Naphezu kwazo zonke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, singase sithuthelele ekuvuseleleni othandweni. Muva nje ngibambene nomngane omangalisayo onenkampani engiyithanda ngoba unokwethembeka kakhulu. Njengesijwayelekile, ngaphezu kweziphuzo ezimbalwa, sasihleka, sixoxa kwezombangazwe bese sithuthela ezindabeni ezijulile njengendlela wena ngempela?
Impendulo, ngokujabulisayo, besizizwa sijabule sobabili, sanelisekile futhi sinokubonga, okuyinto ebingakaze yenzeke njalo. Ngomngane wami, kwakukhona isikhathi esingajabulisi eminyakeni edlule lapho ezithola engumlutha wezocansi.
E-Australia, eyodwa kumakhasi amane wewebhu ihlobene nokucansi.
Ngisho nalapho ngikhumbula lezo zikhathi, ushintsho ebusweni bomlingani wami ovame ukubonakala lwalubonakala futhi lubukeka kahle. Kodwa wayefuna ukukhuluma ngayo ngoba yayingeyangempela, yayisabeka, yonakalisa impilo yakhe futhi ngokwengxenye, umshado.
"Angikwazi ukukutshela ukuthi kwakunjani ukungena emnyango usuku nosuku bese nginovalo lokwazi ukuthi kungakapheli mizuzu mingaki ngabe ngihleli phambi kwekhompyutha yami ngiphethe iphenti emaqakaleni," kuchaza yena. wayethembekile).
"Bekululaza kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi yize ngingahle ngibheke okuthathwa njengezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezivamile kulezi zinsuku - okungukuthi, ake sibhekane nakho, ngokweqile futhi akunangqondo - iziqubu zizovela esikrinini sami zingilinge ukuthi ngibuke okuthile okumnyama nokuningi kwehlisa isithunzi futhi ngangizichofoza kuzo ngenxa yelukuluku elonakele.
“Angikwazi ukuchaza ukuthi ngangizizwa kanjani ngibuka amantombazane iminyaka yabo engingaqiniseki ukuthi ahlaziswa ngayo anikelwe ngezinto ezingaphili, yimigodi nje yokugcwaliswa nokungcoliswa. Ngangizizonda. Uma ngibheka emuva ngicabanga ukuthi ezingeni lokungazi kahle ngangifuna ukubona umuntu ephathwa njengongelutho futhi enyanyekayo njengoba ngangizizwa. Kubuhlungu futhi kugula lokho? ”
Ngenkathi ngangingakwazi ukungavumelani nomngane wami, ngenza ngezinga elithile, ngaqonda futhi ngazwelana. Yize ngingeke ngiphikise ukuvinjelwa noma ukuphika ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zinendawo (yize incane kakhulu) emphakathini, namuhla kuyinkinga yangempela futhi ekhathaza kakhulu edala ukulimala okungaziwa kwabobulili bobabili.
E-Australia, eyodwa kumakhasi amane wewebhu ahlobene nokuziphatha kocansi futhi iningi lababukeli bezithombe ezingcolile (noma yikuphi phakathi kwe-75 ne-90 ngamaphesenti) kukhona abesilisa, mayelana ne-7-10 ngamaphesenti adlwengulwa ngokocansi.
Yize okuningi sekubhaliwe futhi kwaphikiswana ngakho mayelana ne-porn ngokombono wabesifazane, muva nje ngithathekile, ngakhanyiselwa, kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke ngijabule kakhulu ukuzwa amadoda ekhuluma futhi evuma ukuthi awakuthandi okwenziwa yizocansi ebudlelwaneni babo (noma ukungabi bikho them), ukuzethemba kwabo kanye nomuzwa wobuntu.
Omunye walaba balisa ngusomahlaya waseBrithani nongumuntu ozivumelayo ukuthi ungumlutha wezocansi uRussell Brand, okuthe ngesonto eledlule wafaka ibhulogi yamavidiyo kwi-website yakhe ethi russellbrand.com. “Izithombe ezingcolile akuyona into engiyithandayo. Kuyinto engingakwazanga ukuzibophezela kuyo isikhathi eside hhayi bheka futhi, kuthinte ikhono lami lokuxhumana nabantu besifazane, ukuxhumana nami, ubulili bami, ingokomoya lami, ”kuvuma yena.
“Isimo sethu sengqondo ngocansi siye sahlanekezelwa futhi sahlanekezelwa futhi sesisusile emsebenzini waso wangempela njengesibonakaliso sothando kanye nokuzala. Uma uhlala uhlaselwa amagagasi amakhulu okungcola, kunzima kakhulu ukuhlala uxhumekile eqinisweni. ”
Kule vidiyo ubiza umbiko kusuka ku I-Journal ye-Health Adolescent emiphumeleni yokuchayeka isikhathi eside kwi-porn - umbono owenziwehaba wecansi emphakathini; ukunciphisa ukuthembana phakathi kwezithandani ezisondelene; ukulahlwa kwethemba lokuthi umuntu uzobe eyedwa umfazi enza ucansi futhi; ukuziphatha okuxekethile inkolelo isimo semvelo.
Ukhuluma ngokuthi i-softcore porn ikuphi lapho ihamba khona futhi igaya umculo omfisha kubantu besifazane abawela ama-ice-creams ekukhangiseni, nokuthi lokhu kuholela kanjani emazweni we-voyeurism, impectification, inkolelo yokuthi abesifazane baqoqana njengezintambo kanye nokwesaba ukusondelana kwangempela.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelbourne nomlobi uMeredith Fuller uyavumelana noBrand kodwa, njengami, ubona inhlansi yokukhanya ebumnyameni. Phakathi kwalabo abafuna usizo lwakhe lokonga imishado esekhulile noma ebhekwe njenge "isidina" ngemuva kokuthonywa kakhulu yi-porn, namantombazane amancane azizwa "engelutho futhi emubi" ngenxa yamasoka ebaqhathanisa, futhi ekhetha, abesifazane abangaphili nabathobelayo ababona esikrinini , futhi ubona amadoda - futhi amaningi awo - alangazelela ukuxhumana okwangempela ngokomzwelo.
"Laba bantu ngokuvamile baseminyakeni yabo yokuqala yama-30 futhi bayakhanyiselwa," kuchaza uFuller. “Bafuna okungaphezu kwesithombe socansi noma ucingo oluphangwe ngokuchofoza uhlelo lokusebenza. La madoda afuna ukuthinta nobumnene, ukuzibophezela nokuxhumana. Bafuna ukuthandana nowesifazane futhi bamhloniphe.
“Kodwa kubukeka sengathi baningi abesifazane ababekelwe ukuthi bakholwe ukuthi lawa madoda awekho. Kufana nokuthi badele futhi bathenge imiyalezo ye-porn, becabanga ukuthi kufanele babe nezinwele mahhala i-pudendum futhi benze ucansi ngezindlela abangakhululeka ngazo ukwamukelwa. Eziningi zezinsizwa engizibonayo ezifuna ukuxhumana kwangempela nazo ziyakhula izintshebe futhi ngikholwa ukuthi kuyindlela yokuphendula abesifazane abangenazinwele. Kufana nokuthi bayasho, kulungile ukuba nemvelo. ”
U-Fuller uthi esinye isibonakaliso esithemba ukuthi ubulili buya endaweni elinganiselayo yilabo abathintekayo abafana ne-Lady Gaga basuka ekugxileni emfanekisweni wesithombe kunento elula futhi ethandana kakhulu.
"Ngiyabona ukuthi abadlali abanjengaye bahola kanjani ekuvuseleleni kwezothando," kusho uFuller. "Sesingene shi emseleni wokuya ocansini ayikho enye indawo esingaya kuyo ngaphandle kokubuyela esimweni esimnene, esimangazayo, esixakayo nesicashile."
UBrand unxusa abesilisa ukuthi "babhekane nokuthanda kwethu ngokubheka abesifazane kunokuxhumana nabo" futhi ufuna sonke sibuze, "Singabuqonda kanjani ubulili bethu? Singayiveza kanjani ngothando ngokuvumelana nezimiso ezikhona ukukhombisa ukuzala nothando lwezinkanuko phakathi kwabantu abadala abavumayo? ”
Mhlawumbe isikhundla sikaBrand sifingqiwe ngokucaphuna kumfundisi asho kule vidiyo, "i-porn akuyona inkinga ngoba ikhombisa kakhulu, kepha ikhombisa okuncane kakhulu".
Ngithi, ulethe ekukhanyeni nasemthunzini. Umngane wami wenza, futhi manje akagcini nje ngokuba nobuhlobo obunothando nomlingani wakhe omusha, yena uthanda yena naye, naye.
Ubudala Umlobi wendabuko uWendy Squires ungumlobi wezindaba, umhleli nomlobi. Twitter: @Wendy_Squires
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