Ukuqalwa
Kubukeka kungakabi yisikhathi ukubhala indaba ephumelelayo ngemuva kwalokho okubukeka njengesikhashana esifushane sokuba yi-PMO-free, kepha njengoba ngihlangabezane nenqubo yokuthumela kulesi sigaba, nginomuzwa wokuthi ngingakwazi ukunikela ngokuthile okusetshenziswayo abanye. Ngicabanga ukuthi kufana nokuningi izinyanga eziyisithupha ukuvusa i-porn nokushaya indlwabu kungenza indaba yempumelelo yangempela, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ngicabanga ukuthi lezi zinsuku ezingama-60 zimane nje ziyingqophamlando hhayi ukuphela komgwaqo. Njengoba ngizizwa nginobuciko obuthile ngenxa yalolu daba lwakamuva, ngikhethe ukuqamba le ntambo ngegama lenkondlo yasendulo yamaGnostic eyabhalwa okokuqala ngesiGreki ngumbhali ongaziwa futhi yakhulunywa ngumbalisi ongashiwongo ngegama, obizwa ngokuthi “Ukuduma, Ingqondo Ephelele.”
Le nkondlo ikufanele ukufundwa, kodwa engifuna ukukuchaza khona lapha futhi manje ukuthi ngafika kanjani ezinsukwini ze-60, ukuze kusizakale abasanda kufika futhi ikakhulukazi abajwayela ukubuyela emuva (njengasekuqaleni kwami), futhi uma lokhu kufanele kusize nakancane noma ngubani kini onesikhathi esimsulwa esihlanzekile kunami, ke lelo ibhonasi engeziwe. Ngithanda ukudlulisa ukubonga kwami kulabo engifunde lukhulu kubo esikhathini esifushane kangako; nina bafana bekumnandi. Ngiyabonga nonke.
Ungamisa kanjani
Ukuze ngiyeke ukushaya indlwabu noma ngingenazo izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kwakudingeka ngivume kimi ukuthi ngingu-ADDICT. Ungavumeli lelo gama likwethuse manje. Uma ukulesi siza ufunda lokhu njengamanje, kungenzeka ukuthi a) awuyena umlutha wezocansi, lapho-ke awudingi lusizo khona, b) ekulawuleni ngokuphelele ukusetshenziswa kwakho kwe-MO / porn, lapho-ke nawe ungazudingi khona iseluleko, noma c) futhi yi-ADDICT. Ukuba umlutha akusho ukuthi ubuthakathaka noma umubi noma awunamandla okuzimisela; kumane kusho ukuthi awukwazi ukumisa noma ulinganisele ukusetshenziswa kwakho kocansi noma ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kosizo, mhlawumbe uhlobo oluthile lwe-psychology yokuziphatha njengoba sibona ezinhlelweni zeNoFap Academy kanye nezinyathelo eziyishumi nambili.
Uzodinga ukuzihlaziya ngokunamandla kunoma yisiphi isimo ekuqaleni ukuze uthole leso sikhathi sokuqala esihlanzekile, futhi kufanele futhi:
1. Gwema izimbangela. Inani labafana abaqala nje ukuzixakekisa ngezinto ezithile “ezithambile” bese bephinda babuyela emuva liyinkanyezi - kwenzeka SONKE ISIKHATHI. Ungazikhohlisi ngokucabanga ukuthi izinhlu ze-bra, njll. Ziphephile. Uma kungenzeka, zijwayeze indlela ye-No Arousal ngokugwema ukubuka (ogling) abesifazane emgwaqweni, kuthelevishini, ku-Facebook, nakuyo yonke indawo. Guqula amehlo akho!
2. Funda ukubhekana nemizwa engemihle. Amathuba ukuthi, ngeke uzizwe i-100% umzuzu ngamunye wansuku zonke. Ukukhathazeka nokudangala kungagadla lapho usengozini kakhulu. Ungavumeli ukuthi iqiniso lokuthi ulahliwe, wenqatshiwe, waxoshwa, wathukwa, noma wabizwa ngamagama amabi kukubangela ukuthi uphinde ubuye. Funda izindlela zokubhekana nazo - izinto ezikwenza uzizwe ujabulile lapho uphansi (hhayi izidakamizwa, ngiyacela). Kimina, ukubhala kuyelapha kakhulu, futhi ngiphinde ngixhumane nabanye abantu baseFapstronauts noma nini lapho ngizizwa nginobudlelwano. Bamba iqhaza ezingxoxweni futhi wakhe abangane. Funda ukulalela abanye, futhi uqonde imikhombe yakho engokomzwelo namathafa.
3. Qala iphephabhuku (uma ungakakwenzi). Musa ukuluma futhi ukhale kuyo. Yisebenzise kalula ukuqapha inqubekelaphambili yakho, futhi uma ubuyela emuva, zibuze, “Kulungile, ngone kuphi, futhi engizokwenza ngendlela ehlukile manje? ” Funda emaphutheni akho.
4. Namathela kusinqumo sakho sokuqala. Uma uzethembisile ukuthi ngeke ushaye indlwabu noma ubheke izithombe ezingcolile (X) izinsuku, kungani ngokungazelelwe ushiye leso sinqumo esibalulekile ekushiseni kwesikhashana bese ubuyela ezindleleni zakho zakudala ezidabukisayo? Zibekele umgomo wesikhathi esifushane ongaqala ngawo bese usebenza ngendlela yakho. Noma ungabi nawo umgomo nhlobo; yenza nje ukungabi ne-PMO ngaphandle kokuzibophezela impilo yakho yonke ngenkathi uqaphela izinsuku ezingama-30 noma ngezinsuku ezithile njengezinyathelo ezinkulu.
5. Shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ngokuzifundisa ngokushaqisayo kokulutha kwezithombe zocansi kanye nokwenzayo ebuchosheni bakho. Futhi, ngaphandle kokuthi ulawula ngokuphelele ukulutheka kwakho - futhi amathuba okuba, awunjalo - kufanele uwuphathe njengomlutha weqiniso, hhayi nje "umkhuba omubi" noma "isigaba."
I-6. (Okokuzithandela) Thola Amandla aphezulu kokukhulelwa kwakho. Ungathathi umqondo womunye umuntu ngoNkulunkulu ngaphandle kokukuvivinya. Akukhathalekile ukuthi ungumKrestu, umBuddha, umJuda, umHindu, umSulumane, uTaoist, uZoroastrian, uPagan noma uJedi: uma uzizwa ungasebenzisa usizo lweSuper Power, "cela uzokwamukela." Njengoba i-NoFap iyiwebhusayithi yokubuyisa izithombe ezingcolile, ngibhale lo mhlahlandlela njengokuzithandela, kepha ngikholelwa ukuthi ulusizo kakhulu futhi muhle.
Okunye, ama-Fapstronauts anolwazi ngokwengeziwe angaba nezeluleko nezikhombisi ezizokwengeza; noma ngubani ofuna ukwengeza noma iziphi iziphakamiso wamukelekile kakhulu ukwenza njalo. By the way, wonke la amathiphu alula, bantu!
Okuningi okunzima
Manje sengizokunikeza okuthile okunzima kakhulu: isilinganiso esivela ku-Nietzsche Ngakho-ke Spake Zarathustra.
“Eqinisweni,” kusho uZarathustra, “Umuntu umfula ongcolile. Umuntu kumele abe ulwandle ukwamukela umfula ongcolile ngaphandle kokungcola. Ngikulethela uSuperman! Uyilolo lwandle; indelelo yakho enkulu ingacwiliswa kuye. ” (Isandulela, Isigaba 3)
Ngabe ufuna ukuhlala njengomuntu oshaya indlwabu umlutha wezocansi yonke impilo yakho? Noma ubheka inhloso ethile ephakeme? Ukudlula ukuthi ungubani nokuthi uyini njengamanje leyo njongo ephakeme. Sinezinketho ezimbili: ukuluthwa okusebenzayo nokululama. Uyawazi umphumela wokukhetha kokuqala; yingakho ulapha njengamanje. I-NoFap ikunikeza ithuba lokukhula, ubuciko, ukuthuthukisa amakhono akho, futhi ube ngaphezu kwakho, ngokumane ngokugwema i-PMO futhi ukusebenza ngokuzikhandla ukufeza ingqophamlando ekululameni. Kulula impela, kepha yithina esenza kube nzima. Futhi, ukubheka kwakho ukuthatha inselelo yakho bese uvutha umzila oya empumelelweni.
Zama ukucabanga impilo engcono kakhulu kuwe futhi usho ngokuhlelekile amathemba akho, izinhloso kanye nezifiso zakho. Kholwa noma ungakukholwa, ukuthola kabusha ngeNoFap (noma uhlelo lwezinyathelo eziyishumi nambili njenge-SLAA) kungaholela ekutheni ufeze zonke izinhloso zakho eziphakeme kakhulu uma ukwazi ukuhlala usuku nosuku lwe-porn / MO-free. Ungahle ungatholi ngqo lokho okufisayo, noma kunjalo, futhi lapho izinkinga ziza kuwe ungazizwa sengathi impilo ikuphathe kabi, kepha uzohlala uthola okulusizo olukhulu ekuzithuthukiseni kwakho uma nje uyakwazi ukuzisebenza phuma. Ngeke ngikwenzele lokhu, kodwa ngingakunika umkhondo obalulekile: UNGUMLUTHA. Ekuqaleni, lokhu kuyinto enzima ukuyithatha.
Lapho usukubonile lokho futhi uqala ukwenza izinguquko empilweni yakho, konke okunye kubonakala ngathi kuzokwenzeka. Ngokuqondene nami, indlela yami ingithole izinsuku ezingama-60 phezulu. Nakhu okunye okungu-30, futhi uma sengishaye i-90 ngizozizwa sengathi ngingabaluleka ngempela abanye ngezinga elithile ukuthi bangalulama kanjani futhi bahlale behlanzekile. Kuze kube yileso sikhathi, konke lokhu kungaba ukugembula komlutha, ngakho-ke ake sithathe ikhefu futhi sibe nezinkondlo ezithile, akunjalo?
LINK - Ukuduma, Ingqondo ephelele: Izinsuku ze-60
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