Ukubuyela emuva kungaba nzima nakakhulu ukubhekana nokushiya i-PMO endaweni yokuqala. Ngokujwayelekile, uma uyeka, kungenxa yokuthi wenze ingqondo yakho, unayo ugqozi kanye nesisusa isekela ukukhetha kwakho. Kodwa-ke, ukubuyela emuva kungakuncipha futhi ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, ubuyela emuva ekuqaleni.
Ukubuyela emuva kwenzeka engqondweni, ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke ngokomzimba. Ngokuqinisekile izinkinga zizohluka wonke umuntu, kodwa nansi izinto ze-5 ezizokwenza ukuthi umuntu abuyele emuva. Gwema lezi futhi uzigcine uzigqugquzela futhi uqine isikhathi eside.
I-1. Ukukhokha:
Ukuzibamba akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuqeda ngokuphelele, futhi kuzoba isikhashana endaweni ethile empilweni yakho lapho kungenakugwenywa khona. Kodwa bangaki kithi abangaqapheli lapho kuhlasela futhi siqala ukugcwalisa umgodi ngisho nangaphambi kokuba sazi ukuthi ukhona?
Uma ucabanga emuva lapho uyingane, ungase ubone ukuthi ukhululekile. Njengomuntu omdala, lowo mzwa wokungathandeki uthatha ukumelela okuhlukile. Mhlawumbe awunelisekile empilweni - uyazibuza ukuthi unesizungu yini? Mhlawumbe awuzizwa ugcwalisekile ebuhlotsheni bakho - yisikhathi sokubheka impande yenkinga.
Manje, angikusikisela ukuthi uphishekela impilo yakho, uyibuyise phansi bese uxosha wonke umuntu nakho konke okwenza ube nesithukuthezi. Kunalokho, thola okuthile okuzogcwalisa lokho okungekho futhi kufeze impilo yakho. Uma usendleleni yokuphulukisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyini-usuku, awufuni ukubhekana nesifo sokuncelisa umphefumulo esizokwenza ukuthi ubuyele emuva.
Yini ongayenza:
· Ukuntuleka kwenselelo ngokuvamile kuyisakhi esikhulu sokukhwabanisa. Ngokuvamile, abantu bazovuka bahlangabezane nenselelo uma umvuzo ubangele, futhi ngale ndlela, ukukhukhumaza kuphelelwa yisikhathi. Thola inselelo okuyinselele kuwe ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, bese ukwenza. Isiphakamiso sami ukufaka amandla akho abe yinto yokuzilibazisa (entsha noma endala) eyokujabulisa futhi ikugcine uhlala futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo yenza impilo yakho ibe ngcono.
· Ezinye iziphakamiso zokuzilibazisa ezintsha noma amaphrojekthi ukuze uhlale umatasa futhi uzithuthukise ngokwakho: ukufunda igitala noma upiyano; ukuya ejimini noma esebenza ekhaya; ukufunda ulimi; ukuqala ibhulogi noma ibhizinisi.
· Yazi wena futhi uqale ukuqaphela isithukuthezi sakho. Thatha izinselelo ezintsha, utshale imali emisebenzini enhle futhi uqaphele ukuthi "ungahlali". Lokho kusho ukuthi kufanele ubeke eceleni isikhathi sokuphumula lapho uthola ithuba, kodwa kufanele kube ukuphumula okwakhayo, into eyokwengeza ekugcwalisekeni kwakho, futhi ungagcini amandla akho.
I-2. Ukuphila okungenampilo
Kungenzeka ukuthi wezwa ingqondo enempilo = umzimba onempilo; kahle, okuphambene nakho kuqinisile.
Ukunganaki ukuxhumana komzimba kungaphazamisa impilo yakho yonke. Uma umzimba wakho uphilile, awukwazi ukulindela ukwenza okusemandleni akho empilweni yakho yobulili.
Kodwa kungaphezu kwalokho - ukugcina umzimba wakho uphilile kukusiza ukuthi uzizwe ungcono ngawe futhi kuthuthukise ukuzethemba kwakho kwangaphakathi. Ngale ndlela usondela enjongweni yakho yempilo enempilo yocansi nokusondelana nomlingani wangempela.
Yini ongayenza:
· Qeqesha umzimba wakho futhi uqeqeshe ingqondo yakho. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuqeqesha imizwelo yakho elawula isidingo sakho sokuphoqelela nokuphoqeleka ukuba uhlanganyele emisebenzini ye-PMO.
· Yidla kahle; baphuze amanzi anele. Leli qiniso elimangalisa kakhulu ukuthi cishe zonke izihloko zithinta, futhi ngesizathu esihle. Ngakho-ke ngizophinde ngiphinde ngiphinde ngiphinde ngiphuze amanzi, ngidle izinhlobo eziningi zokudla. Uma sithatha ngqo ezisekelo, ufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umzimba wakho unophethiloli okwanele womgwaqo omude.
· Phinda uhlakulele impilo yakho, futhi konke okumele ukwenze ngokukwenza lokho okukujabulela nokuzikhandla ngokwengeziwe kunalokho ucabanga ukuthi ungaya khona. Kunezinzuzo eziningi zezempilo zokuzivocavoca, phakathi kwamanye, kukhulula amandla e-pent-up, kunciphisa ukukhathazeka futhi kugcina umzimba wakho udunyiswe. Asikho isizathu sokungazivocavoca.
I-3. Ukulingwa ngokungadingekile
Ubunqunu obuqhamukayo kanye nokuqukethwe okucacile ngokobulili cishe yonke indawo nanamuhla. Kusukela kumagazini weMaxim kuya ku-Game of Izihlalo zobukhosi ku-HBO, ukuthengisa ucansi kanye nomkhakha wokuzijabulisa uyazi. Ngisho nokukhangisa okungaxhunyiwe kusetshenziselwa ukusetshenziswa kobulili. Yiqiniso, i-cable ye-cable, omagazini abathintekayo be-porn kanye namawebusayithi ahlobene nocansi azoletha isilingo esikhulu.
Yini ongayenza:
- Yazi i-trigger yakho kahle futhi usebenze ekushintsheni ubudlelwane nayo, ngokungazinaki nje ngeke kusebenze. Kodwa ungakwazi ukuqinisa imizamo yakho ngokugwema iwebhusayithi owaziyo ukuthi unokuqukethwe okuphathelene nabo. Uma ukubukela i-YouTube kuvame ukukuholela endleleni eya ku-PMO, kufanele ucabange ukugwema lapho usodwa.
· Uma ufuna ukuhamba ngesinyathelo esisodwa, cabanga ngokungeza izihlungi kusiphequluli sakho nokubhaliselwa kwekhebula. Kungase kubonakale kungaqondakali ekuqaleni, kodwa kuzokusiza, ikakhulukazi kulawo masonto ambalwa kanye namaviki lapho isilingo sikhulu khona.
· Gwema ukusesha izinto owaziwayo kuzoholela kumasayithi we-porn. Abantu abaningi babika ngemuva kokwenza isinqumo sokuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ukuthi abazi ngisho nokuzulazula baze baqede kwisayithi ye-porn.
I-4. Ihlola ukulungiswa kwakho
Ukubuyisela kudinga umhlatshelo futhi kuyinqubo eqhubekayo. Intuthuko inganciphisa futhi ngezinye izikhathi kufanele ukwaneliswe ngokuthatha izinyathelo ezincane, eziqondile ekugcineni komgomo. Ukucabangela ukuhlola amanzi ngemuva kwesikhashana, ngezinye izikhathi ukuphinda ubuyeke. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuxhuma okufushane kusuka "Ngicabanga ukuthi ngizovivinya ukulungiswa kwami" ku "o, nangu ezinye zezocansi".
Lokhu akusho ukuthi awukwazi ukuyihlola nomlingani wakho - uma uzizwa ulungele. Khumbula, into yalokhu ukuvivinya umzimba ukubuyisela ubuchopho bakho ngobuciko futhi Enempilo ubulili, akufanele ubaleke ngokobulili ngokuphelele.
Yini ongayenza
· Gcina ngokwakho, ingqondo yakho nezandla zakho, umatasa ngemisebenzi eyakhayo. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ungangena esikhathini esithile lapho ungase ulingeke khona, qala iphrojekthi ezokugcina igxile isikhathi eside ukuze ugcine imicabango yakho isifiso sakho se-PMO. Lokhu kungase kusho ukuthi unolwazi oluphuthumayo ongaxhumana nabo ngezikhathi zokudinga. Ngale ndlela ngeke ukwazi ukukhetha imisebenzi evulekile eyoholela ekuphindeni emuva ngoba ingqondo yakho isivele igxile ekwenzeni kwenzeke.
I-5. Isolation Social
Abantu bangabantu bezenhlalakahle. Yebo, ngisho nama-introverts. Angikukhulumi ngokuyihlukanisa - ukuxhumana nje okulula kanye nethuba lokuxhuma nabanye abantu. Sidinga futhi siphumelele kuso.
Kuzo zonke izizathu ezicacile, inkampani enhle ingasiza umuntu ukuba aqhubeke phambili. Uma ubungane bakho bephilile futhi bephilile, uzoba nomuntu ongakhuluma naye uma usuhle. Omunye ukugcina uphefumlelwe futhi ushukunyiswe lapho imizamo yakho inganele. Umuntu ongakusiza ngokuthula lapho ubhekene nobunzima, futhi ngubani oyohlanganyela enjabulweni yakho lapho ufinyelela imigomo yakho.
Yini ongayenza:
· Gcina ubungani bakho bephila. Ngokuvamile, izidakamizwa zihlukanisa abantu ebuhlotsheni babo obuhle futhi zakha uxhumano olusha zingase zibe nzima. Asikho isidingo sokuphoqelela ukwenza noma yini engekho uhlamvu, yebo, kodwa zama ukuphuma endaweni yakho yokududuza ngesikhathi esisodwa.
· Uma uhlola indawo yokuphola ungenzi solo. Thola i-wingman. Nakuba kulula ukushiwo ukwedlula ukwenza, kuyisetha lakho lokuphepha ngokumelene nemizwa emibi ezayo nokulahlwa.
- Ungasebenzisi isikhathi esiningi kakhulu. Lapho isizungu sishaya, uzokulingwa ukugcwalisa lokho okungenalutho, futhi cishe sekuqinisekisiwe ukuthi uzophendukela ku-vice yakho evamile. Phuma uphinde wenze abangane.
Njengengxenye yecala eyengeziwe kule ndawo, zama ukuxhuma kumalungu obulili obuhlukile ngenhloso yodwa yokuba abangane. Izikhathi eziningana uthando lomshado lungalandela ubungane. Ukwenqaba kungaba nzima, ngisho nangomuntu ongabhekene nokukhathazeka nezinye izinkinga zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo ezizalelwe umlutha we-PMO.
Isibindi sithandeka isibindi, ngakho uziqhenye wena. Uma uhluleka, yehluleka ukuzama futhi uma uwa, gxuma uthuli bese uvuka! Ilanga liphuma ekuseni ngayinye ngethuba elisha kumphumela ongcono.
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