I-Voyeurism manje ibonakala ingumthetho. Imiphakathi eminingi yesimanje incamela ukubuka abantu benza izinto kunokuba bazenzele bona, ikakhulukazi ngenxa 'yokwesaba ukwehluleka.' Ukubuka abantu benza ucansi kuyadabukisa njengokubuka umcimbi wezemidlalo ku-TV. Kepha kungani ungahlanganyeli kulomsebenzi ngokwakho? Ukushesha kwe-dopamine oyithola ngokuzibandakanya ngokwakho kunomvuzo kakhulu kulokho okutholayo ngokubuka omunye umuntu enza okuthile. Umehluko kuphela phakathi kwama-alphas nama-betas. Abantu abaphumelelayo bahlasela ubunzima futhi babhekane nezinkinga zabo ngendlela elula, eqondile, futhi efile ngenkathi abahlulwayo besaba ngenxa yokucindezelwa okukhulu ukuphatha 'ukwesaba ukwehluleka.'
Umhlaba unabaxhasi abaningi, kepha akudingeki ube munye. Uma uqhubeka isikhathi eside ngaphandle kokubuka abanye abantu benza izinto, kulapho uzenzela khona indlela yakho, ube nguwe, futhi wenze izinto ocabanga ukuthi uzenza. Ngokwami, ngemuva konyaka ngikude nabezindaba zanoma yiluphi uhlobo ngingajabula kakhulu ngokubuka i-porn noma umcimbi wezemidlalo njengoba bengingathanda ukuvula iphakethe elisha lamathawula wephepha - hhayi kakhulu. Ukwehluleka kuyinto ebukelwa phansi emphakathini wethu ngokusatshalaliswa ngokwesaba kepha ukwehluleka kuyinto enhle ngempela - ngaphandle kokwehluleka alikho ithuba lokukhula noma lokuvuthwa noma lokuthuthuka. Ukwehluleka kungasetshenziswa njengesisekelo sokuzihlolela ngokwakho ngenkathi usaphila ukuthola ubuthakathaka obudinga ukulungiswa. AmaPessimists ajwayele ukubheka ukwehluleka njengalapho athenwa yikho bese etshela abanye ukuthi kuyinto engenakunqotshwa ngoba nje bengakwazanga ukubeka isikhathi, amandla, nomzamo ekwenzeni lokho ngokwabo.
“Ukuphumelela kumane nje kuyindaba yenhlanhla. Buza noma ikuphi ukwehluleka ”
-Earl Nightingale
Phuma kwikhompyutha. Phuma kuyo ngesizathu esifanayo sokuthi izidakwa akufanele zibe semigoqweni futhi ukubuyisa imilutha ye-crack akufanele kube semigodini yokuqhekeka. Kuzokuguqula kuphela ube yi-homo mediocritus. Ngikhumbula ngisesikoleni samabanga aphansi kuma-90s okuqala futhi ngicabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu osebenzisa amakhompyutha wuhlobo lwe-fat nerdy loser. Manje ngoba cishe wonke umuntu usebenzisa amakhompyutha, akumangalisi ukuthi kunezinhlobo eziningi zamafutha ezilahlekile. Empeleni, bekungeke kube lula ukusho ukuthi iningi labantu linjalo. Ungumkhiqizo wemvelo yakho. Indawo ezungeze ukuhlala esihlalweni ngenkathi ubheke esikrinini esicacile ngokuqinisekile ayidingi ngisho nokulingene okulingene komzimba. Kunomkhuba owenzekayo manje ku-inthanethi wokuthi i-TV imayelana nokucwilisa ubuchopho nokuthi imithombo yezindaba ikhombisa 'izimvu' kuphela lokho abafuna bakubone (okuyiqiniso), kepha okungakhulunywa muntu ngakho ukuthi i-inthanethi isango elikhudlwana lokukhazimulisa umbhedo. Ngempela iyinkemba esika nhlangothi zombili. Ihambisa imininingwane ngokushesha okukhulu (nolwazi olungelona iqiniso ngalolo daba) (futhi ishesha ukwedlula izingqondo zabantu abaningi ezingalandelana nayo) kepha okuningi kwayo akuthinti impilo yakho ngendlela ekhiqizayo. Uma i-TV ibhekwa njengomuntu ogcina izingane ngogesi, i-intanethi kufanele ibhekwe njenge-masturbator engqondo ye-elekthronikhi.
Ngaphandle kwe-imeyili, imibuzo ehlobene nomsebenzi, izinto zamanani ancintisanayo, nocwaningo lwesayensi, azikho izinto eziningi ezinengqondo zokuchitha ingxenye enhle yosuku lwakho kukhompyutha yakho. Lowo owayengumlutha wezocansi ophuma ekuhoxisweni kudingeka azi noma yini ongayifaka kukhompyutha. AMANYE amasayithi anezithombe zedijithali noma ividiyo kufanele agwenywe ngokuqinile ukusheshisa ukuqala kabusha kwakho ngokushesha okukhulu. Ukuhoxa ngengqondo kungenye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke umuntu angadlula kuzo nganoma yiluphi uhlobo lokulutha. Ngesikhathi se-flatline umuntu ubaluleke kakhulu njengendoda engenalutho emncintiswaneni we-cunnilingus. Ukuphikelela kuyisihluthulelo. Kubalulekile ukuya kuwo ngenkani ngokugcwele futhi wazi ukuthi izimpawu ezingezinhle neze ezesikhashana. Kuyisidingo sokuzibeka esimweni ukuze ukwazi ukuphumelela futhi unganaki zonke iziphazamiso ezingezinhle eziseduze kwakho. Ababuthakathaka ngokwengqondo kuphela abazidabukela bona. Ulindeni?
“Ingane ayinankinga yokukholelwa kokungakholeki, kanjalo nengwazi noma uhlanya. Nguwe nami kuphela, onobuchopho bethu obukhulu nezinhliziyo zethu ezincane, esingabaza futhi sicabange ngokweqile futhi sinqikaze. ”
“Qala ngaphambi kokuba usukulungele.”
"Yenza umsebenzi."
-Steve Pressfield
“Ukuhlehlisa izinto kufana nokushaya indlwabu. Ekugcineni, uyazifela ngawe. ”
-Ngubani isihogo esaziyo
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