Ocwaningweni olukhethekile, sibuze isizwe ukuthi yini eziyibukelayo online - nokuthi ithinta kanjani impilo yazo yezocansi. Imiphumela izokumangaza
Ngabe izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-intanethi zingakanani? Ngabe unamuphi umphumela ebudlelwaneni bethu? Futhi uhluka kanjani umlando wokusesha we-baby-boomer kusuka kunkulungwane yeminyaka? Ngokwenhlolovo yethu, cishe izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zethu (58%) zibuka i-porn. Sababuza ukuthi babukele ini, isikhathi esingakanani futhi kangaki, futhi nobani. Lapha, i-India Knight iveza imiphumela futhi ibuza ukuthi kusho ukuthini ezimpilweni zethu zocansi.
Ngizizwa ngiphikisana nge-porn, njengoba ngikhululekile kakhulu kunalokho engifuna ukuba yikho. Isifiso sami bengilokhu ngicabanga ukuthi awukwazi ukuqagela ngamaphoyisa, uphile futhi uphile, inqobo nje uma kunemvume futhi kungalimali muntu - kepha angazi ukuthi yini okufanele yenziwe yilokhu manje ukuthi abesifazane balimale kuyinto entsha esejwayelekile . Mina Ngishaqekile yilokho abesifazane abasebasha abakubheka njengento ejwayelekile yokwenza ucansi, ikakhulukazi ngokusobala (uma mhlawumbe benqabile) ukwamukela izinto ezibonakala njengezinkulumo zokungaziphathi kahle, okuvame ukuba buhlungu futhi kwesinye isikhathi okunobudlova: ubulili obulingana nesiqhwaga ebusweni.
Kuyamangaza ukuthi imbangela yobuhlungu noma ukuhlazeka iphunyukile kwi-BDSM yayo eyi-niche (igama elisho isigqila ngokugqilazwa nokuyalwa, ukubuswa kanye nokuzithoba, usizi nokukhohlisa) manje sekujwayelekile. Ubuningi bokushaya ngempama, ukujaha, i-anal - akunankinga, ukukhala ngebhonasi, ake ngikuqhafaze ocingweni lami ukungezelela ubumnandi. Lokhu kuyinto enkulu: kumasayithi we-porn, akusifanelekeli isigaba sawo. Kungokobulili nje. Idrama yentsha ye-HBO eyashaywa i-Euphoria, eqale eSky Atlantic ngoLwesibili, ihlola izimpilo zentsha ethengisa kabi ezocansi nezidakamizwa eMelika ephakathi. Umbukiso unikeza umbono we-apocalyptic wesizukulwane sokuqala owazalwa ngekhulu le-21st njengoba besondela ebudaleni. Esiqeshini sokuqala, umfana nentombazane bakhuphukela phezulu emcimbini ukuze baqabuleke, kuphela lapho umfana eyeka i-jean yakhe ngokushesha futhi aqale ukumjaha ngobudlova.
I-Rough porn iyintandokazi ye-gen Z
Lokhu kusondele ekubikeni kunokunganekwane. Njengoba ucwaningo lwethu lukhombisa, kwa-gen Z (labo asebekhulile be-22 nangaphansi), "ucansi olubi" - ukudonsa izinwele, ukuluma, ukushaya, ukushaya kanye nobunye ubutha obunobudlova - kwaba isigaba sesibili esaziwa kakhulu se-porn. Cishe isigamu (i-42%) salabo abaneminyaka engaphansi kwe-23 sathi kwakuyinto ababekujabulela kakhulu ukuyibuka. Asikho esinye isizukulwane esisondele: ngokuqhathaniswa, ama-29% ezinkulungwane zeminyaka (i-23- kuya kwabangu-38 abaneminyaka yobudala), ama-17% we-gen X (39- kuya kwabangu-54 abaneminyaka yobudala) kanye ne-6% yabantwana abancane (ama-55 asebekhulile) -73) ikhethe lona. Lapho kuziwa kwi-BDSM, i-gen Z ibuye yahola indlela, nge-17% ukuyikhetha, kuqhathaniswa nengaphansi kwe-10% yabo bonke abanye abantu.
Futhi akugcini nje esikrinini: I-12% yabantu abasebenza nge-gen Z-ers bathi bathola yonke imfundo yabo yezocansi kusuka ku-porn bese kuthi enye ikota ithi i-inthanethi ye-inthanethi yenziwe "iningi" lolwazi lwabo. Ungafunga ukuthi abathengi bayo bayaqonda ukuthi i-porn akuyona into yangempela, kepha cishe ingxenye eyodwa kwezintathu yabantu bayithatha njenge "efanayo" (7%) noma "ngandlela thile" (24%) ukuya ocansini wangempela. Shono abesifazane abasha beya ocansini olubi, oludala ukukhathazeka. Nakhu into, hhayi okungajwayelekile, okwenzeke kamuva nje endodakazini eneminyaka eyi-14. Ubehamba ngosuku ayejabule ngalo. Ngasekupheleni, kwavela ukuthi umfana omuhle, onenhlonipho ayekade enesikhathi esihle naye wayelindele ukuya ocansini. I-anal sex, ukuthi icace. Intombazane, intombi, yenqabile, yize kungenjalo ngaphandle kokubuza ngokuxakeka ukuthi ngabe lokhu kumenza yini abe mubi ngokungafanele. Ukwazile ukuxoxa ngayo nonina lapho efika ekhaya, futhi inohlobo lukamama oye watshela izingane zakhe ngomehluko phakathi kobulili bangempela ne-intanethi. Akuwona wonke umuntu onenhlanhla enkulu - futhi akuyona yonke ingane elalelayo. Ngaphandle kwalokho, lokhu kuvamile. Intsha ye-Z-ers kungenzeka iqale ukubukela i-porn phakathi kweminyaka ye-15 ne-17, futhi ithi manje bayayibukela “izinsuku eziningi”. Ngokuphikisana, iningi lama-boomers baby alizange liqale ukubuka izithombe zocansi eziku-inthanethi kuze kube yilapho selineminyaka engamashumi amathathu noma kamuva, futhi manje lithi likubukele kanye ngesonto.
I-porn, isithombe somzimba nobudlelwano
Akuyona into ejwayelekile ukuba yintombi, intokazi eneminyaka engu-14 eneminyaka engu-4 ubudala futhi ulindelwe ukuthi uzenze ucansi lwe-anal, noma ngabe Teen Vogue muva nje esanda kwenza indatshana ende ebizwa nge- "Anal sex: yini okudingeka uyazi". Lokhu bekuhambisana nomdwebo webhayoloji - i-urethra, i-anus, isitho sangasese nokunye - okungahlangananga i-clitoris. Uthi: “I-anus iqinile, futhi umuzwa wokuba nokuthile endaweni yakho eyi-rectal yehlukile. Umuzwa wokuba nokuthile esithweni sakho sangasese sowesifazane uhlukile futhi, kodwa mhlawumbe ama-vaginas - yini? Ukuphola? Kumnandi kancane? Isikwele esincanyana, ngisho nakubafundi bakamagazini wentsha abangakafiki isikhathi sokuthomba?
Njengomzali wentombazane eyeve eshumini elinambili, ngizwe izindaba eziningi ezixakile mayelana nokulindelwa kwabantu abasha ngocansi. Abanye bafaka amantombazane ahlukunyeziwe. Abanye bafaka abafana abangaqondi ukuthi yini inkinga ngokusekela lokho abakulindele ku-porn - isibonisi, isibonelo, asifaki - noma ngokubuza izithombe ezisondele kakhulu. Abanye bafaka abafana namantombazane abanemizwa ekhathazayo yokungafaneleki ngemizimba yabo ngenxa yokubuka i-porn. Futhi akuyona abantu abasha kuphela: cishe ikota (i-23%) yabaphenduli bethu kuwo wonke amaqembu yobudala bazizwa sengathi ukusetshenziswa kwabo kocansi “kusithinte kabi” isithombe somzimba wabo futhi kwabenza bakhathazeka ngokuthi abalingani bezocansi bazobabona kanjani. Lokhu bekuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane. Omunye uthe ama-video ahlala “amancanyana, amantombazane amahle angenawo namamaki okulala noma amabala emzimbeni”, kanti abanye bebebhala i-porn ebenza bangazethembi ngezinwele zabo zomzimba nabesilisa.
Ezinye izindaba ezenzeka kulokhu ziyahlekisa: umngani ubukele iTango lokugcina eParis - ifilimu elake lavinjelwa le-1972 lapho uMarlon Brando oneminyaka ephakathi ubudala adlwengula uMaria Schneider osemncane, esebenzisa ibhotela njenge-lubricant - lapho eseleminyaka yobudala. / izingane zokuqala zamashumi amabili zangena. Zazinengekile, kepha kuphela ngabalingiswa abanezinwele ezigcwele ze-pubic. Shono-ke: imvume ayisebenzi ku-porn. Ngokungafani nentsha yangaphambi kwe-intanethi ekhule kuphela ngamafilimu ama-erotic kanye nama-top-shelf mags we-titillation, u-gen Z abe ne-wi-fi kanye nama-Smartphones impilo yabo yonke (i-67% yawo wonke amathrafikhi aye e-PornHub e-UK manje nge-a i-smartphone).
Umngane muva nje ungitshele ngendodana yakhe ephumelela kakhulu, ebukeka kahle i-19, eneminyaka engu-7, futhi engakwazi ukukwenza ngamantombazane “ajwayelekile” ngoba ubuka kakhulu ezocansi ezingokoqobo nezinto ezingokoqobo njalo ezidumazayo. Uyalulama kumlutha we-porn, futhi futhi usekude yedwa. Imiphumela yethu iphinde ikhanyise ikhono le-porn lokushintsha ukunambitheka kocansi, abasebenzisi bakhona badinwe ngokushesha kwezinto "ezijwayelekile" futhi bafune njalo okuqukethwe okuqinile, okuweqayo. Cishe ingxenye yesithathu (i-29%) ithe ukunambitheka kwabo sekunciphisiwe, futhi inani elifanayo (i-31%) likuthole kunzima ngokwengeziwe ukuthola i-porn evikela izifiso zabo. "Kuba nzima ukuthola izinto ezanelisa engikukhethayo," kusho owiphendulile wesilisa u-X.
Ngeshwa, okuhle ngomkhakha we-porn kubi kwezothando. Ocwaningweni lwethu, i-23% ithe ukusetshenziswa kwazo kwe-porn kube nomthelela omubi ebudlelwaneni, kanti i-17% ikuthola kunzima ngokwengeziwe ukuvuswa ngabalingani bempilo yangempela. “I-porn ingishiyile angifuni nhlobo ubulili bendabuko,” kusho omunye ophendulayo. Omunye wengeze wathi, "Kungenza ngizame ukucindezela imingcele yalokho okufunwa yintombi yami." Abanye babeqinisile: bathola ukuthi “akunakwenzeka ukuvuthisa ngaphandle kocansi”.
Lapho ngisemncane, ngangizicabanga ngami njenge-pro-porn, ngendlela engacacile, nenenkululeko. Ngisakhula ngangicabanga ukuthi abesifazane besifazane abanjengo-Andrea Dworkin babonakele futhi benamahloni, behlala bexoxa ngokungazwisiseki nokuthi zonke lezo zithombe zocansi bezingumkhosi wokudlwengula nokulimaza abesifazane, njengezwi elizwakele likaDoom; uma ubheka emuva, ubukeka njengomporofidi.
* Inhlolovo imele inani labantu abaningi base-UK. Kubaphenduli be-5,690, i-3,415 (58%) bathi babuka izithombe zocansi ze-Intanethi. Imiphumela ithathwa esethulweni se-3,415
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