* Ukuzikhulula: Okuthunyelwe kwami kukude impela kepha uma unamathela kukho futhi ukufunde kuze kube sekugcineni ungathola ukuthi kukhona okubhalwe lapha okuqondene nawe ngqo. Angiyena umbhali noma umbalisi wezindaba omkhulu emhlabeni. Ngimane ngibheke ukuhlanganyela lokho okuyiqiniso kimi emzamweni wokusiza othile ukuthi abone ukuthi umhlaba ugcwele uthando, impilo kanye nethemba lokuthola ulwazi nsuku zonke.
Okokuqala, ake ngiqale ngokwabelana ngeqiniso lokuthi angivamile (cishe angikaze) ngithumele esithangamini senhlalo online ngaphambili. Okuthile ngaphakathi kungishukumisela ukuba ngibhale lapha ngakho konke engikutholile emhlabeni we-PMO. Kungumgomo wami ngokwabelana ngendaba yami ukufinyelela umuntu OWODWA emhlabeni onemiphefumulo ecishe ibe yizigidi eziyizinkulungwane eziyi-7.7. Uma lowo munye umuntu engifinyelela kuye ngempumelelo eba NGUWE, ngicela ukuthi ukwenze kube yinjongo yakho ukufinyelela umuntu OYEDWA emhlabeni wakho.
Ngemuva kweminyaka engaba ngu-16 (angikhumbuli nokuthi sekuyisikhathi eside kangakanani) ye-PMO ngokungapheli, ekugcineni ngingasho ukuthi NGIKHULULEKILE! Angikaze, ngikwazi ukusho lokho ngaphambili futhi ngibe umuntu othembekile ukuthi ngikhona ngenkathi ngazi ukuthi ngibhajwe kanjani, angikaze ngizame. Lapho ngisebenzisa amagama angapheli futhi ngivalelekile, ngingathi ngibambe iqhaza ku-PMO mhlawumbe izikhathi ezingama-5,840 (iminyaka engu-16 iphindaphindwe ngezinsuku ezingama-365 ngonyaka). Ngezinye izikhathi kwakunezithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ngezinye izikhathi kwakungekho. Kwesinye isikhathi bekukabili ngosuku, kwesinye isikhathi kwenzeke kathathu ngosuku. Izinsuku ezimbalwa ngaze ngadlulisa leli thuba.
Angikaze ngihlanye ngokweqile ngokukhetha kwami kwe-PMO. Izinto ezixakile azikaze zibonakale zingidonsela ngaphakathi. Izibungu, izilwane, ama-pedo, ogogo, bekungezona izintshisekelo zami. Kwakuningi ngokukhishwa okujwayelekile kowesifazane wakho ojwayelekile okhangayo. Vele bengizogijima ngisuka ezinqeni ngiye kuma-boobs, ngisuke kuma-blondes ngiye kuma-brunette, kepha konke bekujwayelekile. Ngicabanga ukuthi kungenxa yokuthi ingxenye ethile yami ibazi futhi yemukela ukuthi lokhu bekungeyona into enhle kakhulu kimi, noma komunye umuntu.
Izintshisekelo zami kuma-pornstars abesifazane zazingapheli nokho. Uma ucabanga ukuthi i-porn akuyona into embi, lokho kuyimpikiswano. Ngingavuma yize ngazithola ngicabanga futhi ngibuka i-porn ezindaweni engingafanele ukuba kuzo. Ukucabanga ngezocansi ngezikhathi ezithile lapho bekungafanele ngicabange ngakho. Uma ungumuntu ocabanga ukuthi akukubi kangako, ngiyakholelwa ukuthi uyazi ukuthi kunesikhathi nendawo yakho futhi ngingasho ukuthi bengibamba iqhaza ngesikhathi nangendawo engafanele kwesinye isikhathi.
Namuhla, ngoDisemba 27th 2018, ngineminyaka engu-27 ubudala nezinsuku ze-33 mahhala ze-PMO. Izinsuku zokugcina ze-33 zokuphila kwami kube yinto ejabulisayo, ekhanyisa, ezinsukwini zokuvuselela ngokomoya empilweni yami.
Uma ungawugubhi noma ukholelwa endaweni engokomoya, ngiyacela ukuthi ungangibhalele njengengozi, kodwa kunalokho ukuthi uthole igama ngaphakathi kwakho okholwa ukuthi lifanelana nokuchaza amandla onke, noma okungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ubambe. Leli gama lingasetshenziswa ngendlela elula ukuthi uzizwa ukhululekile ukuba uxoxe ngalokho abanye abaningi abakushoyo, okungokomoya.
Ukubuyela emuva empilweni yami selokhu ngakhululeka njenge-PMO, umehluko omkhulu futhi obonakalayo empilweni yami ukuthi angikaze ngibe nomcabango owodwa omubi ngokuzibulala. Yize mina ukubhala lo musho kukodwa kungumcabango wokuzibulala, akuyona imicabango emibi efanayo eye yakhuthazelela eminyakeni eminingi edlule yempilo yami yokuba mdala. Ngokuxubana kwe-PMO nokugembula okunenkinga enkulu (enginezinsuku ezingama-40 ngingenayo), ngangivame ukuzithola nginemicabango ngokukhipha ubuchopho bami, ukuzilengisa noma ukugijimisa imoto yami ngejubane eliphakeme kakhulu esihlahleni. Ngazitshela kaningi (izikhathi ezanele ngokusobala, njengoba ngisaphila) ukuthi angisoze ngahlangabezana nalesi senzo sobugwala, awusoze wazi ukuthi kunini kakhulu kuze kube sekwephuze kakhulu.
Kuyaqondakala ukuthi lesi yisinyathelo esikhulu okumele wonke umuntu asithathe uma efuna ukuphila impilo enenjabulo nenjabulo yangaphakathi. Ngibeka ngokugcwele lo muzwa osanda kuvuswa ukuthi ngiphile ngokuthi angisazibandakanyi ne-PMO nokugembula okunenkinga. Ukuqeda imicabango yokuzibulala engqondweni yami kungiletha ngqo emthelela wami wesibili omkhulu futhi obonakalayo ukuthi ukukhululeka kwe-PMO kungilethe empilweni yami. Lokho wukuthi, ukulahlwa ngokungathí sina "kwenkungu yobuchopho."
Ngokunaba ngemininingwane eminingi ngami, ngifuna ukuhlala ngithobekile… kodwa futhi ngifuna uqonde ukuthi ngingubani kanye nesimo sami ukuze ukwazi ukwenza imibono engcono kakhulu ngokuthi ikhuluma kanjani nawe. Ngokufana nabaningi benu, ngihlale ngizizwa nginesiphiwo esimangalisayo (ngisho naku-PMO lapho ubuchopho bami bucace ngokwanele ukucabanga ngalo mbono). Ngokwenyama, bengilokhu ngihlakaniphe kakhulu; ukuhlakanipha, abantu abaningi bangitshelile. Ngiseyingane encane ngangiwumfundi wezibalo osezingeni eliphakeme kunayo yonke esikoleni sami ebangeni lami, futhi ngangiphakeme ngaphezu kwesami. Lokhu kusuka kulokho engikubona kuyikhono lokuchaza amaqiniso kahle kakhulu, ngokwemvelo (izibalo ziliqiniso lokugcina). [Njengenothi eliseceleni, umfowethu, oneminyaka engaphezulu kwengu-2.5 kimi, ungcono kakhulu]. Ngokomoya, ngihlangabezane “nokungaqondakali okungajwayelekile” okwazi ukwazi ukuthi kukhona okungaphezu kwalokho esikubonayo okukhona futhi okubusa phezu kwakho konke. Angisho ukuthi lokhu njengokuqondisisa okuqonde ngqo kuNkulunkulu, kepha ngokuqonda okuyisisekelo kwakho konke, ake sikubhekise kuwo njengomthetho wokuheha. Lokho ocabanga ukuthi, kuzodonseka kuwe, okuhle noma okungalungile.
Konke lokhu kuhlobana kanjani nokushiya inkungu yobuchopho…
Kuyo yonke imizwa engemihle engabhekana nayo lapho sengikhulile ngaba mdala, angikaze ngiwudele umqondo wemibuzo namaqiniso. Bengihlala ngizizwa ngikweleta umhlaba ukuthi ngingabi ngumuntu olungile kuphela, kepha okungcono kakhulu engingakwazi ukuthi abanye abantu banikezwa okuningi abangakunika kunabanye, okusho ukuthi, kumele banikeze okwengeziwe emhlabeni ukushintshaniswa ngala 'mandla.' Ngokushesha nje lapho ngenza isinqumo empilweni yami sokukhulula izibopho ezizibophezele ze-PMO, ingqondo yami noMoya (noma umuntu wangaphakathi) wasuka (ireferensi esheshayo yomjaho wezimoto)!
Njengoba kuhlala kusebenza izinto emhlabeni, abantu abaqala futhi baqhubeke nempilo ye-PMO bazoba nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukile. Ngibhekabheka kokunye okuthunyelwe ngentambo kweNoFAP, ngibonile abanye babafundi bakithi bebuza ukuthi kungani kungenzeka ukuthi abanye abantu bababaze umuzwa 'wamandla amakhulu' noma 'injabulo ejabule ngokweqile namandla' futhi kungenzeka ukuthi abayizwa le nto kakhulu. Ngifuna ukukwazisa, ngokuhle noma ngokubi, lokho okuzwayo ngaphakathi kuwe yilokho ocabanga ukuthi uzizwa kusekelwe ezinqumweni ozenzela zona.
Ngikholelwa ukuthi sonke singavuma ukuthi kunengqondo ebonakalayo enhle ngaphakathi uma umuntu ephika i-PMO. Lokhu kuyisayensi ukuthi ubuchopho buzincoma kanjani ngokwenza ucala, amahloni, isizungu, ukukhathazeka nabanye. Ngami, imizwa yami mayelana nami iye yathuthuka kakhulu esikhathini esifushane. AWAKHO, kodwa, ngenxa yesinqumo sami sokuba i-PMO mahhala. Ngisanda kwenza izinqumo eziningi ekuphileni okudingeka ngenziwe ukuze ngibe nakho konke engingakwenza.
Okokuqala kwalokhu kukhetha bekugwema i-PMO efingqiwe kuso sonke lesi sikhathi sokubizelwa. Okwesibili kwalezo zinqumo engizibalulile kafushane vele abanye benu abangafisa ukwazi ngazo. Lokho ngukuzelapha ngokwami ukugembula okunenkinga. Ukugembula okunenkinga kwavela kokuhlangenwe nakho empilweni yami cishe eminyakeni eyi-11 eyedlule ngenkathi ngingu-16, cishe eminyakeni engu-4 - 5 ngemuva kwe-PMO. Ngizongena ngolwazi mayelana nesipiliyoni sami sokugembula ngezizathu ezimbili. Okokuqala, kungasiza umuntu ukuxazulula inkinga ethile empilweni yakhe. Okwesibili, ngoba ngikholwa ukuthi izinkinga umuntu ahlangabezana nazo lapho eyi-PMO nalapho benenkinga yokugembula ziyefana kakhulu… ukulungisa okusheshayo kwezinye izingqinamba.
Izinkumbulo zibuya esikoleni samabanga aphakeme lapho ngangizodlala khona i-poker endlini yabangane ukuthola iziteki eziphansi kakhulu (amakota, amadola ambalwa) noma ukubheja emidlalweni yebhola nabangane. Ngikhumbula ukubheja okukhulu kunakho konke engikwenzile ngalesi sikhathi (ngineminyaka engu-16-17 ubudala) empilweni yami kwakungu- $ 300 kumaColts vs Bears Super Bowl [ngokubhekisela, nganginamaColts futhi wagcina ekhokha]. Manje, abantu abaningi abakuboni lokhu 'njengokuyinkinga yokugembula' futhi ngingaqonda impikiswano, mhlawumbe akuyona… ukuwina noma ukwehlulwa, ama- $ 300 abengeke ayiguqule impilo yami noma ikusasa lami kakhulu… kepha kwavele kwaba yinto ethile okuningi.
Ake sihlale sikhumbula, ngalesi sikhathi ngangiya esikoleni esiphakeme / ekolishi isikhathi esigcwele sisebenza umsebenzi wokwenza umsebenzi wendawo phakathi kuka-$ 6.60 no-$ 12 ngehora kuye ngokuthi uneminyaka.
Eminyakeni engaba ngu-17 noma engu-18 ngaqala ukubheja ku-poker nakwezemidlalo online. Bengingakabi mdala ngokwanele ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi ngibambe iqhaza ngokusemthethweni, ngakho-ke ngidlale ngaphansi kwe-akhawunti engayenza ngisebenzisa imininingwane yabomama. Ku-poker ngangizodlala ngokuyinhloko kulokho abakubiza ngokuthi yi- "Sit n Go" emiqhudelwaneni okungukuthi abantu abayi-3, 6, noma abayi-9 babhalisela ukudlala emdlalweni wesitayela somqhudelwano ngemali ekhethiwe ngamunye. Ukukhethwa kwami kwesigxobo kumqhudelwano ngamunye kwakuvame ukuba ngama- $ 25 - $ 55. Ukwazi engikwaziyo manje, ikakhulukazi abantu abadlala kulesi sigxobo kunalokho, uma kungenjalo, banolwazi. Bengimusha sha ngidlala i-poker. Ngazithola ngiwina imali lapha nalaphaya. Ukunqoba okungafika ku- $ 1,100 naku- $ 1,900 emiqhudelwaneni emibili yamatafula ehlukene lapho amakhulu abantu ebamba iqhaza. Inkinga ilele ekutheni angikaze nakanye ngikhiphe imali yami. Ngadla kuphela emshinini, futhi angikaze ngikhiphe noma yini, okwenza ngibe yisiphukuphuku esingabukeki.
Ngokufana ne-poker, ukubheja kwami kwezemidlalo nakho bekunecebo lokulahlekelwa njalo lapho ngifaka khona kuphela, futhi angikaze ngihoxe, noma ngabe nginamalini. Ngizithole ngibheja amakhulu amadola ngekota ye-basketball, noma ngubani ozowina lo mdlalo, noma lowo mdlalo… iqembu elilodwa lingathola amaphuzu angaphezu kuka-23.5. I-adrenaline, injabulo, ukulindela kwakungokoqobo… Kwakunjalo-ke nokwesaba, ukulimala, nobuhlungu.
Ekugcineni, mhlawumbe cishe emva konyaka (endaweni ethile phakathi kwe-18 ne-19) ngime ngezokugembula, ngaqhubeka ne-PMO, futhi ngithatha ukubhema ukhula.
Okwamanje ngisekolishi lomphakathi ngemuva komzamo ohlulekile esikoleni esiphakeme. Okuwukuphela kwemininingwane yangempela engizokwabelana ngayo mayelana nesikole samabanga aphakeme ukuthi nganginabangane abahle ababengebona abantu abanethonya elihle kakhulu, ngangincokola kakhulu kunalokho obekufanele ngikwenze, angikuthathanga kakhulu, ngangena enkingeni a Izikhathi ezimbalwa, angitholanga amamaki amahle njengoba ingqondo yami ibikwazi, izinto ezinjalo.
Ekolishi lomphakathi nge-PMO, ukubhema ukhula, futhi hhayi abangane abakhulu kunabo bonke abashintsha umhlaba, ngenze kahle. 3.65 GPA, umfundaze we-Univ. yaseMaryland, yamukelwa kuso isikole sebhizinisi esivelele kakhulu. Ngemuva kwekolishi lomphakathi, ngaya eYunivesithi (ngineminyaka engu-20) futhi ngabona kakhulu kunakuqala ngezinkinga zami zokukhula. Ukube neqembu elincane labangane kodwa elingenangqondo emphakathini, lingakaze lihlangane nanoma yiziphi izintombi, lenze kabi kakhulu esikoleni. Ngazithola ngenza i-PMO eningi kunokufunda, okwaholela ekulaleni okuningi kunesikhathi sekilasi. Kwakungumjikelezo omubi ngokuphelele engingazange ngithole mpumelelo kuwo.
Ngalesi sikhathi empilweni yami kulapho ngaba nesithakazelo esikhulu kwabesifazane kepha njengabaningi benu, angikwazi ukudlula ekukhathazekeni ukwenza noma yini ngakho. Kuleli qophelo (iminyaka engu-21) bengingashadile cishe iminyaka eyi-6, ngaphandle kocansi, wonke ama-PMO.
Uma ngicabanga ukuthi sengineminyaka eyishumi nambili futhi sengisekuqaleni kweminyaka engama-20, kusobala ukuthi u-PMO wayeyinkinga yami enkulu. Yize imicabango yokuzibulala ingeyona into kimi ngalesi sikhathi, ngiyabona kahle futhi ngizwe ukukhathazeka, ukwehla kwamamaki, ukukhathazeka komphakathi, ukuheha abesifazane abangenayo idrayivu yokwenza lokho. Ngenkathi ngiseYunivesithi ngakwazi ukuphatha umsebenzi omuhle engiwuthunyelwe lapho ngagcina ngenza ama- $ 26 ngehora okuyinto enhle kakhulu emsebenzini wasekolishi wesikhashana.
Ngemuva konyaka owodwa eNyuvesi, izikweletu ze-30 zinamahloni wabasebenzi bami, ngiqeda ukuphuma, ngishiya isikhundla sami esisekelwe ekhomishini futhi ngiqala ukusebenza okuncane, okuzimele, ukuthuthukiswa kwekhaya nokuhweba ekhaya okwakuphumelele kakhulu eminyakeni eyi-5.
Ngeshwa, ngaleyo mpumelelo (kwesinye isikhathi i- $ 6,000 - $ 8,000 ngenyanga ehlobo) kwavela inkinga yokugembula futhi ngenkathi ngishayela emgwaqweni omkhulu wendawo futhi ngibona ibhodi lokukhangisa lekhasino elisanda kuvuleka endaweni. Bengineminyaka engu-22 nje ngaleso sikhathi futhi ngisemthethweni ukugembula kumakhasino. Usuku lwami lokuqala lapho ngiwine cishe ama- $ 950 okudlala i-poker (kulabo benu abaziyo i-poker, i-AA v 55 v Q10 ebhodini le-A5J ** kwakuyisandla sami esikhulu esinqobayo engingeke ngisikhohlwe). Ngaxhunywa ngemuva kwalokho! Ngiqhubeke nokudlala i-poker cishe izinyanga ezimbili, ngenzuzo. Zonke izinto zazizinhle futhi zicacile kwaze kwaba ngolunye usuku ngaba nentshisekelo kukho konke ukuheha okuzungeze umdlalo obizwa ngeBaccarat. Uma ungawazi umdlalo, ngeke ngiwuchaze ngaphandle kokuthi ngathi kufana nokufaka uhlamvu lwemali esikhundleni salokho kunenani lamanani lamakhadi. Indlu iyanqoba ngokuthatha ikhomishini ka-2% uma kwenzeka imiphumela ethile futhi iphumelela kakhulu kwisici esingokwengqondo sabantu abanqobayo, abangakwazi ukuyeka, nokulahlekelwa yikho konke okunye okunye.
Lapho sengidlale iBaccarat okokuqala, ukuwina kwami konke kwebhizinisi kanye ne-poker kwaba ngumhubhe wokulahlekelwa kwami. Ukujaha ukuphakama kwe-PMO kanye nokuwina okuphezulu kumaBaccarat kwenzelwe okunye okuphansi kakhulu, ukwehla engikufihlile ngokuthola ukhula phezulu noma ngokuphuza utshwala ngezikhathi ezahlukahlukene. Kwesinye isikhathi bengingajahi ngisho nezinga lami eliphansi ngezidakamizwa ngivele ngizimunce bese ngihamba impilo yami yonke.
Phakathi neminyaka elandelayo ye-6 (kuze kube yizinsuku ezingu-40 ezedlule), umjikelezo omkhulu ononya wawuzongena empilweni yami. Ngizokwenza imali emisebenzini emihle kakhulu yokulahlekelwa yizokugembula ku-Baccarat, Paigow Poker, nase-Blackjack. Umsebenzi wekhomishana we-$ 26 / hr, i-$ 45 / hr ibhizinisi, i-$ 30 / hr volleyball eqhuba, i-$ 15 / i-hr basketball eqondisa, i-$ 22 / hr ibhola le-baseball, i-$ 50 / hr ukuthengiswa kwempahla ehlukahlukene, i-$ 33 / hr 1 / I-3 poker, ngisebenza emkhunjini wezimoto lapho nginezikhwama zero ngokuphelele futhi ngingafaka imali kuphela) [Nginesikhathi esithile lapho ngangibukeka kahle ngomsebenzi wami futhi ngibhala konke futhi ngiyazi ukuthi lezi zinombolo zizovela phezulu kwekhanda lami].
Ngake ngaba nesikhathi sokuhamba ngezikebhe eziyi-8 kungakapheli unyaka owodwa (ngamenywa ngibuyele njalo ngenxa yokudlala kwami kwekhasino) futhi ngalahlekelwa cishe ngama- $ 38,000 phakathi kwalezo zohambo olungu-8. Ukugembula kwami kungiyise kwezinye izindawo ezingakholeki… iVegas, iHawaii, zonke iziQhingi zaseCaribbean ongazicabanga… Kodwa-ke, bekungafanele imali engilahlekelwe yiyo (ngaphezu kuka- $ 100,000). Ngangihlala ngibhampa cishe phakathi kwama- $ 10,000 ukuchitha kunoma yini ukuze ngibe isikweletu esingu- $ 15,000.
Namuhla, anginakho okuningi ngaphandle ngomqondo wezinto ezibonakalayo. Umndeni wami uyazi futhi uyazi ukuthi kungani (hhayi i-PMO ngempela, kepha ukugembula). Bahlale bengamukela kakhulu, bazi ukuthi ngihlakaniphe kakhulu, nginamandla angenamkhawulo. Ngicabanga ukuthi bebehlala bakholelwa ukuthi ngizokhipha kuyo. Noma, anginakho okuningi ngaphandle ngomqondo wezinto ezibonakalayo nginomuzwa onjalo wokuvuselela nokuguqula impilo ngaphakathi.
Ngokuxazulula i-PMO yami nezinkinga zokugembula ezinenkinga ngasikhathi sinye empilweni yami, ngithole lokho engingakubiza ngokuthi ubuhle be-'DOUBLE-DUTY 'obuthululela kimi. Ngizungezwe umndeni onothando ongisekele kulokho okuzoba okuphansi kakhulu kimi, nginabangane nezibonelo ezibonakala zivela kwelinye iplanethi ngobuhle abunikezayo. Nginamathuba omsebenzi amangalisayo nomphefumulo ongapheli emisebenzini yawo yokufuna ukuba ngcono.
Okwamanje ngifuna ukuthatha isikhathi ngikubuze, ngabe kukhona okunye (ngaphandle kwe-PMO) uma impilo yakho onayo noma ongayinikela ukusiza ukuthuthukisa imizwa yakho yonke. Ngeke ngidlale ijaji elingalungile kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kepha ngikholwa ukuthi sonke sinokuningi ngaphandle kwe-PMO esihlupheka ngakho. Njengoba unqobe i-PMO izinsuku ezingama-7, izinsuku ezingama-30, izinsuku eziyi-100, unyaka ongu-1, nawe, ungazinqoba lezozinto ezingezinhle ezikhona empilweni yakho! Kanjani? Indlela efanayo enqobe ngayo i-PMO. Ngokuqonda izinzuzo, uzinikeze isizathu, futhi usebenze ngaso ngokungaguquki kumzuzu ngamunye.
Angikholelwa ukuthi le nkundla ye-NoFAP iwukuphela kokufakela. Ngikholwa ukuthi ingasetshenziswa noma yini. Ukuphuza utshwala, ukubhema, ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa, ukuchitha isikhathi, noma yini! Ngiyakwazi lokhu umphakathi wabantu abakhayo abaqonda isithombe esikhulu futhi bonke bazibeka ngento ephazamisayo kakhulu mhlawumbe izwe lonke ngeke liyiqonde.
Namuhla nginakho ikhono lokusebenza ngezinjongo engizidalile esikhathini esidlule. Ukuphila kwami kuzosuka lapha usebenzisa umzamo ofanayo owamvumela ukuba ngiyeke i-PMO nokugembula okunenkinga.
Ngifuna ukwabelana nawe ngezinye zezinto ezingisizile ukuthi ngizizwe ngincono ngokuphila…
I-1) I-Gym
- Leli yikhaya lami lesibili, lapho kukhona omunye umndeni wami. Ngaqala ukungazi okuningi, nginesisindo esingama-140 lbs, 5'8 cishe eminyakeni eyi-19. Manje sengineminyaka engama-27, 160 lbs cishe ngama-5% amafutha omzimba. Umphakathi ongaphakathi ejimini ufana kakhulu noweNoFAP lapho ungafuni lutho ngaphandle kwakho okungcono kakhulu kuwe. Ngokusebenza kanzima ejimini, wonke umuntu uzokhula akuhloniphe noma ngabe ubukeka kanjani.
I-2) Ubuciko bokulwa
- Leli igatsha eliya ekhaya lami lesibili. Kwakuyindawo lapho engahlangana khona nomgqugquzeli wami omkhulu wokuphila (ngaphandle kwami / umndeni) nabanye abanjengaye. Umuntu othile engingasoze ngambonga ngokwanele uma unginike zonke izinketho emhlabeni. Ngingacabanga ukuthi izikole eziningi zeMartial Art zinefilosofi efanayo. Angibange ngisacela lutho olunye kulabo abasesikoleni.
3) Ukudla okunempilo
- Kuyafakazelwa ukuthi lokho esikudlayo kuthinta lokho esiyikho, indlela esizizwa ngayo kanye nakho konke ukuthandwa. Ngichithe iningi leminyaka emi-5 edlule ngidla imifino kuphela. Yinto engikholelwa kuyo engisebenzelayo. Akuwona wonke umuntu oyozizwa ngale ndlela futhi lokho kulungile. Akunakuphikwa ukuthi amavithamini namaminerali kubaluleke kakhulu kodwa ngandlela thile. Ngiyakukhuthaza ukuthi wenze ucwaningo bese ubuza imibuzo ethile ngezindlela zokwenza ngcono amazinga wamandla nokusebenza kobuchopho ngokudla kanye / noma izithasiselo.
I-4) Ukuzindla Kwansuku zonke
- Angikubalekeli ukuba nokhahlo kimi lapho kunesidingo. Ngingumuntu engizohlala nginaye njalo. Kumele ngizazi ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Ukucabanga kwansuku zonke kubalulekile ekunqobeni izithiyo. Ukwazi imizwa engemihle umuzwa wakho kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokudlula kukho.
5) Izipikha Zokugqugquzela / Izinombolo Ezinomthelela Ensimini Unesifiso Sokukhathazeka (Ingqondo Yokubeka Amandla Nokuqina)
- U-Eric Thomas, CT Fletcher, Steven Furtick, Gregg Plitt, Frank Medrano, Tony Robbins, Les Brown uma bekhuluma okugqugquzelayo, nemicabango emihle engiyilalelayo. Ingqondo yakho enganakile ayikwazi ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwalokho okuzwayo nalokho okungokoqobo kulokho okuzwayo. Iyifaka yonke, iyigcine, futhi ikholelwe ukuthi iyiqiniso. Lapho othile ekhuluma kwithrekhi yomsindo mayelana nokuthi umangalisa kangakanani noma unamandla kangakanani, ingqondo yakho iqala ukukukholelwa ngokwengeziwe. Ngizithole sengilalele kakhulu umculo wokholo kunanini ngaphambili. Cabanga ngoDkt. Eric Thomas Radio ePandora noma u-Eric Thomas umsakazo ePandora futhi uzozizwela ngokwakho.
I-6) I-Classical Music / Jazz Umculo
- Ngemuva kokuphila iminyaka yami yokuqala ngilalele lonke uhlobo lohlobo olutholakalayo, ingqondo yami idinga ikhefu. Umculo ungashintsha izimpilo zethu zibe ngcono noma ngokubi. Kukithi ukuthi sinquma ukuthi iyiphi indlela esiyikhethayo. Noma ungacabanga ukuthi iPost Malone noma i-Linkin Park ikulande ebumnyameni, futhi, ngokunganakile ingqondo yakho ayikwazi ukubona umehluko phakathi kwamagama abelana ngawo njengamaqiniso noma amanga. Umculo we-classic nomculo we-jazz unikeza ingqondo yakho ithuba lokulalela okuthile okuhle ngenkathi futhi ugcina inqubo yayo yokucabanga.
I-7) Ukususa Wonke Amafomu Omphakathi Wezokuxhumana
- Uyazikhulumela. Sonke singabuzwa ububi balokhu. Ngasikhathi sinye ngashiya i-PMO nokugembula okunenkinga, ngasusa nawo wonke ama-akhawunti wami wezokuxhumana ngenza izaba zokuthi ngidinga ukukhuluma nalo muntu, noma ngidinga ukukhuluma nalowo muntu. Injabulo yami nenkululeko kubaluleke kakhulu kimi kunanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuxhumana nomphakathi. Angikwazi ngisho nokulinganisa ukuthi ngijabule kangakanani ngenxa yalokhu ngiyazi nje ukuthi kuyiqiniso!
Okokugcina kodwa ... Ngiyakholelwa kuNkulunkulu. Ngikholelwa kokuthile okubaluleke ukudlula mina. Ngiyakholelwa eqinisweni lokuthi sonke sibheke umuzwa wenjabulo njengabo bonke abanye abantu. Ngikholwa ukuthi ukuzethemba kwami kungaholela ekutholeni okuhle kwakho, futhi okuphambene nalokho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi sonke sikubheke esikushoyo kwabanye ngoba kungaba nomthelela ngempela ezintweni abazinqumela zona ezimpilweni zabo. Masikhulume ngemibono, hhayi abantu. Ake sikhulume ngobuhle, hhayi ama-negative.
Kuningi kakhulu enginguye kunalokho engiye ngabelana ngakho kulo mbhalo kodwa ukungifingqa ngingathi ngingumthandi wazo zonke izinto zempilo. Ngiyakukholwa. Ngiyazi ukuthi ungakwenza, noma yini ofuna ukuyenza. Kungani? Ngoba sifana kakhulu kunalokho abaningi abakucabangayo. Ngilapha ngawe. Ngizokwabelana nawe ngamandla ami. Ngizokwenza konke okusemandleni ami ukwenza lo mhlaba ongcono wethu sonke. Ngikwazisa kakhulu ngokuthatha isikhathi sakho ufunde lokhu. Ngifisa sengathi ngingabelana ngakho konke nawe kodwa unempilo yakho ozoqhubeka nayo. Yenza umzamo oqinile wokuzibophezela. Yenza konke ongakwenza. Abanye bathembele kuwe. Umndeni wakho, abangane bakho, abantu ongakaze uhlangane nabo abangakwenzela noma yini.
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