Indlela I-Porn Ichitha Ngayo Ukuphila
U-Pamela Paul wamangala ngalokho akuthola ngenkathi ecwaninga ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zishintsha kanjani isiko lethu: wonke umuntu uyayenza.
BY: Ingxoxo kaRebecca Phillips
"I-porn ingeyabo bonke abantu," kusho umbhali uPamela Paul, onencwadi yakhe entsha, i- "Pornified," echaza indlela ukusetshenziswa kabanzi kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile okuguqula ngayo isiko nobudlelwano baseMelika. UPaul bekulindeleke ukuthi athole izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zisetshenziswa kakhulu endaweni "yabaphumeleli abangakwazanga ukuthola usuku" lapho eqala ukucwaninga le ncwadi. Esikhundleni salokho, wathola ukuthi kwakuyinsakavukela umchilo wesidwaba, kuvalwa imigoqo yezenkolo, yobuhlanga, yezemfundo, neyezenhlalo nezomnotho. Wamangala nakakhulu, kepha ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zisebenzisa kangaki ukonakalisa ubudlelwano, zandisa ukungasebenzi kwezocansi, futhi ziguqula lokho amadoda akulindele kwabesifazane. UPaul ukhulume ne-Beliefnet muva nje mayelana nokulutha kwezithombe zocansi, ukuthi i-intanethi ikuguqule kanjani ukusetshenziswa kwezithombe zocansi, nokuthi isiphi isiko lomhlaba elingafunda endleleni amaqembu enkolo abhekana ngayo nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile. UPaul futhi uzohola iqembu lezingxoxo lamasonto amathathu ukuphendula imibuzo futhi axoxe nabafundi ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zikuguqule kanjani izimpilo zabo.
Yini eyamangalisa kakhulu ngokusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile eMelika?
Ngokwethembeka, bengingacabangi ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile bekuyinkinga enkulu leyo ngaphambi kokuthi ngibhale le ncwadi. Ngaqala ukubhala le ncwadi ngaphambi kukaJanet Jackson fiasco, ngaphambi kwamateyipu aseParis Hilton. Ngangazi ukuthi zaziningi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile laphaya, kepha ngangingacabangi ukuthi noma yini ethinta impilo yami noma eyomuntu engimaziyo. Umbuzo ebengifuna ukuwubuza ngothi, "Ngazo zonke lezi zithombe ezingcolile ngaphandle, ingabe unomphumela othile?"
Kwangishaqisa ngokuphelele engikutholile. Ngangikhuluma nabantu abanezimpilo ezingcolile ezibhujiswe ngempela. Ngisho nabantu abangazange bazikhandle — ukuluthwa yizocansi okuphelele, imishado echithekayo, abantu abalahlekelwa yimisebenzi, okwenzekile — ngisho nabantu abangayanga kulokho okwedlulele bathinteke kakhulu yi-porn. Kwesinye isikhathi babebona ukuthi bayikho, kepha imvamisa babengaqapheli imiphumela yezithombe zocansi kubo.
Ungaba nesibonelo?
Kwakukhona owesifazane oyedwa owathi kimi, “Ngiyaphila kahle ne-porn. Ngicabanga ukuthi kumnandi, ngiyabuka, isoka lami liyalibuka. ” Ingxenye yehora engxoxweni yethu yocingo, ungitshela ukuthi isoka lakhe futhi akenzi ucansi olumnandi, ukuthi lesi yisikhathi sokuqala ukuthi abe nobuhlobo bobulili obubi, ukuthi ubheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngaso sonke isikhathi, nokuthi manje ucabanga ukuthola ukufakelwa amabele. Lo ngumuntu obonakale ekhanya kakhulu futhi ethanda izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kepha uma ungena ngaphansi, uthola ukuthi akunjalo neze.
Ukuphendula umbuzo wakho wasekuqaleni, ngenxa yokuthi konke kwakungishaqisa – futhi angizibheki njengomuntu ongenalwazi – kwangishaqisa iqiniso lokuthi abesilisa nabesifazane abaningi bathi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zingasiza abantu ngokocansi, ukuthi ziyabasiza bavuleke phezulu, ukuthi kumnandi futhi akunangozi, kepha ngasikhathi sinye abesilisa ababengabathandi bezithombe zocansi babika ukuthi impilo yabo yezocansi yalimala. Babenenkinga yokugcina ama-erections, babenenkinga yokuya ocansini nabafazi babo, babengeke besakwazi ukujabulela ucansi lomuntu wangempela. Lawa madoda ayezihlelele ukuthi ahlanganyele kuphela ezocansi ezithombeni zekhompyutha nezentengiso.
Ukhulume ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu othatha izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngokweqile, kodwa incwadi yakho ikhathalela izindaba zabantu abaningi abenzayo. Abantu bahamba kanjani ekubeni ngumthengi ongathengi womagazini wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kumuntu onomlutha?
Ngibhale isahluko mayelana nokuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zibathinta kanjani abesilisa futhi ngadlula ezinyathelweni zokuthi zibathinta kanjani abasebenzisi abangajwayelekile: ziyabakhathaza, bese zikhula zibe nesithakazelo esibi ngokweqile. Futhi-ke ngenza isahluko samadoda ayesephelele ngokuphelele futhi ayengumlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Futhi ngahamba ngezinyathelo ezifanayo. Kuyethusa – umsebenzisi ojwayelekile wayebonisa imiphumela efanayo, ngezinga elincane kunalowo obengumlutha.
Ngangilindele ukuthi abalandeli bezithombe zobulili ezingcolile bavikele kakhulu ngokusebenzisa kwabo izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, futhi ngezinga elithile babenjalo, kepha babehlala bejabule ngakho futhi beziqhenya ngakho. Kepha lapho ngibabuza, "Ngabe nicabanga ukuthi nizokwazi ukuba umlutha wezithombe ezingcolile?" izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zamadoda ezazingacabangi ukuthi ziyimilutha zathi, “Yebo, bengikubona lokho kwenzeka.” Ngaphambi kwe-inthanethi, angicabangi ukuthi besizoba nale nkinga.
Ngakho i-intanethi ishintshe ngempela izinto?
Kukhona i-conundrum yenkukhu neqanda yokubuza ukuthi ngabe i-intanethi idale le nkinga noma ngabe i-porn isize ukusabalalisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-intanethi. Cishe inhlanganisela. Sinezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi kanye nezithombe zocansi ze-satellite zethelevishini nezithombe zocansi ze-DVD, futhi zigcwele yonke indawo futhi zihlala zikhona. Eminyakeni eyishumi nanhlanu edlule, othile kungenzeka ukuthi wayelanda i-Playboy kaninginingi, kungenzeka ukuthi waqasha ikhasethi levidiyo – laba bantu sebengabasebenzisi bansuku zonke. Umsebenzisi ojwayelekile usuke kumuntu obuka umagazini ngezikhathi ezithile noma oqasha ividiyo uma eya ebhizinisini kumuntu manje osebenzisa isigamu sehora noma imizuzu engama-45 online.
Ingabe ikhona iphrofayli yomthengi wezithombe zocansi?
Akunakho, futhi yilokho okusabisayo, futhi. Kwakungenangqondo kimi, kepha ngacabanga, “Akuyena umuntu engimaziyo, akusiye umuntu ofunde kakhulu noma ozaziyo noma oke waba nobudlelwano obukhulu. I-Porn ingeyabaphumeleli abangakwazi ukuthola usuku. ” Futhi bengicabanga ukuthi i-porn eyenzelwe izingane – isigaba sonke intsha esidlula kuso. Eqinisweni, i-porn ingeyabo bonke abantu; wonke umuntu usebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Ngikhulume nabantu abafunde i-Ivy League, abantu ababethembisene umshado, abantu abashadile, abantu abahlukanisile, abantu ababengabazali bezingane ezincane. Yaya kuyo yonke inhlalo-mnotho, zonke izinhlanga, zonke izinhlanga, nayo yonke imigqa yezenkolo. Ngikhulume namadoda azibheka njengabantu abasontayo abazinikele futhi indoda eyodwa efundisa esikoleni sobufundisi samaJuda. Ngakhuluma nendela. Ngangikhuluma nabantu bazo zonke izinhlobo zezizinda nezinkolelo, futhi bonke basebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
Ake sibheke abantu abakholwayo abasebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Isibalo sakho ngenani lamadoda abavangeli abasebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile sikhulu ngokumangazayo. Kwenzekani lapho?
Ngicabanga ukuthi bathembeke kakhulu ngakho. Kube khona ucwaningo lwango-2000 olwenziwe yiFocus on the Family oluthola ukuthi u-18% wabantu abazibiza ngamaKrestu azelwe kabusha bayavuma ukuthi babuka izingosi ezingcolile. Umfundisi ogama lakhe linguHenry Rogers ocwaninga ngezithombe zocansi ulinganisela ukuthi ama-40 kuye kuma-70% amadoda evangeli athi alwa nezithombe zocansi. Lokho kungahle kungasho ukuthi bayayibheka, kepha kungasho ukuthi balwela ukugwema ukuyibuka.
Ngokuvamile, abantu abakholwayo, ikakhulukazi abantu abangamaKristu, bayazi ukuthi lokhu kuyinkinga. Bayibhekise kakhulu kunenkambiso yezwe. Leyo yinto okufanele iguquke. Iqiniso ukuthi akunandaba ukuthi uyayithanda yini inkolo noma uma ungowenkolo – amathuba okuthi uzobheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile cishe ayalingana.
Isiko sezwe singasifunda kanjani endleleni isiko lezenkolo elibhekene nazo izithombe zobulili ezingcolile?
Umhlaba wezwe ungafunda emaqenjini enkolo ukuthi udinga ukuxoxwa ngawo. Wonke umuntu ukhuluma ngokuthi ziningi kangakanani izithombe ezingcolile ngaphandle lapho, kepha ingabe sikhuluma ngakho ukuthi kuyinkinga? Ngabe siyakhuluma ngokuthi ibathinta kanjani abantu? Leyo yinto ngezindlela eziningi, imiphakathi yezenkolo ebisebenza kakhulu ngayo.
Ngamangala ukuthi bangaki abesifazane abasencwadini yakho babonakala nje bamukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengengxenye yobuhlobo babo.
Ngicabanga ukuthi abantu besifazane abaningi bazizwa besatshiswa yisimo samadoda amaningi asebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile – ukuthi “kuyinto yabantu” abangeke bayiqonde. Kukhona nomqondo wokuthi ukuvuleleka nokuphola mayelana nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kubhekwa njenge-sexy ne-hip. Leyo milayezo inamandla futhi isakazeka yonke indawo.
Yini edingekayo ukuze umuntu abone ukuthi ungumlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile?
Ngakhuluma nabantu cishe abangamashumi amabili nambili ababenomlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Bakhuluma ngokwenqaba okwenzeka iminyaka. Ngikhulume nabesilisa abathi abawumlutha kepha abachitha amahora amaningi ku-inthanethi, bahlala kuze kube ngehora lokuqala noma lesibili ekuseni bebuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Kufana nokuphuza ngokweqile ngezindlela eziningi – kwesinye isikhathi kudinga inhlekelele ukukuqonda, kwesinye isikhathi okuthile kubangela ukusabela okufana nehlazo noma umuzwa wecala.
Ngokulutha, ngokuvamile, izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zidlulisela ekuphileni kwabo kwangempela. Bangase baqale ukuya ezifebeni, bexhomeke emaqenjini abahlukumezayo, bahlangane nabesifazane emakamelo okuxoxa ngocansi. Kwakukhona abambalwa abathola ukuthi ukukhathalela kwabo izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile kwakuncike phansi ekuthandeni ukubuka intsha, futhi ngokushesha bathola ukuthi babheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezinganeni. Ngamadoda amaningana engangiwakhulume nawo, lokho kwakuyisiqalo sokuthola kabusha.
Ziziphi ezinye zezindlela zokutakula abantu abadlula kuzo? Ingabe kukhona okufana ne-Pornography Engaziwa?
Yebo. Kunamaqembu ezinyathelo eziyishumi nambili, afana Nezifiso Zezocansi Ezingaziwa. Akuzona ezocansi ngqo, kepha zonke zibhekene nezithombe zocansi, noma okulandelayo ngemuva, ngoba izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zivame ukungena empilweni yangempela. Futhi kunezinhlangano eziningi zezenkolo. Kukhona iPure Life Ministries, namanye amasonto adale izindawo zokwelashwa ukulutha kwezithombe zocansi.
Uveza ukuthi i-porn isiphenduke inkinga yenkulumo yamahhala, futhi abenkululeko abavumi ukugxila ezindabeni ezibandakanya ukwehliswa kwesithunzi sabesifazane.
Uma izithombe zobulili ezingcolile bezibandakanya abamnyama noma amaJuda noma abanye abancane noma iqembu, ngicabanga ukuthi abakhululekile bazophendula ngolaka. Kepha ngabesifazane futhi bekungekho mpendulo. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi impikiswano yokulwisana nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile yamukelwe ngamaqembu atholakalayo njengasabela noma angenangqondo. Ngokwesiko, kwakukhona amaqembu amabili ayelwisana nezithombe zocansi. Elinye kwakuyilungelo lezenkolo, elalisho nokuthi liyimfundo elwa nobulili nokulwa nobungqingili, ngakho-ke abakhululekile babengafuni ukuzihlanganisa nabo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abesifazane ababelwisana nezithombe zocansi bathatha indlela yezomthetho, futhi indlela abanye besifazane abaningi ababecabanga ukuthi ingamadoda aphikisayo. Ngenkathi lawo maqembu womabili ehlangana ukulwa nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngeminyaka yama-1980, iningi labakhululekile lavalwa.
Ngasikhathi sinye, inhlangano evikela izithombe zocansi yayinengxabano enamandla kakhulu eyayikhanga kwabakhululekile. Kwakumayelana neSichibiyelo Sokuqala, amalungelo omphakathi, amalungelo abantu. Kuyaxaka, ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi balwela amalungelo abantu ukuthi babuke izithombe ezingcolile, kepha abalweli amalungelo abesifazane abasesithombeni sezocansi noma amalungelo abantu abangafuni ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zihlohlwe ebusweni babo yonke indawo lapho bejika khona.
Okuthile okufana ne-movie ethi "The People vs. Larry Flynt" kungakhuthaza noma iyiphi inkululeko ukuhambisana noLarry Flynt. Iluhlanekezela kakhulu lolu daba. Sichithe isikhathi esiningi sivikela amalungelo abantu okubuka izithombe ezingcolile. Kepha asichithanga sikhathi sivikela ilungelo labantu lokukhuluma ngokumelene nezithombe zocansi.
Leli ibhizinisi elikhulu. Banabameli, banezikhangiso, banamalungelo okucela usizo. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziwumkhiqizo, futhi kunezigidigidi zamaRandi ezisengozini, futhi benze umsebenzi oncomekayo ekwakheni umyalezo othi, “Uma nivulekile, uma nithanda izwe, uma nikholelwa kuMthethosisekelo futhi uMthethosivivinywa Wamalungelo, khona-ke kufanele uvikele izithombe zobulili ezingcolile uthanda ungathandi. ”
Ubhala ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile azinayo kanjani imikhawulo efanayo neminye imithombo yezindaba enayo, njengemithetho yeCCC. Kungani kungakafakwa eminye imikhawulo?
Okokuqala, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhumbula ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ziwuhlobo lwemidiya futhi futhi ziwumkhiqizo – futhi zombili lezo zinto zilawulwa. Imidiya ilawulwa ngaso sonke isikhathi – i-FCC ilawula imidiya, kunezinto ezithile ezingakhonjiswa izingane, ama-movie athile angakhonjiswa ngezikhathi ezithile kuphela. Ukuphela kwemidiya engalawulwa yizithombe zocansi. Izithombe zocansi nazo zingumkhiqizo, njengogwayi ziwumkhiqizo, utshwala bungumkhiqizo, i-aspirin ingumkhiqizo. Zonke lezi zinto zinemigomo yokuklanywa, imithetho yokuthi ungathengisa kanjani, ungathengisela bani. Kepha uma kukhulunywa ngezithombe zocansi, sithi, "Cha, cha, cha, kufanele ube nezithombe zocansi ezingalawulwa, kungenjalo uyaphazamisa." Umbono wokuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile akufanele zilawulwe uyindida.
Kube nezinqumo eziningi ezihlanganisiwe ezithombeni ezingcolile yiNkantolo Ephakeme. Ezinye zezincazelo [zika-1972] zikaMiller vs. California zezithombe zobulili ezingcolile zisamile - bachaza izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengezinto ezingenasiko noma ubuhle noma ukubaluleka kwenhlalo, futhi bathi lolo hlobo lwezinto kufanele lulawulwe umphakathi wendawo. Kepha uyini umphakathi wasendaweni eminyakeni ye-intanethi? Kuba nzima kakhulu ukuphoqelela. Kepha uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, angicabangi ukuthi senze umzamo omkhulu.
Ingabe unethemba lokuthi incwadi yakho izoletha izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zibe yingxoxo yeningi?
Abantu kudingeka bazi ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile akuyona ukuzijabulisa okungenangozi. Badinga ukukuzwa lokho kubantu abakwazi kangcono – abantu abasebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Osikilidi bake badunyiswa odokotela futhi bakhazinyuliswa kumabhayisikobho. Ukubhema ugwayi kwakuyinto ongayifisa. Sesifikile kulelo phuzu ngezithombe zocansi. Kepha uma abantu sebazi ukuthi ukubhema ugwayi akukuhle kakhulu kuwe, ukusetshenziswa kwaqala ukwehla. Ithemba lami kungaba ukuthi lokho kuzokwenzeka ngezithombe zocansi.
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