Kade ngikuNoFap isikhashana. Awukathumeli nokho. Kufundwa okuqukethwe lapha, kanye nencwadi Ubuchopho bakho ku-Porn, yangisiza ukuba ngiqonde futhi ngiqede ubudlelwane bami ne-porn. Sengifikile ekuqaphelisweni okubalulekile. Akukona nje ngokuqeda izithombe ezingcolile. Uzobona ukuthi ngiqonde ukuthini. Ngenkathi kusiza - futhi kuyasiza, kakhulu - akuxazululi konke.
Sidinga ukuphulukisa ukungajabuli okuyisisekelo noma ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo okuqhube ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn. Ngenkathi ngicabanga ukuthi i-porn iyalutha ngenxa yokungafuneki kwe-dopamine okubandakanyeka ekusetshenzisweni kwe-porn, ngicabanga ukuthi okuqala ukuqhuba lokho kuhlukumezeka kungaba ukungajabuli nokuhlukumezeka. Kubalulekile ukuzakhela iqiniso elingcono kakhulu, khuthala ngokwengeziwe ekuphishekeleni izintshisekelo zakho futhi uchithe isikhathi nabangane nomndeni, ngalesi sikhathi lapho lezi ziphazamiso zokufakelwa zitholakala khona manjalo. Ekuhlolweni, lapho amagundane enikezwa ikheji elimangalisayo nelimnandi, bakuthola kulula ukumelana nemithi abacwaningi abayenza yatholakala kumagundane.
Ukuhlukumezeka kubalulekile ukuqeda. Abantu abaningi banokuhlangenwe nakho okubi kwasekuqaleni: izingozi, ubudlelwano obubi nontanga, abazali abalindele lukhulu, izingane zakwabo ezihlukumezayo, noma yini, okusenza singazethembi - singafaneleki. Esikhundleni sokushaya okwedlule, umuntu osemncane (lowo uqobo lwethu uqobo) sidinga ukumduduza lowo muntu osemncane futhi sitshele lowo muntu osemncane ukuthi siyamqonda, simazise futhi sikhona kulowo muntu. Sidinga ukuba ngumzali wobuntu bethu bangaphakathi, futhi sizitshele ukuthi sizoba umzali wesikhathi esizayo nomsekeli wobuntu bethu bamanje. Lokhu kwenze umehluko omkhulu kimi ngokwengqondo. Ukuxhashazwa ngokuba mncane kakhulu lapho ngisemncane, nangokungazethembi engozini engibe nayo ngisemncane, ngibe sengixhaphaza ubuntu bami obudala obudlulile, futhi lokho bekungizamazamisa uqobo lwami - ngoba sinamathele kubuntu bethu besikhathi esedlule. Esikhundleni salokho sidinga ukukwazisa nokunakekela lowo muntu osemncane okungenzeka ukuthi wayengazange athole usizo oludingekayo oluvela kubazali noma kubangane. Sidinga ukuthanda lowo muntu osemncane futhi siyikhathalele futhi sazi ukuthi siyoba khona ngamaphutha enziwa ngumuntu wamanje. Kunokunye okuningi okudinga ukwenziwa ukwelapha ukuhlukumezeka kodwa lokhu kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu engiyenzile muva nje.
Ngithathe ikhefu eyunivesithi ukuqeda izithombe zobulili ezingcolile - ukuqonda okwakwenzeka - nokwenza impilo yami kabusha ukuze nginciphise ukuba sengozini kwalezi zilutha. Ukuthola umongo owengeziwe, ngangisebenza kumlingani we-Facebook ekuphathweni komkhiqizo futhi ngangifunda e-UPenn. Ngiqedile i-porn, ebalulekile ngoba ngicabanga ukuthi i-autocatalytic (umlutha), kepha bekufanele ngibe sengingena ngibhekane nezinhlungu ebengizigeza ngobuciko nge-porn. Kodwa ngaphandle kocansi, ukuzwela kwami enjabulweni kwanda, okwenza kube lula ukujabula ngenkathi ngibhekene nezinhlungu ezivela ngaphakathi.
Ngizosho ukuthi ukuqeda izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuthuthukise kakhulu isimo sami sengqondo. Ngijabule kakhulu futhi nginesikhathi eside sokunaka. Angazi nganoma yiluphi olunye ushintsho engilwenzile empilweni yami ngenkathi ngiqeda izithombe ezingcolile ezingachaza injabulo nesikhathi sokunaka. Ngicabanga ukuthi isizathu yilesi: Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zihlehlisa ukufinyelela ekuvuseleleni inoveli, okuvumela ukuthi sikhuphule izinga lethu lokushaya indlwabu kanye ne-ejaculation. Sikhipha amandla ezocansi ngokungajwayelekile, ebesingeke sikwazi ukube besingenakho ukufinyelela kokusha okukhulu. Ngokushaya indlwabu okuncane nokujula kanye nokuqothulwa okubukwayo, nginamandla amakhulu kakhulu we-1.ukuthola amandla okukhuthaza, okungivumela ukuthi ngithande kakhulu umsebenzi wami.
Ngaqaphela nokuthi ukusetshenziswa kwami kwezokuxhumana kwezenhlalo kwakukhuthaza ukuxhumene nocansi. Lokhu kungenxa yokuqukethwe kocansi emithonjeni yezokuxhumana, kanye nezinhlelo ezikwazi ukusiphatha kahle (ikakhulukazi ku-instagram). Ngakho ngahlola izindlela zokunciphisa ukusetshenziswa kwami kwezokuxhumana komphakathi ngendlela ephansi. Omunye wawuqeda ukusetshenziswa kwezaziso. Ngibavumela ukuba bathekele ku-99 bese behlela ku-0. Nakuba ngizikhumbula izinto ezithile, ngilawula kangcono ukusebenzisa kwami manje, futhi inzuzo ibalulekile izindleko. Lokhu kungivumela ukuba ngisuse ekusebenziseni okuqhubekayo kwezokuxhumana, okuvezwa kwabo kokuqukethwe ngokocansi kunomthelela ekuziphatheni kwezocansi.
Ngempela umzabalazo lapha, nge-pornography nakho konke okunye, ukunciphisa umlutha wethu ekuvuseleleni okufakwayo, nokwandisa ukukhuthazwa kwezwe langempela. Nakuba ukugqugquzela okubonakalayo kungase kubonakale kuyathandeka kakhulu futhi kufinyeleleke ngesikhathi esifushane, imiphumela esiyiyo yonke into (okusiletha lapha) incwadi yokuqinisekisa ukuphikisana nalabo kanye nokwenza ngcono ukwamukelwa kwezwe langempela lokugqugquzela (ngokukhipha i-dopamine yokufakelwa) kanye nezwe langempela elithile ukuvuselela (ngokusebenzisa isikhathi esilondoloziwe ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nabangani, phishekela izithakazelo nezokuzilibazisa, njll). Ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi emvelweni ngithole ukunciphisa ubuhlungu obungokwengqondo kusuka ekuhoxisweni kwedijithali, njengoba nje nokuthola ukuvuselelwa kwezwe kwangempela kwenza kanjalo. Okunye okubalulekile okusizayo, kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi udinga ukukhululeka ngokwakho kuqala ngaphambi kokungena ebuhlotsheni obunzima. Ngenkathi ubudlelwano bangempela kubalulekile, akufanele usebenzise omunye umuntu ukukusiza ukuba uhambe ngezithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
Uma noma ubani kini esebenza ekuqedeni izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nasekuthuthukiseni impilo yakhe yangaphakathi, ngingajabula ukuxoxa nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, sengiwele umugqa singene empilweni ngokukhululeka ngaphandle kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengendoda engu-22 y / ubudala enokuhlangenwe nakho okubi kwasekuqaleni. Ngiphinde ngisebenzise i-blog ongayibheka lapha ezonikeza ukuqonda okuphezulu kakhulu ngokwenzekayo ngobuchwepheshe, ngokuya ngesipiliyoni somsebenzi wami nocwaningo ePenn. https://medium.com/@thementalist
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