Hey! Ngibhale isihloko se-longgggg mayelana nokunqoba umlutha wezocansi, nokuthi uzokwenzani phakathi nohambo lwakho, kanye namathiphu ambalwa nezinto. Ngihlela ukuthumela lokhu kuwebhusayithi yami, ngifuna nje ukuthola impendulo emphakathini. Ngizophinde ngengeze izithombe kamuva. Ucabangani? Siyabonga.
Intsha kanye ne-porn
Ebusheni bethu asihlangani nalokhu kuba umlutha, imvamisa asitholi ngezithombe zocansi kuze kube yiminyaka eyishumi kuya kwelishumi nane, kungaba ukuqagela kwami. Ngithole mayelana ne-porn ngenkathi ngineminyaka eyishumi nambili, ngomunye wabangane bami, ngesikhathi sokulala; kuzwakala kuxaka, ngiyazi. Njengoba singena eminyakeni yethu yobusha, siqala ukuzama izinhlobo eziningi zokulutha, futhi kuyashintsha kusuka kwesinye isizukulwane kuye kwesinye. I-Porn inkulu esikalini sokulutha umlutha ngoba ingumlutha odlula kuwo wonke umuntu osemusha, kungaba owesilisa noma owesifazane. Kulula kakhulu ukubanjwa yilomlutha ngoba ukufinyelela kubuchwepheshe kutholakala kuwo wonke umuntu, kukuchofoza nje kude.
Futhi ngiyazibuza kwesinye isikhathi, kungani kulula ukuthola i-porn? Futhi kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi singabi nazo izixwayiso mayelana nokuthinta i-porn ebuchosheni? Hhayi-ke, kunamawebhusayithi amaningi adalula iqiniso, futhi nezifundo zikhona zilungele ukufundwa, kepha asithathi nje isinyathelo sokuzifunda…. kahle ngoba asazi ukuthi siyimilutha. Uma ubuka i-porn kaningi ngosuku lokho kungumlutha khona lapho. Futhi ngombono wami, noma yiliphi inani le-porn likhulu kakhulu.
Kwenzekani ebuchosheni
Imiphumela ye-porn ebuchosheni bakho ngeke ibonakale ngaso leso sikhathi, kodwa ngokuqhubekayo ubuke i-porn izinyanga ezimbili kuya kweziyisithupha futhi uzoqala ukuzwa imiphumela emibi. Ngemuva kokusetshenziswa kwesikhathi eside, i-porn izoqala ukuthinta izindlela zakho zokucabanga, amazinga akho okuzijabulisa, namandla akho wentando.
Umdwebo olula walokhu ngukuthi: ubuka i-porn - okukhiphayo kwe-dopamine - ubumnandi buzwakala nge-dopamine kanye ne-orgasm - ukuzihlanganisa kudalwa ngokubheka nokukhululwa kwe-oxytocin. Lokhu yilokho okwenzeka ngesikhathi sakho se-fap kokuhlangenwe nakho kocansi, futhi uma ukwenza kaningi ekugcineni amazinga akho e-dopamine awafinyeleli esiqongweni esifanayo, ngoba i-dopamine eningi kakhulu ingalimaza ama-dopamine receptors, futhi udinga i-dopamine eyengeziwe ukuze uzizwe “ jabule ”. Lokhu kubangela ukudangala ngoba imisebenzi ebikade ijabulisa, njengokukhuluma nabangani ayikhiphi i-dopamine eyanele, futhi ugqozi lokuphila luyaphela.
Injabulo yokulahlwa
Omunye umphumela owesabekayo wokuthwebula izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ukuthi uzizwa unecala ngemuva kokwenza lo msebenzi, ngoba uyazi kahle ukuthi lokho osanda kukwenza bekuzwisa usizi, futhi kuyabheda, kepha uvame ukungalinaki lelo qiniso noma uzame ukulithethelela. Futhi lokhu kudala ukuphinda kuhlanganiswe izintambo ngokwengqondo kwamaphethini akho okucabanga. Okokuqala uzikhohlisa, futhi okwesibili - lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka ngemuva kokuthi uthole mayelana nokulutha kocansi, ukuthi uzoqala ukuzizwa unecala ngokuzungeza izithombe ezingcolile. Futhi noma ngabe usazobandakanyeka ku-PMO ngoba akulula kangako ukuyeka, uzoqala ukukhathazeka ngoba uyazi ukuthi okwenzayo akulungile neze futhi bekungafanele ukwenze. Kufana nengane encane, idla amakhukhi embizeni lapho yazi ukuthi abazali bayo bakubukela phansi lokhu kuziphatha, ngakho-ke kungenzeka bangaboni nokuthi amakhukhi ahambile, kepha ingane izizwa ikhathazekile lapho izungezile ngoba iyazi ukuthi wenze okuthile okungalungile. Futhi yebo, ukube besihlala emphakathini lapho wonke umuntu amukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kunokuba necala bekungeke kube yinkinga. Kepha, siphila emphakathini lapho ngisho nesihloko sezocansi sihlukanisiwe, ngakho-ke kufanele uqonde ukuthi kungani ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kuzokukwenza uzizwe unecala.
Nansi ividiyo ejulile echaza lokhu: I-Harvard Scientist ichaza ukuthi yini i-Porn eyenzayo ebuchosheni bakho
I-Lobe yangaphambili (amandla akho okuthanda)
Uma siqhubeka sinikeza-kulokhu kuphuza, sizoziqeqesha ukuba sibe buthakathaka ngokucophelela. Futhi lokhu kuzothinta i-lobe yethu yangaphambili, okubangela ukwenza izinqumo, kusukela ezinqumweni ezincane, ezinqumweni ezinkulu. Ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile izinto ezinjengokungadli lelo burger noma ukuphuza ukuthi i-soda pop ngeke ibe yinto yokukhetha, kuyoba isinyathelo esingenakuzenzekelayo esingathandeki.
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Nasi uhlu lwezinselele zokushaya indlwabu ku-Pornography ukuze:
- I-Dopamine ilayishwa ngaphezulu
- Uhlobo lwe-hormone zobulili kuya kwikhompyutha
- Amandla angeke asheshe (Izinqumo ezisekelwe kumkhuba kunokucabanga okucabangayo)
- Abesifazane babonwa njengezinto
- I-libido ephansi
- Ukuhlazeka, Ukukhathazeka, Ukucindezeleka
- Ukuzibulala
Angifuni ukunweba okuningi ngokuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zimbi kangakanani kuwe uqobo, ngoba UYAZI… Kuyabheda ubuntu bakho. Ngakho-ke ake ngikusize uthole indlela yokuphuma, futhi ngale ndlela ungakwazi ukunqoba kancane kancane kodwa kancane kancane lesi siqephu somlutha we-shit.
Indlela yokuphuma
Ngokuqondene nokuqala, kufanele uthembeke kuwe futhi ubheke impilo yakho kusuka kumuntu wesithathu.
Kunzima kangakanani ukulutha kabi kwe-porn? Futhi yiluphi uhlobo lwezithombe ezingcolile ezithinta impilo yakho yomndeni, impilo yomphakathi, nokuphumelela?
Kwabanye abantu kungahle kungabi nomphumela omubi kangako, futhi lokhu kungenxa yokuthi banomsebenzi ozinzile, mhlawumbe banempilo yomndeni enhle impela, abakhuliswe kahle ngabazali babo, futhi banombuthano omncane wezenhlalo. Kepha kulabo abangakabi nayo impilo yabo ndawonye, futhi abaqala nje emhlabeni, kulungile leyo ndaba ehlukile. Lokhu ngikubona kaningi nabangane bami, nabantu nje jikelele - manje abangena eminyakeni yabo yasekolishi. Bakhathazekile futhi bacindezelekile ngekusasa futhi abazi nhlobo ukuthi into eyodwa ebangela lokhu ukusetshenziswa kwabo kocansi. Ngakho-ke thatha isinyathelo emuva ubuke impilo yakho kusuka endaweni enengqondo yokubuka. Kubi kangakanani?
Nazi umbuzo omncane ongazibuza wona:
Ihlazo nokuzizwa ngecala ngizizwa kanjani ngokubukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezithinta ukuxhumana kwami namalungu omndeni, abangane nabangamazi?
Ngabe ukukhathazeka kwami futhi ngizizwa nginciphisa kanjani izinqumo zami, kusukela emisebenzini efana nokuya esitolo ukuze ngizame ukwenza izinto ezinkulu njengokuqala ibhizinisi?
Ngabe ngangihlose kanjani abesifazane ngenxa yezimfundiso zami ezingalungile zazo nje ngokuba izinto zobulili, futhi lokhu kuthinta kanjani ukuthuthukiswa kwami kobudlelwane nabesifazane?
Umphumela wokushiya imibuzo ye-porn:
Yimiphi imisebenzi encane engingayithanda kakhulu uma ngabe i-pornography yayingasaphili, futhi ubuchopho bami bekufanele buqede ama-receptor e-dopamine?
Ngingawasebenzisa kanjani amandla amakhulu engiwuthola kusuka kumama wami ukwenza okuthile okuthakazelisayo futhi ngithuthukise impilo yami?
Yini engingayenza uma lokhu ukukhathazeka okukhulu nokudabuka kwakungeke kuphazamise izinqumo zami?
Le yimibuzo embalwa nje eyisisekelo ongazibuza yona, nokuthi iyiphi okufanele uyiphendule, kepha iningi ngeke ngenxa yobuvila. Futhi uma uwaphendula la kunokuphina ishidi obaphendule lona odongeni lwakho, noma vele uligcine njengesikhumbuzo sekusasa ukuze ubuyele kuzizathu uma uzizwa uthanda ukuyeka. Lokhu kufanele kuphendule imibuzo eyisisekelo edinga ukuphendulwa, futhi kufanele ikusize uthole ukuthi kungani uyeka. Futhi lapho usubonile ukuthi yingakho kufanele ngiyeke uzoba nesinyathelo esengeziwe sokwenza kanjalo.
Ukuzibekela ukuphumelela
Noma kungukukhiqiza noma ukuyeka umkhuba omubi, kuhlale kuhlakaniphile ukuzibekela impumelelo. Kungakho udinga uhlobo oluthile lokulungiselela. Lapho ngiqala uhambo lwami lweNoPMO ngehluleka kaninginingi, futhi into eyodwa engabona ngokushesha okukhulu ukuthi ukulungiselela kuyisihluthulelo.
Ulungiselela kanjani?
Okokuqala sidinga ukuthola ukuthi yini evumela ukwehluleka ukwenzeka. Kungenzeka ukuthi kube lula ukufinyelela ezithombeni ezingcolile, ake siqale ngalokho. Uhlala unocingo lwakho ngaso sonke isikhathi, uma usegumbini lokugezela, lapho ulele embhedeni nalapho uzizwa “ungekho”. Ngakho-ke isixazululo ukuthola ama-porn blocker. Nazi izincomo zami:
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Le software ingalandwa kunoma iyiphi idivayisi, futhi ivimbela izithombe, amavidiyo nezindawo ezicacile. Ngcono kakhulu engithole.
Ngefoni:
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Susa esinye isiphequluli efonini yakho bese uthola lokhu, kuzovimba konke okuqukethwe okucacile.
Noma thola i-K9 yekhompuyutha ephathekayo noma ususe isiphequluli sakho bese uthola isiphequluli esiphephile, uma kungenjalo ngiyakuthembisa - uzohluleka. Kuzoba khona ukuthi ngolunye usuku lapho ufana no “fuck, ngidinga i-porn” futhi kulapho ukuwa kwakho kuzoqala khona. Nocingo lwakho? Into efanayo, susa i-Chrome, susa i-Firefox, bese uthola isiphequluli esiphephile, noma uhlelo lokusebenza lwe-K9. Yileyo ndlela ozibekela ngayo impumelelo.
Ukuhoxiswa
Njengoba uqala nje ngalesi senzo sokuhlubuka, uzoba nezinxusa zokuthi uthinte izithombe ezingcolile njengendoda ehlanyayo. Kwenzeka kimi, futhi kuzokwenzeka nakuwe. Uzobe uvuke ebusuku uzama ukuzungeza laba bavimbeli ngoba ama-hormone akho azobe egcwele yonke indawo. Futhi ngithini kulokhu? Vele fap! Ungabuki noma iyiphi i-porn, kepha fap, ukuhoxiswa kuzohlala cishe amasonto amabili kuye enyangeni, ngakho-ke yenza kube lula kuwe futhi fap uze ukwazi ukulawula imizwa yakho.
Lapha kufika amandla
Uphumelele! Unenyanga eyodwa noma ezimbili, futhi awukaze ubuke noma iyiphi i-porn kusukela lapho. Umsebenzi omuhle! Yilapho izinto zizoqala ukujabulisa kakhulu. Futhi kusobala ukuthi ukululama ngokugcwele ngeke kwenzeke ezinyangeni ezimbalwa, kungathatha unyaka noma ngaphezulu, kepha uzoqala ukubona izinguquko ezincane. Amazinga akho wamandla azokwenyuka ngoba amazinga akho e-testosterone andile, obuka emhlabeni kuzoshintsha ngoba awusenayo into ongazizwa uyihlazo ngayo, futhi uzozizwa umuhle ngawe ngoba ushaye umlutha.
Ngicabanga ngenguquko yokuqala engayibona ukuthi amazinga ami wamandla akhula kakhulu. Ngazama ukugcina ukuhamba okungenani kanye ngesonto, noma ngaphansi, futhi kusukela ngisenayo yonke imbongolo ngaphakathi kwamantongomane ami kanye namazinga ami e-testosterone ayephezulu, nginamandla okukhula. Futhi singakwazi ukuphikisana ngokuthi ngabe ukugcinwa kwezinsikazi kukuzuzisa wena noma cha, kodwa uma isibalo esincane singakha ifomu lokuphila, ngicabanga ukuthi kubalulekile; kanye ne-semen iqukethe amaprotheni namavithamini.
Lapho amandla eza, udinga ukuthola indawo ozoyikhipha, ngoba uma ugcina konke lokho ngaphakathi, uzoqala ukuzwa ukungezwani. Ngincoma ukuzivocavoca umzimba. Futhi uyabona ukuthi omunye uzondla kahle kanjani komunye. Manje unamandla amaningi futhi udinga ukuwasebenzisa, ngakho-ke ukuzivocavoca yisixazululo esihle impela. Awudingi ukuhlanya ngokuzivocavoca umzimba, kodwa vele uqiniseke ukuthi wenza okuthile okusebenzayo nsuku zonke, futhi ngincoma ubuciko bempi, ukugijima, ukukhuphuka kwezihlahla, into enamandla amakhulu.
Iba ngcono kuphela
Ushintsho olukhulu oluzoqala ukuqaphela ngemuva kwenyanga noma ezimbili zokuyeka izithombe ezingcolile ukuthi uzofuna ukuhlangana nokuzihlanganisa nabangani bakho kaningi. Ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyingxenye ngenxa yokuthi udinga ukwaneliseka kulabo abamukela i-dopamine, futhi ukuzijabulisa kuyindlela ephelele. I-Porn yiyona into eyakukunika ukwaneliseka okusheshayo, nomqondo wokuxhumeka, ngakho-ke kudingeka udlulisele lo mkhuba ngomunye. Futhi njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka i-biology yakho iyothatha futhi izokugqugquzela ukuba uphume futhi ufune abesifazane ngoba awusayitholi pussy ngokushesha. Lokhu kushayisana ngocansi kuzobonakala ngamehlo, indlela ohamba ngayo, nangokwakheka kwezwi lakho; njengoba izwi lakho kufanele lijule (kwenzeka kimi ngaso sonke isikhathi).
Ngomqondo ojwayelekile, uma i-porn isiphelile empilweni yakho, izinto zingathuthuka kuphela. Kancane kancane kodwa ngokuqinisekile. Kufanele uthembele enqubweni futhi uqhubeke, ungapheli amandla ngoba uzizwa sengathi "akusebenzi" uma usevikini lesibili kuphela. Okuvamile, ungazikhohlisi. Uyazi ukuthi lokhu kunezinzuzo, futhi ubone amavidiyo amaningi wokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye abantu, ngakho-ke ungazikhukhumezi.
Isifinyezo
Ukuthola izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuwumkhuba owesabekayo futhi owenyanyekayo, futhi asitshelwa ngemiphumela emibi esinayo emphakathini wethu nakumuntu ngamunye obamba iqhaza kulesi senzo. Okwamanje kufanele uqonde ukuthi i-porn izokukhathaza ngokwengqondo nangokwenyama, akukho "okuhle" ngokusetshenziswa kocansi. Ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kubalulekile enhlalakahleni yakho, kuzothuthukisa umzimba wakho ngoba manje awukhohlisi i-biology yakho ngokwaneliseka okusheshayo, okuyinto i-biology yakho engakwazi ukuyibona ngokoqobo. Futhi lokhu kuzosetha kabusha uhlelo lomzimba wakho futhi kuzokubeka esimweni lapho ungasebenza khona kusuka ekubhekeni kokungathathi hlangothi.
Izinzuzo zeNoPMO zizofika, kepha ukubekezela kubalulekile! Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho uzizwa "ungekho" futhi ufuna nje ukukhishwa okuthile kepha yingakho ukulungiselela kwakho kubalulekile futhi kungani ama-porn blocker ebalulekile ekusethweni ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Kuzoba lula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ekuqaleni, kuzozwakala sengathi umzimba wakho wonke ukumelene nawe, kepha kufanele umane uphushe imizwa ubone ukuthi ukwenzela lokhu. Futhi uma ufuna ukuqhubeka nokuphila impilo yakho ngokukhathazeka nobuthakathaka - kangcono kunokuba uqhubeke. Kepha ushintsho lwenzeka lapho ucindezela ukudlula kokumelana okukhanyayo, kulapho kuzalwa ungqimba lwakho olusha, futhi awusoze wakuthola lokhu uma uphila ngemikhuba efanayo nangendlela efanayo
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