonyatsoita bonhora kuti vazopedza kwete zvinonyadzisira.)

Zvimwe zviratidzo zvinogona kuwedzera kusagadzikana, kusagadzikana uye kusagutsikana, kuda kuita kinkier bonde, kuwana wawakaroorana naye asingakwezve kana kumanikidza kupfuura iyo Internet, kana kuda kweakanyanya zvinhu zvakanyanyisa. Nyanzvi dzinodaidza mhedzisiro yakadaro "kubvumidza. ” Ivo vanogona kuratidzira maitiro ekupindwa muropa ari kushanda muuropi.

Philip Zimbardo

Somuenzaniso, tarisa izvi maminitsi mashanu TED hurukuro 'Kupera Kwevakomana?' naiye anozivikanwa psychologist Philip Zimbardo sezvaanotsanangura kuti "kumutsa kupindwa muropa" kuri kukanganisa sei chizvarwa chose. Mumwe akadaro achidzorera mushandisi we porn:

Ini pachangu ndakatambura nezvakawanda zvaanotaura nezvazvo muvhidhiyo iyi. Kubva kumisa porn iko kuzvidzora kwadzikira. Ndinobvarura majee uye kutaura ndichitsetsenura ndisingafunge zvandiri kutaura kana kunetseka kuti vamwe vanozozvitora sei. Hukama hwangu nemusikana wangu hwavewo hwakawandisa sezvo mamwe emadziro andaisa ave kuparara. Yakanaka vhidhiyo.

Zvizhinji zvezvinetso zvinotanga neyakajeka, inotyairwa-inotungamirwa Coolidge Mhedzisiro-shamhu yechisikigo yekusimbisa kuti iwe uite basa rako kana vanogamuchira varipo, kunyangwe iwe watove nebonde rakaringana. Majini ako haana basa nezvakanyanya kurerutsa kushushikana, kuchengetedza hutano hwako, kana kuchengetedza hukama hwako. Ivo vanongoerekana vakukurudzira iwe kutora iyo sarudzo iyo inoburitsa yakanyanya dopamine. Kana e-hottie ikadaidza, uropi hwako hunofunga kuti uri mubhizimusi rekuparadzira geni. Ndicho chinonyanya kukosha - zvisinei nekukuvara kwechibvumirano iwe.

* Dhiyabhorosi iri mukutanga girafu kumusoro yakatorwa kubva kutsvakurudzo pamakondohwe, kwete makonzo-saka makondohwe anofanira kufananidzirwa panzvimbo. Zvisinei, mamiriro akafanana akave akaonekwawo mumakonzo.