Ngingaba kanjani nokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile? Ngangingu-23 kuphela futhi ngiphilile ngokomzimba. Ngahamba ngisesha futhi ngathola imicu emide yamadoda ethi bacabanga ukuthi izithombe ezingcolile zibangele iD. Akungakholeki, kepha kubuye kube khona kimi, futhi. Kuthathe izinyanga ezingu-9 ukuthi ngithole umsebenzi ojwayelekile wocansi.
Lapho abantu bezwa mayelana nokulutha kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile noma izinkinga ze-porn, abaningi banokungabaza. Kodwa-ke, insizakalo yezokwelapha iqala ukuqaphela ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka ngempela, nakuba ucwaningo lungakafiki lutho. Eqinisweni, ngasekuqaleni konyaka kutholakala othandwayo UDkt. Oz ubonise i-ED ehlanganisiwe ye-porn. Muva nje, ososayensi eCambridge University wenza isifundo ukuthi bathole abantu abanomlutha wezinhlelo zobulili ezingcolile babonisa imisebenzi efanayo yobuchopho ezidakwa noma izidakamizwa ezidakamizwa lapho bevezwa.
Ngemuva kokuqaphela ukusetshenziswa kwe-porno ye-inthanethi kungaxhunyaniswa ne-ED yami, ngifunde okuningi ngale ndaba. Ngahlangana nabantu abaningi bethi izinto mayelana nokulutha kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye nezidakamizwa ezihlobene ezingafani neze. Nazi ezinye zezinkinga ezingavamile.
Iphutha #1 - "Abafana kuphela ababa umlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile noma abane-porn-eyenziwe ngu-ED banezinkinga."
Ngakhulela nomndeni onothando futhi uhlelo olukhulu lokusekela. Akukaze kube nokuhlangenwe nakho okudabukisayo, akuzange kube nokuhlukunyezwa, akukho mlando wokulutha emndenini wami. Lapho ngineminyaka engu-8 ubudala ngithole Playboy umagazini. Lokhu kungase kuzwakale kuyisimanga, kepha njengomfana omncane ngangikuthanda ukubuka amantombazane enqunu (ahla).
Lapho ngineminyaka eyi-12 umndeni wami waba ne-Intanethi esheshayo. Ngokushesha ngangibuka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili. Izingane esikoleni zazizokwabelana ngamasayithi amahle kakhulu nezindlela zokukufihla. Kwakuyingxenye evamile yesiko lentsha. Ngokokuqala ngqa emlandweni wesintu izingane zazinokufinyelela okungenamkhawulo ku-hardcore porn. Ngangingenazo izingqinamba ezangenza ngafuna izithombe zobulili ezingcolile - nganginokufinyelela nje. Manje-ke, abanye abantu abayimilutha yezocansi banenkinga eyisisekelo. Kepha hhayi bonke.
Abangane bami abathathu abalungile baye babhekana nezinkinga zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi ezihlobene nezocansi. Zonke zaziyi-dudes evamile nempilo evamile. Sasicabanga ukuthi kuyesabeka ukubheka amantombazane enqunu ephethe ucansi, futhi sasingazi ukuthi kungase kube nomthelela omubi ngokomzimba.
Kwangithatha unyaka ukuthola ukuthi kungani ngine-ED. Ngemuva kwakho konke, bengingakuthola ngezithombe ezingcolile, ngokusobala ipenisi yami yayingaphukile. Kwakungekhona ukukhathazeka kokusebenza, ngoba ngangivele nginolwazi oluningi lwezocansi futhi ngangingenalo uvalo. Angiphuzanga lutho, ngakho-ke anginakusola utshwala. Ngisho nokuhlolwa kwamahomoni ami futhi imiphumela ibuye kahle.
Eqinisweni, bengingakholelwa ukuthi i-porn kungenzeka ukuthi ixhunyaniswe ne-ED yami ngize ngenze ukuhlolwa kocansi okwenziwe nge-porn - lapho uzama ukuthola ukwakhiwa ngaphandle kocansi noma iyiphi imicabango, ukuthinta isandla sakho wedwa. Ngamangala ukuthi angikwazi. Ngangiyindoda ejwayelekile, enempilo, enokuhlangenwe nakho ngokobulili futhi ethembayo engathola kuphela ukulungiswa kwezocansi.
Iphutha #2 - "Abafana abathi bane-porn-eyenziwe ngu-ED abathandeki kumlingani wabo."
Amaningi amaningi kuma-forum okubuyiselwa kocansi athi ayathandwa kakhulu ngabalingani bawo futhi athola ukuthi kudideka kakhulu ukuthi abakwazi ukuvuswa. Ngangingomunye walabo bantu. Nginentombazane enhle engiyitholile kakhulu, kodwa angizange ngizizwe nginomzimba lapho ngiya ocansini. Kungani lokhu kubalulekile?
Umlingani angazizwa engathandeki ngokwanele noma "akakwazi ukuqhathanisa nezinkanyezi ezingcolile." Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazisa la mantombazane aphukile enhliziyweni ukuthi akuyona into ehehayo ngaso sonke isikhathi, kepha kunalokho yinto ehlanganisa ubuchopho. Uma umfana efake uchuku ekuvuseleleni kwakhe ucansi esikrinini naku-porn, akunandaba ukuthi uthola umlingani noma eheha kangakanani ukuthola umlingani wakhe… kungenzeka angakwazi ukukuthola. Lapho sengikucacisele intombi yami ukuthi ibikhanga kakhulu kepha ubuchopho bami bebusanda kufikelwa ubuthakathaka, futhi buxhunywe izithombe zocansi, kuyisizile yazizwa ingcono kakhulu ngokulinda futhi ingakhathazeki kakhulu lapho uMnu Happy ebukeka edabukile.
Iphutha #3 - "Abantu abashiya izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kumele babe nenkinga yokuziphatha."
Iningi labafana abashiya izithombe zobulili ezingcolile abanakho ukuphikisana nokuziphatha futhi bebekuthanda konke ngakho, baze bakhule ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile, noma ukubambezeleka kwe-ejaculation. Lapho ngibona ukuthi ngingathola i-boner esikrinini hhayi into yangempela, nginqume ukuyeka ukuyibuka. Iqiniso ngukuthi abantu abaningi sebebonile manje ukuthi ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kulungise i-ED yabo. Kubo, "kuyinkinga ye-neural" hhayi "inkinga yokuziphatha."
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Manje ukuthi siyazi ukuthi kungani abantu beyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, senzani ngokulandelayo? Into eyodwa iqinisekile: Sidinga ucwaningo olwengeziwe. Kodwa kuze kube yilapho lolo suku lufika lapha, ithemba lami yilokho wabelane ngendaba yami kuzoholela ezingxoxweni ezingenangqondo nangenkhulumomphendvulwano eqondayo mayelana nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile nokuthi zingasithinta kanjani.
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