Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zibonakala zikhona yonke indawo namuhla - ekukhangiseni, kumasayithi e-intanethi, kuzinhlelo zokusebenza zefoni, kuma-nauseum ad isikrini. Futhi lokho kufinyelela kalula kuyinselele ngendlela imibhangqwana eminingi exhumana ngayo, ngokuvamile imiphumela emibi.
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile sezandile kakhulu emasikweni aseMelika namuhla ukuthi iNhlangano Yezokuphathwa Kwezabasebenzi ilinganisela ukuthi amaphesenti angama-70 wokusetshenziswa kocansi kwenzeka emsebenzini, phakathi kwamahora we-9 ekuseni no-5 ntambama Ngokusebenzisa amafoni awo, abantu akudingeki basebenze nge-intanethi yomqashi. Kokunye ukuhlola, amaphesenti angama-52 wamadoda aneminyaka engu-18 kuya kwengu-30 athi abheka izithombe zocansi emsebenzini, kuyilapho amaphesenti angama-74 abesilisa abaneminyaka yobudala engama-31 kuya kwengama-49 bethi bazibuka emsebenzini.
Lokhu kuyingozi enkulu emsebenzini. Kodwa omunye umthelela oqondile walokhu ukubukwa kocansi kuyakhanga, njengoba odokotela nabahlengikazi baphatha inani elikhulayo lamadoda e-Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED).
Ngesinye isikhathi, uTamara Thompson (hhayi igama lakhe langempela), oneminyaka yobudala ye-30 naseSt. Louis, eMissouri, wayengacabangi ukuthi ubuhlobo bakhe be-intanethi nodokotela omuhle busoze bube yinto yangempela. Emasontweni ambalwa kamuva, wayefisa ukuthi kwakungekho.
U-Thompson usamchaza ngokuthi "uyindoda ephelele kunazo zonke engangikwazi ukuhlangana nayo." Wayefundiswa, ekhuliswe, ehlekisayo, ehlakaniphile kakhulu futhi enhle kakhulu. Le ncazelo, noma kunjalo, ayizange imlungiselele usuku lwaso lwesithathu.
"Ngemva kokumanga imizuzu embalwa nje, wangisiza ukuba ngigxilile, ngiphakamise embhedeni, bese ngilungiselela umzimba wami kuze kube yilapho ethanda. Wahlala esihlalweni futhi waqala ukushaya indlwabu. Ekuqaleni, ngangingazi ukuthi kwenzekani. Ngaqaphela kancane kancane, njengoba amehlo akhe athuthelwa ekuqhubeni kokuskena, lokho kuye, ngangingumzimba kwikhompyutha. "
Ukucwaninga kuvela emaceleni omabili okulimala / akukho ukuphikisana okulimazayo mayelana ne-porno, kodwa odokotela babona nobufakazi obungokwenyama bomsebenzisi ohlukanisiwe. Yilokho indoda noma owesifazane oyeke ukuthola okuhlangenwe nakho okuvela ekuphileni kanye nabalingani bangempela, futhi kunalokho unamathele ekuvuseni ngezinto ezingenasisekelo futhi ezingenasici ezingaguquki ezingaguquleka njalo ngentando.
"Ngicabanga ukuthi ngisebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njenge 'umnikazi wesikhala' phakathi kobudlelwane, kodwa angikwazi ukuphatha ubuhlobo nhlobo manje."
Ucwaningo oluvela kuMax Planck Institute lubonise ukuthi isikhungo senjabulo (i-striatum) yobuchopho sibonakala sancipha kubasebenzisi abanobudlova obukhulu.
Ku-1992, amaphesenti angu-5 kuphela amadoda aneminyaka yobudala engu-40 nabancane babika ubunzima bokuthola ukulungiswa. Isibalo manje sezingamaphesenti angu-33 - siboniswa kokubili izifundo zaseYurophu naseMelika. Impilo yomuntu jikelele, ukutholakala ngokweqile, nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa yizici eziyinhloko ezifaka isandla ekusebenzeni okungasebenzi kwe-erectile, kodwa ngaphandle kwalokho amadoda enempilo akhomba i-porn njengesizathu se-ED yabo.
KuJohn Vargos (hhayi igama lakhe langempela), iminyaka eyi-28, yase-Atlanta, Georgia, izinkinga ze-erectile zavela lapho eshada nowesifazane owambiza ngokuthi "umlingani womphefumulo."
"Ngangiyisebenzisa i-porn nsuku zonke iminyaka eminingi," esho. "Mina noJane sahlangana eholidini. Ngonyaka olandelayo, sabonana lapho singakwazi, futhi ngaqhubeka ngisebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile lapho sasihlukanisile. Ngacabanga ukuthi kuzophela lapho ekugcineni siphila edolobheni elifanayo futhi sathuthela ndawonye. "
UJohn wathuthela - kepha kungakapheli amasonto ambalwa, wabhekana nobunzima ekutholeni ukwakhiwa noma ukuzwa imizwa yobulili kumkakhe.
"Nganginomshado nje ukuze ngithuthukise ukuzethemba kwami emva kokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu noJane. Ngangingakaze ngibe nenkinga futhi ngizizwa ngingaphansi kokulawula. Lapho sesishadile, ngangiphuthuma ngokushesha. "
Wabuye wafuna umsebenzi weqembu ukukhulisa ukuhlonishwa kwakhe ngokocansi, futhi wachitha isikhathi esiningi e-intanethi efuna abalingani bobulili.
“Bengicabanga ukuthi ngisebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile 'njengesiphathi sikhala' phakathi kobudlelwano, kepha angikwazi ukuphatha ubudlelwano njengamanje,” kusho yena.
Umkakhe wayenabantwana ababili, ngakho umthelela womshado ongathandeki kubo uyamkhathaza.
UBarbara Winter, Ph.D., isazi sezokwelapha esinelayisensi kanye nochwepheshe wezokwelapha eziqinisekisiwe zobulili eBoca Raton, eFlorida, uphatha izinsizwa ezilwa ne-PIED, kanye nabesifazane abathintekayo, kanye nemibhangqwana.
“Imilutha eminingi ikhathazeka ngokwe-oda izithombe zayo, izishintshe, nezinhlobonhlobo ezingazenza,” kusho yena. "Yize amadoda, ikakhulukazi, ethinteka ekuluthweni yizocansi, abesifazane bakhombisa ukusabela okufanayo."
Abanye babheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengendlela ephumelelayo yokubhekana nesidingo esivamile. Izindlela zokuphila zanamuhla ezimatasa ngokweqile, ezicindezelwe kakhulu zingashiya isikhathi esincane sokwakha ubudlelwano futhi senzeke. URocco Amazzi (akulona igama lakhe langempela), oneminyaka engama-32, waseLong Beach, eNew York, usebenza imisebenzi emibili ukuze ahambisane nesondlo sezingane nezidingo zabazali asebekhulile.
“Ngivula ikhompyutha [futhi] angikaze ngibhekane nemizwa yowesifazane. Ngiyavuma ukuthi angisazi ukuthi kanjani manje. Impilo namuhla. ”
“Ngicabanga ngesikhathi esithathayo ukwazi umuntu… ngiyakweqa konke, ngoba ngiyakwazi ukuvula ikhompyutha futhi ngikwenze ngemizuzu eyi-10 ngobunzima obuncane kakhulu. Angikaze ngibhekane nemizwa yowesifazane. Ngiyavuma ukuthi angisazi kanjani. Kuyimpilo namuhla. Kukuyo yonke indawo. Akekho ocabanga ukuthi kufanele kwehluke. ”
UKathy noMatt Karsten (hhayi amagama abo angempela) baseKansas City, eMissouri, bathi iPIED ingenye yezimpi eziningi abaye babhekana nazo njengezithandani. Ngesikhathi ethunyelwa e-Afghanistan, uMatt waqala ukuthembela ezithombeni ezingcolile. Uyichaze njenge "itholakala kalula kangangoba bekunzima ukuyigwema."
UKathy Karsten waqala ukungabaza ngokwakhe ngokocansi ngemuva kokuqaphela ukuthi umyeni wakhe wasebenzisa amakhulu ezithombe zabesifazane, kuhlanganise nabangani, ngokuvusa, kodwa ukuthi wayenandaba nesithakazelo sakhe sobulili.
"Bekubuhlungu kakhulu ukuphushelwa kude njalo nokwaliwa," utshele iLifeZette. “Ngangithukuthele. Ngangikhala nsuku zonke. Ngaziqhelelanisa nabanye abantu, ngoba nganginomuzwa wokuthi ngeke baqonde. Ngilahlekelwe yimina, kodwa ukuzihlonipha kwakhe nokuziqhenya kwakhe kwaphela futhi naye wazilahla. ”
Lezi zithandani zehlukana zaqala uhambo olwahlukene lokuzithola kabusha. “Kucishe kwalimaza ubudlelwano bethu, ngoba bekungasivumeli ukuba sixhumane njengezithandani ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo,” kuchaza yena.
"Kwadala ukungabaza okuningi kanye nombono omubi ngami," kusho uMat Karsten. “Angikwazanga ukufeza i-orgasm ngaphandle kwe-porn. Ngangingazi ukuthi yini ngempela ukusondelana. ”
Namuhla, lo mbhangqwana wachaza ukuthi bazizwa besondele kunanini ngaphambili. Baqale amabhulogi amaningi ukusiza eminye imibhangqwana futhi bafuna ukunciphisa ukuxhumana phakathi kwemibhangqwana ngale nkinga.
USandy Iyler waseWashington, DC, wayengenayo inhlanhla ebudlelwaneni bakhe. Umshado wakhe wokuqala waphela ngoba umlutha wezocansi womyeni wakhe wakhula waba yi-PIED futhi wakhathazeka ngokuphelele. Ngocwaningo lwakhe nokusebenza nomelaphi, waqonda ubunzima bokuba umlutha, kufaka phakathi ukukhishwa kwamakhemikhali umyeni wakhe ayebhekene nakho, yize engakwazanga ukushintsha indlela yokuziphatha ukuze akhe kabusha ukwethembana phakathi kwabo.
Namuhla umshado wesibili ka-Iyler uhlukile kakhulu.
“Sijabule sobabili ukuzama izinto ezintsha. Kepha ngingasho ukuthi umehluko omkhulu ngokusondelana ngokomzwelo umehluko omkhulu kakhulu. Nginokuphila okusondelene okunokwethembeka nokungagunci manje. ”
U-Pat Barone ungumqeqeshi oqeqeshiwe owaziwayo futhi umbhali we-Own Every Bite! Uhlelo lwe-bodycentric re-education lokudla okucabangayo nokunethezeka, olusiza amaklayenti ukuphulukisa izidakamizwa zokudla.
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