Kunamadoda nabesifazane abaphelelwe yithemba yonke indawo, babo bonke ubudala, abafuna ngempela ukuthi okuthile kumiswe empilweni yabo. Utshwala. Izidakamizwa. Ukudla ngokweqile. Ukuchitha imali ngokweqile. Nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
Ngakho-ke, ngokuqondakalayo bagxila kukho. Futhi balwe nakho. Futhi bazame ukukulawula….bacasukile futhi badabuke lapho kubuya njalo – njengephupho elibi elingapheli.
Kulungiselelwe izithombe zobulili ezingcolile
Uma nje amehlo ethu egxile enkingeni eyodwa – indlela yokumelana nayo, indlela yokuyinqoba – ungamangali uma lelo phupho elibi liqhubeka izinyanga ezimbalwa noma iminyaka, ngisho neminyaka eminingi.
Kodwa kuthiwani uma amehlo ethu ekhula? Isibonelo, ake sibhekane neqiniso: Uma impilo yakho iqhutshwa ukuphazamiseka, igcwele izikrini, igxile emaphusheni, ihlelwe eduze kwenjabulo, ibalekela ukungakhululeki, ingenaso isisekelo ngokomoya, ihlukanisiwe, ingenandaba, ithukuthele, ididekile, ikhathele, ikhathele ngokomzimba, ilimele ngokomzwelo, idabukile buthule, futhi ingenanjongo enhle, kungani ungeke uthambekele kakhulu ekuxosheni noma yikuphi ukubaleka okushukumisayo ongakuthola?
Yiqiniso, baningi abantu abanesizungu, abacindezelekile, abakhathele, abaphambuka ngokomoya, futhi abakaze babe nemikhuba yokuziphoqelela. Kodwa ngokuvamile, impilo enjalo ibeka abantu emzabalazweni.
'Lokhu kumayelana nathi sonke': Kuhlelwe kabusha okuthile okuphakeme
Okuphambene nakho kuyiqiniso. Cabanga ngokuphila okuqondiswe ohlangothini oluphambene nakho konke okungenhla… pho-ke?
Umuntu “onenhliziyo ekhululekile” akayena nje umuntu othi cha ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile – kodwa kunalokho, umuntu ompilo yakhe yonke ihlelwa kabusha ukuze kube nokuthile okungcono nokuthile okuphakeme.
Incwadi kaMatt Dobschuetz ethi, “Akukho Izithombe Zobulili Ezingcolile: Ukuba Uhlobo (Lomuntu) Ongabheki Izithombe Zobulili Ezingcolile"," kusikisela okuhlukile ngokuphelele, indlela yokuphila konke kuya ekwelapheni izinkinga zobulili ezingcolile - noma yini enye ephoqayo.1
Umngane wami, uchwepheshe wezokwelapha uJill Manning uyazi umehluko phakathi kokululama okujulile kanye nokuzithiba okungapheli, okulawulwa ngokuziphatha. Lokho umuntu wokugcina angakuqondi, ungitshele engxoxweni yakamuva, ukuthi ukuphulukiswa okuhlala njalo kugcina kuthinta inhliziyo. yonke ingxenye yokuphila – indlela ocabanga ngayo ngobudlelwano, isikhathi, uthando, umzimba ngisho nezindaba ezingokomoya.
“Asigcini nje ngokumisa into ethile noma ukususa into ethile,” kusho yena. “Siyishintsha ngezindlela zokuziphatha ezahlukene zobudlelwano, izindlela zokuphila ezahlukene, izimo zengqondo ezahlukene. Lokhu kumayelana nokuguqulwa nokushintsha izinhliziyo — hhayi nje ukubhekana nendaba eyodwa.”
"Lokhu kumayelana nathi sonke...Asilapha nje ukuzovuselela noma ukulungisa ingxenye yakho."
Uma lokhu kube nzima kuwe, zibuze: ingabe ngiyaba uhlobo lomuntu okunengqondo kuye ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile? Ingabe ngiyaba uhlobo lomuntu okuya ngokuya kuhambisana nalokho engiyikho? …
Funda okunye kwalokhu okuthunyelwe ku-Substack nguJacob Hess PhD.