Sanibonani nonke, ngingumsebenzisi omusha wezinkundla futhi lokhu yiposi yami yokuqala.
Angikaze ngibuke izithombe ezingcolile izinsuku eziyi-123 manje. Angizange ngiyibheke ngentshiseko ngaleso sikhathi, futhi imiphumela iyahambisana nalokho amalungu alo mphakathi akushilo.
Isizinda esincane ngami: engxenyeni enkulu yempilo yami bengingumuntu onesizungu kakhulu, ngingenabo abangane abaningi, nginamahloni futhi ngizigcina ngingedwa. Ngiqale i-porn ku-8. Ngineminyaka engama-28 manje, ngiphenduka iminyaka engama-29 ngoSepthemba kulo nyaka, ngakho-ke leyo yiminyaka engama-20 yokuphila kwami isusiwe. Lapho ngisemusha ngangichitha ubusuku bami obuningi ngibuka izithombe ezingcolile, kwesinye isikhathi amahora, kwesinye isikhathi ubusuku bonke, ngichitha ubusha bami kude kunokuba ngibe nobudlelwano bangempela nabesifazane. Ngiyazisola ngaleyo ngxenye yempilo yami futhi ngifisa ukubuyela emuva ngiyisule yonke, kodwa angikwazi. Konke engingakwenza ukuqhubekela phambili futhi ngingaphinde ngibheke izithombe ezingcolile.
tl; dr: Ngangingumuntu onamahloni futhi ozibandakanya kakhulu, futhi ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kwakuyindlela yami yokubhekana nesizungu.
Namuhla usuku lwami lwe-123 ngaphandle kwe-porn. Yize ngisahlushwa ukushaya indlwabu ngokucindezela nokuhlela, impilo yami yezocansi ishintshe kakhulu. Ngibe nowesifazane iminyaka embalwa futhi ekuqaleni, ngangivame ukubheka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili kaningi, kaningi ngizihlela amahora amaningi. Kwakungubuhlobo obude kude ekuqaleni, okwakungangisizi neze ngomkhuba wami wokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngoba ngangingedwa isikhathi esiningi.
Eminyakeni edlule ngixhumane nodokotela owangisiza ukuba ngiphume ekuluthweni kwami kocansi, futhi manje sengibuye ngazethemba futhi ngakwazi ukwenza nowesifazane embhedeni. Lapho ngiqala ukuthandana nentombi yami, i-PIED yayijwayelekile futhi ucansi lwalungenabuntu. Ngangivame kakhulu ukwenza umjikelezo wobulili ogcwele naye futhi ngikwazi ukuqeda, ngoba isikhathi esiningi ngangizolahlekelwa ukwakhiwa kwami ngaphambi kokungena. Namuhla, i-PIED yinto yesikhathi esedlule. Nginezikhwepha eziqinile zasekuseni kanye nokuqina okuqinile ngesikhathi socansi futhi ngikwazile ukwenza umjikelezo ogcwele, ngiqede, bese kuba nzima imizuzu engu-5 ngemuva kweseshini yesibili. Ngakho-ke ukususa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile empilweni yami kube yimpumelelo yangempela futhi kube nomphumela wangempela, obonakalayo.
Inkinga yami entsha ngizithola nginamandla amaningi ezocansi kanye nesifiso sokuya ocansini nabesifazane abaningi. Ngibheka abesifazane esidlangalaleni ngendlela yezocansi kakhulu futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngizithola ngivuswa yibo, into engakaze yenzeke lapho ngangivame ukubuka i-porn ngenkani, ngoba abesifazane bangempela bempilo babengeke nje bancintisane nezinkanyezi ezingcolile. Manje sengithola ukuthi abantu besifazane bempilo yangempela yizinkanyezi ezingcolile, ukungapheleli kwemizimba yabo yikho okungenza ngikhange kakhulu kubo. Enye inkinga enginayo ukucindezela indlwabu nokuhlela, lokhu kuyinto engisalwa nayo futhi ngidinga ukuyeka ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Okude kunakho konke engihambe nakho kungekho ukushaya indlwabu izinsuku ezingama-37. Kodwa-ke, ngikholelwa ukuthi izikhathi ezingavamile, ezifushane zokushaya indlwabu akuyona inkinga uma nje zingakhuli zibe yisikhathi sokuhlela sehora. Ngingathanda ukuyeka ukuhlela nokushaya indlwabu mhlawumbe izinsuku ezingama-30, bese ubona ukuthi lokhu kwenza ukukhanga kwami ngokobulili kwabesifazane bangempela kuqine noma cha.
Engingakutusa kubantu abafisa ukuqeda i-porn ngokuphelele ezimpilweni zabo yilokhu okulandelayo:
1) Bona owelapha ongakhomba ukuthi yini ekubangela ukuthi ubuke i-porn, bese uzama ukuxazulula le nkinga, noma indlela yokubhekana nayo. Kimi, kwakuyiqiniso ukuthi ngangiwumuntu onesizungu kakhulu okwakuyimbangela yakho konke ukubuka izithombe zami ezingcolile. Ngakho-ke udokotela wami wangitshela ukuthi ngiphume ngiye lapho, ngenze abangane, ngenze umsebenzi othile wokuzithandela, noma yimuphi umsebenzi wezenhlalo ongivimbela ukuba ngedwa ungasebenza, futhi kungaba yimidlalo yamaqembu. Ngine-ADHD, engasizi kukho konke ukucindezela kokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nokuhlela, ngakho wangitshela ukuthi ngiphuze imishanguzo ye-ADHD, kepha ngenqaba ngoba eminye yemiphumela elandelayo yalowo muthi iyi-libido ephansi, ebengivele ngiyikho uphethwe yi. Abantu abaningi bathi "uyisigqila" sezithombe ezingcolile. Lokho umeluleki wami angitshele khona ukuthi "ukulutha" kwezocansi kubangelwa yisimo esidala ukuthi usibuke. Lapho usulungise leso simo, kungaba yisizungu, ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo, ukungazethembi kwanoma yini, uzokwazi ukufaka esikhundleni sezindlela zokubhekana nazo (i-porn) oyisebenzisile impilo yakho yonke ukubhekana nalesi simo ngomkhuba onempilo (ukwenza abangane, ukuphuma, njll).
2) Susa zonke izimbangela: noma iyiphi imishini oyisebenzisela ukubuka i-porn (ithebhulethi, i-PC, iselula), uyikhiye, uyibeke kwenye indawo ongeke ukwazi ukuyifinyelela. Ngalahla umakhalekhukhwini wami izinsuku eziyi-123 (bekunzima kakhulu ukukwenza, kepha ubuhlungu obudingekayo ukuze ngiphumelele). Uma kungadingeki ngokuphelele emsebenzini wakho noma empilweni, kususe. Kumele ususe ngokuphelele noma isiphi isimo esingahle sikwenze ubuke i-porn futhi empilweni yakho okungenani izinsuku ezingama-90.
3) Uma kufanele usebenzise i-PC noma yini ongangena kuyo kwi-Intanethi ngomsebenzi wakho, sebenza ungaxhunyiwe ku-inthanethi uma umsebenzi wakho ukuvumela. Yenza kusebenze imodi yendiza ngokwesibonelo. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukusebenza ungaxhunyiwe ku-inthanethi, sebenzisa izivimbeli zewebhusayithi ukuvimba noma yikuphi okuqukethwe okuhlobene nabantu abadala kuwebhu bese uvule i-Safe Search uma usebenzisa i-Google.
4) Thola umlingani ozokusekela, bese usebenza indlela yakho eya ebudlelwaneni bezocansi ngokugcwele kancane, uqale nge-foreplay bese uya ekungeneni okugcwele. Lapho ukwazi ukungena, qala ngesikhundla esilula njengesithunywa sevangeli futhi njengoba uthola ukuzethemba okukhulu, qala ukusebenza ngezikhundla ezahlukahlukene nomlingani wakho. Ungazami ukushesha izikhundla ezahlukahlukene noma ukungena ngoba i-PIED ingahle iphinde yenzeke.
Ukuyeka i-porn kube yinto enzima kakhulu ukuyenza empilweni yami kude kakhulu. Ngisenemibono ye-flash nemicabango yocansi, kepha yehle kakhulu futhi ngiyakwazi ukugxila ezintweni ezijwayelekile zempilo yami futhi.
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