Sawubona wonke umuntu,
Indaba ende: hhayi ukushaya indlwabu ocansini noma ukuyibuka kuyasebenza ukwelapha ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile (okungenani uhlobo olwenziwe ngocansi). Ngineminyaka engama-40 ubudala futhi ngibuke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezisezingeni eliphakeme kusukela eminyakeni engamashumi amabili sekwephuzile kanye ne-porn ejwayelekile, omagazini, njll kusukela eminyakeni yami yobusha, kimi kwenzeka cishe ezinyangeni eziyisithupha. Awungeke usheshe, kepha kuyasebenza.
Ungayithola indaba ende lapha, lapho ngishicilele khona mayelana nokuqalisa kabusha nsuku zonke, futhi ngokusho komngane wami uBilbo Swaggins, kwenza ukufundwa okujabulisayo 
Ngizokuvikela ngemininingwane, kepha ngizokutshela ukuthi ngikholelwa ukuthi ukuphela kwendlela lokhu okusebenzela i-ED akukona ukuyekethisa noma ukuxoxisana okuncane. Kufanele wenze ukukhetha khona lapha, khona manje, lokho okuwukuphela kwendlela ongathola ngayo ukwaneliseka ngokocansi kuzoba nowesifazane wangempela (noma umuntu, ngokwecala lakho) impilo yakho yonke. Futhi okungenani isikhashana esihle - ngingaqala, okungenani izinyanga ezintathu - lokho kusho ukuthi ngisho nokushaya indlwabu emcabangweni wakho akusekho etafuleni. Anginazo izinhloso zokushaya indlwabu futhi, ngiya ocansini nowesifazane wami. Angazi noma lokho kuyasimama yini, kepha kusebenza izimangaliso ngaleso sikhathi.
Kukhona i-caveat eyodwa. Ngicabanga ukuthi ukuxhumana komuntu nabesifazane kukho konke ukuqala kabusha kubalulekile. Futhi angisho ukuthi ubulili kuphela. Kumayelana nokuba phambi kwabo. Kunamakhemikhali athile we-neurochemicals azokusiza ekuqaliseni kabusha kwakho okukhiqizwa umzimba wakho kakhulu ekusebenzisaneni komuntu. Ngokwami, bekuthatha isigaba se-yoga bukhoma (siqhelelene ngokwenhlalo, kepha ngihlala) lapho engingaba khona lapho kukhona abesifazane, ngihlanganyele nabo, ngikhulume, ngihlekise ngemuva kwekilasi. Kuyisimo lapho kuhle khona emphakathini ukubheka abesifazane abanempilo abagqoke izingubo eziqinile inqobo nje uma ungeyena owesabekayo ngakho. Kwakusho nokuthi ngihlanganyele nabo bonke abesifazane enganginethuba lokwenza kanjalo. Emgqeni esitolo, nabasebenzi besifazane ezitolo, abaphathizimali, njll. Futhi, hhayi ukushaya kubo, ukwenza izingxoxo ezincane nabantu ongabazi nhlobo. Ngosuku 91, ukukhulisa lokhu engikhuluma ngakho lapha, Ngiphethwe i-nuru massage, lapho owesifazane omuhle ehlikihla emzimbeni wakho cishe unqunu futhi ngamcela ukuthi anganginiki isiphetho esihle. Kwakumayelana nokufundisa kabusha umzimba wami ngokuxhumana nomzimba wesifazane ngaphandle kokulindela ukwenza noma ukufaka imizwa, yini umngani wami @sbahle_mpisane izingcingo ingxenye yokuphindisela. Akukho nokukodwa kwalokhu okufanele kube "okubonakalayo" ngakho-ke akukho ukushisa kwe-IG, akukho ukuxoxa, ukuxoxa ngamakhamera, ukwabelana nge-pic noma okunye okunjalo.
Ngangibuye ngibe nentombi engaqondakali emangalisayo futhi manje sengingunkosikazi, engihlanganyele naye lokhu kusuka ngosuku lokuqala ngaphumela obala. Wayenesineke sokulinda isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba siphinde senze ucansi futhi, aqonde umugqa wesikhathi wokuqalisa kabusha. Ukuza kuhlanzekile yindlela okufanele uhambe ngayo. Ungayiklami njengomlutha. Yakheke njengokuthi iyini. Ubungazi ukuthi lokhu kuyimbangela ye-ED futhi ususe icala kuyo. Wayazi ukuthi ubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, iningi lamadoda liyakwenza, akekho owacabanga ukuthi kuyinto embi, kepha yilokho okumi phakathi kwakho nempilo enempilo yocansi naye. Kuthatha isikhashana ukulungisa futhi nakhu ongakulindela. Mtshengise le vidiyo futhi ucabange ukuthi useqenjini elibi kakhulu.
Ngingakutshela futhi ukuthi, ngenkathi kunezinsuku lapho uzwa khona ukuthuthuka kwenzeka nsuku zonke, kuzoba nesikhathi esiningi ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha lapho uzozizwa ungathi shit. Ngakho-ke esinye isifundo lapha ukuthi lokhu akuyona inqubo eqondile. Uya emuva naphambili phakathi kokuthuthuka nokubhebhetheka futhi akudingeki ukhathazeke noma nini lapho ushayisa isethi emuva, vele ucindezele futhi uqhubeke nokuhamba ngamaloli. Ngokwami, lokho bekusho ukungakhathali ngomsebenzi wengxenye engcono yesemester yokuqala ka-2021 nokukhipha imikhiqizo engatheni, isikhathi eside ngemuva kwezikhathi zabo ezibekiwe. Igama elijwayelekile lalowo muzwa liyi- "flatline" futhi lihambisana nesimo sokucindezeleka kanye nodaka olungaxakile. Igama lesayensi ngu I-Allostasis njengoba ngilandisa lapha, futhi kuyinto eyenzeka ngakho konke ukuziphoqelela noma ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa, lapho umkhawulo womvuzo womzimba wakho ubambeka khona ezingeni eliphakeme elihlinzekwa kukweqisa kokuziphatha okuphoqayo (i-porn kulokhu) futhi njengoba owesifazane wakho wangempela nempilo yakho engakuniki yona lawo mazinga obusha, uvele uzizwe ufile ngaphakathi futhi ungabi nocansi isikhathi eside isikhathi eside kuze kube yilapho leyo mibundu ekugcineni isetha kabusha iye endaweni ephansi. Awukwazi ngokomzimba ukuzwa ubumnandi bezinhlobo eziningana. Kuyindlela yemvelo ebunjiwe ehlose ukukukhohlisa ukuthi ubuyele ekuziphatheni okuphoqelela, ngoba umzimba ngephutha ucabanga ukuthi kuyinto oyidingayo ukuze usinde. Kuyisizathu futhi sokuthi kungani uzokuzwa engikubiza ngokuthi "ukuqala kabusha ukukhathala" nomuzwa ojulile wokuthi "esihogweni ngayo yonke le nto". Yilapho kufanele ukhuthazelele khona.
Le shit ingaqhubeka nokuthi izwakala kanjani unomphela (kusuka ezinyangeni ezimbili kuya eminyakeni embalwa, ngakho-ke hlala lapho) futhi, izindaba ezibuhlungu, awukwazi ukuziphoqa ukuthi zihambe ngokushesha. Ngikholwe, ngazama konke futhi ekugcineni, indlela eya phambili yayingeyona i- testosterone yemvelo umfutho noma ukugembula komzimba ngomlingo. Imane yanikezwa isikhathi yenze into yayo futhi: “zijabulise, chitha isikhathi nabantu obathandayo, hleka, hamba uhambo, hambisa umzimba wakho, uhlanganyele nemvelo, khuluma nabo bonke abantu besifazane abanqamula indlela yakho, ungabi nje yi-dick, udle ukudla okuhle okunempilo, uphuze iwayini. Yilokho ukwelashwa okungcono kakhulu.”Ngabona ukuthi ngemuva kokucabanga kakhulu ngesayensi yakho konke, ngosuku 116.
Ngangiyi-rebooter enempilo kunazo zonke, eluleke kakhulu kunabo bonke abake baba khona. Nganginomkhuba wokuzivocavoca umzimba, ukuzindla, ukuvivinya umzimba, ukudla okunomsoco; uyiqambe igama. Kodwa-ke, izindlela ze-neural ziyizinto ezibonakalayo ezibonakalayo, njengezitshalo noma ezinye izakhiwo zebhayoloji, futhi zithatha isikhathi sazo sokukhula, zikhule futhi ziphinde zenze kabusha. Ngakho-ke azikho izinqamuleli. Kumele nje uphushe futhi ubekezele. Ngolunye usuku, ngemuva kwezinsuku eziningi uzizwa sengathi ngiyafa, ukuqhuma, usulungile. Ukuphila impilo enempilo, ukuhambisa umzimba wakho njalo, nokuthola ukuthintwa komuntu, ilanga nokulungiswa kwemvelo kuzokugcina ungazibulali okwamanje, njenganoma yimuphi umthombo wokudangala.
Into eyodwa engikweluleka ukuthi ungayenzi, ukuqhubeka nokugcoba okokuqala lapho uzizwa sengathi ulungisiwe. Endabeni yami, leyo-orgasm yokuqala, ngithumele emuva ku-flatline yezinsuku ezingamashumi ayisithupha futhi angikudlali. Ngalezo zinsuku ezingamashumi ayisithupha, angikwazanga ukukuphakamisa noma ngifise owesifazane wami. Kusukela ku-orgasm yami yokuqala ngosuku 52 lokuqalisa kabusha ngakwazi ukulala ocansini futhi ngosuku lwe-107, cabanga ukukhungatheka kwami ngale nqubo. Nasi isifinyezo yaleyo ndaba. Ngakho-ke yibambe izinyanga eziyisithupha.
Ngenyanga edlule noma ngaphezulu ngikwazile ukuya ocansini ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ukwakhiwa kwami kanye nama-orgasms anelisayo ngaphansi kwezimo eziningana, obekungangenza ngibe yize esikhathini esedlule, njengokuthi ngemuva kokudla kakhulu, ukuphuza kakhulu, noma ukukhathala kakhulu . Ngihlala nginomuzwa ophikisayo wokuthi udokotela wami ngeke asebenze, bese kuyangimangaza. Kungakho ngiqhubekile ngabhala lokhu okuthunyelwe. Isikhathi sokuqala lapho ngangicabanga ukuthi ngilungisiwe kwakungosuku lwesi-39. Empeleni, ngiyazi ukuthi ngizoqhubeka ngithuthuke impilo yami yonke, kepha ngikwazile ukubhala lokhu okuthunyelwe ngonembeza omuhle ngemuva Usuku 185.
Okokugcina, ngabe angikabi kuleli qophelo ukube bekungekhona ukukhuthazwa nokwesekwa kwalo mphakathi nabangane bami abahle uBilbo Swaggins @ gcobisa1968 @Phineas 808 @mzokoloko @Ukhozi_fm @Nick Simons
i-joepanic @Gabe Deem nabanye abaningi, kanye nezingxoxo ezijulile nezindlela ezifanayo esabelana ngazo @sbahle_mpisane .
Nginifisela okuhle ekuqaliseni kabusha nasezimpilweni zenu bangani bami !!
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