I-NORTH TEXAS (CBSDFW.COM) - "Uma kufanele ngidele amahloni amancane ngesihloko ukuwenza, ngizobe sengikwenza."
Indoda esencane yaseNorth Texas yabelana ngendaba yayo ne-CBS 11 I-Team mayelana nokuluthwa kwayo kwezocansi. UGabe Deem uthi waqala wabonwa yi-porn ngesikhathi eyi-8.
“Sibe ne-TV TV. Bengilala ebusuku kakhulu, ”kusho uDem. "Izinto zaba zimbi kakhulu ngehora leshumi nambili ... ngesikhathi umndeni wami uthola i-intanethi."
UGabe Deem uxoxa noGinger Allen we-CBS 11 mayelana nomlutha wakhe we-porn wesikhathi esisodwa. (CBS 11)
Futhi uthi izinto zaba zimbi kakhulu ngokwazisa kwe-YouTube e-2005, i-iPhone ku-2007, i-iPad e-2011, namanye amadivayisi eselula asebenze emakethe emashumini amabili eminyaka adlule.
“Bengihlala kubhasikidi. Bengihlala nomphakathi. Futhi bengihlala nginentombi yangempela yokuphila, kepha imidlalo yama-video, imithombo yezokuxhumana ne-inthanethi iphindelela kimi. ”
UDemem utshela i-I-Team ukuthi abazali bakhe “babengenayo inkomba” yalokho ayekwenza. "Umama wayehlala engibuza ukuthi kungani ngithatha isikhathi eside sokugeza."
Uthi bekungumlutha okwakulula ukufihla futhi wathuthuka njengoba esemdala. "Bengihamba ngebhayisekili ngibuya ekhaya ngivela esikoleni futhi ngibuke i-inthanethi engcolile ngesinye isikhathi amahora amabili kuya kwamathathu ngosuku."
IZIFUNDO ZISEKELA IMIPHUMELA EBONAKALAYO
I-Deem ikubiza ngokuthi ukulutha okuqhathaniswa nezidakamizwa noma utshwala. Uthi kunamandla kakhulu wagcina efisa isikrini noma amaphikseli hhayi abantu.
Ngesikhathi eseneminyaka engu-23, uthi waba nemiphumela emibi ngokomzimba ehlanganisa ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile. Uthi ubengeke alondoloze ubudlelwano obunempilo.
UDemem uthi futhi zidala izinkinga zenhlalo nezengqondo. "Uyabona ukuthi abantu bayanda ukukhathazeka, ukungakwazi ukusebenza kahle nenkumbulo yobuchopho, ngakho kwaqala ukwenzeka kimi."
Esaba ukuthi wayengeke afane, uDemem waphendukela ezinhlanganweni ze-inthanethi lapho athola khona ukuthi akayedwa. Wathola abanye abayimilutha bekhuluma ngokukhathazeka, ukucindezelwa, ukusebenza kabi kwezemfundo, ubudlelwane obungenampilo, nokuzibulala.
ISIVIVINYO?
Namuhla, uDemem useluleme ngokuphelele futhi usezoshada. Ungumqeqeshi womuntu siqu nomeluleki ku-Irving ohamba umhlaba ekhuluma ngokulutha kwe-porn. Ubuye futhi aphathe indawo yakhe yokutakula ngesithangami esixoxa ne13,000 amanye amalungu nawo athi angumlutha wobulili ezingcolile.
Ufundele iphoyisa I-Team iphoyisa elishadile elineminyaka engu-43 abathi lacabanga ukuthatha impilo yakhe ngoba umlutha walichitha. "Bengikulungele ukuzibulala, isibhamu besisesandleni sami futhi silayishe ezinyangeni eziyisishiyagalombili ezedlule." UDem uthi ukhungathekile kakhulu isibalo sabantu abanje. Uthi abanye bavela ezinganeni nakwintsha.
I-CBS 11 yambuza ukuthi ngabe lokhu kuyinkinga yezempilo yomphakathi? Uphendule wathi, "Nakanjani ngiyibiza ngokuthi yinkinga yezempilo yomphakathi."
IZENZAKALO ZESIKHUMBUZO “SEZAKHONO ZEMPILO YOMPHAKATHI”
Izifundazwe ezingaphezu kweshumi ziyavuma. Zidlulile izikweletu zezempilo ezithi ukubuka izithombe zocansi “yibhubhane elimaza abantu….”
Ngasekuqaleni konyaka, ummeleli waseTexas uValoree Swanson wazama ukuthi kudluliswe lapha. Ubalule “imiphumela emibi yezempilo” esinqumeni sakhe, kepha le mpikiswano ayikaze ivele ekomitini.
Izwe elithathe izithombe zocansi njengengozi yezempilo yomphakathi ngokusebenza komthetho, manje linganikeza imali nezinsizakusebenza zokuqwashisa ngomthelela wokuluthwa yi-porn.
UKUJWAYELWA KWENXENUMXST KUVUSELEKELWE KUDIVAYISI EZIQINISEKILE
USolwazi noyisishoshovu uDkt Gail Dines ubiza lolu daba ngokuthi "oluphuthumayo lwezempilo yomphakathi." Uqale Amasiko agxiliwe okungeyona inzuzo ukufundisa abazali ukuthi bakwakha kanjani ukuqina nokumelana ezinganeni zabo ku-porn.
“Sunalo lonke ucwaningo esidinga ukukwazi ngalo - yingakho oluphuthumayo lwezempilo lomphakathi. Lesi manje ngqa sabafana esilethile ngokufinyelela kuma-porn we-hardcore. Asikaze sikwenze lokho ngaphambili, ”kusho yena.
“Abafana sebezoba ngamadoda. Ngakho-ke umbuzo wami uthi bazoba obaba abanjani, abalingani, abameli, odokotela, abapristi, othisha, abaqeqeshi? ”
UDkt Dines uthi umphakathi udinga impendulo ehlanganyelwe. "... i-porn ye-hardcore esezingeni eliphakeme imahhala. Kuyatholakala. Kuyinto engaziwa. Futhi-ke, kushibhile ngoba kumahhala. ”Uthi lezi zinto ezintathu ziyafuneka.
“I-porn yamahhala iyalingana nami lapho ngiphatha ugwayi wamahhala ngaphandle kwesikole esiphakathi. Ngeke ngivunyelwe ukuphuma ngaphandle kwesikole esiphakathi futhi nginike nje ugwayi nsuku zonke ukuze ngiqiniseke ukuthi ngibabhemela ugwayi futhi ngeke ngivunyelwe ukungqongqoza ngeminyango yabantu ngithi, “Uxolo, kunomuntu ongaphansi kwe18 wakhe, noma ngaphansi kwe-21? Nakhu ubhiya. Ngale ndlela, ngizobe ngibuyela ngakusasa nosuku olulandelayo emva kwalokho nangosuku olulandelayo. ”
AMathiphu Wokulawula IZINGANE ZAKHO
UDkt Dines noDem bathi uma ucabanga ukuthi uvimba okuqukethwe ngabantu abadala ezinganeni zakho ngokulawulwa ngabazali, cabanga futhi.
UDeem uthi: “Esikoleni esiphakathi mina nabangane bami sasidlulisa amaphepha sibuyelana sinikeza izeluleko namacebo wokuthi singakufihla kanjani kubazali nokuthi singaya kuphi ukuyolanda okuqukethwe kwamahhala.
Esikhundleni sokukutshela ukuthi izingane zethu zihamba kanjani ngalezi zilawuli zabazali, I-I-Team ikuthola kuphephile ukwaba ezinye izimfihlo ochwepheshe bethu abazidlulisele kithi:
-Bheka izithonjana ezijwayelekile ezinjengezibali kumadivayisi ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi okuqukethwe akufihlekile ngaphansi.
-Bhekisisa izingosi zemithombo yezokuxhumana- ubuke ukusesha kwama-emojis angenacala anjengamapentshisi, ama-eggplant, kanye nama-teardrop okuxhumanisa nezinto ezingafuneki.
-Yazi amasayithi we-premium, njenge-snapchat premium lapho abantu abangaziwa bakhokhelwa khona ukuthumela izithombe.
(USnapchat utshela i-I-Team, i-premium Snapchat akuyona igama elisemthethweni. Isikhulumi se-Snapchat sithi kungenzeka kube yigama elisetshenziswa ngabantu abasebenzisa uhlangothi oluyimiyalezo lohlelo lokusebenza ukusabalalisa okuqukethwe kwabantu abadala. "Lokhu kuphambene neMigomo Yensiza yethu futhi sisusa la ma-akhawunti lapho ebikiwe. ”)
—Bheka amafulegi abomvu anjengokuhoxa nokukhetha ukuba ku-inthanethi kunokuphuma nabangane.
—Ungajabhi izingane zakho uma uzithola.
Futhi, musa ukukhuluma ngezithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
AMACEBISO OKUTHENGA IZINGANE ZAKHO
Iwebhusayithi kaDkt Dines, uthumela uhlelo lwabazali kufaka phakathi izingxoxo ezibhaliwe nezincomo zakhe ngokuthi ungakhuluma kanjani nezingane zakho mayelana nezithombe zocansi.
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