Imithi Yezocansi Ukufinyelela Okuvulekile usanda kushicilela iphepha elihlanganiswe nguNicole Prause noJim Pfaus elinesihloko esithi “Ukubuka I-Stimuli Yobulili Okuhlotshaniswa Nokuphendula Okukhulu Kobulili, Hhayi i-Erectile Dysfunction.”[i] Lokhu kwakungeyona isifundo ku abasebenzisi be-porn bekhononda ngokungasebenzi kwe-erectile dysfunction (I-ED), futhi, naphezu kwesihloko sesifundo, azikho izimpendulo noma amaqhinga anqunyelwe elabhorethri.[Ii] Esikhundleni salokho, ababhali bakhiphe imininingwane ezifundweni ezine zangaphambili, okungekho noyedwa kuzo owaphenya u-ED njengomsebenzi wokusebenzisa ezocansi masonto onke, base “beqinisa kabusha” leyo mininingwane ukwenza izicelo mayelana ne-ED njengomsebenzi wokusebenzisa izithombe zocansi.
Empeleni, ababhali balo msebenzi owenziwe ngendlela engeyiyo “bahlinzekwa” bahlolwa ngezifundo ezine ezihlukene baba ngamaqembu amathathu: amadoda ayengasebenzisi i-porn nhlobo, amadoda ayesebenzisa i-porn .01 kuya emahoreni e-2 ngesonto, nabesilisa ababesebenzisa i-porn 2.01 noma amahora amaningi ngesonto. Ngemuva kwalokho baqhathanisa leyo migqomo nezimpendulo zemibuzo eyahlukahlukene (ehlukahlukene) eqoqwe ezihlolweni ezedlule. Ngamafuphi, izifundo ezifundweni ezingaphansi azange ziphenywe kusetshenziswa umthetho olandelanayo. Eqinisweni, kusetshenziswe izikali ezintathu zokulinganisa ezihlukile, njengoba kwaba nezikhuthazo zocansi ezintathu (amavidiyo amaminithi amathathu, amavidiyo wesibili, kanye nezithombe). Futhi yidlanzana elincane (n = 47) lamadoda eliqede uhlu lwemibuzo ngokusebenza kwe-erectile. (Kuyamangaza ukuthi izikolo zabo ze-erectile-function zikhombisile ukuthi la madoda ambalwa, i-avareji yobudala i-23, empeleni ayene-ED emnene. Ngokunikezwe ukungahambisani okuningi, noma ukuhlangana noma ukuntuleka kokuhlangana, njengoba kushiwo nguPrause noPfaus, kungasikhanyisela kakhulu ngenkinga yangempela: ukungasebenzi ngocansi okubikwe ngabasebenzisi be-porn.
Ngokweqiniso, kunezingcezu ezimbalwa zocwaningo ezingcono kakhulu ezibheka ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile phakathi kwabasebenzisi be-porn - ikakhulukazi abasebenzisi besindali be-porn (kufaka phakathi imilutha yezocansi / ye-porn). Kunye inhlolovo yakamuva yase-UK yemilutha yokuzazisa ye-350, i-26.7% ibike izingqinamba nge-dysfunction.[Iii] Olunye ucwaningo, olubheka i-24 imilutha yabesilisa ubulili, lithole ukuthi i-1 ku-6 (16.7%) ibike ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile.[Iv] Kamuva futhi olunye ucwaningo, lona obheka imilutha yabesilisa abangama-19, bathola ukuthi i-11 (58%) ibike ukuthi babenenkinga ngokuvuswa / ukuhlangana nabalingani bomhlaba wangempela kodwa hhayi nge-porn.[V] Lokhu okokugcina, iqiniso lokuthi i-ED livame ukwenzeka nabalingani bomhlaba wangempela kodwa hhayi nge-porn, lihlangana nalokhu esikubonayo lapho ekwelapheni imilutha yezocansi emikhubeni yethu yengqondo. Le nto ayibhekwa nhlobo nguPrause noPfaus.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, iphepha lePrause nePfaus alizange libike amazinga wokugcwala ekuphenduleni ukubuka i-porn. Esikhundleni salokho, kwabikwa kuvusa ekubukeni nge-porn, ngokusobala engaqondi ngokuphelele ukuthi ukuvuselelwa akuyona into efanayo nokuphendula kwe-erection. Isibonelo, ocwaningweni olubheka imilutha ye-porn ye-19, ukuskena kobuchopho kwakukhombisa lokho umlutha wobulili izifundo zazinokuningi kuvusa (ukusebenza kwengqondo) kuya ku-porn kuneqembu elilawulayo.[vi] Kodwa-ke, ukwenza ucansi nomlingani ngokusobala kwakungeyona enye indaba. Ngakho-ke, izihloko zabezindaba ezifuna ucwaningo lukaPrause noPfaus lufakazela ukuthi i-porn izothuthukisa ukusebenza kocansi inethemba elingalungile.
Kunoma ikuphi, abacwaningi baseJalimane bathole ukuthi izinkinga ezihlobene nezocansi azihambelani namahora asetshenziswe kusetshenziswa i-porn, kodwa kunalokho ngenani lezithombe / amavidiyo avulwe ngesikhathi somhlangano wokubuka.[vii] Ngamanye amagama, isidingo sezinto ezintsha, izinhlobo ezintsha, nokuguquguquka okushukumisayo ngaso sonke isikhathi kubonakala kunempilo kunamahora wokusebenzisa. Ababhali balesi simo sokufunda:
Ama-erections angahle abhekelwe ezicini ze-VSS [porn] ezingashintshi kalula ezimeni zozakwethu zangempela. Umuntu ovusa inkanuko ngokocansi angahle abhekelwe ukuvuselelwa kwenoveli, kufaka phakathi izithombe ezithize zocansi, amafilimu athize ezocansi noma izithombe ezingezona ezocansi. Kucatshangelwa ukuthi ukubona ubuningi bemicimbi yokuya ocansini ngaphakathi komongo we-VSS kungahle kuphumele ekunciphiseni impendulo kwe-erectile ngesikhathi sokuzibandakanya kwezocansi. Ngokufanayo, izinsizwa ezibuka i-VSS zilindele ukuthi ubulili ohlanganyele nabo buzokwenzeka ngezindikimba ezifanayo nalezo ezibuka ku-VSS. Ngakho-ke, lapho okulindelwe okuphezulu kungafinyelelwa, ukushukunyiswa kobudlelwano [kungahle kungakhiqizi].[viii]
Siyavuma. Kungenzeka ukuthi uma abacwaningi bafuna ukuphenya ukwanda kokungaziphathi kahle kwezocansi, kuzodingeka ukuthi bangagxili emahoreni okusebenzisa kepha kulezi zinto ezilandelayo:
- Iminyaka yokusetshenziswa
- Ukuqala ukusetshenziswa kuqala
- Izinga lokukhuphukela ezinhlotsheni ezintsha
- Amaphesenti amaseshini wokushaya indlwabu nge-and and porn
- Umsebenzi ocansini ohlanganyelwe
Kuyajabulisa futhi ukuthi leli phepha lifune inani elikhulu kangako lamadoda asekolishi asebenzisa ama-zero noma ngaphansi kwamahora we-2 we-porn ngesonto. Lezi zinombolo zihluke kakhulu ocwaningweni olukhona. Isibonelo, lapho enza ucwaningo ngencwadi yakhe, I-Porn University, UMichael Leahy usampule ngaphezu kwamakhampasi asekolishi le-100, efuna izitayela zokusetshenziswa kwe-porn, futhi uthole ukuthi yi-51% kuphela yamadoda asekolishi abuka ngaphansi kwamahora we-5 we-porn ngesonto.[ix] Ngaleso sikhathi, i-Prause ne-Pfaus bathi i-60% yezifundo zabo zokuhlola (i-81 ye-136) ibheka i-porn ngaphansi kwamahora we-2 ngesonto. Lokhu ukuphambuka okubalulekile, futhi kusenza singabaze ukutholwa okujwayelekile kwesivivinyo sedatha abayihlolile.
Ngokudumisa kwabo, uPrause noPfaus bayavuma ukuthi umsebenzi wabo unemikhawulo, bebhala ukuthi "le mininingwane ayizange ifake iziguli ezingena-hypersexual. Imiphumela kungenzeka ihunyushwe kangcono njengamadoda kuphela ajwayelekile, ukusetshenziswa kwe-VSS ejwayelekile [ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn]. ”[X] Kodwa-ke, lokhu akubavimbanga ekusebenziseni i-porn njengokuhlotshaniswa nokuphendula okuthe xaxa kwezocansi kunokungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi. Khumbula, isihloko sesifundo sabo sithi “Ukubuka I-Stimuli Yobulili Okuhlotshaniswa Ukuphendula Okukhulu Kobulili, Hhayi I-Erectile Dysfunction.” Uma lowo akuyona umyalezo abawudlulayo, kungani-ke ungakhethi isihloko esihlukile?
Akungatshazwa ukuthi ucwaningo oluqinile lwamadoda ekhononda ngokusebenza kobulili okuhlobene nobulili luyadingeka kakhulu. Inani elikhulayo lamadoda aphilile ngokwasemzimbeni, kufaka phakathi amadoda asebusweni bawo bocansi, ahlushwa yi-ED ngokuqondile nokusebenzisa kwawo izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Futhi le nkinga ayibangelwa ngokuphelele imvamisa yokushaya indlwabu ne-orgasm (ie, isidingo sesikhathi sokuphikisa ubulili). Eqinisweni, le nkinga iya ngokuya ihlangana nethi indoda uma ichitha i-70, i-80, noma i-90% yempilo yakhe yobulili ehambisa indlwabu ku-inthanethi ye-porn - izithombe ezingapheli zomuntu omnandi, othokozisayo, ohlale eshintsha abalingani kanye namava - isikhathi, cishe ukuthola umlingani wangempela womhlaba okuvusa inkanuko yezocansi kunalezi ezibonakalayo ezihamba emqondweni wakhe.
Kuze kufike lolu cwaningo, kudingeka sinakekele ukuthi singasebenzisi kabi abantu abathatha izinqumo mayelana nokuthi bangadla malini ama-porn. Ngemuva kwakho konke, bekunephuzu emlandweni wethu lapho utshwala nogwayi babungenayo ilebuli yokuxwayisa. Thina njengodokotela kanye nabaphenyi kufanele ukuthi sisakaze umyalezo wokuqwashisa, noma okungenani onembe kakhudlwana emphakathini.
* NguRobert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S noStefanie Carnes, PhD, CSAT-S
URobert Weiss LCSW, i-CSAT-S yiPhini Likamongameli oMkhulu Wezokuthuthukiswa Kwemitholampilo Izindlela Zokuziphatha Kwezempilo. Uye wenza nezinhlelo zokwelapha I-Ranch ngaphandle kweNashville, Tennessee, Izethembiso Izikhungo Zokwelashwa eMalibu, Futhi Isikhungo Sokubuyiselwa Kwezocansi eLos Angeles. Ungu umbhali yezincwadi eziningi, kufaka phakathi ezisanda kushicilelwa Kuvuliwe njalo: Ukubheja kocansi ku-Age Digital ukusebenzisana noDkt. Jennifer Schneider. Ngeminye imininingwane, ungavakashela iwebhusayithi yakhe, www.robertweissmsw.com/.
Stefanie Carnes, I-PhD, i-CSAT-S yaba umongameli we- I-International Institute of Traum and Addiction Professionals ngoNovemba, i-2010. Ungumshayeli wemishado nemishado yomndeni kanye no I-AAMFT umphathi ovunyelwe. Ukhuluma njalo emibuthanweni kazwelonke. Indawo yakhe yobuchwepheshe isebenza neziguli nemindeni elwa nezidakamizwa eziningi, ezifana nokulutha ngokobulili, ukuphazamiseka kokudla kanye nokuthembela kwamakhemikhali. Nguye umbhali wezincwadi eziningana, kufaka phakathi Ukulungisa Inhliziyo Ephukile: Umhlahlandlela Wezakwethu Zabahlukumezi Bobulili.
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[Ii] "Akunakho idatha yokuphendula ngesisu ngokobulili kufakiwe ukusekela okuhlangenwe nakho kwabantu okubikiwe." (Iphe. 7 yePrause noPfaus, 2015).
[Iii] IHholo, uP. (2012). Ukuqonda nokuphatha umlutha wobulili: Umhlahlandlela ophelele wabantu abanobudlelwano bokulutha ubulili nalabo abafuna ukuwasiza. Routledge.
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