Ngaqala i-nofap ekuqaleni kuka-Nov 2020 ngemuva kokuthola / ukwamukela ukuthi bengiphethwe yi-PIED. Kusukela lapho, ngibe nemigwaqo emifushane embalwa kanye ne-streak eyodwa yamaviki amathathu engekho i-PMO. Phakathi kwalezo ziqubu, kube nokusetha kabusha okungaba ngu-6-8 MO kanye nokubuyela emuva kwe-3 PMO ("izikhathi” ezimfushane kakhulu). Ukuphindaphinda kwami kwe-PMO kokugcina kwakungosuku lwe-Xmas 2020. Akukaze kubhekwe nokho.
Ngisanda kufika ku-streak yami yokuqala yezinsuku ezingama-30 ingekho i-PMO (mhlawumbe esondele kakhulu ku-32 noma kunjalo, ngoba angikuthandi ngempela ukuboshwa ekubaleni izinsuku eziqondile). Bengifuna ukunikeza umbiko wenqubekela phambili kunoma ngubani ongakuthola kuwusizo / kuyathakazelisa. Indaba yami ephelele ithunyelwe esigabeni se-PISD ngakho-ke ngizozama ukugcina lokhu okuthunyelwe kumayelana nenqubekela phambili / engikubonile. (Isexwayiso: Ngithanda ukubhala ukuze lokhu kuthathe isikhathi eside futhi kube namagama. Zizwe ukhululekile ukweqa lokho ongakutholi kubalulekile / kuyathandeka.)
Disclaimer: Ngemuva nje kokudlula kulesi sikhathi sakamuva se-30ish day, ngibe nokusetha kabusha kwe-MO. Angizange ngisebenzise i-P, noma kunjalo. Angicabangi ukuthi bekungukuhlehla okukhulu (ikakhulukazi ngenxa yokuthi bekungeyona into emnandi leyo). Kodwa-ke, angikukhuthazi, futhi angihleleli ukukwenza umkhuba.
Shit ngiyakwenza (efanele i-nofap):
- I-Yoga (nsuku zonke)
- Ukuzindla (nsuku zonke)
- Ukuphefumula (3-4x masonto onke)
- Ukuqeqeshwa kwesikhawu (5x masonto onke, umzimba ogcwele w / izinsuku zokuphumula)
- Ama-Cold Show (4-5x masonto onke, azikho izihlambi ezifudumele)
- I-Journaling
- Ukudla okunempilo okunengqondo
- Isikhathi esisebenzayo ngaphandle (maqondana nesimo sethu samanje somhlaba)
I-Flatline:
Cishe ngaso leso sikhathi ngemuva kokuphinda ngibuyele emuva kwe-PMO (12-25-20), ngaya endaweni ephansi. Kwakuyinselele eyinselele ngempela. Kuzwakale kukuhle impela kulokho okuvame ukuchazwa iningi. Ukushintsha kwemizwelo, ukudangala, ukuqwasha, inkungu yobuchopho, umthondo odidekile, i-toaster emicabangweni yobhavu… konke lokho. Ngakuthola kunzima ngempela ukuthola ugqozi lokwenza izinto eziningi. Ngingaba nezikhathi ezimfushane zokukhuthazeka / injabulo kepha bezidlula ngokushesha. Uma sikhuluma ngokudlula isikhashana, ake sikhulume ngamabhonasi ami. Ama-boners ami, kanye ne-libido yami, ayengekho neze. Ngokujabulisayo, i-flatline inikeze isikhathi sokulangazelela cishe zero. Kwakunzima ngezinye izikhathi kodwa ngakwazi. Kubonakala sengathi kuhlale cishe izinsuku ezingama-21-24 kepha angikwazi ukuba ngqo. Ngingaze ngibe munye. Kunzima ukutshela kwesinye isikhathi.
Okunye futhi okufanele ukuphawule, ukuzihlukanisa ngenxa yesimo esiwumqedazwe esiwumshayabhuqe nakanjani kube nomthelela kuzo zonke izimpawu zengqondo ezibalwe ngenhla. Kuyavunywa, bengichitha isikhathi esingaqondakali phambi kwesikrini (i-netflix ne-youtube), ngokungangabazeki esinomthelela omubi emandleni / esimeni / enqubekweni yami. Kodwa-ke, ngicabanga ukuthi kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukuzijabulisa nokufeza izinzuzo ezinkulu zokuphila akuzona izinto ezilula kakhulu ukuzibonisa ezikhathini ezinjengalezi. Yize kusesesisusa sami sokuqala sokwenza lolu shintsho empilweni yami, ngiyazi ukuthi ukuzama ukubasheshisa ngenkathi umhlaba kufanele ushaye ikhefu ngeke kube ukuhlakanipha noma ukuthele izithelo. Ngiyazi ukuthi ngisekuqaleni kwalokho okuzoba inqubo ende yokutakula, ngakho-ke ngikhetha ukungabi nzima kimi. Umthondo wami nawo ukhetha ukungabi lukhuni ngokwawo, kepha ngomqondo ongokoqobo.
Izinsuku eziyi-10 zokugcina noma kunjalo (futhi ngokuphelele jikelele selokhu kwaqala i-nofap):
Ngemuva cishe kwamasonto amathathu walokho okwakubonakala kuyisisekelo (futhi cishe izinyanga ezintathu ze-mindset jikelele ye-nofap), bengizizwa ngingcono kakhulu ngesonto eledlule noma kunjalo. Izinsuku ezithile ze-shit kepha zilawuleka kakhulu. Nginezikweletu eziningi engizitholayo ezinqumweni zami zansuku zonke maqondana nendlela yokuphila enempilo, kepha ingqondo ye-nofap kanye nesifiso sami sokwenza ngcono i-PIED yami kungisizile ukuthi ngiqhubeke nokulandela lezo zinqumo. Nazi ezinye izibonelo zezinzuzo ezithile kodwa ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ngizokhohlwa okungenani eyodwa:
- Ukwanda okuphawulekayo kwamandla nokucaca kwengqondo: Ngibonile ukuthi ngikhuluma ngokuqondile kakhulu futhi ngizizwa ngiqiniseka ngokwabelana ngemicabango yami muva nje, okuyinto engangihlale ngilwa nayo. Bengilokhu ngenza nezinqumo ngokushesha okukhulu. Kungivumele ukuthi ngijabulele isikhathi sami esiningi ngokwenza izinto engizithandayo. Ngenza okuningi, kunokuba ngikhubazeke ngokunganqikazi kanye nobuthakathaka. Kukonke, ngizizwa ngiqine ngokwengeziwe. Ngiyethemba ukuthi ipipi lami lizokhuthazeka kakhulu futhi lizizwe lifana.
- Ukuheha okunempilo: Lapho ngikhona kuma-gals, ngibona ukukhanga kakhulu emandleni abo nobuntu babo, hhayi nje imizimba / ukubukeka kwabo kuphela. Sekuyisikhathi eside ngazizwa ngaleyo ndlela futhi ngicabanga nje ukuthi kuzoba ngcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kuyavunywa, angikaze ngibe nempendulo enkulu emzimbeni / ebulwaneni emzimbeni / ngibheke isikhathi esithile (angiqiniseki ukuthi ama-flatline ami aqala nini ngempela). Kungenzeka ngibe nesikhathi esithe xaxa esibuyele kokujwayelekile kepha sengiqala ukukuqonda lokho. Ngithanda umbono wokuthi angisiye umfana ohola ngezocansi zami. Empeleni inguquko enkulu yanoma ngubani engingamcabangela njengesinqumo esinempilo sokusebenzisana naye. Ngisho amaphupho ami (engingancoma ukuthi anciphise uma ulapha) abe mahle ngokwakha / abe yiqiniso muva nje (okusho ukuganga, ukuqabulana, ukuzijabulisa, izinkumbulo ezedlule, njll.). Ngiphinde ngabona ukuthi ngibonakala ngidonsela ukunaka / ukuheha okwengeziwe kuma-gals ngokujwayelekile, okungenye yezinzuzo ze-nofap ebengilangazelela ukuzithola. Ukunakwa akuhlali kungokwezocansi ngaso sonke isikhathi, kwesinye isikhathi ngizwa umuzwa wenhlonipho nenduduzo yangempela. Kodwa-ke, impela ngithole ukudlala ngothando okusobala kakhulu nezimpawu zentshisekelo kunalokho engikukhumbulayo esikhathini esedlule. Isizathu salokho mhlawumbe ukuthi inkungu ye-porn isiqala ukuphakama futhi ngiqala ukubona lapho i-gal ibonakala inentshisekelo. Lokho kucacelwa kwengqondo kunginikeza nokuzethemba kokukhuluma nabo empeleni futhi ngibe opholile kunokuba nginikeze ama-vibes we-hook up ngokushesha. Kukonke, ngizizwa sengathi ngiqonde endaweni enhle kuleso sigaba.
- Indlela yokuphila nokuthuthukiswa komgomo: Bengilokhu ngenza umzamo omkhulu wokuzinakekela, obe nemiphumela emihle kakhulu. Njengoba ngishilo ekuqaleni, i-nofap mindset ingisizile ukuthi ngigcine imikhuba engcono yezempilo / yokuphila (engikubalile ngenhla) engihlela ukuyigcina impilo. Kade ngafuna ukwenza lezi zinguquko eziningi isikhathi eside kepha angikaze ngizisekele impela. I-mindset ye-nofap kanye nesifiso sami sokuqalisa kabusha / rewire kunginike isizathu esinamandla sokuqala ukubeka umzamo ekuthandeni ngokwami nokwakha ikusasa elijabulisayo nelinempilo, emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Isibonelo, enye yezinhloso zami ukwenza uhambo oluthile lapho lolo hlobo lwento selulungile futhi. Ngakho-ke, ngisebenzisa esinye isikhathi sami sesikrini ukufunda iSpanish ngamavidiyo we-youtube. Ngikhohliwe nokusho ukuthi ngiqala ukwelashwa kungekudala. Leyo enkulu kimi futhi ngethemba lokuthi ngizoba omunye ushintsho lomdlalo. Kukonke, ngizizwa ngijabule kakhulu ngengikwenzayo ngesikhathi sami kulezi zinsuku.
- I-MW, ama-boners avamile, i-libido, njll.Cishe ngesonto eledlule (mhlawumbe ngaphezulu) ngaqala ukuzwa ukukhanya okuncane kwe-libido nokuvuka. Bengilokhu ngithola i-MW cishe zonke izinsuku kodwa akuhlali isikhathi eside. Kwesinye isikhathi cishe amandla aphelele, kwesinye isikhathi uhhafu noma ngaphansi. Okufanayo kuya kuma-boners ajwayelekile. Ngibonile ukuthi ngikwazi ukuba nzima ngefantasy yodwa (w / o ngisho nokuthinta), okuzwakala njengokuthuthuka kepha akukho lutho olungaxhonywa noma ukugubha. Ngizama ukugcina imicabango yami iphilile futhi ingokoqobo, kepha noma ingaholela ekuthandeni okungenampilo, okuyinto okufanele uyigweme ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha. Indaba emfushane, ngiye ngabona ukuthuthuka okuthile kepha ngiyazi ukuthi kusenokuningi okufanele ngisebenze kukho / engikubheke ngabomvu. Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ngisenayo i-PIED futhi ngingahle ngithole ama-flatline amaningi kepha ngizizwa sengathi ngidlule kokubi kakhulu. Mhlawumbe angizukuzwa inqubekela phambili efanelekile yokubika kulo mnyango ngize ngiqale ukuphinda ngiphinde ngihlanganyele nomlingani wami.
- Ukunciphisa izifiso zika-P: Njengoba i-P yami yokugcina ibuyela emuva, empeleni ngikuthole kulula ukungazibukeli i-porn. Ngiyazi ukuthi akuvamile ukwenzeka kulezi zinkundla futhi angiqondile ukukukhanya, isipiliyoni sami uqobo. Ukuphindaphinda okumbalwa engibe nakho selokhu ngaqala i-nofap kube mfushane kakhulu futhi akwenelisi; babonakala sengathi baphume kakhulu ekukhungathekeni / ekucindezelekeni kunokuvuka. Abazange balethe engangikufisa futhi umuzwa owalandela ngokushesha kwakungewona wokufeza, ukusho okuncane. Kwezwakala kabi. Nginenhlanhla (ngandlela thile) ukuba nesikhathi esedlule sokulutha izidakamizwa (ikakhulukazi i-heroin) engifundise okuningi ngokuzithiba nobude engikwaziyo ukuthola injabulo / i-dopamine. Ngifunde kudala ukuthi “isikhathi esisodwa nje” akusebenzi kimi. Eyodwa iningi kakhulu futhi inkulungwane ayanele neze. Ngizizwa ngikholelwa impela ukuthi i-P ifana kakhulu nokuthi iyathinta yini ebuchosheni, ngakho-ke ngizizwa ngikuhlomele kahle lapho ngilwa nezifiso kulezi zinsuku. I-P isivele iba yimemori ekude. Impela, isangena ekhanda lami ngezikhathi ezithile kepha ayingibambi njengakuqala. Sekukonke, izifiso ziyaphela futhi ziyancipha ngosuku. Yile ndlela futhi engingawachaza ngayo ama-boners ami ngenkathi ngisasebenzisa iP.
Sekukonke, ngizizwa ngingcono kakhulu kunangezinyanga ezimbalwa ezedlule. Ngcono kakhulu kunangaphambili ngibona ukuthi nginePIED. Lokhu kube yisipiliyoni sokuvula iso futhi yize bekubuhlungu kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi, ngicabanga ukuthi bengidinga ngempela isisusa esifanele sokungibuyisela endleleni yami. Yize ngazi ukuthi i-covid izokwenza ukuthi ama-rewiring akhohlise kancane, ngiyajabula ukuthi okungenani kunginika isikhathi sokwenza imikhuba emisha empilweni yami. Nginomuzwa wokuthi leli yithuba eliyingqayizivele engingafuni ukulichitha. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi siphonse isikhonkwane empilweni uma umhlaba wonke osizungezile usuvele ukwenza lokho vele. Inkululeko yokuzikhethela iyisipho esikhulu kunazo zonke esinazo.
Siyabonga ngokufunda uma usufinyelele lapha. Uxolo uma lo mbiko wenqubekela phambili ubonakala ufilosofi kakhulu kunokwenyama. Njengenjwayelo, ngiyakukhuthaza ukuthi ungibuze noma imiphi imibuzo ethize ongaba nayo mayelana nolwazi lwami / indlela engiphila ngayo / ama-boners ongawathola elusizo ngokukhethekile / eduduza ngesimo sakho. Noma, uma ungathanda ukuthi ngichaze noma yini engikubikile, lokho kungaba nezizathu zokubuzwa imibuzo. Ngizama ukuba yincwadi evulekile uma ngibona sengathi izosiza abanye. Ngihlale ngivulekele izeluleko / ukugxekwa uma ubona noma yikuphi ukushiyeka ekucabangeni noma endleleni yami yokuthola i-nofap. Yazi nje, mina ngokwami angibambeki kakhulu emithethweni noma izindlela ezithile ze-nofap kepha ngiyakuhlonipha ukuqonda kwawo wonke umuntu nokwenza kwakhe. Ngilapha nje ukuze ngibelane ngolwazi lwami futhi ngethemba ukuthi ngifunde kwabanye '.
Into eyodwa engingayisho ngokuzethemba ukuthi iba ngcono kakhulu emva kwenyanga yokuqala. Inyanga yokuqala ibinzima kakhulu kimi futhi ngifunde imibiko eminingi efanayo. Kusukela lapho, izinto sezivele zaba ngcono futhi zaba ngcono. Izinsuku ezithile ze-shit futhi kungenzeka kube nezinselelo zesikhathi esizayo kepha ngizizwa ngilungele. Uma unesimo sengqondo esifanele, uzoqala ukubona izinto ezilula empilweni ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe futhi kuzokukwenza uzibuze ukuthi kungani udlale ngokuchitha isikhathi esiningi ufuna injabulo engenalutho njengo-P.Uma ulapha , kusobala ukuthi uzikhathalela ngokwanele ukuthi ungavuma ukuthi unenkinga nokuthi uzimisele ukuqala ngokuthatha izinyathelo zokuthuthukisa isimo sakho. Konke ukutakula kubukeka kwehlukile ngakho-ke iseluleko sami esihle kakhulu ukwenza ngezifiso okwakho nokwenza kube nenjongo. Angihlelile ukusebenzisa i-P futhi, noma ngabe i-PIED yami isiphulukisiwe. Akufanele nje umonakalo owenzayo. Angihleleli uku-MOing nganoma yisiphi isikhathi maduzane kepha ikakhulu ngoba isikhathi sokugcina (ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule, njengoba kushiwo kusitatimende) bekungeyona into ejabulisayo leyo futhi kubonakala njengesinyathelo esihlakaniphile ukuzama nje ukunika ubulili bami ikhefu ngenkathi. Nginokholo lokuthi izobuya, mhlawumbe ibengcono kunangaphambili.
Awusakwazi ukulinda ukwabelana ngendaba yempumelelo yokuphinda wabelane ngayo ne-y'all ngesinye isikhathi esikhathini esizayo esiseduze. Ngiyabonga futhi ngokufunda futhi ngiyaxolisa uma ngithe ama-boners kaningi kakhulu. Halala!
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