Wayeke wabona i-movie lapho intombazanyana yayithunjiwe khona. Wayedidekile ukuthi le movie imenza azizwe kanjani. Wahamba wayofuna lowo muzwa. "Kwakuwumuzwa ojulile futhi ngangifuna ukuthola okwengeziwe ngalokho," etshela Hack.
Ekhulisiwe ku-intanethi, uthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zazilula ukuthola.
Lokhu kwakungukuqala komlutha wezithombe zocansi ozichaze wena uqobo osuke waduna impilo engaphezu kukahhafu kaRebecca futhi asazama ukukunyakazisa eminyakeni eyi-11 kamuva.
Kuyisibonelo esedlulele sendlela yokubuka izithombe eziningi ezingcolile - njenganoma yimuphi omunye umsebenzi ophindwayo - ongashintsha ubuchopho.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukusetshenziswa kocansi kuyanda. Kulinganiselwa ngokulinganiselwa ukuthi izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zamadoda ase-Australia futhi owesifazane wesihlanu wabesifazane base-Australia baye babheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. I-Australia ihlanganisa isishiyagalombili emhlabeni jikelele ekusetshenzisweni komuntu ngamunye I-Hub Hub.
Njengengxenye yalokho okuzayo Ama-Australia ku-Porn I-TV ekhethekile, Hack wakhuluma nama-psychologists, abeluleki nalabo ababhekene nezidakamizwa ezizichazayo ezizichazayo.
Zihlanganisa uMat, ozoshaya indlwabu kuze kube yilapho ephumula ngesikhathi sokungaboni, ngaphambi kokujoyina iqembu lokuxhaswa nge-inthanethi lapho ahlangana khona nezinye izilonda ezingcolile.
“Nganginomuzwa wokuthi angikwazi ukuyeka”
I-porn yokuqala uRebecca ayibukayo kwakuyi "vanilla porn, ukuthandana ngokobulili obuhlukile, ukugaya izinto zokugaya". Ubekwenza ngasese. Abazali bakhe babengazi.
"Ngangizizwa nginecala kakhulu ngakho, futhi nganginamahloni amaningi engangizizwa ngawo ngokubuka - ngathi, kwakungalungile, noma kungavunyelwe." Ngenkathi ukuthomba kushaya futhi eqala ukuya ocansini wasuka ezikhathini ze-porn zamasonto onke wayibuka kaningi ngosuku.
“Nganginomuzwa wokuthi angikwazi ukuyeka, ngaba nomuzwa wokuthi angikwazi ukuyicisha, noma ngangingeke nje ngiyinqume empilweni yami,” kusho yena.
Izithombe ze-vanilla zobuntwana bakhe zathathwa esikhundleni se-porn-hardcore.
Wayeneminyaka engu-16 futhi esolwa ngokocansi. Ucele abalingani bakhe ukuthi bazame izinto azibonile esikrinini.
“Ngangizwakalisa iqiniso lokuthi ngangifuna ukuzama izinto engangizibone ezithombeni zobulili ezingcolile njengokuminyaniswa, nobulili obubi - izinto ezinodlame kanjalo.
"Ozakwethu bebehlala njalo bezimisele ngokungenzela lokho."
Wabuye wahlukunyezwa ngokocansi "izikhathi eziningana" ebudlelwaneni bakhe kodwa wazizwa ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi kwakujwayelekile ngenxa yalokho ayekubonile.
"Uma ubheka emuva manje, ingane eneminyaka engu-16 bekungafanele ngabe iya ocansini olunodlame ngempela lapho bekungekho khona inhlonipho enkulu noma uthando oluthintekayo," esho etshela yena. Hack.
“Ingena engqondweni yakho”
Ngokusho kwengqondo kwengqondo uDkt. Russell Pratt, lapho abantu bebuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, i-dopamine ikhishwa kanye neprotheyini okuthiwa i-DeltaFosB.
Uthi i-DeltaFosB iqoqa nge-neurons ethile lapho abantu beziphatha ngendlela evamile yokulutha.
Lapho amaprotheni eqoqeka aze afike eqophelweni elithile, kukhona "ukushintsha kofuzo" okusho ukuthi noma abantu beyeka ukuzibandakanya ekuluthweni, ubuchopho babo buhlala bushintshiwe.
"Iningi labantu liphatha ukusetshenziswa kwabo kocansi kahle kahle," etshela Hack.
Kodwa kulabo ababuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njalo njalo, uDkt Pratt uthi kukhona ubufakazi obukhulayo bokuthi kungashintsha ubuchopho bakho kanye nomthelela endleleni ojabulela ngayo ucansi.
"Izithombe ezingcolile zobulili zinamandla okulutha ngendlela efanayo nokuthi abanye abantu baba imilutha yotshwala noma yezidakamizwa."
"Esikubonayo emilutha… noma ngabe bengasazibukeli izithombe ezingcolile, ushintsho ebuchosheni luyaqhubeka."
Ukuguqula ubuchopho bakho ngokusebenzisa umsebenzi ophindaphindiwe ngokuqinisekile akukhawulelwe ku-porn.
Kodwa encwadini Ubuchopho Obushintshayo, udokotela wezifo zengqondo uNorman Doidge uthi "kwanelisa konke okudingekayo ekushintsheni kwe-neuroplastic".
Uyabhala ukuthi amanye amaklayenti akhe abasebenzisa i-porn njalo futhi abika ngokucophelela ukuthi kunzima ukuvuswa ngabalingani babo. Abanye abacwaningi babika ukuhlobana phakathi kokusetshenziswa kocansi nokuziphatha okulimazayo kobulili.
Nokho, hhayi ukuvumelana emphakathini wesayensi maqondana nokuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi okucindezelayo 'kungumlutha' yini.
Umeluleki we-Lifeline uDavid Hollier, onguchwepheshe wokwelapha abantu abanenkinga yokusebenzisa izithombe zabo zobulili ezingcolile, uthi ijaji liyazi ukuthi ingabe umthelela ogcwele we-intanethi yethu yokusebenzisa i-intanethi kuyoba.
“Sinesilingo esiqhubekayo njengamanje, sinesizukulwane sokuqala esakhula ne-porn ye-inthanethi futhi lokhu kuyinto entsha sha.
"Asazi nhlobo ukuthi lokho kuzokwenzani ngobuchopho babo - ukuthi lokho kuzodlala kanjani ngokobulili babo obuvuthiwe, ukuthanda kwabo - lokho nje kuyinto esingayazi okwamanje."
I-Porn ingase ibe umlutha uma uke wabhekana nokuhlukumezeka futhi uzizwa uhlukanisiwe.
KwaMat, lokhu kwenzeka lapho ehlala yedwa ngemva kokuhlukana.
Ubelokhu ebuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kusukela esanda kweva eshumini nambili - eqala ngokunyonyoba ezikhungweni zemagazini yabantu abadala, abese ebheka i-inthanethi lapho exhuma khona. Wayefaka ikhompyutha yomndeni entanjeni yocingo bese elinda ukuthi izithombe zilayishe.
"Ukulinda… kungenzeka kunginqande kancane, ngenhlanhla," esho Hack.
“Ngicabanga ukuthi ukuxhumana phakathi kwejubane le-Intanethi nokutholakala kanye nokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuyahambisana.
“Ngicabanga ukuthi ngesikhathi iphuma esandleni kwaba lapho ngangihlala ngedwa eSouth Korea; i-Internet eshesha kunazo zonke emhlabeni, futhi ngaleso sikhathi ngangifana nayo, kwakuhlanya. ”
Ubezitshela ukuthi uzoyeka. Kepha-ke kuzoba nezwi elimnxusa ukuthi abuyele kokunye.
“Kukhona izwi, kukhona izwi ekhanda lami elithi nje 'kwenze, c'mon'… lo mcabango osalibele… uhlasela ingqondo yakho ngendlela ethile.”
"Ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kungaba yinselele ngempela,"
Ngokomeluleki we-Lifeline uDavid Hollier, i-porn ikhuluma ngokungahambi kahle, futhi isihluthulelo sokuphula umlutha wezocansi senza lokho umuntu obalekela khona.
"Uma singaqala ukukuqonda lokho… kuba lula kakhulu ngomsebenzisi we-porn ukuthi aqale ukwethula eminye imisebenzi futhi aqale ukubona ukuthi bane-ejensi, bangazikhethela ukuthi bayayisebenzisa yini i-porn noma cha.
"Kodwa kwabanye abantu kuya ngohlobo lokuhlukumezeka noma ukujula kobuhlungu ababuvika okungaba yinselelo enkulu ukubathola… ukumisa indlela ebiyimpumelelo kakhulu yokuqeda izinhlungu," utshele Hack.
Omunye wabangane bakaMat wambeka ku- I-Reddit ukwesekwa iqembu NoFap, lapho akwazi khona ukufunda okwenzeka kwabanye abantu bokuzama ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
Akayekile ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kodwa uthi ukwazile ukugawula ngokubona ukuthi kungani i-porn iyinkinga kuye.
“Ngicabanga ukuthi ngibuka izithombe ezingcolile, kwesinye isikhathi ngoba nginesizungu.
"Ngicabanga ukuthi kunezinga lokukhathazeka kule minyaka emibili edlule engingakaze ngizizwe ngaphambili futhi ngicabanga ukuthi ngandlela thile kubangelwa ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nezikhungo zemiklomelo ebuchosheni bami zikhalela okuthile abakujwayele ngempela."
Uthi kuyasiza ukuzigcina umatasa - funa umsebenzi noma ushayele umngani - lapho isifiso sihlasela.
Ufuna ukumisa konke.
"Ngicabanga ukuthi ngingacabanga ngekusasa ngaphandle kwe-porn," esho.
UDkt Pratt uthi umphakathi we-NoFap ungasiza kakhulu abantu abazizwa befuna ukuyeka ukushaya indlwabu ku-porn bonke ndawonye ukuze bathole ukuziphatha kwabo.
Uphinde uncoma ukufuna usizo lobuchwepheshe kubantu abasebenzisa i-pornography ekubangela izinkinga kwezinye izingxenye zokuphila kwabo.
KuRebecca, usizo lochwepheshe lusho ukuthi manje uyaqaphela umthelela we-porn kuye.
Namanje usazabalaza - kunzima ukuthi avuswe ngaphandle kwezithombe ezinodlame - kepha uthi ubheke ikusasa "ngaphandle kocansi, ngaphandle kocansi olubi".
"Ngingathanda nje ukuba nobudlelwano obuhloniphayo, obulinganayo… kanye nempilo lapho ngizizwa kahle ngami kanye nobulili bami futhi ngingahlanganyela ocansini ngendlela enenhlonipho futhi enempilo."
Ama-Australia ku-Porn noTom Tilley bahamba ngoMsombuluko uDisemba 7 ku-ABC 2 ku-9: 30 pm.
Uma lokhu kukulethela izingqinamba, kuhlale kukhona umuntu ongakhuluma naye kuLifeline ku-13 11 14. Noma uma ungazizwa ufuna ukubamba ucingo, banayo futhi isevisi yokuxoxa enthanethi noma hlola Finyelela.
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