Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Is A Growing Problem (2011)

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  1. Speak of the devil
    This article hits very close to home. My girlfriend and I recently tried having sex and it was a disaster. I could barely keep an erection and I couldn’t ejaculate at all from intercourse. I eventually just masturbated to orgasm to prove to her that I could (hopefully this won’t mess up my rebooting progress).

    I know this is caused by my pornography addiction.

    The good news is that I am making progress on kicking the habit. Basically I have gone 8 days/1 PMO event, then 7 days/1 PMO event, and currently up to 7 days no PMO. No binging during any of the previous 23 days and 2 instances of PMO. And, thankfully, it’s getting easier to resist as well.

  2. Some answers at last !
    Firstly, thanks so much for this site! So much useful and well thought out information.

    I’m posting now, having been reading off and on for the past week. Boy, it’s hard to know where to start!! I am almost day 14 of no P, and today is the first day I have had some cravingflashbacks, mostly due to being along and a little bored. However, revisiting this site gives me renewed discipline so that’s great.

    I’m 40 now but have not been in a serious relationship for a few years. It can obviously get lonely so it’s easy to understand how PMO can provide that hit you need to feel better, numb the boredom, loneliness etc. Like most, I started with the mags, then graduated to DVDs, then high speed net brought a whole new dimension to the habit. At its worst it was 4-5 times a week, PMO. I looked at my online billing history the other day and it goes back to 04! I cancelled the 2-3 open subscriptions I had the day I found this place. This was just after I’d had ED problems with a girl I’d just met – and this wasn’t the first time. I needed answers. It’s been intermittent for a number of years, the ED, likely tied to how much P I was using at the time. It all makes sense to me now – the numbed brain response.

    A friend once said to me “are you meeting any girls? You just don’t seem interested.” There’s a lot to be said for that comment, as it stuck with me and I hadn’t been able to work out why I just wasn’t all that interested in the chase and generally, life has often seemed less interesting. Indifference seems to rule the roost!

    I guess it was easier not to risk anything, risk getting burnt y’know; it was easier to just go home to the “girls”. But even P of late wasn’t doing it for me much, needing to find racier, raunchier stuff. I often felt guilty right after using. I never saw any of this as an addiction to be honest. A bit like going out for drinks, everyone does it, right?

    A while back I did abstain from M for 2-3 weeks for other reasons and it did have a profound effect on my mood and general well being. In a nutshell, I wasn’t as lazy when abstaining, that’s for sure. But even after that realisation, I just lapsed straight back into the old ways of PMO.

    There is a great section in a book called ‘Think And Grow Rich’ about Sex transmutation. Basically, it was about channelling sexual energy into more fulfilling pursuits and how many, many successfulwealthy men were able to do this. This also should have been a clue to me, but it got overlooked. The cravings and relapses into the easy world of P were just too strong.

    Much like today, I know I’m going to be sorely tempted to have a look, just one small look but hopefully I can kick this thing for good and find myself a loving relationship very soon. It’s been too long and I’m sick of being alone and feeling like this beast is controlling me and wrecking what’s left of my life. The money and the hours wasted !!

    I’m shocked to see that so many guys 15 yrs my junior have been hooked on this stuff for 10-15 yrs. For me the harcore P has really only been the last 7 or so years, but no more!

    I consider myself a quite shy, reserved person at times but I figure that P has robbed me of some of what mojo I did have. I’m taking back the power!!l….so far so good.

    In the last week or so I have had some murmurs of libido and morning erections, so that’s positive. Will update again.

    Good luck to all.

    1. welcome Porno4pyros
      Your story succinctly describes the problem. It is frightening that so many guys today started young with daily use of hard core porn. Our next Psychology Today post will be: Teens and Porn – where we examine the vulnerabilities of the young brain.

  3. Comment fron another forum

    Comment: Note that his potential girlfriend says that is seeing other men with this problem.

    “I’m in deep dirt…. Yesterday the girl I’m in love with “she in love with me too” ASK me the deepest question ever over the phone.

    She asks me have I ever had any problems getting it up. I paused on the phone for a second and flat out told her NO! She then asks me if I was being honest and I said “yea”. Then she was like “oh okay, because men out here are having a problem getting it up sometimes if it’s that’s the case then that’s a problem”

    That’s exactly what she said… So now I feel guilty for lying about this and I’m thinking about coming clean today because I don’t wanna hit her with any surprises.”

  4. A woman added this comment to this article on PT

    I have this exact problem except I don’t have a penis.

    When I read this it made me realize this is what I have been suffering. I did not know Porn was my problem. I have been looking at porn, and addicted to it since I was very, very young. I am only 24 and my love life is a struggle at best. My husband understands somewhat but I have never really been able to tell him what it was from, as I didn’t tell him about my addiction. Mine started normal, where my sensitivity to touch decreased exponentially, since I started looking at porn. Also as the paper said, the porn I viewed also increased in “harshness”. I used to get turned on over nakedness and now at a stage where I am concerned about my mental sanity.

    I have a hard time achieving any type of orgasm without clitoral stimulation and some hard thought processing on my part. I miss being able to have sex and it feel good without much effort.

    I have not looked at porn for a long time, and have just started again, and the time away did not increase my libido but might explain why i had no libido. I used to have a very extreme libido and could barely control it, now I don’t even like being touched.

    I think in my case, giving up porn and visual aids would be difficult and a long journey. I have a feeling it might be years before my sensitivity would come back, if that. Here is for hoping! Thank you for writing this and bring this to not only my attention but many others!

    I hope the authors understand that women, along with men, use porn to masturbate too. In secret I bet women are pretty close to the amount and severity that men use and maybe that’s why many women need some type of stimulation to achieve anything. Vibrators are the devil and I will be getting rid of mine, that’s for sure.

  5. Another woman added her experience

    I’m a woman and I have seen this happen to me. I’ve told my boyfriend , but he thinks I’m just over-reacting. The problem is I don’t get stimulated like before. Caresses, kisses don’t turn me on any more. I have to imagine sex scenes, to remember porn scenes. I’m determined to stop. Part of the matter is that

     I only watch online( I don’t download because my sister uses my computer sometimes and I don’t want her to find this stuff there; I’m pretty sure she doesn’t watch and wouldn’t understand it). It’s a problem because porn these days has escalated and I see all kinds of stuff. There’s just nothing that turns me on any more. I’ve seen to much. My boyfriend has old stuff downloaded on his computer. No anal ( he finds it disgusting), no swallowing, just normal sex or with oral. And I know he doesn’t watch the parts with the oral that much because he usilly moves past them. I asked him about it and he said he’s not that interested in the guy’s pleasure…lol :)). It’s about her pleasure …hm…He’s got tones of photos, though.

    Maybe men could try looking at photos or they could try old stuff, like he has. Just try watching normal or does that have only oral, masturbating , and not heavy stuff, like threesomes, gang-bangs etc. He’s too lazy to upgrade it. It’s hard, I know. I don’t even try watching other stuff, but it pups up on the sites, and nevertheless I think that I’ve desensitized myself in some way. I masturbate and I’m not interested in sex anymore. The problem is he is. I’m selfish because I don’t want to wait until I see him. I just use porn.

    Women don’t watch in such high percentage as men and they don’t actually have to be turned on to have sex. That’s the problem with women not reporting this. You don’t notice it until it’s reached the point of not feeling anything at all when he penetrates you, and must of the times it’s not the case. You can use lub and masturbate youself prior and it will be ok for women. It’s just about the emotion..it’s kind of gone..and I miss it.

  6. Another forum member said:

    What are the affects of porn addiction on women? I ask because I confided in one friend who was a girl about this issue. She told me she was addicted to pornography and erotic novels. She told me it became extremely challenging for her to orgasm with real life partners unless the situation was very similar to the porn she was into. But she also mentioned that even then it was challenging.

    She recently sent me a message and I told her about my experience and what’s been going on. I told her that the sexual problems I had before are non existent now, and I fully believe that they came about because of heavy porn use. Would recovery look different for women?

  7. From a private message to me:

    Porn use almost ruined my long term marriage and if my wife was not as strong as she is, it would have.  I have talked 4 other men about porn and ALL four admitted to me that they have been using porn and are to the point of using ED medication.  Now that I find the truth of the invasive nature of this and the courage to talk to others, I will continue to do so.

  8. Posted on the PT version
    She wrote:

    I am a woman and I can tell you from personal experience that women can be affected by it too. There was a period of time when I watched a lot of porn and found that my desire to have sex with my partner and to feel satisfied after having sex were greatly affected. I  stopped all porn veiwing and sex as gotten so much better! Now the only problem is that I want more of it!

  9. One man’s take on porn-induced ED

    Below is my attempt to lay down some of the key facts about this problem, since a lot of people have this problem on here, it’s important to me that you receive the facts, because only then can have an effective way to heal your problem.

    Before I started my reboot I had years of trying to fix the problem because I thought it was sexual performance anxiety. I thought it was just my nerves getting the better of me. That’s why it took so long for me to find a solution since I thought I was just on an emotional level.

    It was only around November last year that I really felt like my penis was dramatically less sensitive. That was the cue that my problem was not just Sexual Performance Anxiety but it was a physical problem too. How could a dramatic loss in sensitivity not be a physical problem? I could touch the tip of my penis and I didn’t feel much. Therefore the problem is also physical. That was when I started looking for a solution.

    I have Sexual Performance Anxiety caused by my inability to get or maintain an erection with a real women, because my body has become desensitized to dopamine that is used to get and maintain an erection (Erectile Dysfunction), this is a physical problem. I believe people with my problem have both a metal and physical problem.

    What is Erectile Dysfunction?

    Wikipedia definition of ED: Erectile dysfunction (ED) is sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis during sexual performance.

    Do people that have PMO’ed every day for years develop a problem with maintaining an erection during sexual performance?

    Yes, we most certainly do. We can get an erection watching porn and masturbating but we can’t with real women. Some of us can’t even get an erection watching porn. That is due to some of the below problems relating to mostly the desensitization to dopamine and real women caused by too much porn, masturbation and orgasm. Therefore we have a type of erectile dysfunction (ED) since we can’t maintain an erection of the penis during sexual performance.

    Do we have sexual performance anxiety?

    I believe some of us including myself have 2 issues, one is Porn Induced ED the second is Sexual Performance Anxiety. My problem is starting to become more SPA then Porn Induced ED because I’m on the way to fixing the ED. How can someone have easy, good sex if they can’t get a sufficient erection due to the desensitization to dopamine caused by too much porn, masturbation and orgasm.

    Is the problem physical and mental?

    Below are symptoms of physical problems. From yourbrainonporn.com

    The combination of the following leads to porn-induced erectile dysfunction:

    1. Reward circuitry desensitization (addiction process),

    2. Brain rewiring. or sensitization to Internet porn (addiction process),

    3. Conditioning to a certain type of stimuli or delivery system (Pavlovian, rewiring, addiction process),

    4. Death grip and rapid jerking (multiple levels of nervous system adaptation) You constantly need more stimuli, such as tighter grip and hardcore porn to get an erection. A vagina can’t create the death grip your nervous system as adapted too.

    5. Have not yet wired to the real deal (men who started early with porn)

    Both sexual desire and erections run on dopamine from the brain’s reward circuitry. The dopamine-producing nerve cells in the reward circuitry activate the sexual (libido) centers of the hypothalamus, which in turn activate the erection centers in the spinal cord, which send nerve impulses to the genitalia.

    When you watch PMO for years your body loses its sensitivity to dopamine. And since real women can’t give your body as much dopamine as porn website with 100 vaginas on the screen, you can’t develope and maintain an erection you stay limp even though you want to have sex.

    Why do a reboot?

    The biggest thing is that it will make your brain and nervous system more sensitive to dopamine that will help in having and maintain an erection during sex. This will then make it easier for you to have sex with a real women.

    There are 100’s of cases of successful reboots in the below link.

    What’s it like to use porn after rebooting? | Your Brain On Porn

    If you also have sexual performance anxiety that was caused by your inability to have an erection caused by too much PMO, will it be easier to cure SPA?

    Well if you can finally develop a good erection to have good sex, yes i think so. That’s because your body has increased its sensitivity to dopamine and your penis has more neves to feel a vagina. Make it easier to have successful sex and cure your SPA as well.

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    Day 51 of no porn masturbation orgasm

    My libido has gone again It actually started yesterday. My penis isn’t alive like it was at the start of the week and im not on the prawl to just have sex. I think I’m flat lining again for the second time. My penis is exactly the same as it was couple of weeks ago. There is a case on here Age 29 – Day 89, two flatlines | Your Brain On Porn . Sucks but hey I’m here to see it through.

  10. NoFap reddit – 33 days
     – Life is Different Now, and I Feel Amazing!

    Dear NoFap, After 33 days of NoFap, I feel absolutely amazing.

    I started NoFap because of problems with ED. I am a college student, and the first time, and many times after I tried to hook up with girls, and have sex, I couldn’t keep an erection. As a college kid, it was really upsetting, embarrassing and I felt terrible. Sadly, many people found out about it from gossip, and it just made everything worse. However, it wasn’t until 33 days ago I was watching TED talks on /r/getmotivated, and found the one that talked about ED, and instantly started.

    I had a little trouble in the beginning but after 21 days I started feeling great. Now that I’m back home from college, I have never felt so motivated and just all around great! While I still talk to many people, I have always had a little social anxiety, but now I have no problem with talking to anyone! I even have started p90x because I feel so great! Also, what makes it even better, is that I have a girlfriend now, and we have sex almost everyday. About 6 months ago I thought that I would never be able to have sex with anyone, and now almost every day for the past two weeks we have had sex.

    Right now, I feel amazing, and wanted to tell everyone who is doing nofap that it is completely worth it, and reminding you that will feel amazing during and after the challenge. At first I didn’t think it would work, but now after 33 days, I am so happy I stuck to it, because the results are outstanding, and my life is

  11. From reddit – NoFap

    LINK

    For those of you out there whose junk is a little out of practice with real women, I was there too. I know my badge only says 4 days, but before this relapse I went 50 days. I had a girl sleep over last night, and I will never fap again. Not because I couldn’t get it up or anything like that, but by nofapping you have nothing to worry about with ED and the moment just flows so much better. Being with real girls really is amazing. Your own touch can get you by, but the feel of being entangled with a woman is just amazing. Stay strong guys, it’s worth it.

  12. LINK –

    LINK –

    I even had my brother mention YBOP, and porn induced ED to me when I first expressed to him that I was having issues, and I still convinced myself it was a million other things before it could possibly be porn. I think the biggest challenge with porn in this generation is how much ‘conventional’ scientific wisdom has ingrained in us that porn use is totally healthy. For most men, I feel like the second someone says “Porn might be causing these problems” we kind of assume “oh great, some religious moral absolutist trying to spout their bullshit at me.”

  13. Probably wouldn’t be a virgin right now if it weren’t for my Por

    Probably wouldn’t be a virgin right now if it weren’t for my Porn induced ED

    I’m a 24 year old virgin but I believe I wouldn’t currently be a virgin if it wasn’t for this porn enduced ED that I have and all the confidence problems that come with it.

    First time I had a chance with a girl was when I was 17 and long story short, she was naked on my bed but I couldn’t do anything about it because I couldn’t stay hard… pretty big punch in the stomach for a 17 year old. That encounter just crushed my confidence with women and I’ve always been afraid of taking things that far with women because I’m afraid the same thing will happen again. I’ve had numerous opportunities that I feel I kind of backed out of or didn’t pursue with the same kind of confidence I would have if I didn’t have that memory burnt into the back of my head telling me: “it’ll just happen again”.

    Back then when I was 17 I was watching A LOT of porn and at the time I didn’t know that the porn was causing this but since then I’ve realized that my ED is actually caused by my addiction to fapping to porn because one time I went to a family trip to a summerhouse for 2 weeks where I had no access to any sort of porn and since I was so used to fapping to porn I basicly couldn’t fap without it… so I didn’t fap at all! After the 14 weeks I noticed that I suddenly had no problems getting an erection that lasted forever and could fap with my imagination alone for a powerful orgasm (something I couldn’t do before) and this effect seemed to last until I started watching porn again.

    This was a true eye opener for me but I’ve tried several times to stop watching porn since then and always relapsed and never gotten beyond the 14 day mark, but now I’ve realized that I’m 24 years old and if I’m ever going to get my confidence back and finally lose my virginity I’m going to have to stop watching porn RIGHT NOW! I’m now telling myself this every single time I feel an urge coming on and that is a huge motivator for me, as well as visiting this subreddit and reading you guys’ success stories.

  14. Pharmacist – decides to reboot after seeing so much ED in young
    100 day milestone! 1st time post.

    Just wanted the community to know this. Here’s my story:

    • 23 y/o male, been fapping since as long as I can remember, multiple times daily.
    • Have had some steady relationships in the past, never was able to O from BJs.
    • In a great relationship nearly 5 years now and decided to start NoFap after confronting so many young patients with ED issues in the pharmacies I work at. I could not comprehend how so many individuals at such young ages have ED issues, and the TED video made me realize this about myself as well, even scared me a little.
    • I have failed several times in the past since joining NoFap. My previous record was only 20-something days.
    • Throughout this journey my overall physique has greatly improved, have become a regular in a new gym I joined, bought a bike to ride everywhere now, and finished schooling for pharmacy.
    • My SO loves that I have started this and has noticed my performance boosts in bed. I can O from BJs now!
    • This decision has not been easy, but some days I come back on here and notice: “hey, I didn’t know it was that long already!”
    • I still end up looking at porn from time to time, but my more obscure fetishes have subsided, which was really getting to me; another push to start NoFap.

    Sorry about the ranting, feel free to ask me any questions!

  15. Comment on Topix ED forum
    ED, Even in the Most Ideal Circumstance

    Notice a lot of men on this board have had an issue with porn addiction, which has lead to erectile dysfunction. My problem sort of bleeds into both worlds.

    A few years ago, I found out an old high school friend of mine got into porn. I had always found them very attractive and even had a crush on them for a while, so I looked it up and thoroughly enjoyed myself.

    Cut to now, I’ve actually had the opportunity of sleeping with this friend… and I can’t get it up. I don’t understand it. I can masturbate to them in a porn no problem. One on one, I get nothing. I know people say that the reason for loss of real-life intimacy is due to an addiction to the fantasy, but in this situation the real life friend IS the fantasy.

    I feel like I’ve got an ideal situation here, and it’s killing me that I can’t for the life of me get it up!

  16. An example of quick recovery

    There appears to be two types of porn-induced ED -Chronic, whioch takes months to resovle, and a type where recovery takes 1-2 weeks.

    Thought I had ED, low testosterone, or something. Tried Viagra, but it seems that porn is the problem.

    I made this post a few days ago: http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/y5yab/yesterday_my_girlfriend_walked_in_on_me_while_i/ . Over the past few months I developed ED with my girlfriend. I thought something was wrong with me, I had too much stress, low testosterone, or something. The doctor prescribed me Viagra, which works. However, once you get onto something like that, it’s hard to come off, because you don’t think you can come off, because you’re worried you won’t be able to perform without it. Anyway, I tried not jerking before, but never thought that porn might be a problem. You see, I would often look at porn in the morning, maybe jerk a little and not climax. I thought that was okay, but I don’t think it is. I also tried different supplements, zinc, horny goat weed, and lots of sleep/exercise.

    This week has been one of the most stressful for me, I haven’t exercised nor slept that well let alone eat a healthy diet or take my supplements. However, I did stop looking at porn. This morning, I was hard as a rock despite not taking any Viagra, and my girlfriend, who is now sensitive to my sexual needs offered to hook up. I was thinking to myself, WTF? How is it that I’ve such a raging hard-on despite all my stress and unhealthy lifestyle over the past few days? I think it’s the starving my brain from porn that’s doing it. There was a post yesterday by someone who said that jerking every once in a while when you’re really horny is fine, as long as it’s not done with porn. I think that this is correct. Rubbing one out when you’re super horny and when your woman isn’t around is probably a good thing so that you can just get on with your day.

  17. The Cost of porn:

    The Cost of porn:

    To be honest I think the root of my problem has been the internet, it has allowed me accessibility, anonymity and variety to any portal of sexual satisfaction. I am now hoping with you guys the internet can help me.

    Financially= I have spent over £400 on porn sites etc and over £500 on cam sites (£2 per min…fuck me). On the recent escort saga i have done away with £460. I could of bought and made a decent gaming pc using r/buildapc when rome II and COH 2 come out.

    Sexually= Probably my biggest incentive, worry, goal. At this moment i would not be able to have an orgasm during sex if i was wearing a condom. Bareback is slightly easier (feels amazing but still takes a while). I have faked orgasms aplenty and girls have commented on my stamina to keep going (both to enjoyment and disapproval). I just seem to be able to keep pumping away but to no avail. I once tried six times before i was able to orgasm with a condom

    When i am with a girl i am finding that i am suffering from a little ED (not the aged vein type that men in their 60’s get). Although when im having sex i am suitably hardish but i am not as hard as id want or expect to be (Im thinking why the hell cant i work properly when i have a hot naked girl with me).

    I consider this to be down to physical and mental problems. Physically i have likely developed a death grip that has decreased my dicks sensitivity to mechanical stimulation both when im fapping and when i have penetrative sex. Mentally i have become so used to seeing digital girls on the internet that ive become desensitised as well so that when im with a real girl its no big deal to some of my limbic wiring.

    1. pmo
      I hear what your saying. I probaly also could afford that longtime postponed pc upgrade.

      God damn this time this addiction actually escalated probably more than ever. I have memberships including shemalesites, dvd videos on order and also knowledge of those best free sites.
      I also freaking spent 50€ in 10-15mins (25+25€). I went online 1 on 1 live cam with a shemale and actually gave her my phonenumber, what hell was i thingking?
      Atleast during that i noticed this addiction getting hold over my actual brain because my body felt so weak due to dopamine spikes.

      But the thing is, that those girlfriend stories in these porn addiction forums aren’t at all helpful. I think they actually have “helped” me to fail my quest for abstince/sobriety which has gone longest about 1-3 weeks. I hope people writing those realize it and stop writing them.
      I my self have had only 1 girlfriend my entire lifetime.
      Allthough she was the most pretty and most wanted girl in school and she got to be my gf. Atleast those are some good memories.

      But now things are hell alot worse. Im in my early twenties, few friends, no girlfriend/partner, unempolyed and without education.

      I actually have went ballsout asking girls to cup of cafe at cashier and other non regular places and they simply rejected with “i have a boyfriend but thanks” thats really eating me. Therefore have just stayed with porn and havent really done any un-necessary interaction with people.

      I dont drink, smoke or do drugs. I guess this pmo has been my drug.
      Luckily no one knows about it and everyone in my family keep saying how good i’ve handled things, especially my grandma since others are using drugs and some even in detoxification.
      I read on the internet that you need to talk about this addiction but i just really cant talk to my family about it and therefore has to be some other option.

  18. Rebooting works!!!

     264 days after giving up PMO.

    I have not had any incidents where I was unable to obtain and maintain erection during sexual activity.

    Sometimes I mentally get a little doubtful of myself being able to get erect without issue, but I contribute that to years of struggling with erection issues.  The doubtfulness is going away.

    Rebooting works!!!

  19. CURED!

    I’m just making this post to tell everyone here that no fap has officially cured my porn induced ED. Last night I had PIV sex with a girl, and I had the first orgasm in my entire life where I didn’t have to finish using my own hand. Also: it was awesome. I’m planning on writing a post on my whole experience (the good, the bad, the ugly) when I hit day 90. (LINK)

    Anyway, the point is, if you’re here for porn-induced ED reasons, I’m telling you to try this out, because it worked for me.

  20. Improvements with ED

    My previous streak before this one was my longest at 19 days. Even though I relapsed, I feel like I still am making great progress. On the 7th day of this current streak, 2 days ago, I hooked up with this girl. The following might be NSFW in terms of triggering a relapse, but I’ll try to be blunt and not too descriptive.. lol.. (LINK)

    Fapping for years and years before this has made it difficult for me to maintain an erection during sex, especially with a condom on. However, when I was with this girl, I was able to maintain an erection for as long as I wanted. We switched to 4 different positions and I was able to stay hard even when pulling out and taking our time with moving to a different position. Also, I was very hard inside her even with the condom on and made her orgasm 4 times in those 4 different positions, mostly with just my penetration and stiffness. Surprisingly, I didn’t come prematurely either. I was able to hold back and focus on pleasuring her, and let myself come when I felt she had a couple of nice O’s already. The sensitivity even with the condom on was amazing, and it actually took conscious effort not to come so fast.

    After we took a break, I was able to get another erection very quickly from just her lightly touching me there and kissing and cuddling. Getting it up so soon after an orgasm like this has not happened for me in a long time. We were able to go another round with a condom on again and it was just as amazing with no ED issues and a mind-blowing orgasm for me that I felt all throughout my body.

    The whole time also I was turned on by my passion for her and connection with her, not just the visual stimulus of her beauty. It was a slow lovemaking session, not fucking, and I completely gave myself over to the physical sensations of being one with her. I wasn’t trying to get myself off, I was making a deep connection with her.

    This experience has got me all excited and feeling like the healing process is working. I am 34 yrs old, and I had my doubts before about whether my ED would ever get better, but all I can tell you is trust in the process, it will produce results eventually. Keep fighting the good fight, fellow fapstronauts!

  21. Having ED troubles. Should I begin my nofap journey?

    Having ED troubles. Should I begin my nofap journey?

    I’m a pretty healthy 20 year old, who for the past few years was ruled by porn (progressed from regular porn to animated porn, fetish porn, you name it). I noticed recently that I’ve been unable to get erect, whether it’s for masturbation purposes or for fooling around. My ED may be due to my early masturbation techniques (squeezing my penis and not letting it get fully erect) This problem has gotten worse now that I have a gf, as she thinks her appearance is the problem, and it’s not. Will a period of abstinence from porn and masturbation help my problem?

  22. 30 Days, or “Holy hell, it works.”

    30 Days, or “Holy hell, it works.”

    Context: late 20s, starting from total ED/lack of libido. I have a longtime GF, and my low sex drive (but somehow not too low to fap) was taking a very painful toll.

    RECAP:

    Weeks 1-3: Experienced the clear-headedness and confidence that some have described, enjoyed having more time (quit gaming simultaneously), but other than that, total flatline. No sexual desire. But I wasn’t too concerned, because that’s where I was starting from.

    Week 4: Spontaneous boner just thinking about sex. For the first time since … I literally cannot remember when. If low libido is not a challenge you face, it’s hard to describe just how magical this feels.

    Later in week 4: Started working out daily (run 2 miles + either lifting or abs), taking 4g L-Arginine daily (seems like taking it with food, esp. bread, helps prevent the heartburn), and doing some kegel exercises. This combo really helped things take off. I’ve had sex with the gf twice in the last week or so, which is itself an improvement, but both times have been unlike ever before. It’s more exciting, and easier to get excited. I last longer. It feels more connected (she spontaneously mentioned this after the last time).

    I’m glad that I didn’t start the physical regimen until after I had started to regain some function, if only to clarify the importance of NoFap in this equation. NoFap gets your mind right, exercise gets your body right, good things happen. (Don’t know how much impact the Arginine is having, but it can’t hurt.)

    I know there may be more flatline periods in my future, but that’s fine. I’m in it for the long haul. Keep the faith, Fapstronauts.

    tl;dr NoFap + Exercise + Kegels + Arginine = faster results than I expected.

  23. 40 days then reset–my body’s vastly different reactions to sex

    40 days then reset–my body’s vastly different reactions to sex and PMO

    I started nofap for pretty typical reasons. I saw the TED talk, visited YBOP and realized that a lot of my ED problems and relationship problems were due to fapping constantly for the last 20+ years (I’m 36).

    I lasted about 40 days before PMO. (I’m resetting now, so if my badge still says 48, the reset just hasn’t gone through yet). Before reset I experienced the following effects:

    • Major increase in energy and libido
    • After the first week, steady improvement with ED issues
    • After two weeks, disappearance of ED issues
    • A brief flatline of about 5 days somewhere during the third week
    • Increased confidence (although I attributed that to the ED getting better–I was no longer afraid of taking a woman home and not being able to perform)
    • Found it much easier to look people in the eyes and hold their gaze

    That last one was the only really surprising one. I kind of expected the rest based on what I had learned and common sense, but had discounted a lot of the “I’m now a sexual magnet!” and “I can sense ovulating women from miles away!” kinds of superpower claims. But I did see someone point out the eye contact thing a few weeks ago on nofap, and it was definitely true for me.

    Anyway, I was pretty sexually active during this time. I didn’t have sex for the first 8 or 9 days, but then started having sex a couple times a week for the rest of the time. My sexual performance had definitely improved. I was no longer constantly worried about losing my erection so I could take my time. It was all a lot more enjoyable, too. I didn’t last as long, but that wasn’t a problem, since I’d always lasted too long before and now I was going for just about the right amount of time for the most part (there was maybe once that I came too quickly, but it was fine–we just had sex again soon after).

    Eventually I relapsed. I won’t bore you with the details, but it was pretty typical. I let my guard down and then proceeded to PMO three or four times over the course of about a day.

    The crazy thing for me was how substantially different the effect was from fapping than it was from sex. When I’d had sex, I felt satisfied afterwards, and happy, but my sexual appetite returned pretty quickly. I still had “the fire.” After PMO I felt satisfied and happy as well (just speaking the truth), but my sexual appetite didn’t return. I had a desire for more PMO, but the fire was gone–I had less energy, lower libido, less attraction to women, less energy, etc.

    It’s now been almost a week and things are starting to get back to where they were before, thankfully. In a way, I’m glad I relapsed, because I got to really experience the drastic difference between PMO and real sex. I knew PMO had been holding me back, but until this happened, I still kind of harbored this feeling in the back of my mind that the benefits I was receiving just came from reducing the number of orgasms, not actually reducing the amount of porn and masturbation. Turns out, I was wrong.

    I know this is long, but I just wanted to add one thing–I’m incredibly grateful to have found this subreddit, and to all of you. It’s increasingly clear to me now that several excellent relationships I’ve had in the past have failed in large part because of PMO. I find myself single at 36, which isn’t the worst thing in the world, but not where I thought I’d end up. Some people never do. For all you guys who are getting onto this in your college years or early twenties, count yourselves lucky. Actually we should all count ourselves lucky, even the older dudes. I sometimes start feeling sorry for myself and regretting the issues PMO has caused in my life, but then I look on the bright side–at least I’ve finally figured this out. There’s always time to turn things around. So, thanks.

    tl;dr I was on nofap for 40 days, but having sex. The sex would leave me satisfied, but my sexual appetite would come back quickly. Then I fapped, and my libido disappeared again and I lost “the fire” completely. A week later it’s starting to return.

  24. when we have sex, I have a difficult time maintaining an erectio

    I’ve never confessed this to anyone before, but I’m a real porn addict and I’m in need of serious help.

    Basically for seven years of my life I’ve discovered the thing that helped propel the internet age forward. Porn. I am a 23 year old male. But before you shoot me down as it being ‘normal’ or ‘healthy to masturbate’ I’m quite certain my own personal story isn’t of that sort.

    Everyday it seems, it has gotten progressively worse, and I can no longer simply enjoy doing normal menial tasks without thinking of running to the nearest computer or electronic device with internet access, and pulling up a porn site and tugging away. I can’t sit in my college classrooms or stand around at my job for more than thirty minutes without my mind wandering off and thinking about that one video I saw last night and how I couldn’t wait to get out and get off.

    I tend to masturbate three to five times a day while surfing the internet for just the right video for near countless hours each time I do. I recently have found someone whom I can finally call my own and cares for me on a deeper level. We’ve been dating for only a couple months now, but when we have sex, I have a difficult time maintaining an erection. My brain wanders off and tries to come up with a video I’ve seen on the internet, but I immediately try to dismiss it because I have this beautiful person in front of me that I’m making love to and wouldn’t want to associate our personal time with superficial nonsense.

    I’ve tried it all, blocking sites, blocking sexy links. But to no avail my head goes into a hypnotic trance right when I see someone I just want to splurge all over, and In a world where our media, advertisements, and everyday experiences has people walking around mostly naked, it sets me off quickly and turns me into some kind of lustful beast. I’ve used my smartphone on multiple occasions to view porn, run into a public restroom stall and take a load off. It’s killing me, my mind feels weak and I constantly feel paranoid as though people know and look down on me for it.

    I need help reddit, I don’t know what to do. This is the first time I’ve told anyone about it, and finally accepted it as a problem. It’s interfering with my ability to have a normal productive and happy life. I’m starting to fall head over heels for my significant other, and has been the reason I felt the need to seek help, but I feel if I don’t do anything soon to improve our sex life, I would be devastated.

    TL;DR: I watch countless hours of porn and masturbate, obstructing my daily tasks and love life. I don’t know where else to turn.

  25. Sexually damaged after years of watching porn?

    Sexually damaged after years of watching porn?

    OK, short and embarrassing story.. i’ve probably been exposed to porn for .. 13-14 years or so (i’m 27), never fapped daily but when i did it was almost always with porn, or images from porn playing in my head.. well, what its done to my brain i don’t know, but its been harder and harder getting/holding an erection from watching porn and my sex life is non-existing. the last times i’ve had sex my head was running wild and i couldn’t concentrate or getting horny at all. so after those embarrassing episodes i’ve stayed away from sex, even starting to believe i was gay, which I’m pretty sure i’m not. I have also told myself that it was all because of the weed smoking i’ve been doing the last years, but even that haven’t been really frequent (maybe once a week or less).

    So, yes.. what were i talking about.. since porn don’t do it for me anymore and i’ve always been shameful about watching it i decided to google around and ended up here. May i have become sexually damaged from the years watching porn? When fapping away for hours with out getting an orgasm something surely must be wrong.

    Anyway, i’ve decided to stop all that and see what happens.. no more fapping and no more porn.. What i hope to achieve is feeling happier, getting more motivated to get stuff done, and overall feel healthy, inside and outside. Maybe some day in the future getting confident enough to go forward when i’m interested in a girl and not being that passive person i have become.

  26. I can hardly feel my penis. Anyone else’s dick completely ruined

    I can hardly feel my penis. Anyone else’s dick completely ruined?

    This is why I’m trying NO Fap. It gets worse as I abstain. At about 7 days the dead dick gets major but everything else gets amazing.

    I am going to get the 90 days done. No fucking around now.

    GUY 2

    Flatline means PROGRESS.

    Also keep in mind that there is no ” trying” – you either go with 100% motivation to do it or you dont (and will probably fail ).

    But as long as you dont give up and start all over there is no true failure.

    GUY 3

    70 days and it’s still dead 50% of the time. Which is much better than 100% when I started. It’s a slow uphill climb but it gets better. Avoid stresses, eat clean and get plenty of sleep.

    GUY 4

    It comes back to life eventually, and raging harder than ever. For now use the time to focus on other things that could improve you.

    Original Poster

    Amazing. Thanks so much guys.

    Do you get my point though? I not only have dead dick during no fap, but I’m actually trying to CURE a permanently dead dick by doing no fap.

    It must be porn and MO that’s caused it because I get all the withdrawal symptoms and the really good stuff (confidence, strength gains, sensations in my jaw, amazing skin etc).

     

     

  27. I just became aroused thinking about the girl i’m seeing naked.

    I just became aroused thinking about the girl i’m seeing naked. Feels good man.

    I used to not be able to get aroused unless porn was present. Seriously. I couldnt even masterbate without porn. I would never go back to that slavery.

    GUY 2

    “I used to not be able to get aroused unless porn was present.” Idem dito here, feels bad man.

    GUY 3

    Same here. I actually just reset my badge and I don’t feel ashamed at all. I fapped thinking about my wife naked instead of watching porn for the first time in a very long time. Feels good.

    GUY 4

    Ha. Yeah. I’ve got a boner a good 50% of the day now…

    GUY 5

    Same, man. I always needed porn to get off. Can’t wait until that shit is off my mind.

    GUY 6

    Isn’t this amazing stuff?! I am with you man.

  28. Recovery from ED, found a girlfriend and new energy thanks to no
    From Reddit NoFap: (He still has delayed ejaculation)

    Recovery from ED, found a girlfriend and new energy thanks to no fap

    So i am on day 48, and boy oh boy my life has changed. Let me give you the run down on how i was before no fap. I am a hard working student who studies law and commerce. I had many friends and many friends who were girls, however i never seemed to get anywhere with chicks. When i was younger, say 16 or so, i would love to pick up as many chicks as i could. I became quite good at it, but never went past second base. Went i started getting older, and getting into a terrible PMO cycle, my drive to find girls and pick them up almost stopped. When i did manage to some how pick up chicks, i had ED issues which was embarrassing for me and her.

    Let’s fast forward to day 48 of no fap. I have just had more sex in the last 2 days then i have had in my entire life. I have met an amazing girl that i am really attracted to. My ED has vanished, and i mean vanished, i had sex for about 3 hours the first time and was hard for all of it. (for some reason i haven’t cum yet, does anyone else have the same issue?). I feel like a man again, with more confidence, better skin and more attraction to women in general.

    Come on guys, its 48 days (for me, may be longer for others) man the fuck up and do it, it changed my life.

  29. Indeed, delayed ejaculation

    Indeed, delayed ejaculation is your issue.

    Had the same problem, ran into YBOP while googling for solutions. Got over it – even when using a condom. You should know that even if your GF is initially happy that you last 1, 2, 3 hours at sex, she will eventually become annoyed by that ‘performance’ and it will become an issue. Keep up with the nofap challenge and eventually you will find the cure for DE.

    Best of luck! (LINK to thread)

  30. yourbrainrebalanced – Do hard erections return?

    Do hard erections return?

    GUY1) Yes, rock hard erections return. You have to stay totally away from PMO and you have to be patient. When I started getting hard erections again, I would have one and then maybe the next time I had sex I might not even be able to get an erection.  I’m over 100 days now and the hard erections are getting much more consistent.

    GUY 2) yes they do!!!! mine are so much harder after 2 months i cant remember the last time they were so hard. sometimes they last for 5 minutes without touching..

    GUY 3) Sometimes mine get so hard it actually physically hurts. Feels like my penis is about to explode.

  31. For me, my lowest point wasn

    For me, my lowest point wasn’t when watching porn. It was December 2011 and I went through 2 days of crushing depression. I don’t suffer from depression, but for thos two days I felt like crying the whole day and had absolutely no appetite. What was worse was that I was staying at a friends house – so even social stimiluation did nothing. I was struggling to hold back the tears, going to the toilet every few hours for a quick cry.

    I ended up taking an anti-depressant pill (just 1) and that kicked me out of it. It was then I realized that my life was fucked up and I needed to do something – the problem was I had no idea what. I started searching the net for the next few months. I started to look into cures for everything I was experiencing. Depression, social anxiety, performance anxiety, ED, etc… Eventually, I somehow stumbled onto YBOP and after reading about 3 recovery accounts I was certain this was my issue. I went 30 days PMO free but eventually relapsed after convincing myself I was fine (the good mood I was in thanks to not using porn ironically made me think it wasn’t the porn that was the problem)

    After that I started PMO again, usually every other day or every 3 days – but sometimes multiple times in one night. I ended up convincing myself I just needed to get laid (still a virgin) and went to an escort. I didn’t even get remotely hard, and that’s when I knew I had to abstain. I just had to. Porn got me hard really easily, but not a hot escort naked on top of me? WTF. I didn’t even really feel that nervous at the time, but nothing. That day I started abstaining again and 8 weeks later – here I am.

    (LINK to thread)

  32. My lowpoint?

    My lowpoint?

    Laying there naked next to the most beloved woman in my world (my wife and mother of my children), about to have sex, and not being able to get an erection. She looks me straight in the eye and asks me if I’m having trouble because I’m looking at porn again.

    And I lie, right in her face.

    Something inside me f*cking died, right then and there…  :'(

    On the other hand – something was born: my absolute KNOWING that I was an addict, and I needed to do something about it. Which is why I’m here. (LINK to thread)

  33. My lowest point was

    My lowest point was when I took stock that I couldn’t get it up for my girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend) not once, but repeatedly over the course of our three year relationship. We also never orgasmed from vaginal intercourse (I think I have deathgrip syndrome apart from porn-induced ED) for THREE years!

    I was working on the issue (visiting doctors; buying books on penis exercises; trying to change habits by masturbating to POV porn (instead of the extreme porn I was addicted to)); she was totally supportive of me the entire time (this girl really loved me with all her heart). She even bought nice lingerie and made efforts to be the “slut in the bedroom”. BUT even with that, I wasn’t turned on because the porn I was into was much more extreme than that (rape, forced sex).   

    When the relationship was over, her sexual confidence was rock bottom; she didn’t feel that she was an attractive woman (though objectively she is definitely hot). To harm someone you love so deeply is a terrible, terrible feeling.

    I wish I could turn back the clock and found yourbrainrebalanced sooner. Thank you Underdog this is a great site.

    (LINK to thread)

  34. I’m new to NoFap and I’m relieved to have found you

    I’m new to NoFap and I’m relieved to have found you

    Hi there,

    after reading lots of your stories about your willpower and determination, as well as getting information from YBOP, I decided to subscribe to this subreddit. I am really impressed with what’s going on here.

    I actually feel terrible about my fap habits and I suffer from ED and PE for 12 years already, while still being in my twenties. This is actually the first time I ever talk/write about this because I am deeply ashamed about it. This simply can’t be right and I was often looking up articles on the internet but didn’t find a solution.

    So I stumbled upon this subreddit and I must say it gives me a lot of hope to read about your devotion. I already feel good for choosing NoFap. I hope to be a good fellow fapstronaut and i hope you welcome me aswell.

    Eventually, I’d like to ask you folks something. Did you or do you get any help by a therapist? I always thought about this but never even dared to call one and ask for help concerning my ED and PE. Stay strong NoFappers!

  35. “My girlfriend just ridiculed my NoFap attempt. I don’t know wha

    “My girlfriend just ridiculed my NoFap attempt. I don’t know what to make of it. . .” [UPDATE]

    So fellow Fapstronauts, I have an update to the dilemma that rocked me to my core a few days ago (here’s the link if you want to read it http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/yqasw/my_girlfriend_just_ridiculed_my_nofap_attempt_i/)

    I decided to mention it to her again this morning, after having a rather wonderful night last night. I mentioned to her that I’d come to the conclusion that my ED problems had come from years of porn-induced PMO and excessive amounts of it. This time around there was no ridicule. She was very understanding, very loving even. My best guess is that it was her way of apologizing (she has a hard time apologizing verbally, though I know when she’s apologizing with her body language). I let it known that I want her support. I don’t necessarily need it, but support from your partner is very important. I told her that I want to go back to how things used to be, where I could naturally have an erection and make love, not fuck but make love, real passionate love. She was happy that I was taking charge. I told her that I didn’t want her to be an object to me, but a willing partner. In short, it went well, not better than I wanted, but well. I’m happy. I don’t know what motivated her ridicule, but I’m happy she’s supportive now.

    I love you all Fapstronaut. Your concern and supportive words actually brought me to tears :’). I can’t thank you all enough. NoFap is exactly what I needed to get me started on this journey to health and self-control, among other things.

    I’m happy to see the #1 badge. I made 6 days, with my 7th day being tomorrow. It was difficult, but I did it and I’m fucking proud of myself. I haven’t PMO’d, fapped, edged, nothing. I’m happy and feeling great with the marked rise in my general libido and whatnot. The future looks bright.

    PS. That day she ridiculed me, I didn’t fap. I called up my best friend, we grabbed a beer and had a good chat. I told him about NoFap and my problems and he was incredibly supportive. Very understanding, sympathetic and empathetic. It felt great.

    tl;dr Told gf about NoFap, she was supportive after being horrible about it. Gunnin’ for more days!

  36. I’ve been at this for almost

    I’ve been at this for almost 10 years. This is it

    Hey guys, I just want to say a huge Thankyou this morning. Here’s my story:

    I first saw porn when I was like 8 and I heard the word ‘boobs’ so being a giggly little kid, my brother and I went to boobs(dot)com, clicked through the 18 or older banner and laughed at what we saw. It was at 11 or so that I really started to get into porn back in the Kazaa days. Hahahaha man I can’t believe how long ago that was. You guys even remember that?? I remember downloading like 25-30 pornographical items in the Que at once. I must have been at it at least every other day for three years when I finally felt guilty about sneaking around and I decided to quit.

    That was 9 years ago next month. Day after day of telling myself that “Oh you’re going to quit. This is a tiny little thing, not even worth your energy to worry about. Let it slide this time and you can crush this thing tomorrow.” Weeks turned into months and it saddens me to say into years.

    BUT ITS OK! It’s not affecting me and once I quit, it will be gone with no signs it was ever here. Besides how else are you going to learn what 69 is and what a clit is and what circumcised means when everyone at the HS lunch table looks at you. Fast forward to last year. I made a home made flesh-light cuz I figured why not up the sensations. It’s the same as jacking off. I lasted 15 seconds. WHATTT??

    I then went online and realized all that fapping with the subconscious thought to not get caught over the years trained me to bust quickly….. SO YOU’RE TELLING ME if I would have never done this SH*T, I could be lasting 30 min to an hour by now, from the accumulated practice???

    Fast forward to 4 months ago. I was still PMO’ing and not really getting much of an erection during it…. That’s weir-………….. OH SHIT. Why the F*** do I have ED. WTF is this? I finally found the TED talk on Youtube and through that found you guys; and realized my case is nothing special. I searched all of /r/NoFap and I kept finding other apparently, clones of myself.

    I woke up this morning, Day 4, all my will power gone. It’s the funniest and maybe scariest thing, having your own body turn against you. All your strength and energy that was put into quitting on Day 1 is day by day, turning on you; strangling you to give in to it and it will let go. I felt like Venom from Spiderman when he’s trying to rip it off but it won’t go, wanting to consume him. As I read that mature guy’s post about being mid-thirties and having it ruin his life, I got a renewed motivation that I am GOING to kill this thing once and for all. Thank you guys, for encouraging each other and me through this journey. It’s day 4 and I’m going to use this as my new headline when I wake up everyday:

  37. I’m a Male 17 and have been

    I’m a Male 17 and have been trying to do the NoFap challenge for around a month leading up to last friday, but never without going more than 1 or 2 days due to my pretty low self-control and the excuses that i kept making up for myself. (LINK)

    So this last friday after a party, i (still a virgin) hooked up with a girl that i had met and talked with a few parties before this one. We didn’t kiss or anything at the party, but decided to her place, with me jokingly using the fact that my last bus home (20 km) had already gone (which was actually true), as an excuse.

    We got to her place, continued to just casually chat for about an hour or two maybe, but once we got around to sleeping, i made a move and started kissing her neck and gently rubbing her. Things escalated, and next minute i was laying there, for the first time, with a smokin’ hot girl doing all sorts of things. And i really mean all sorts of things.

    I imagine most peoples first time as being super awkward and over quickly. Well, not in my case, thanks for my weakness when trying to do the NoFap challenge. After what seemed like at least an hour of various positions including oral and handjobs i had satisfied her, but me, i just couldn’t get off. I was so suprised that this was actually the case, and that it was this bad. I had ALWAYS imagined that it would be exactly the opposite when the time came, but no. No matter how heatful it was and what we did, i just couldn’t finish. When we decided to stop, and we had started to get tired, i was really fucking annoyed and somewhat emberrassed, but she took it pretty well.

    The day after i just left with a sort of empty feeling inside me, knowing that it could have been the night to remember, but due to my low self control beforehand, only got to be a somewhat half-assed experience on my part.

    So since that i haven’t fapped, and i don’t plan on it. I can’t wait to finally get this new lifestyle kickstarted. 🙂

    TL;DR: Had the most beautiful and awesome first time sex, but couldn’t finish due to my addiction to fapping.

  38. How I figured to become ED free

    How I figured to become ED free

    23/m ED for many years

    If you have ED you have to sit down and think all logical reasons how to sort it out.

    The checklist I made.

    1. Doctor(Could of been an illness like diabetes, however I was all healthy)
    2. Stop fapping…even edging
    3. Stop porn
    4. Hit gym
    5. Eat heathly

    I did all these but missed out number 3. Took me 3 months of nofap to figure it out. It is amazing the difference that no porn has made on me. Literally boners happening all the time. Confidence in bed up 100%.

    I think the thing is to find what your problem is. I also found getting your girlfriend on the pill a big help so you don’t have to fuck around with condoms. Also made sure the bedroom was warm and found out I have better erect at night time. Put everything together for better success rate and now I am pretty confident all the time

    So go ahead guys figure out how you can get better too. I DID IT IN 3/4 MONTHS OF NOFAP THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR HELP!!

  39. Day 39 – Recovering from second flatline & ED issues

    Day 39 – Recovering from second flatline & ED issues

    On Day 28, I thought I had fully recovered from my first flatline. Successful PIV intercourse. ED seemed to be gone.

    Ha. A couple days later I ran into another flatline. Dead dick, no libido. It lasted for close to a week.

    Until yesterday. No ED, initiated sex (it’s been a long time since I had the confidence or libido to do that; wife was always the one initiating in the last 6 months to a year except for a couple of times) and it was great.

    I understand I may run into other flatlines, but if I can recover like this again, I’m fine with that.

    tl;dr: 30, in long term relationship (6+ years), PMO’d for 15 years. Had ED issues for the last 6 months which are fading.

  40. thre guys chatting –

    GUY 1) Do you feel almost asexual?

    GUY 2) Of course, I don’t have the natural tension between females anymore. My brain is so fried from years and years of PMO.

    GUY 3) Same here. The tension is all intellectualized for me, I am second-guessing whether I am actually attracted to a girl or not. I don’t know how to respond.

    LINK

  41. What is a successful reboot?

    What is a successful reboot?

    GUY1)

    My reboot is also driven by wanting to cure my ED. For me it has been a vicious cycle. Go to have sex > ED > performance anxiety > fear of failure > avoid having sex. I want to have sex, I really do, but I don’t want to in the fear of my ED. I want to get to the stage where my horniness returns, where I take a girl home and actually have 100% desire to have sex with her, rather than worrying about whether my penis will work or not.

    GUY2)

    For me it is to cure my copulatory ED. I’d really like to be able to have sex with my wife again. My wife would really like to have sex with me as well. My actions have hurt our relationship for far too long and I am aiming to rectify the situation.

    GUY3)

    that’s what i am here for, too! getting rid of that ED and have normal and healthy sex again. i think a successful reboot would be to actually feel your sex drive again and your brain tells you to go for the real deal.

  42. Today my girlfriend and I engaged in Karezza sex

    Today my girlfriend and I, (though it’s been happening for a while) engaged in Karezza (Sex without orgasm)…and it was so successful. The best part? I know it was all down to NoFap. 40 minutes long….All down to Kegel

    Contradiction in the title I know, but hear me out!

    So yes, today my girlfriend and I engaged in intercourse.

    A couple of things to note.

    1. being 47 days in, I found myself very horny for the past week. Nothing major, just generally refreshed.
    2. My girlfirend knows I’m doing NoFap to cure PMO addiction aswell as ED. Which makes me very comfortable.
    3. About 3 weeks ago I climaxed during sex…only after about 10 seconds!

    So yes, the factors that occured, I noticed when we got down to business, I was ready, not 100 percent hard. But definitely enough to get things going. Then, about a minute in, I could feel myself ready to finish! I pulled out, breathed deeply for 5 seconds or so…and then carried on, performing kegel like actions throughout…….(Bear in mind this was without protection so I was getting the full feeling!)

    The result? Possible NSFW…….text I want to hide For the first time during sex…actual sex, my girlfriend climaxed! She was amazed, it had never happened like that, not only once, but 3 times! the whole time my little man stayed happy and just kept on giving.

    It get’s better, after 40 minutes, she tells me she’s completely satisfied, and doesn’t want to ruin my nofap reboot. As sex without orgasm can be a real help!

    Overall a complete success.

    What I suggest.

    DAILY ECERSIZE, EVEN SHORT SMALL ECERSIZES, TO MAKE YOU FEEL ON FORM AND ALERT.

    KEGEL EXERCISES TO STRENTHEN ERECTIONS/PRESERVE ORGASM.

    CONFIDENCE IS A MUST, make sure you’re comfortable with everything.

    AND FINALLY DO NOT FAP. I suggest K9 web protection

    It dawned on me, that I really want to return to strong erections….I want it so bad that when my brain wants to look at porn, I now have the abilty to say….hell no….everythings good at the moment, think of how it would effect me.

    WE SIMPLY TO NOT NEED THAT SHIT KNOWN AS PORN…..IT’S TRUE. IF YOU WANT TO DO NOFAP…YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS……IF YOU WANT TO DO 90+ DAYS, YOU TELL YOURSELF THAT. If not then your brain has won……

    If you want success you need to earn it. This isn’t a walk in the park….after 2 years of trying I know!

  43. I’m constantly having erections whenever I see real women (12)

    Now I’m constantly having erections whenever I see real women – 38 days

    Guys, I’ve went from one extreme to the complete other now. Instead of only getting real erections when reading erotica or watching porn, I’m constantly going schwing whenever I see a real woman.

    Is this a good thing or a bad thing? I’m hoping it’s a good thing.

    He answers another post

    I’m 12. My brain is fluctuating so much at this state of puberty it literally threw away the pathway affected by porn.

  44. from a David Icke forum

    I don’t think he’s coming across as condescending at all, not for me anyway. If anything it’s the pro-porn pundits around here that sound rather condescending, even aggressive at times. I’ve noticed too how some people try and spin the argument while deliberately taking other peoples points out of all context, like saying there’s nothing wrong with sex or looking at naked bodies.

    Of course there’s nothing wrong with sex and looking at naked bodies, that’s only natural. A healthy libido is a good thing. But this is what I base part of my argument on against porn, among other things that I’ve already made quite clear in various threads I’ve started on these forums. Internet pornography is creating a generation of young men who are hopeless with women.

    Over exposure to porn causes a de-sensitising to real sex with a women, so many men are increasingly unable to become aroused by the women in their lives. It’s known as ‘Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction’ and explains the loss of libido towards real women caused by continuous over-stimulation of viewing porn. Why is impotence sharply on the rise?

    I’m not saying it’s all down to pornography, there’s also other pieces to the puzzle. But by repeatedly viewing pornography on the Internet you’re basically overdosing on dopamine. And with each new thrill the brain loses its ability to respond to dopamine signals, meaning that porn-users demand increasingly harder material to become sexually aroused. Thus the continuous over-stimulation of dopamine through looking at porn effects libido.

    I don’t say that because I’m religious, it’s a fact. Erotic pictures and art have been around for centuries, but the Internet is relatively new, and makes possible a never-ending stream of any type of porn imaginable. Maybe that’s why more and more young men need Viagra to get it up?

  45. Embarrassing question about ED turning into possible stage frigh

    Embarrassing question about ED turning into possible stage fright…does it get better? Also, does it ever get back to the point of just being able to get hard by just kissing etc.?

    So porn definitely caused ED issues with me in terms of what it takes to get aroused.

    But I also feel like this has led into some sort of actual stage fright problem, where if I’m about to get with a girl I’m so in my head about not getting hard that it literally feels like my dick is getting smaller out of fear.

    It fuckin sucks. Has anybody here had experiences like this? Does fixing the ED by stopping the porn help with the whole stage fright/confidence issue? Is it ever possible to just have the “natural” reaction to fooling around again, which is getting hard as a rock just by making out etc.?

    GUY 2)

    This might not be super helpful to you, but my first time (July 14th) I had semi-ED due to performance anxiety. The next few times after that I didn’t have a problem, and I’m always getting hard just from a bit of making out. I’m on Day 72 of NoFap and Day 342 of NoPorn, so it might take a while of being clean before your ED goes away.

    GUY 3)

    I’m not a doctor, but I speak from experience.

    It’s possible for previous ED to trigger performance anxiety, but the good news is it can be treated rather easily. If the problem is no longer physical (your reward circuit being overloaded), but psychological, then Viagra or Cialis would work. A sexologist would most likely prescribe some pills for you to take in the first couple of times, a sort of “crutch” for your penis and confidence. After you’ve successfully had sex and your confidence is regained, you’ll no longer need the pills.

     

  46. My friend masturbates like 10-15 times a day.
    Is fapping really the problem or is it the porn?

    My friend masturbates like 10-15 times a day. Not even exaggerating. He seriously has an addiction, but he thinks its normal. He also doesnt have internet access, so he never really gets to watch porn either. And he’s never had a problem keeping it up in bed. On the other hand, I can’t remember the last time I masturbated without looking at porn. But I might masturbate only 4-5 times a week on average. And I have tremendous issues staying hard. At first I thought it was nerves, but after getting more acclamated with sex, I actually found sex to be tiring and boring. Unless the girl was deepthroating me and telling me to choke her, I don’t really find sex to be all that great. I’m very desensitized to the female anatomy.

    So, I know its anecdotal, but those two infallible differences of our sex lives makes me think that porn is more detrimental than masturbation itself. I tried not fapping for 10 days before and that already made a big difference on how I viewed women, so I still think masturbation itself needs to be minimized. But maybe porn just really shuts off the the psychological part of your libido.

  47. How many of you are here because of porn-induced ED, age?
    Question; How many of you are here because you got porn-induced ED and how old are you?

    Age 24, noticed ED at 22. I started masturbating around 11 or 12, but porn didn’t come into it until around 14. Was a regular fapper ever since, at least once every other day, usually about once or twice a day, upwards of 3 or 4 times a day if I was really bored. Started having problems with ED around 22, chalked it up to the girl, then tried with a few other girls who were banging hot and still had ED problems. Realized fapping was my sex life so I did some research. So here I am, trying to break atmo and hit escape velocity, doing this and hoping beyond hope that it will make things better.

    GUY 2)

    30, Had ED problems for 6 months before starting nofap. Married, been with SO for 6+ years total. I still get urges to fap but things are getting better and I’ve been able to have PIV intercourse a couple times successfully (starting day 28, at day 43 now).

    GUY 3)

    19, porn-induced ED, but since my best streak at 36 days its been better and my ED is not as bad as it used to be.

    GUY 4)

    30, ED since 28. DE since forever. Started watching porn at 16 and PMO’d nearly every day since. Always wanted but was never able to quit. This community and YBOP site have been a huge help. Still no sign of life down there, but I’ve traded in my addiction for daily runs and bi-weekly workouts. I have more energy and the exercise has been a good outlet. The first 4-5 days were the most difficult. These days I focus on my physical health. I’m hopeful that I’ll get over the ED, but even if I don’t, my life is already much better without PMO. I don’t have a nofap goal in terms of days. This is a lifestyle choice. Like a recovering alcoholic, I hope to never indulge again. I’d much rather strive for a meaningful and intimate relationship again. (Last go of 3 yrs broke up with me over ED)

    GUY 5)

    I am 22. Porn-induced ED is the one and only reason I am doing NoFap. First noticed ED at age 18.

    I have never spent much time on fapping (maybe 10 minutes before sleeping); also, I am actually quite successful in real life, although I’ve never had a girlfriend.

    Many years I did not really want to have a relationship, but this time is over. Now I really long for a relationship with a young woman my age, but I need to resolve this ED first.

    GUY 6)

    Im in the same boat as you. 24 and had ED and could get it goin sometimes with my girl. With random girls, I could sometimes go for a few min then go soft, other times I couldn’t get it up in the first place.

    In the last month, I’ve relapsed one time and currently… I am like a horny 15 year old again. I talk to pretty much every cute girl I see now and I no longer suffer from ED.

    GUY 6)

    33, ED, but having some nightly woods 3-4 times per week.

    GUY 7)

    39, def have porn induced ed. Sex with my partner is very rare now and I struggle to finish. Over the years i have had multiple failed experiences with various women. I really want to stop that happening and start to make up for it. Shame I just reset after my first attempt got to 26 days. Was doing well and had had successful oral sex in reasonable time for the first time in years.

    GUY 8)

    23, Got ED at 21. Tried sex again a few months ago and ED again (although it was with a prostitute so I think the lack of intimacy contributed too).

    GUY 9)

    17, ED when I want to have sex with my girlfriend.

    GUY 10)

    32, Copulatory ED here. Fapping since my early teens, porn since my mid teens. Trying to reboot to save my marriage.

    GUY 11)

    I didn’t come here due to porn induced ED, though I have now accepted I suffer from DE (I’ve never “finished” from just sex, ever) rather than just thinking it’s because of little experience

    GUY 12)

    Okay, well first off, my ED was like, getting a really lame semi-at best. I’ve rarely struggled with like a full on incorporative %100 flaccid dick.

    That being said, you know how porn tends to draw you in further, most of us probably started off with something very soft core, like the swimsuit edition of your dads Sports Illustrated. Then comes the internet, where theirs full nudity, videos etc. It goes further, to hardcore, obscure and eventually illegal things, you get the point. Basically the same stuff* doesn’t excite you anymore, or, even get you hard anymore.

    Resetting isn’t so much of a event as it is a process. I’m talking about quitting PMO and resetting my mindset and view of sex. Not fantasizing about anything obscure etc

    GUY 13)

    26, been hooked on PMO for 21 years. Wasn’t a problem with my first girlfriend but my last one… yeah, it is difficult to keep up a relationship with a voracious woman when you can’t keep it up.

    GUY 14)

    I’m 22. Missed opportunities to lose virginity due to ED (mixture of performance anxiety and porn induced ED I believe). Lost virginity shortly before turning 22, with a girl who I continued to struggle having any kind of sex with (12 nights of attempts, 5 nights of successful insertion and sex, I only successfully ejaculated 3 times). As a result my experience of real sex was overwhelmingly negative.

    I then had 6 other sexual encounters (college, yay) after drunken nights out. Had ED for all at moment of insertion, just got the girl off instead and saying I was too tired for sex.

    Between nofap and prescribed Cialis my confidence is mostly on track now, had sex successfully 4 times with a recent fuckbuddy. Don’t think it would have worked without nofap. I’m really looking forward to days 50+ as many people seem to become very horny at that stage (which will line up for freshers week in college). I plan on going for 90 days minimum.

    I never want to PMO again.

    GUY 15)

    42yo MWM, have been fapping for ages, and have had ED for at least the last 6 years, with the last 3-4 years being much worse. I believe PMO is the root cause, and am trying VERY hard to achieve NoFap for as long as it takes to get my good wood back.

    GUY 16)

    17, ED, HD porn every day was a lifestyle for me.

    GUY 17)

    32, had to take 4x Levitra for reliably successful intercourse.

    GUY 18)

    Haven’t been able to get an erection without stroking it for years. I beat off multiple times a day even if I wasn’t really horny. Just bored I guess.

    GUY 19)

    First noticed ED at 22, resolved at 25 through NoFap. Thanks NoFap 🙂

    I realized I masturbated just out of boredom, I wouldn’t even be horny. Sometimes the orgasms were weak/didn’t feel powerful. I even noticed that I always had to jerk off to get hard. So I decided to stop PM. I hit flatline immediately, scares the crap out of me :D. 25yo, in my 13th day.

    I realized I masturbated just out of boredom, I wouldn’t even be horny. Sometimes the orgasms were weak/didn’t feel powerful. I even noticed that I always had to jerk off to get hard. So I decided to stop PM. I hit flatline immediately, scares the crap out of me :D. 25yo, in my 13th day.

    GUY 20)

    I realized I masturbated just out of boredom, I wouldn’t even be horny. Sometimes the orgasms were weak/didn’t feel powerful. I even noticed that I always had to jerk off to get hard. So I decided to stop PM. I hit flatline immediately, scares the crap out of me :D. 25yo, in my 13th day.

    GUY 21)

    First noticed ED at 22, resolved at 25 through NoFap. Thanks NoFap 🙂

    GUY 22)

    24 years old. Had ED for 6 years until trying this.

    GUY 23)

    I realized I masturbated just out of boredom, I wouldn’t even be horny. Sometimes the orgasms were weak/didn’t feel powerful. I even noticed that I always had to jerk off to get hard. So I decided to stop PM. I hit flatline immediately, scares the crap out of me :D. 25yo, in my 13th day.

    GUY 24)

    Im just 15. I did extremely excessive fapping. I never thought i had porn induced ed, until i realized that most of the time i never got it up even while i was watching porn.

    GUY 25)

    17, ED whenever it’s not in the morning.

    GUY 26)

    36 if the girl didn’t have sex like a pornstar it made things difficult, not impossible but difficult.

    GUY 27)

    Mid-thirties. PE when trying for PIV and death grip (fml). Well done on 94 days. I am assuming by the type of question you might have had ED. Any benefits of nofap for 94 days? ta

    GUY 28)

    20 years old and had ED every sexual encounter I’ve ever had. It’s getting better.

    GUY 29)

    32, After a short time not fapping to porn my ED is certainly resolving, but not finished yet!

    GUY 30)

    I am here as a recovering sex addict. Porn induced ED is one of the things I am suffering with due to my compulsive behaviour. I am 37 and have had ED for a few years now. It is definatley linked to my heavy porn use and binges.

  48. Stop watching porn has saved my life

    Stop watching porn has saved my life

    Title a bit provoking or pitiful? I don’t know… but I do know that I feel like never before in my life. I’m like… 13 days w/o orgasm, 12 days w/o sex & 7 days w/o porn… and just 8 days ago I felt depressed and completely worthless. What has porn done to me? And why am I even writing this… I haven’t had a relationship since 8 years and masturbation has become totally normal in my daily routine.

    Just like taking a shower or brushing your teeth, fap in the morning and again (and again) in the evening. And then pass out at around midnight and wake up, not feeling rested at all, depressed, and repeat the cycle. Why am I even doing this since 8 years, wtf?

    Two months ago I was out with friends (what somewhat rarely happens since… I watch porn) and we went drinking, partying… having a good time. Until we decided at around 3 am to visit the hookers (legal here). Well, drunk as I was I didn’t care much and even looked at it as a nice opportunity to have sex again after a long time. I don’t have to mention that there was not even a sign of an erection. But at that time I wasn’t even worried that much… exhausted, drunk, tired… and fapped in the morning… well, blamed it on all of that.

    Seems reasonable.

    But it worried me ever since… the hooker was very nice and even told me, that in fact around 50% of her customers fail to get an erection because they are drunk and whatnot. Still, it didn’t feel right. My penis was just dead and I heavily thought about the kinkiest porn scenes that my mind could come up with. Still nothing. Then I left without thinking much of it at first.

    I finally went to my doctor and told him what happened (replaced hooker with random girl I met at the club of course) and told him about my depression because of this. My doctor prescribed me Viagra to temporarily boost my self-esteem and get me out of my depression by being able to have sex with… random girls from the club… whatever.

    So two weeks ago I met this hooker again. “If I fail again, it’s just one girl I made myself an idiot of instead of two” I thought and went to the same girl. Viagra does help… sort of. I had the boner of my life, raging hard for two hours (as long as I booked this time) and I really was having sex like a maniac………. and I didn’t come.

    Almost two hours of animalistic sex, 8 years without anything like that… and I fail to orgasm? OMFG, after that experience my view of reality changed so much it hurt. Yes of course I fapped beforehand… not in the morning, but the day before… but still, I fail to orgasm to THAT?! With my hand and the right porn can archive orgasm in less than 4 minutes. Maybe even less than 1 minute, whatever…

    The most important thing that I realized at that point was my insanely hard erection but complete lack of lust and desire. “It doesn’t even feel that good to be honest… my hand feels better”… THAT WAS WHAT I THOUGHT DURING INTERCOURSE. My fucking hand is better than that woman and I started imaging kinky porn scenes during intercourse with that hooker to FINALLY finish it… but it never happened.

    The depression that followed THAT experience was something that… made me change. I researched if masturbation can really kill your libido like that (at that point I completely blamed it on masturbation, not porn), and luckily I found yourbrainonporn.com. I was so relieved to read that I’m not the only one and amazingly EVERYTHING that is described there is something I have experienced at some degree.

    So here I am, 7 days without porn & fapping and I don’t even miss it. I don’t think I even like it anymore… what is this anyway? Masturbate while watching other people having sex? How retarded this is… ever since the internet started I watched free porn on a daily basis and after reading on what I have done to me, I don’t think I have any problem quitting it forever now.

    I’m just 7 days in, but I feel great. I have more energy, drive, am more talkative, more rested in the morning, not tired so early in the evening… just better overall. I cannot believe this… how much time I wasted. I just hope that I really can return to normal again, the time before the internet (DAMN YOU INTERNET). My libido is completely dead now, I read that this is actually normal… but it scares me anyways. I have morning wood now again (haven’t had one in years) but complete lack of erections for the rest of the day. My brain randomly forces porn scenes into my mind and even just thinking about them now disgusts me.

    I’m neither religious nor esoteric, but I actually sat down and talked to my mind. If it allows me to go back to who I was, I vowed I will FOREVER replace porn with real women and NEVER watch this ridiculous shit again.

  49. I’m 44. Started this because

    I’m 44. Started this because of ED problems and wanted to stop wasting my life away fapping to porn. I haven’t had sex in quite some time so, I haven’t tested to see if my ED is any better. However, it looks bigger and I usually have morning wood. My confidence is much better and that’s a huge plus for me. Stick with this. You won’t regret it. There’s alot of younger people on here but, there’s plenty of older folks too. It’s a big community and everyone helps each other. LINK TO THREAD

  50. I just turned 41. Divorced

    I just turned 41. Divorced for quite a few years but never had any problems sexually. I hadn’t had a gf for about 2 years and when I was 39 I met someone. The first time we tried to have sex I had ED. I was really all messed up, couldn’t understand what was happning. We dated for about 14 months and sex was just near impossible. She was a very sexy and sexual lady, most of the time I just couldn’t perform and even when I started out hard, a short while in I would feel I was losing it.

    Not proud to admit but most of the time I just pretended to climax. Strangely enough, I was always horny as hell after those sessions and I would end up going home and jerking off.

    It was only after we stopped seeing each other that I found nofap and suddenly it all fell into place. I jerked 2 or 3 times a day (PMO) every single day.

    While I was married it wasn’t as much and let’s be honest, back in the 90s the Internet wasn’t as common and porn was still quite difficult to find.

    Those 2 years since my previous relationship and this last one really messed me up. I had the odd sexual encounter but for the most part it was just me and the Internet for 2 years. What I now know is that I forgot how to get off with another person. If I wasn’t watching porn and sorting myself out, I just couldn’t perform.

    I haven’t had a partner for about a year now so I don’t know if my problem has gone away. I am trying nofap, I keep relapsing but at least the awareness is there now and I am trying to control the amount of porn I expose myself to. Hopefully I can test this theory at some stage without the mental torture I put myself through with my last gf.

    LINK TO THREAD

  51. Yes. I’m a 42 male. I always

    Yes. I’m a 42 male. I always remember PMO, but never really to excess. In my mid-30s, the stress-o-meter of life got moved to “11”*, and PMO became an addiction, and PMO-ED ensued.

    I spent several years wondering what the heck was wrong downstairs before I FINALLY found YBOP & NoFap, and it all made sense. I have every confidence that NoFap & NoPorn will successfully reboot me, but at only 40 days my scumbag brain is tricking me into questioning it. (this is my second run, the first I made it to 59 days and succumbed to the chaser for 2 months). Fortunately, I haven’t peeked at P since March 31st.

    GUY 2)

    I can relate. I’m 37 and have been addicted to M since I have been able to do it. DE has always plagued me. Introduce Internet Porn and now I’m plagued with ED as well. 25 years of addcition is difficult to break, we must stay strong.

     LINK TO THREAD

  52. Well the ED is getting better! Have DE problems, but hey, great

    Well the ED is getting better! Have DE problems, but hey, great seeing progress!

    So I’ve been doing NoFap for 46 days. I relapsed into PMO once 15 days ago, but besides that I’ve been strong.

    Today I had sex with my girlfriend. Last time we tried I couldn’t get up at all, it was pretty embarrassing. This time I got up no problem, and it would generally stay up for 10 minutes at a time, then go down. So, like I said, perfect? No. Progress? Yes. And that is the point. This whole thing is a journey that takes time, but I’m happy to say I am seeing improvements.

    The DE (delayed ejaculation) is frustrating though. I actually didn’t ejaculate at all today. She said she felt embarrassed about it, but I tried to explain to her that it has nothing to do with her. I think she understood though. Thats the thing that sucks about being addicted to porn, its effects can really hurt your partner.

    That all being said, here is the thing guys, we can’t continue to feel guilt and shame. I mean, yeah, sure this shit has screwed us in the past, but now we are learning incredible self discipline that maybe we wouldn’t have learned otherwise.

    Stay strong brothers!

  53. Victims and Veterans of ED, Let’s Talk About ED!

    Victims and Veterans of ED, Let’s Talk About ED!

    Hey guys, 12 days in. Why am I doing the NoFap challenge? I’m 16 and have porn induced ED. I haven’t had sexual contact in over a year because of the fear of ED. So please, veterans of ED, how long did it take for your erection to come back? How old are you? Tell us your story! And for the people who have ED, comment your story of ED and how much it’s progressing! Fuck ED!

    GUY 2)

    I had ED. I have made alto of progress, but I lack confidence to perform in bed. I don’t have a badge but I’ve been doing nofap for 90+days

    GUY 3)

    I’m 36 and have ED still after my 90 days. Haven’t had anyone to practice with so I’m not sure how well things would go with a partner.

    I have seen a few cases where people saw results after more than 3 months, such as 5 months. I’m hoping my problem is that way. So I’ve recently installed a porn blocker in hopes that the ED goes away and it gets more challenging (optimistic?).

    Either way I am keeping strong and will eventually know if this helps.

    GUY 4)

    I’m at 43 days, and my ED is still the same (bad). I’m looking forward to MHOs, and good boners. I hope I get there by 90 days, but it may take 120 or 150. I’m scared it won’t ever come back.

    GUY 5)

    22 years old, had a really bad case of ED and its mostly gone now. took a while for it to go away, i flatlined for well over 2 months. I believe I still have another month or so of improvement to go

    GUY 6)

    Mine is getting better after 10 days but not quite ready to be with my lady again yet.

    GUY 7)

    I’m flatlining so my ED is even worse LOL.

    GUY 8)

    Same here. I’ve been on the flatline since I started (12 days) lol.

  54. 90 days “clean” – What

    90 days “clean” – What changed?

    What motivated me to start the /nofap challenge was simple. I’d gone around 8 years without a long-term relationship. Yes, I had random sex and short term relationships in that time, but nothing seemed to satisfy me. It was like the world was grey, procrastination was high, motivation was rock bottom low. I was also struggling with periods of depression and a feeling of low selfworth. 

    Forward to the 30 day mark. I’d been going out with my girlfriend for 3 weeks, had sex which was more enjoyable than it had ever been.

    Now, at the 90 day mark, what has changed?

    I’ve “tested” myself by checking out some of the porn that got me fired up before, but it doesn’t hold much interest to me anymore. The sex is better than it has ever been in my 10 years of being sexually active. My confidence is unchanged. It dropped back to “normal” levels after a while. I’ve experienced flat-lining which is extremely frustrating when you haven’t seen your girlfriend in a week and all you desire is to have epic sex, but unable to get it up without some seriously long foreplay or not at all. I’ve not gotten any form of depression since beginning the /nofap challenge. This is most likely thanks to the nofap and not my girlfriend as depression would come and go earlier no matter my relationship status.

    Am I cured now? I’d say no. But I’m definitely better than I was 90 days ago. My current goal is to get to 180 and do another report.

  55. I have been addicted to porn

    I have been addicted to porn for more than 10 years now. Only now that I realized that it had a profound effect on my sexual desire and performance. I’m 31 now. I spent more than one hour almost every night on porn. When I look back, I thought at that time that it was a normal thing and that I have to kill the desire inside me so I can stop thinking about sex and do the other things that were more important to me. But I now realized that I was so wrong. I wish someone told me about the damage it can cause. the article, on the other hand, is right. The more you spend time, the more you become addicted and your brain desensitized. If you feel you have a serious problem, go ahead and see your doctor first to make sure you don’t have a physical illness first and then ask to be referred to a psychologist.

    A new comment on the post “Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction Is A Growing Problem”

    http://marnia.scienceblog.com/44/porn-induced-erectile-dysfunction-is-a-growing-problem/

  56. I don’t need so-called “expert” to show me the truth.

    I can concur this.

    My experiment is like, when i was abstain from porn, i can easily get it erect with just imagining i am doing the woman i’d love to have sex with. No matter the body type are. Even age. :D

    Then i go binging for a while with porn. Not long after that, i try imagining again.

    This time, no avail, no strong response like before the binging session.

    Nowadays, i can easily get excited just with the picture of beautiful woman, even ones with bikinis.

    But, i’d prefer not ogling them. Since, i don’t want another brain fog fiasco in my life.

    I need my clear sharp mind to do many valuable things with my life.

    I don’t need so-called “expert” to show me the truth. I’ve experience it. And so with many people here.

  57. So… 30 days.

    So… 30 days.

    I’m 20 years old, and before starting out on this challenge I was an avid porn consumer. 1-2 times a day, ever since I was about 13.

    August 27th, me and my ex broke up. It was a long distance relationship. We had met twice, once for her birthday and the easter holidays, and once during the summer. 15th august was my 20th birthday. 20th august marked our 6th month together.

    The break-up took its toll on my psyche. To this day, I’m not sure if I really am over her or not. I constantly see things that remind me of her, and although they don’t make me sad anymore, they do make me think back to the wonderful times we had, and I miss it.

    I don’t know why, but ever since breaking up with her, I’ve been challenging myself to be better, at anything and everything I feel I want to improve in at the time. September is just around the corner… and there it is. The NoFap September challenge. I’ve always failed these challenges, but not this time. It may be hard at times, but if it wasn’t it wouldn’t be worth doing for me.

    September is almost at its end. However… I’m not going to reset. This is exactly the type of challenge that I need. Not only is it going to challenge me for the rest of my life, it’s also going to force me to at some point get out there and get laid. I also had slight problems with ED before I started this challenge, but I believe they’re mostly gone at this point.

    Bottom line… thanks. Reading all the updates and how hard it is for you guys makes it all the more worth challenging myself, not just with with my own NoFap challenge, but in everything.

    And remember, nothing in this life worth having comes easy.

  58. 16 with ED

    I remember more then a year ago, before my brother moved out I had no problems with masturbation. I could go days without porn and still didn’t feel the urge. Despite having some social anxiety I was considered the funniest kid in class, I was the one who loved making speeches without feeling a shred of nervousness and things went great with the girl I loved. My god she was beautiful…

    But once my brother moved out the house was free all for myself (my mom works late shifts every two weeks) and just out of loneliness I started fapping. I downloaded a porn video in full HD last summer and was blown away by the clarity the video had… And thats when things escalated. Almost everyday for a year up to this point I jerked of.

    Today, my social anxiety has worsened. I am in highschool right now and lost contact with the girl I love because I started having these weird twitches when having a conversation with her, or anyone for a fact. I can barely make an sentence without stuttering in front of people. I feel like dying everyday at class because I am always so nervous and shaky.

    I am at the addictions highest point: Got ED, cant hold a conversation without panic attacks, and have scaring on my penis for jerking of that much.

    However I still enjoy some things: Taking a walk, exploring the nature and working out in the gym (I have a great looking body). But I am doing all of these things by myself, all alone.

    For the past two months I have tried to quit. And my record is holding it of for a week. But today I shamelessly jerked of and again I am sitting here alone feeling shitty.

    Please give me the support I need. This is ruining my life.

  59. ED is worse than death… man…

    ED is worse than death… man…

    Seeing a girl, perfect girl, doesn’t matter how hot she is, doesn’t matter if you can get her or not, let’s say everything goes right for you, in the world.

    Knowing that you can’t do nothing to that because you can’t keep it up, is going to crush that world, no matter how great it is.

    But the actual disappointing look in her eyes after you got her all ready through other means….

    Doesn’t even feel like being a man, man. Most depressing thing ever. No money can possibly make up for that.

  60. ED is worse than death… man…
    ED is worse than death… man…

    Seeing a girl, perfect girl, doesn’t matter how hot she is, doesn’t matter if you can get her or not, let’s say everything goes right for you, in the world.

    Knowing that you can’t do nothing to that because you can’t keep it up, is going to crush that world, no matter how great it is.

    But the actual disappointing look in her eyes after you got her all ready through other means….

    Doesn’t even feel like being a man, man. Most depressing thing ever. No money can possibly make up for that.

    FortSanctuary

    Goddamn, brother, tell me about it!

    ED damn near killed my relationship. I’ve been trying my hand with NoFap since late august and I’ve noticed some improvement in my ED the longer I go. I recently went for 4 days and felt like a god.

    I had a really awful ED-experience two days before starting with NoFap. It was a really beautiful girl who I’d been interested in for several years. As you say, you feel like you’re not a real man.

    I’ve learned two things since then. First, ED happens to many people, and that wasn’t the first time she’d experienced it. So don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Second, NoFap works. For me it took 55 days to get over my ED.

     Notgonnadoitnope

    I feel ya OP. Just last night i had to make up more excuses. I don’t get it. It’s probably the worst continuous feeling I’ve had in my life, and it has just been killing my confidence. It just feels like your manhood isn’t there…

    SureImShore

    I’m right there with you, unfortunately. I was very depressed about it a few days ago and I made a post to that effect. I’m 27 and it is driving me crazy. As others have said, try not focusing on it as much as possible (I know… much easier said than done). Get on a cardio excercise routine. Take herbal supplements (arginine, gingko biloba, butcher’s broom, horse chestnut and gingseng are helpful). Get your testosterone levels checked, as well as cholesterol.

    Above all else: (this is advice I needed the other day) CONTINUE WITH NOFAP. Follow through with the 90 day challenge (and then some). The YBOP website has plenty of tales of young dudes who needed 120-150 days of NoFap, but they came out fully functional on the other end. Remember: the human body is very good at repairing itself. We are basically designed to 1. survive until sexual maturity, and 2. procreate. If there ARE really any underlying phsyical issues causing your ED (which is unlikely – most likely result of porn addiction), they can be mitigated or possibly fixed. Keep ya chin up and keep on keepin’ on.

    thekaizen

     It’d be easier for me to get coke than Viagra, I just don’t have a way of getting it. Doc visit would be embarrassing man, I’m 24. Really though, it’s not mental, I think it’s physical, I was always good before, but I took a time off where I was pretty much abstinent (lazy). Now I’m presented with this issue.

    VeryCreativeNickname

    I remember this sad moment. I hook up with a nice, but very insecure girl. I can’t get it up and her response is “it’s because of me, right?”. Worst feeling ever… 🙁

    hulkhogan

    I know that feel…makes me feel like a eunuch.

  61. never had the TINIEST problem until after I started using broadb

    I guess people are just scared of their ED, but seriously, I jerked it like a fiend for years and never had the TINIEST problem until after I started using broadband porn regularly. I just wonder how long it takes to get to that place again…. or if there even is any way to get back there after fucking yourself up with porn… LINK

  62. I’m still lost when it comes to women

    I lived my whole life (Age 11) masturbating multiple times a day as a virgin. At age 21, I lost my virginity to a beautiful girl, who I considered perfect in every way. Only I couldn’t cum. I didn’t know what to do, or how to act, or how to make her feel attractive. We parted ways, and I was left unbelievably depressed. I know I made her cry and hurt her as well, which I am still having a hell of a time forgiving myself for. I’m still lost when it comes to women, but there is no way I am allowing the same story to happen ever again. No one deserves this bullshit, not me, not her, not anyone.

  63. Everybody said that it was on my mind..

    I am 32. I masturbated all my life (literally) and everything was wonderful, I was a beast in sex. Then one day I found out that my girlfriend was having sex with someone else and that literally broke me. After that somehow I got really addicted to swingers and grupal sex porn and since I was alone at home everything got worse and worse..

    Somedays I masturbated for hours and I think that broke some circuits on my brain. One day I tried to have sex with a girl and I couldn’t I really didn’t know why that happened but it was the beginning..  I keep masturbating trying to reassure myself everything was ok.. and I got more and more addicted to porn. That lasted for 2 years.. and my performance with girls was getting worse and worse..

    I had tests done and the stupid doctor said it was depression so I started counselling and taking some mild depression pills.. another 7 months went by and everything got worse.. had a last blood test done and went to the endocrinologist as well to make sure everything was ok and since it was I decided to stop listening to doctors… Everybody said that it was on my mind..

  64. I started nofap because of ED

    Personally, masturbation is not the main problem for me, but pornography. I started nofap because of ED, and that was not a biological problem of ‘over-working’ my junk, but a psychological one; when you spend too much time looking at porn, a real girl – real intimacy – can be uncomfortable. Not unsatisfactory – it’s way above and beyond what porn can offer – but if you’re used to being ‘sexually active’ on your own, then the problems can happen. What about you guys?

    Is it porn or fapping you’re averse to?

  65. I searched for the weird s**t on purpose instead after

    60 Days – Light at the end of a huge fucking dark tunnel. (self.NoFap)

    Take a kid; a normal, healthy, sports-loving normal little guy at the age of 10 or 11, and give it a Computer with (back then) fast internet. Even better, show that kid a game called Counter-Strike, and watch how his social life turns into a burning pile of shit in just a matter of months.

    And voilá, here I am, over 7500 Counter-Strike InGame-Hours and 9 years later, sitting in front of my PC and writing a story for strangers on a forum about the topic of masturbation.

    “But RisingPotential, how did you end here?” Well…

    When I got into 5th grade, I was so pale and skinny (and 1.90 cm tall), you could pretty much say I was the weirdo of the class, eventhough I became friends with the “player” and “bullies” in it ( I know right , wtf?). But always the male ones, females I wouldnt even talk to. They annoyed the hell out of me, they didnt like me, I didnt like them. Simple. With the everyday usage of the internet/online-gaming, it was just a matter of time until I discovered porn. I read some Dr.Sommer articles in some teenie-magazine about love/vaginas and whatever, but I never really saw it as a big deal. Though I masturbated like a champ even back then. But when I found out about the magical wonderlands behind “Kazaa” and “eMulE” and other p2p programs they used to have, things started to escalate pretty quickly. I went from pictures of random girls, to pictures of random naked girls, to my first 5-10 MB big Videos. As you know, P2P programs sometimes have uploaded material that is named not after what it contains. So sometimes, I maybe got a “faces of death” video or some other – at least back then – just unseen crazy shit I didnt intend to see.

    But I wasnt grossed out, I actually liked it somehow.

    So a little later, I specifically searched for the weird shit on purpose instead bumping into it on accident. First it was nonsexual weird, but when I found about the sexual weird, I really went with it. The girls Ive had seen everyday in class were simply retarded in my eyes, and the least bit of attraction I maybe have had for any of them; I lost it.

    That was really the hardest part for me. When I talked to my male friends – maybe at the age of 13 or 14 – they ALWAYS talked about girls and how sexy they look and whatever trashtalk a pubescent teenager could spit out of his mouth. And I just had to say “Yea sure, Id also love to fuck girl X and Y”, when in truth, I felt ABSOLUTLY NOTHING. I killed every sexual arousal to a normal human being of the opposite sex because of the weird porn I was watching at home. So I had a lot of stuff going on in my mind – mainly asking myself If i was somehow gay or asexual or whatever. But it didnt make sense, because I watched porn with girls in it (even if it was mostly weird fuckedup shit) and Ive never had a gay thought at all.

    Fast forward 1 or 2 years later, I somehow managed to get at least some of my shit together (started eating more, tanned myself a little, exercised sometimes) and finally got a girlfriend. I really dont know how we did end up together, I kissed her on a birthday and the next day, she said she was in love. Whatever. So I had a girlfriend – cool right? Well, I really only had her because of the social acceptance I was getting from finally having one. I really really noticed how relieved my parents were, even if they never directly said it. Problem was, I still didnt feel anything for girls. So when time passed and we eventually ended up in bed, I couldnt get an erection. Of course, I had the typical excuses in my mind like “its your first time, your just nervous etc. it wont happen again”, but deep down – I realize that know – I knew something was wrong with me. So I quickly ended the relationship before a second time – and a second failure – in bed could occur.

    Between the depressing thoughts of “not being a man/not being manly enough” and knowing that Im pretty much unable to connect to people on a deeper level, I just returnded to my beloved sanctuary – online gaming/porn and the internet.

    2nd girlfriend came, ED was still there, frustration and depression got bigger -> the cycle continues…

    And then I found you guys : ) I dont know how really, but Im glad I did. Im close to 60 days now, I relapsed many many times before (always after ~30days), but now Im starting to see a difference.

    I will make it to 90 days this time, or however long its gonna take to “cure” me, and then Ill report exactly how I felt/how my feelings developed and how I feel now regarding NoFap.

  66. The warningsignal was ed, finally found this place and im sure i

    The warningsignal was ed, finally found this place and im sure its My problem

    Hi this is My story in short, first of i have to mention that My english is not that great since My native language is swedish and thats Where i live. im 27 years old married for 6 years. started fapping when i was ten years old, started fapping+ pornimages at about 12 years of age fapping+ internetporn at about 13-14 years of age and overconsumed it for about 6 or 7 years before i met my wife but i have tragically continued my pornaddiction (not as heavy as before) through the years as married and the last year the effects of it has been ed at several times when attempting to have sex with my wife, and my confidence just hit the bottom after those experiencees, crying myself to sleep at times, the feelings of demasculation was just to overwhelming for me.

    luckily i found this place and watched the video (yourbrainonporn) and got convinced right away that it was my problem. ive now reached day 17 of no fapping but have had sex with my wife 4 times i think in those days. already after a few days in my dick felt more sensitive and like one week in i felt a lot more horny in my body but without hard on ( maybe semi-hard sometimes). but the effect is very nice now when with my wife, its a lot easier to get a hardon, the tough part of this is PE wich ive had all of the for times we did it. im excited about doing this and look forward for more of the benefits. good luck to you all,

  67. The past few years I’ve experienced ED quite a few times

    Finally getting serious about quitting after 14 years of porn and fapping. 

    I just wanted to share my story with you. I’ve been fapping for a long time, can’t even remember when was the first time. I think when i was 12 and watching an infomercial on some workout machine (those girls in those skimpy outfits made my young mind go crazy).

    Anyway, my fapping started to become a problem when i was 14. We got dial up internet and that was the start of my porn addiction. It eventually escalated to the point where I would be wathching/ downloading porn at least 6 hours a day.

    Throughout the years I’ve had many ups and downs. Somedays I would fap at least 12-20 times. I’d lock myself up and just watch porn all day and count how many times/hour i could fap. Other times it would be much more manageable but I would still fap at least once a day.

    The past few years I’ve experienced ED quite a few times, mostly due to anxiety. I’ve also seen my porn preferences change from vanilla porn to fetish porn to everything that’s kinky and crazy. I’ve become much less sociable and a my self confidence has plunged.

    So here I stand today. Determined to beat this monster. Determined to get my live back and to have a personality that’s not burdened by shame and self-loathing. Determined to put my beautiful gf above these repulsive urges that have been holding me hostage for so long. Determined to finish my education and chase my dreams just like i wanted 14 years ago

  68. At 33, I still am yet to be with a woman.

    Josh says:

    I find this extremely interesting. At 33, I still am yet to be with a woman. Now, I haven’t had that many opportunities, but the few that I have gotten, I was completely unable to perform in any way, shape or form. Even with girls I really liked and even one that I was head over heals in love with. She moved on to another guy very soon after this. I cannot even begin to explain how heartbreaking THAT was. It basically sent me in to a wave complete sexual anxiety around women that totally disarmed my charm with them because…what if they want to have sex…and I still can’t perform….so I completely gave up trying to be with a girl. The cycle started to get vicious from here on out. That was 10 years ago and things have only gotten worse since the older I’ve gotten the women I meet all have more and more experience and I have none at all. A 23 year old virgin is not THAT big of a deal. 33? It’s completely embarrassing. I even had my testosterone checked because I was so worried about it. I’ve had it checked 6-7 times over the last few years and it’s been as low as 214 and as high as 403. All very low on the total scale but my free test is always OK. I’ve also been an extremely heavy drinker (20-50 drinks per week) for almost 15 years which probably has something to do with it as well.

    I started thinking I’m just going to die alone because, no matter how much she likes me, why would a girl waste her time with me when so many other guys out there can give her the sexual satisfaction she deserves.

    Now, check this out;

    I have never had a problem getting it up on my own and I am a very regular porn watcher. 3-4 days per week usually. Porn and sex chat rooms have been my entire sex life for almost 20 years now! When I was a horny, wide-eyed teenager, this was such a great sexual outlet since I wanted it ALL the time and, though I got hard when the wind blew, I was way too nervous to even talk to a girl, much less get anywhere close to that far with her. This is how the cycle began. No sex, so you get off to porn and fantasy. This porn and fantasy gives you unrealistic expectations about real sex so real sex doesn’t turn you on…but, I’m still horny so…yep…back to the porn and fantasy and so on and so on.

    Now, the reason I have started researching this is because I have found a young lady that I REALLY like (she likes me back, oddly enough) and want nothing more than be able to satisfy her properly when the time comes…at least be able to get it up for her for gods sakes!!! At this point, I honestly couldn’t care less about my own sexual needs. But, all I keep thinking about are the disasters of the past. So, I started researching and came across this article.

    I had no idea porn could be having such an influence but it makes a shit ton of sense. There has got to be a reason I crave porn and sexual fantasy but literally couldn’t get it up for a Maxim model. Seriously. This article has inspired me. I’m gonna try it. No porn and no sex chat fantasies. The drinking is gonna be the hard part. I’m hoping this will rewire my brain so I literally don’t die alone and never experienced love or real sex. Thanks for reading and wish me luck…I’m gonna need it… And, yeah, I’ll take ANY advice you all are willing to give me…

    http://postmasculine.com/pornography-can-ruin-your-sex-life

  69. Re: Reboot, unboot and rebooted again! Second sex no ED! (I’m ba

    Re: Reboot, unboot and rebooted again! Second sex no ED! (I’m back)

    I’m 23 and used porn first time at 13/14. Since that age masturbation became compulsive to me. I had to masturbate every day! Several times sometimes. When I was 16 I had to leave home and have no computer.

    So from 16 to 18 I saw almost no porn, MOed every day, but my dick worked fine. By the time I got my first computer and then things started to go down. I started to notice my libido fading away, flatlines start to take my life and I had the chance to do sex for the first time.

    From 19 to 23, every sex I had ED. First DE, later losing erections during intercourse and in the end full ED. I got depressed, barely was able to kiss a girl because I was sooo anxious. I knew something was wrong with me. I developed performance anxiety obviously because my dick was unpredictable.

    Beatiful story, huh?

  70. also feel so much better emotionally, spiritually, & socially

    Today marks 4 months of no PMO.  I’m very proud that I’ve made it this long, but my recovery has been, and continues to be, somewhat slow.  I’ve gotten erections here and there (normally from my pants rubbing against me), but my libido and penis sensitivity is still non-existent.  

    That is ok though, because I do not expect 4 years of PMO addiction to be cured in 4 months (FYI – I am also a medical student under a TON of stress, so I’m sure that isn’t helping my recovery).  At this point I can say the biggest difference I’ve noticed recently is how my penis looks/feels when flaccid.  

    About 3 weeks ago it was way smaller than normal, cold, and lifeless.  Now it is fuller, “normal” temperature, and seems to look and feel like it should (minus the sensitivity). 

     I also feel so much better emotionally, spiritually, & socially than I have in a long time.  My confidence has definitely increased, but I’m still not pursuing anything with women until I am recovered.  I am using this time to become a better man and rediscover what normal, healthy sexuality is. 

     I will continue to update every month and hope you guys do as well.  I’d especially like to hear from guys who had long, slow recoveries. 

    http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Mens-Health/Too-much-porn-masturbation-cause-ED/show/183203?camp=watch_list

  71. after 10 minutes he asked her if he could turn on some porn.

    Just got off the phone with a friend of mine – she invited a guy over for a one night stand and this is what happened…. 

    This friend of mine decided she wanted to have a one night stand – she said she had never done it before and wanted to try it at least once.

    She went to a club, started flirting with a guy and invited him back to her house. They started making out, but he couldn’t get an erection. Finally after 10 minutes of trying, he asked her if he could turn on some porn. She said that would make her uncomfortable and he left…

    All I have to say fapstronauts is never get yourself in this situation! This guy had a hot girl who wanted to sleep with him, and he had to shamefully ask to look at porn.

  72. why doesn’t this happen to everyone?

    why doesn’t this happen to everyone?

    I live on a college campus. I am very well aware of my friends’ pornography habits, as well as their actual sexual habits. It seems that while most of them watch porn at least daily and masturbate to it, they don’t have the same problem that I do.

    GUY 2)

    I was speaking to some friends at university recently and they all wanted to get some viagra off the internet. I think it’s more common than people realize.

    However, I have extremely bad symptoms. My dick is ruined completely and so is my brain. So, I am very confused about why others aren’t as bad.

    GUY 3)

    Different tolerances. I’m at uni (18-23 year olds mainly) so it’s the same but they have a better time. In fact I’ve had a couple of close friends tell me they’ve had problems getting it up sometimes. It’s just not something people publicize. It’s estimated 20% of people at college/uni have PIED. Don’t remember where I read that but it genuinely wouldnt surprise me…

    GUY 4)

    Others probably are as bad bro, me for example, I’m 19 and been rebooting now for 166 days (no relapses) and only in the last 3 weeks have seen good progress and now believe Im gonna reboot.

    Just keep with it everyone has the potential to reboot you just gotta stick with it. Also if your young it takes a lot longer so that could be a contributing factor.

  73. I ran to the washroom (mid-forplay) pulled out my iPod for porn

    Could fapping be the main cause of my problems? Hard before starting a porn video Soft before i’m about to have sex (self.NoFap)

    I have been masturbating since i was 12 or 13, about 3-4 times a week. Anyways. When i sit down to start watching porn, even Before the video starts i’m hard.

    Now my problem. I’ve had quite a few sexual partners/ hookups over the last few years. The only problem is, It takes me a while to get hard. EVERYTIME i hook up with a chick it goes the same way.

    We start making out (I’m still soft) Taking off clothes (Still soft). I literally have to have to be getting a hand job or a blowjob in order to get hard. I’ve never had any problems having sex once i’m hard, losing my erection has never happened.

    This is why i am joining nofap. I’ve literally ran to the washroom (mid-forplay) pulled out my iPod and watched a quick porn video, jerked it a bit, zipped up my pants and ran back to my partner

    -anyways, I’m hoping nofap will allow me to get a boner every time the opportunity for sex comes. Cause every time the opportunity to master bate comes. Before i even type the porn website in, I’m hard as a motherfucker.

    • I’m 20 btw.
  74. Update on my long struggle – Good News

    Update on my long struggle – Good News

    Well guys, it’s been a good number of months since I last posted. Back then I was still struggling with psychological E.D, and quite frankly I still am, though it’s getting a LOT better.

    Quick background:

    – Started reboot in June

    – Met girlfriend in August

    – Managed to overcome Porn Induced E.D

    – But still suffered from psychological E.D after failing so many times in the past (adding to the fact I was a virgin)

    Although during my reboot I did start to look at porn again in October + November. I never binged though. At the height it was three times a week. I did notice a correlation though of poor erectile performance with girlfriend after viewing or fantasizing over porn. Erections usually got much better 3 or so days after viewing – so I stopped it.

    It’s been bloody tough!! This has been by far the hardest time of my life. I won’t bore you with a long story, but being 27, a virgin, and suffering with porn-induced E.D I was a bit of an emotional mess. Starting the reboot really helped my confidence, enough that I managed to get a date with a hot girl who I quite liked. She is now my girlfriend and the best thing that ever happened to me. Really, I could not have asked for someone more perfect. She has helped me through this like you cannot believe. It brings a tear of happiness to my eye when I think about it.

    Sure, we’ve had some lows. She’s had some insecure feelings. I’ve had some terrible evenings of feeling inadequate and useless, but in the end we talked through each moment and came out stronger. Then this last weekend I managed to actually get and stay hard enough for sex. Albeit not what I would call successful sex. I still lost it during because I’m still nervous and worried about my erection strength, but this is a huge step forward for me. And I mean HUGE. This is the start of a new sexual adventure for me and it’s fantastic. I’m sure it is only going to get better, and my confidence is already a lot better. I’m trying not to hype myself up too much though, there is still work to be done.

    One thing that has really helped was talking through it thoroughly with each other. I asked her to take control, to go on top, so I can stay as relaxed as possible. Luckily she prefers to be on top (score!). I also told her that I would occasionally use porn fantasy to stay hard, and she told me that she’d rather I went soft then used porn. So that was also a big help – knowing that actually made it easier and I haven’t even thought of porn since we had that convo a few weeks ago. She also refused to let me take any sort of ED drug, as she wanted me to sort this out naturally.

    She has been so amazing and I would never have got through this without her. And just as equally – this forum as well YOBP.com were the catalyst to getting me to sort this out.

    Some notes of advice

    1. Talk to your partner. It is by far the biggest help.

    2. Take your time and go at a pace you are comfortable with.

    3. Supplements had no effect what-so-ever.

    4. Don’t fall into the trap of looking at porn even if you don’t plan to binge.

    Funnily enough, and some of you may find this interesting. My girlfriend went through a similar phase a while back of viewing too much porn and ending up finding that only girl-on-girl action would get her wet (I guess like guys escalate to gay porn) even though she is not lesbian at all. So she also had to give up the porn. I guess this in some way was good for me, because she fully understood what I was going through.

  75. Well, my own personal anecdote:

    Well, my own personal anecdote:

    I’ve had anxiety issues since high school and remember not really getting a boner the first couple times I had sex around age 17. But I got over it and had some good sexual experiences with my girlfriend at the time.

    Now, I’m a fairly good looking guy and don’t suffer from this nice guy syndrome that seems so prevalent on reddit, so I never had a ton of trouble attracting women. But my severe social anxiety and depression took over during college and I basically retreated from the dating scene, and instead I relied heavily on Internet porn and the occasional drunken hookup. These hookups always resulted in the same ED issues, but were easily blamed on alcohol. After college, I retreated almost completely into porn and basically ED wasn’t some embarrassing anomaly– it was expected. Couldn’t get it up, even on my own, without Internet porn.

    So I moved across the country for a job and tried Internet dating. Had a lot more confidence and ended up hitting it off with the first girl I met. This was about a month ago, and I decided to stop watching porn the day we went on our first date. So, we were fooling around 2-3 weeks ago, and I noticed ED was rearing its ugly head. Fuck me, right? Luckily, she stopped and said she didn’t want to have sex for awhile. Thank god. So I’ve had about a full month off porn, and I started getting morning wood again. That hadn’t happened in years, since high school probably, when I developed an “at least once a day” porn habit. I beat off a couple times a week in the shower and have no problems. My girl and I were fooling around again a couple days ago, and, to my overwhelming joy, easily found myself at full attention.

    Is it getting off porn that has seemingly fixed my problems with ED? Or was it the increased confidence that came from a good job in a city I love? Whatever the case, if you think getting off porn will help, you owe it to yourself to try. And I’m not supporting the whole “nofap” thing– doing it in moderation without porn, as far as I know, is supported by most medical professionals.

    And, for what it’s worth, my new girlfriend and lack of ED issues also coincide with a complete loss of interest in video games. I used to play WoW 4-5 hours a day, now I might play FIFA once a week if my roommate and I are drunk. Just something to consider.

    TIL- There is a growing number of healthy men who are otherwise are suffering porn-induced erectile dysfunction; Loss of libido and performance occur because of years of overriding the natural limits of libido with intense stimulation that desensitize the user’s response to dopamine.

  76. Commenting about this article on redddit –

    This confirms the very fears that I had about my penis and porn. Masturbation mode: terminated.

    Yep, this rings incredibly true for me. Not just the porn + masturbation, but masturbation in general.

    I haven’t been able to read the article yet because the URL contains the word ‘porn’ and my work filter is a prick, so it’s have to wait. But I have a feeling it’s gonna be telling me shit I already know.

    I had sex for the first time at age 18, after masturbating an average of twice daily to all kinds of porn since an early age (thirteen? Maybe younger?) and the girl I did it with was great, incredibly attractive to me. I couldn’t cum, no matter how much we worked at it. I eventually did lose my virginity to this girl whilst a little tipsy – weirdly enough that has been the only time in my sexual history that I’ve achieved orgasm after any amount of alcohol (excluding masturbation)

    Every sexual partner since then, I’ve had the same issues going into the relationship (I average being single/no sexual partner for 8-12 months at a time). They’ve all been girls that I actually wanted to sleep with. They were all incredibly keen for sex and absolutely shattered that they couldn’t make me cum – they blamed themselves. I had to work really hard with every single one of them to convince them it wasn’t their fault.

    What has worked every single time is abstaining from the porn & masturbation in general. In my case at least I think it’s psychological – a just over a decade of self-stimulation versus the (likely) less than fifty occaisions I’ve had a sexual partner creates a lot of weird mental triggers for achieving orgasm. Havng another person doing the stimulation, in whatever manner they’re doing it, is a whole different kettle of fish. I’m not lying on my bed in the pose that, without even realising, has become a part of how I orgasm. My left hand isn’t where it has to be, the rhythm is all wrong, the stimulation isn’t a firm grip working the foreskin back and forth…all kinds of shit. I’ve essentially trained my body in such a manner that it doesn’t register sexual intercourse as ‘time to orgasm’.

    For the first few years I was sexually active (a grand total of three sexual partners, two of which weren’t girls I was dating so it was a one-off thing) it was just being unable to orgasm and staying incredibly hard the entire time. They didn’t really have a problem with it (didn’t stay with the girlfriend long enough/have enough sex for it to become a problem – seeing eachother one a weekend or so for four months doens’t add up to much) and it wasn’t until I had a second sexually-active girlfriend that it became an issue. She was very insecure and immediately assumed there was something wrong with her – we talked about it, established that it was a universal problem (also pissed her off, because she should be special compared to other girls) and not specific to her. But then the stress of ‘oh god if I can’t perform she’s gonna be so fucking angry and upset’ comes in. Suddenly that stress is causing ED, and it was the same with the serious girlfriend after that & the other few sexual encounters I’ve had outside of relationships.

    I’m planning on resolving this shit – not as a new years resolution, starting today. Seeing this post is a weird bit of providence, because I was already thinking about this shit. I’m sick of having any casual encounters & the first few weeks of any new relationship ruined because I have to ‘adjust’ to sex again. It’s retarded of me to go through all the effort of becoming sexually compatible with my new partner and, when the relationship does end for whatever reason, just go right back to single player mode.

    So..yeah.

    TLDR I HAVE PRON AND MASTURBATION INDUCED ED AND I APPROVE THIS MESSAGE.

    Just_a_gal

    This…seriously might be my problem (though for me, a female problem). Although it’s not that I don’t have a libido–I do, and a very high one at that. I could have sex 6 times a day and still enjoy it. I usually get off ~1-2x/day, with porn, and while it takes me awhile to come (~an hour), I do, and I’m still crazy-horny. But I can’t for the life of me get off with another guy, even when he does a damn good job. It’s so fucking frustrating. It doesn’t even bother me all that much, but knowing that it bothers him (not bothers, per say, but that he really wants to be able to satisfy me)…

    I have noticed that intense/frequent stimulation makes my clit faarrr less sensitive, however, no matter how horny I am. If this takes 6-12 weeks to fix, I think I’m going to try it. No more porn, for awhile at least. Garr. I so desperately want to fix this issue. I really want to be able to show him how crazy he drives me & how much he turns me on. I try to show that in other ways, and in my words, but I feel like my inability to orgasm strongly hinders that :/

    Crackerpool

    Yeaaaaahhhhhhhh wis someone warned me about this in second grade.. fucked up for life…

     blergmonkeys

    I’ve been thinking this exact same thing the last 6 months. I used to be great in bed – could last 20-30 mins and go 3-4 times before tiring out. This was only a year ago, but in the last 6 months, with studying like mad for exams and becoming socially introverted (leading to copious pornage), I have noticed that I am having problems being stimulated with real partners. I just started dating this stupid beautiful girl and she loves sex but I’m having problems keeping it up long enough to get the condom on, let alone approaching my expectations of myself. I don’t feel nervous about it either. I just… don’t have my libido. I’m not depressed, I’m relatively happy and my life is good right now.

    I am going to try stopping masturbating/porn usage and see how it goes.

    Well, it looks like I found my problem.

    confirmed.

    I totally have this disorder.

    is this the reason if you cant orgasm during sex only porn?

    fuccccck. i am in trouble and i didn’t even rtfa.

    Duhhhhhh…this is part of the reason I’m divorced. Don’t break you dick kids.

    Yeah this is real.

    Its tough to get it up for me unless she’s doing something really kinky

    I’m not a feminist at all, I hate the scum over at SRS, I also think that nofap are a bunch of idiots, but I experienced what this article is discussing and you’re essentially (not explicitly) telling me that it’s not a real thing because you associate it with feminism.

    Porn isn’t wrong, but like any other tool or substance it can be used wrong. In this case it can be used too much and can have actual effects on you as a person. Plenty of people report the same thing in this thread.

    I understand that this looks like an attempt to kill porn, but most of us aren’t suggesting that. We’re stating that we’ve harmed ourselves by overusing it.

    Truest thing i have read in a while. Just say no to the porn. Your sex life will thank u for it.

    This is very real. I bet younger guys, or guys with lots of testosterone can handle some porn, but I just broke up with a guy who had this. Also I’ve read that, especially for older guys, there is only so much testosterone you have . Either you ” spend it ” on your girl, or you spend it on porn. My guy chose porn. Eventually we were down to …what…twice in five months?…is all he could do? Even that was a struggle for him. Sad…selfish…was partial cause od losing ” the love of your life”? Are you giving your mate peasure? Or letting porn rule your life sexually? Also porn girls have the perfect bodies. When you are in your fifties, perfect bodies become more rare. The ” real” girl is not so much eye candy, and the desire must come from a deeper part of self, the part who truly loves the other person. In my case I really saw porn ( and overeating,)as a main reason for our destruction. There just never was that desire to give pleasure, or…when the rare desire Popped up….nothing else did. It’s a form of selfishness, which in this case manifested in other areas as well, porn just being one.

    I am living proof this is fact. Years of fapping has me only able to maintain, uh…composure, while receiving fellatio. Regular intercourse results in rubber banding..

    Never has a post on reddit spoken to me more…Got to get it together

    Shit.

    I have a really good looking girlfriend and we haven’t had any sex for 2 months at least.

    I got my blood drained for hormone tests, but now I see where this might come from. When I watch porn, everything works pretty much like it should.

    Male redditor here: can confirm this. No need to check above link.

    I noticed this when I started watching porn. I had resisted for a long time because I didn’t want to fill my head with stuff I would never have or do. A few years ago I finally gave in when I was dating a guy who only wanted to have sex once a week at most and it was never enough for me!

    Now, I have more trouble masturbating in the shower or laying in bed. It’s easier watching porn.

    It’s not that I can’t get off. It’s just harder now and sometimes I give up…

    IAMA guy with porn induced erectile dysfunction.

    You just buy some Cialis, and/or, be drunk (but not too drunk) when you have sex, works fine. I guess I could not look at porn, I think it’d take no porn and no sex though. I hope that doesn’t happen… The Cialis shortcut really diminishes my motivation.

    Holy shiiiit. This is me. Holy crap. I had a theory the way I feel now is because I was too sexually active during my teen years. As a 21 year old I have almost no libido. It sucks because my mind sort of wants to but not nearly enough to ravage a lady. Not nearly enough.

    I don’t agree with you. A few years ago, just before I was going to lose my virginity, I realised that I had massive issues finishing within an hour, and keeping hard. It transfered to the bedroom pretty well. However pleasurable the sex was, I couldn’t finish, and that would cause me to lose my erection. I read about “Iron grip” and porn addiction and realised that I had both. I was seriously watching porn for a few hours a day, to the point where my dick would be in pain and swollen. Masturbation was about overcoming the pain and feeling a small amount of pleasure. It was something I had to do at least 5 times a day. Sometimes 10 to 15.

    So I decided to control it. It took a lot of effort, and I experienced the exact “recovery” in this article. I have a few times. High drive, then nothing, then normal again in a month or two.

    Sex went from “Eh, masturbating would be better” to “This feels pretty good”, and it’s getting better the more I manage myself. I relapsed a few times and currently am relapsing. I’m down to masturbating 2 to 3 times a day, with porn approximately 75% of the time, rather than every time.

    I can’t say my single experience is fact for everybody, but I feel that the claims of this article have a real basis, regardless of who wrote it. Even if the scientific claims are wrong, the actual symptoms and recovery process seem to be a real thing and even on this thread alone people are comparing their own experiences. I don’t know why it is happening, but it doesn’t get enough exposure in the media. I really used to think porn was harmless, but when I was masturbating to tentacle-rape-gore hentai and extreme BDSM involving genitals, electroshocks and whatever, I realised that I had gone down a pretty fucked up path, even for myself. Especially when the letting of blood started to excite me. At that point I thought “Yeah, I might have a problem”.

    PS/Edit: Cutting masturbating, finishing sooner, and not using porn has a lot of extra benefits.

    • You gain time back to do other things
    • You spend less time sitting in a chair with one hand on a mouse and the other on your dick (it’s more comfortable to lie down and masturbate, which is hard to do when watching/ searching for porn)
    • You get excited by boobs alone again.
    • No need to hide a porn stash/ history/ use safe browsing
    • Less horrifying events where you accidentally click the wrong kind of porn and get a face full of some guy’s asshole/ dickgirls/ women shitting/ etc

    That’s just a few, but I really am glad that I realised I had a problem.

    I was just talking with a guy about this the other night. I think this is a problem for some men, but feel it’s more cultural. The West is fairly sex obsessed, while other cultures are not.

    As a female who has had an equal number of Western and non-Western partners of varying races, I’ve noticed a difference. Not in race, but in culture. In fact, some of my female friends who have also been with a number of different cultural groups call it Marshmallow dick. Non-Western men just get harder and seem to have no problems maintaining interest. The only difference I notice between the groups is the supposed need for sex.

    The non-Western men I’ve been with didn’t need sex more than a few times a week and rarely masturbated as they had other things going on in their lives. Most Western guys I’ve met seem to have to masturbate in order to fall asleep or claim to want sex as often as possible. One group comes off sex obsessed and the other is not.

    Normally I agree with the reddit criticisms on articles. But I think you are being much too harsh, why? My anecdotal evidence matches up perfectly with this.

    Now I know /r/nofap may seem like a cult, and I can assure you this problem may not be as bad as the article is putting it, but the problem is very real. I always used to masturbate only using my imagination or “wank bank”. But a year and a half ago I got introduced to porn and I seriously started watching it. My life started to spiral downward as a I would watch for about 2-3 hours a day, I got more and more tired, and I didn’t want to do anything. My erections got weaker and weaker, my mind got foggier, until my mother took me to a doctor and I explained my situation.

    I was diagnosed with major depression, anxiety, and sexual addiction. I started taking medication (Effexor XR), and for the past two months or so, I’ve regained all my energy, started going out and being active again, and my grades improved. I finally felt like I was living up to my potential.

    Initially people I talked to about porn said porn wasn’t the problem. That’s why I didn’t get it treated sooner. There is a misconception in society that porn is natural and healthy for boys to get rid of their sexual frustrations. People don’t know that too much of it turns you into a zombie. If you’ve got the time, watch “Your Brain on Porn” series. It just explain how dangerous pornography is for vulnerable minds like mine.

    tl;dr Got addicted to internet porn, turned my life around by bringing the problem to a psychiatrist and taking the proper medication.

    As a sex educator and former sex addict I can assure you this article is quite accurate. Popular journalism is never sourced like a medical journal is..so your critique there is invalid . Did you try googling erectile dysfunction and porn in Lexus nexus or a med search engine? Didn’t think so…

  77. I have concluded that I have porn-induced ED

    Introduction – My Porn Odyssey

    I’m here because of what I believe to be internet porn-induced erectile dysfunction (ED). I got here via yourbrainonporn.com (YBOP) which I found, ironically, while searching for more porn. This is quite long. I’ve tried to leave out the explicit parts, as I understand it can be problematic for some of my fellow fapstronauts, but it’s hard to talk about sexuality without it.

    I’m fifty this year, and I’ve been fapping to porn since I was around eleven years old, but I started my exposure to porn earlier than than. I remember distinctly my mom asking why the Sears catalog was in my toybox when I was round six or seven. The answer was that I was looking at the pictures of the little girls in underwear in the underwear section. I was between six and nine during this period and have no concerns that I might be a pedophile – I’ve always been aroused by images of females my own age, at least until very recently. More on that later.

    At the age of nine we moved into a house with a built in chest of drawers in my bedroom. In one of the drawers I found a cheap, sleazy photo mag called Parts Pups, which featured adult women in skimpy clothes or topless. It became one of my greatest treasures until one day it disappeared mysteriously. I guess my mom found it and threw it out.

    But just a couple of years later, I found my Dad’s porn stash. Hustler was as hard core as Dad ever got. It was mostly Playboy and Penthouse. I was still pre-orgasmic at this point, not really ‘fapping’ as the term is commonly used. What I was doing at this point in my life is more evoked by the older term “playing with yourself.” And when I was left home alone, I’d head for Dad’s mags after 30 minutes. (Getting busted when they came back for tickets or something they’d forgotten cured me of leaping straight for the porn as soon as they got out the door.)

    I had my first orgasm around 12 – 13, with multiple porno mags open around me. It was not too far after that I discovered lube. From then on it was fapping multiple times weekly, never more than once a day, two or three days a week. But only because as a young teenager I couldn’t get the privacy to do it more often.

    Somewhere around age fourteen my parents took the porn out of the house. So I started shoplifting magazines and paperback books. I had my own stash of porn. I think I was in some way aware that this was bad for me back then, because I developed a pattern of throwing it all away, then building up a new stash. I particularly loved the novels because I could build vivid moving pictures of what the characters were doing in my head, instead of the flat, static pictures in the mags.

    At sixteen I became sexually active. I needn’t go into detail except to say that I didn’t date girls who were not, after a few dates, willing to be sexually active. Any girl who wasn’t interested in me sexually got “next-ed.” The 80’s and early 90’s were good to me. But in spite of all this sexual activity with attractive, attentive partners, I was now fapping once a day. This was still during the pre-vhs era, and manys the time I fapped in the video booth of a sleezy porno stall.

    At 18 I left my now divorced parent’s home(s) and headed to college, together with my first computer. And I quickly discovered Usenet. There I found endless reams of porn stories, for free, and many very well written. This was also the era of VHS, and within a few months of moving into my own place, I bought a VCR (on expensive rent-to-own basis) specifically so I could rent (and pirate) porn, and fap in the privacy of my own home, instead of having to go to sleazy porn stores.

    It was shortly after this point that I got my first EGA graphics card, and could look at internet porn. I STILL dated a lot and remained sexually active, but my then-fiance had noticed something. I never orgasm-ed with her. She wanted children and was concerned. She also felt like a failure when I would get dressed still sporting a hard-on. I didn’t think it was a problem. After all, I had no problem ejaculating by myself, and I did occasionally ejaculate with a partner. What I didn’t know at the time was that I was already suffering from what I believe is porn-induced (or fap-induced) Delayed Ejaculation (DE). Normal sex just wasn’t as stimulating as fapping.

    At this point, unless you were a big company or educational organization, the internet was still dial up, and it took five minutes to download a picture of significant size or resolution, but dedicated porners like myself had software that would batch-download these images overnight. I build a vast library of porn, some of it beginning to get extreme. But at this time, all of it was static. “Video” over the internet was grainy, unreliable, and the size of a postage stamp.

    It was, however, during this period, that I got a job in computer networking where I went to school. I would stay late at night and use the network that was unmonitored in those days to fap to the newest thing: internet video.

    Had I been caught I could have been fired or thrown out of school. That didn’t seem to matter to me, and I lucked out and skated through that situation.

    Eventually I married (different fiance) and over time, broadband came to our home, and with it, video. There were no “tube sites” in those days, and people just didn’t video themselves and upload it to the net for no apparent purpose. The only way to get video was to either join a pay site or download it from Usenet. Not wanting my name permanently enscribed in a pornographer’s database, I went with option B. Now an IT professional I had no trouble downloading and decoding the multi-part files and putting them together to provide the grainy, low-resolution five minute video clips.

    I was now married, but my wife worked different hours than myself, and I had two hours a day to myself after work to boot up the computer and fap away.

    Then came tube sites. This brings us to the current technological situation. I have a solid workstation at the house, and unlimited broadband. For the past several years I have been fapping once or twice a day, with some days going as much as five times. The full-motion, full audio videos are no longer enough, and to get my tingle on I’ve had to turn to kinkier areas of porn as well as transexual and gay porn.

    It was also about ten or so years ago that my marriage hit a big bump. (I don’t feel that fapping was a major contributor.) Skipping the details, we ended up in an open marriage. My marriage has been open for about the past ten years or so. Both my wife and I have dated other people with varying degrees of success. It was the fact of my open marriage that led me to the fact that I have a problem.

    Two years ago, I was approached by a young lady who was my kryptonite. I’ll skip the explicit details, but the bottom line was that I was barely able to perform. This was NEW. I was also having great difficulty climaxing with my regular partners. (I have a wife and a long term girlfriend.) Then, last year I finally manged to hook up with a lady I had been pursing for several years and, again, barely managed to perform. In fact, it was pretty much a failure.

    Alarmed, I consulted my GP, who confirmed that there’s nothing wrong with Big Jim and the Twins, since I can fap. The problem is in my head somewhere. So he prescribed Viagra. It didn’t work. Not with my wife, nor with my alternate partners.

    Which brings me to where I am today. I’m nearly fifty, financially successful, and I have multiple attractive willing partners. I can’t perform without significant stimulation and then its lackluster, but I can fap to online porn just fine. When I do have my lackluster performance, I can’t climax without fapping, and that’s humiliating. Oh, it also takes me at least 20 minutes to climax while fapping, and often can take hours. Most recently I’ve started out a mornign thinking I’d have a quick fap and look up to find that it was FIVE HOURS LATER.

    After reading a significant number of articles on YBOP, I have concluded that I have porn-induced ED, and I don’t mind telling you guys that I’m very concerned. I’ve been fapping to porn since I started puberty and for the last God knows how long, at least two or three years, I’ve been fapping heavily to online high speed streaming video.

    So, after finding YBOP, I decided to try this. I didn’t set any goals or anything, just decided to sort of cut back, and I went five days. Then I fapped without porn. Three days later I fell off the wagon and binged, fapping five times in one day.

    That was Sunday before last. I am now on day 12 of nofap. And I’ve got things a lot easier than many of the guys who post here. I don’t seem to have the cravings many describe. I do miss the endorphin rush, but I’m not nearly as driven to it. I think I may ascribe most of that to my age. I noticed when I turned 30 that a lot of the urgency left my sexuality, and I was able to take or leave pursing women, whereas as a young man, in spite of all the fapping, I was constantly on the prowl. Then again, it may have BEEN the fapping that caused the urgency to go away. Anyway, I’m not sure what my goals are regarding porn and fapping, long term, but I do know that I want my johnson to work right with my wife and my other partners again, so since the Viagra failed me, I’m going to try the reboot.

  78. I had absolutely no idea that my relationship with porn

    tyrannofapsaurusrex7 days

    Personally, I had an unhealthy relationship with porn. This manifested itself as ED, social anxiety, extreme apathy and led to me generally spending a lot of time as a social recluse.

    Thing is, I had absolutely no idea that my relationship with porn (and naturally masturbation) was unhealthy. I never, repeat, never made the connection as stupid as tht sounds. I simply used it as a means to all asleep.

    However, as life got more and more stressful, I noticed that I was increasingly turning to porn/masturbation to deal with/escape my emotions. Over time, I noticed that it became a compulsion for me. Over years, I managed to avoid addressing this issue, and the aforementioned manifestations only worsened.

    I inevitably reached a tipping point and admitted I had a problem. I was extremely concerned about my ED problems and from what I’ve read, a total ‘reboot’ of my male endocrinology was required to solve my ED (ie an abstinence from masturbation was required). yet, since I’ve been at it for so long, this wasn’t as easy as it sounds. I had literally never thought to masturbate using my imagination and had been using porn to help achieve orgasm since I was a child.

    Since I’ve started nofap, I’ve noticed many changes, including much more free time to improve myself as well as a greater motivation to generally get up and tackle obstacles in my life. I’d highly recommend it if you, like me, had never even considered it.

    So to answer OP, abstinence from masturbation seems to delay recovery from ED so I will not be indulging (at least temporarily). Many fapstronauts have similar stories (replace ED with other problems that impinge on daily living) where masturbation is/was considered overtly compulsive and is strongly associated with watching porn.

    Edit: if masturbation is not considered compulsive behaviour to you, then I presume you are far less likely to suffer from any of the aforementioned manifestations. For me, I have noticed a significant improvement on every attempt.

    TL;DR Feeling better about ones self is exhilarating and I, for one, can directly attribute this feeling to not fapping.

  79. Did you notice weaker erections with more porn viewing?

    LINK- anyone notice it get worse?

    anyone notices that the more porn they were watching, their erections got slowly worse?

    GUY 1)

    Yes indeed, that’s why I came here. I think it all started because of masturbating with a 30% boner some years ago.

    And with the massive variety of porn. 10 years ago I was happy when a friend gave me a CD with simply “a porno”.

    GUY 2)

    yeah man i noticed my errections were like 50% and not even noticing something was wrong.

    GUY 3)

    definitely.

    I used to get rock hard hard immediately when watching porn. That was a couple of years ago. Then it got to the point when I had to stroke and tug and my dick for 10-15 minutes.. and once it got hard I felt like I was about to ejaculate. So I would have to take it slow so I could last longer. But even then it wasn’t 100% hard.. more like 80%… on my good days.

    GUY 4)

    yeah me too man, the whole novelty of the beginning of the movie would even get me hard, and i would almost ejaculate. and now i have to stroke it a lot just to get it up, but i always lose it if theres no stimulation

    GUY 5)

    Yes, my erections became increasingly ridiculously pathetic. At the end, I wasn’t getting hard from porn. Or hard from anything. To have a seriously hard erection has not been in my life for several years. Can’t wait to get done with this reboot and look back and say ironically, ‘Ah, the good ol times.’

    GUY 5)

    Yup. The second I stopped masturbating to look for another clip, I would go limp.

    GUY 6)

    glad to known im not alone!

    GUY 7)

    Yes. My penis and libido were DEAD. Nothing.

    GUY 8)

    “Yup. The second I stopped masturbating to look for another clip, I would go limp.”

    This.

    The thing is I didn’t realise what was happening to me. Damn addiction.

    GUY 9)

    If I watch porn, I have quite strong erection all time…. but for years it go down. But of course I didn’t see it.

    But with porn I think my erection satisfied me. But if I tried no  porn for 7 days, I go to flatline and couldn’t have orgasm even. So I decide to reboot.

    GUY 10)

    I remember only being excited by certain clips.  I would go on those tube sites and go back pages after pages to find that specific scene that turned me on.  Not neccessarilly an extremely graphic video, but always women with a specific body type, skin tone and hair color.  This would go on for sometimes hours before I found the perfect clip to fap to.  All the while edging.

  80. Commenting about this article on psychology today

    AAA2013 has commented on: “Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction: A Growing Problem” Subject: Started a trial (1 week free of porn and masturbation) Iam 22 years old and Iam a porn + masturbation addict. I masturbated one to 3 times daily to porn for @ least 2 years. As expected I have Porn – induced ED. I stopped watching porn and masturbating for 1 week now and already seeing results. My mood is better Iam less agitated less angry, more motivated to study More focused. Iam already able to sustain an erection without porn and only manual stimulation. The first 3 days where horrible. I was grasping my penis every time iam alone in my room and I had trouble sleeping at night cause I used to masturbate right before I sleep.

  81. NoPorn vs NoFap?

    NoPorn vs NoFap?

    I personally see no harm in a man fapping 1 – 3 times a week, especially when he’s young (under 25 or so).

    What is dangerous, however, is PMO. The porn-masturbation-orgasm cycle is what rewires your brain and warps your sexuality.

    I’m 29 days off porn, but only 2 off fapping at the moment and I’ve noticed a siginificant difference in my ED. For me, it is high-speed video porn and the illusion of multiple successful mating opportunities that it provides that cause my ED, which was what brought me here.

    My delayed ejaculation, however, has been an issue for about 30 years, and I think it’s the result of fapping daily for longer than a lot of the guys who are on here have been alive.

    Bottom line: I think that it’s the porn that’s the really dangerous part. But I think that fapping too often, especially to older guys, does lead to problems.

    My conclusion: Go pornfree and nofap for your reboot period, stay off of high-speed video porn for life, and fap rarely.

  82. So pleased I’m not the only one.

    So pleased I’m not the only one.

    by altitudinous1 day

    Especially with these symptoms, loss of pleasure/desire during the real act – I thought it was me and only me – physical illness. I honestly don’t know the longest I’ve been without for many years, but it wouldn’t be over a week. Time for me to man up and give this a go. Power to you all. The counter sits at 0.

    fapfree036 days 

    On the contrary, you’re one of the only ones who realized the problem and took steps to fix it. Good on you brotha!

    [–]DSandyGuy12 days 

    I stopped for my girlfriend. I had the death grip syndrome and only my own hand could get me off (though I had no problem pleasuring her). I don’t think about it anymore, I try to keep busy and active. And honestly, it’s not even hard anymore. This is the longest I’ve been in 13 years.Just keep your focus, and stay busy doing something. If I can do it, you can do it!
    [–]fapper_guy8 days

    thought I was alone too….had no idea why I was struggling in the bedroom…was getting frustrated and embaressed…wondering if it was a legitimate health problem…then I found this which pretty much zeroed in on my exact problem and better yet, a way to fix it…. heres to day 8…day 8 of many more
    [–]freeYoMind4 days 

    I know. Finding out that there are tens of thousands of people with exactly the same problem has made me feel like far less of a freak and far more like a guy with some very fixable problems.
    [–]themagnificentmoo4 days

    It’s nice seeing there are others who are going through the same issues you are. When I showed I figured I was the only one going through the things I was going through. Not the whole, “I need to quit” part but my story. There were a few people who said, “I understand because I went through something similar.” It’s a great encouragement. We’re here for you!
    [–]calebcop2 days 

    But your confidence will make up for it 😉
    [–]rocknrollsin8 days

    great observation!
    [–]GotaGetGone

    Finding the forum was amazing for me also, having the sudden realisation that there is a tangible reason for my shyness and under-performing in the sack. I’m a week in to abstinence and a month of porn, I feeel sooo much better (other than some insomnia). Keep it up man, its amazing
    [–]lumpage1 day

    It’s surreal, isn’t it?
  83. Sudden realization while viewing porn

    Sudden realization while viewing porn

     by pete2013

    Last night I watched porn on my phone as a way of getting around my k9 web protection here on my laptop, so I’m going to get rid of my smartphone for a while. Anyway I just wanted to share that it was rather a strange experience to watch porn after 14 days without it. I almost felt sad and pathetic rather than turned on.

    I was watching a scene and then it suddenly hit me “I’m sitting here , waiting for a man I don’t know to ejaculate on a woman I’ll never meet, just because that’s the only way I can get turned on anymore”.

    The guy was only semi-erect and was taking ages to ejaculate, then all that went through my head is “damn he needs nofap, looks like he’s got ED”.

  84. comment on thread debating porn-induced ED

    __ So you’re saying there’s no problem with the fact that through EXCESSIVE, REPEATED masturbation to porn you can essentially condition your brain to link sexual arousal and pleasure with porn, to the point where you can become a completely asexual fuck as far as the real world is concerned? I’m 100% sure you will say “yeah well that never happened to me”. That’s great. It was never my case either. But for a lot of people it definitely is, otherwise we would simply not be having this conversation in the first place, and all the writing articles and corroborating anecdotal evidence from a whole bunch of internet duders wouldn’t exist either.

    Speaking of evidence, I find your claim there’s no empirical evidence to support this quite silly. As far as I know, empirical evidence is essentially proof that you can observe yourself, should you experiment with whatever it is you’re trying to understand. Empirical evidence may not be always the soundest, but it is nonetheless some indicative of quality of a theory. So then I ask you, how are the dozens if not hundreds of testimonials plastered all over that website as well as r/NoFap not considered empirical evidence, when they represent the real life findings of random people?

    Your attitude is not particularly helpful either. I agree that some people take it a bit too far, and maybe push their conservative / religious agenda on others using these articles as some form of proof. But you will always have that. The real issue is what happens when you get preteen boys access to internet and uncaring or oblivious parents. When they stumble upon internet porn, there’s probably a decent chance that without the guiding they would need to discern at that age they might get hooked on it and end up fucking their lives (the only thing they would get to fuck too), or at least their near future.

    Sure, you can say “well yeah but in those conditions they could get hooked on *anything*”. And I disagree. The difference between porn and substances like tobacco, alcohol and drugs is that porn is gratuitous, unbelievably easy to come by and requires absolutely no social interaction in order to procure. You don’t need to know someone who deals porn, you don’t need to confront the cashier or store clerk when buying porn (unlike cigarettes or alcohol), you don’t need to pay a dime and you don’t even need to leave your house. There aren’t really any regulations being enforced on porn (not that I necessarily believe there should be). So that’s the thing, it’s a lot easier to get addicted to something that feels good and meets all the above qualities when you’re young and naive and not fully psychologically developed. Especially if you have social anxiety issues or any other similar problems to begin with, which obviously would only be amplified by your addiction.

    Also, the thing I hate is how everyone simply LOVES to make a false dichotomy when it comes to this sort of threads, y’know where the subject is even remotely controversial. Like “DURR EITHER THE ARTICLE IS 100% CORRECT OR IT IS COMPLETELY WRONG, THERE IS NO MIDDLE GROUND, THERE IS NO GRAY AREA”… This kind of logic makes no sense to me. Why can’t you accept that some points are not that far fetched while others are presented a bit overzealously, to the detriment of their content.

    Why general forum why. -_-

  85. Introduction & how it helped my boyfriend

    Introduction & how it helped my boyfriend 

     by MangoMangue1 day

    Hey, just want to introduce myself and get a feel for the community. I’m a 19 year old lady and my boyfriend introduced me to NoFap, I’ve been lurking for a while and only decided to join yesterday. In the beginning of our relationship he was inexperienced, watched a whole lot of porn, and seemed to have a lot of self-doubt which really affected him getting (and staying) aroused. We called it his “bipolar” dick, and I never made him feel guilty about it but it seemed to really affect him.

    That coupled with it making me a bit insecure about myself, because I didn’t know the cause of it, and I thought he found me unattractive, prompted him to try to change it. He linked the cause of it to over-stimulation/too much PMO, and after about 3 months of NoFap was able to become and stay fully erect for a long-ass time, much to both of our delights.

    He’s much happier now and somehow more confident and I really owe it to this subreddit.

    As for myself, I’m sure this has been mentioned here before but schlicking (I really hate that term, guys, it sounds like something damp and moldy) can get pretty uncontrollable. There’s no period of “down time” after you cum like there is for most guys, so you can pretty much cum as many times in a day as there are minutes if you’re really ambitious.

    On “sick days” home from school I’d go on porn binges and cum about 30+ times in a day and feel pretty disgusted with myself. Other than that, I want to stop having to imagine really degrading porn while having sex just so I can cum, it really detaches me from the intimacy of the situation and I feel like I’m somehow letting my gender down by having this perpetual humiliation/submission fantasy. It sounds stupid, I know, but it’s how I feel and it’s why I’m here.

    Nice to meet you all.

  86. NEVER crossed my mind that my porn use could be the problem.

    You should not be surprised by the comments. I can remember myself about one year and a half ago, reading a couple of articles on how internet porn was destroying young male’s libido, and laughing. Yes, I laughed. At that time, I was watching extreme hardcore porn all the time, and porn was becoming my only interest, but I could not realise that I had a problem. When, a few months later, I found the first girlfriend of my life and realised I had ED, I was astonished: how can I have ED??? What the hell is wrong with me? Why I am not feeling excited with a naked girl in front of me???? It never, NEVER crossed my mind the possibility that my porn use could be the problem. Even after discovering Yourbrainonporn, it took me a few months before taking it for serious. It took me a few months to realise how wrong was the fact that instead of dating girls, for years I have masturbated to internet porn.

    Basically, the problem is that those who are not (for now) porn addicts find it hard to believe that porn can do any damage because they did not experience it on themselves; and those who are porn addicts fail to recognise their situation until they realise that they have ED. But ED, as we know, is just the final stage of a gradual decline.

    http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=10742.0

  87. Fast forward 3 years
    My first post here in 2011 really summed it up for me. I just re read it. After going cold turkey and feeling much better, swearing off PMO, I have relapsed a number of times followed by intermittent ED issues and having trouble maintaining any kind of longer term relationships.Note not necessarily directly related to any specific sexual issues as such. Anyway, Porn became that lifeline again for me sadly. Not as intense as before, but bingeing still an on and off issue. Then came a trip overseas whereby I was introduced to cheap liquid based viagra which again I’ve used on and off for a couple of years to head off any anxiety or performance issues related to ED. I’m only in my mid 40s and shouldn’t need to rely on that stuff!

    The main thing for me currently is even if I am getting an erection I’m not feeling a lot. I just don’t feel horny. I’m seeing someone that could become serious so I’m now a couple of weeks off PMO trying to get back the balance again and feel normal. Lets hope I can kick this thing for good this time.

    Admire anyone who actually talks this through with a girlfriend or partner as to me it all seems highly awkward and embarrassing.

    1. Good luck
      There are lots of good forums these days – which can make your journey easier. Check this one out, for example: Reboot Nation

      It’s amazing the high price guys will pay for porn. Even after they wail for a solution to their ED and loss of attraction to real partners – and experience the cure for themselves – they go back and screw themselves up again.

      Just shows the power of today’s supernormally stimulating porn to hijack the human reward circuitry. Sucks.

  88. Thing is in order to quit you
    Thing is in order to quit you need a reason and according to every article on here that reason is so men can have a decent sex life with women. But if, like me, you don’t have and will not ever have a sexual partner then quitting porn and masturbation means celibacy and that is worse than any side effect of masturbating too much.

  89. Post on reddit – ED in amateur porn on the rise

    I noticed something which I’ve been noticing more and more in truly “amateur” porn recently. Warning: the following could be a trigger for some of you who are extra sensitive to triggers like me, so if you are one of them, STOP READING.

    Anyways this porn was this girl picking up random guys to do the deed in the car while the car drove around… I watched enough of it that it appeared pretty amateur. Now 3 of the 5 guys they picked up throughout the 20-minute video literally couldn’t get their dicks up.

    That’s not normal, and I bet those guys watch a lot of porn.

    After all, if you’re willing to fuck a random girl who is driving by in her “bangbus” on camera, you probably watch a lot of porn.

    Anyways, I’ve noticed this trend in porn recently anyways. I wish I hadn’t, because I shouldn’t be watching in the first place, but a girl shouldn’t have to suck a guys dick for 5 minutes for him to get a 70% boner, which a lot of guys in the amateur videos seem to need nowadays.

    LINK: http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/35mg2s/something_i_noticed_when_i_relapsed_ed_in_porn/

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