NguMegan Fox – Novemba 21, 2019.
U-Alex Rhodes ungumuntu othakazelisayo. Lapho eneminyaka engu-11, uthi waqala umlutha wezithombe zobulili ezingcolile iminyaka eminingi owaguqula impilo yakhe yaba yimbi. Lapho enquma ukwenza okuthile ngakho, wathola umphakathi wabantu abaku-inthanethi ababenezinkinga ezifanayo. Waqala inkampani yakhe, i- No Fap , ngo-2011 njengenkundla yomphakathi yabantu yokuxoxa ngemiphumela yokusebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngokweqile, ukuziphatha kocansi okuphoqelelayo, kanye nokululama. Igama elithi “Fap” liyigama elisetshenziswa kakhulu elisho ukushaya indlwabu. Indlela kaRhodes yokululama yaqala ngokuyeka ukushaya indlwabu nokugwema izithombe zobulili ezingcolile.
Umphakathi awudalile wakhula waba ngamanani amakhulu abantu abavela kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila abazuze esikhuthazweni seNo Fap. Iwebhusayithi ithi, "silapha ukukusiza ukuthi uyeke ezocansi, uthuthukise ubudlelwano bakho, futhi ufinyelele nezinhloso zakho zezempilo zocansi." URhode uthi akavumeli ukuvimbela izithombe zocansi noma ukuwuvala nganoma iyiphi indlela, kepha ubefuna umphakathi lapho abantu bethinteke kabi yiwo bangasekelana bodwa ekuphuleni umlutha wabo kukho. Ayikho i-Fap engasekelwanga inkolo, njengoba iRhodes isingeyena umuntu wokholo, okwenza isayithi lakhe nomsebenzi wakhe kuyingozi enkulu embonini yezobulili ngoba angeke atshalwe njengeshisekeli lenkolo.
Nakuba ukulutheka kocansi kungafakwanga ohlwini lwe-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, kuyinkinga yangempela abaningi ababhekene nayo. Ngokusho kwe-Psych Guides, "ukulutheka kocansi, okuyisigaba esincane sokulutheka kocansi , kungabhekisela ezindleleni eziningi zokuziphatha ezenziwa ngokweqile futhi ezithinta kabi impilo yomuntu."
Kunenqwaba yolwazi olutholakalayo mayelana nomthelela omubi wokusetshenziswa kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezinganeni, okuhlanganisa nokwanda kobugebengu bocansi njengoba kubikwe e-UK , lapho "izibalo ezivela [emithonjeni] engu-30 zibonisa imibiko yobugebengu bocansi eyenziwa yizingane ezineminyaka eyi-10 nangaphansi iphindwe kabili kusukela eminyakeni engu-204 ngo-2013-14 yaya eminyakeni engu-456 ngo-2016-17. Ochwepheshe e-UK bakhomba ukwanda kokufinyelela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile yizingane njengembangela.
Ukuluthwa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nakho kuyimbangela ehamba phambili yokuqhekeka kwemishado nobudlelwano. I-Psychology Today ibike ukuthi imishado engu-500,000 ephela minyaka yonke ibiza ukuluthwa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile njengembangela.
Unalokho engqondweni, inhlangano efana ne-No Fap ibukeka sengathi kungaba yisixazululo esingeyona impikiswano kulabo abayikhethayo ukuqondisa kabusha izimpilo zabo endleleni enhle. Kepha abanye abantu ababona abalandeli. Izingcweti zocansi nezimboni ze-porn ziyamzonda u-Alex Rhode ngomdlandla abavame ukubekela amathoyizi abo ezocansi.
URhode ufake isimangalo sokudicilela phansi isithunzi kuKinsey Institute othweswe iziqu, uNicole Prause, usosayensi ofunda ezocansi. URhode ukholelwa ukuthi uPrause wamhlukumeza ukuthi achithe ibhizinisi lakhe futhi anyelise igama lakhe. Izazi zocansi ezifana noPrause zinemibono emangazayo kakhulu ngocansi lwabantu. Esithombeni sakhe kuTwitter, uPrause ukhala ngokungakwazi ukutadisha ubulili babantwana ngaphandle kokubizwa nge-pedophile.
Lokhu akumangazi uma kukhulunywa ngomuntu owafunda eKinsey Institute. U-Alfred Kinsey wayeyisilo. Ukuhlolwa kwakhe ngokocansi ezinganeni kwakufanele kumfake ejele. Washicilela ucwaningo olwaluhilela okungenani izingane ezingu-188 nezingane ezincane ezazisetshenziswa ngokocansi ngabantu abahlukumeza izingane abaziwa ngoKinsey ukuze bavuselele ukuvuthwa kwazo futhi ukuvuthwa kwazo kwaqoshwa ngesikhathi socwaningo. Ucwaningo lwakhe lwatholakala luwukukhwabanisa nobugebengu, kodwa ucwaningo lusasetshenziswa ngabantu abanjengoPrause kanye nabanye abafana naye. Kukhona idokhumentari etholakala ku-YouTube ebizwa ngokuthi “The Children of Table 34” mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa izingane ezabhekana nakho ngenxa kaKinsey. UKinsey wenza okuningi ukuze ajwayele ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane kunanoma ubani ngaphambi noma ngemva kwakhe kodwa kukhona abantu abazibheka njengabavelele ekuphothuleni esikoleni esibizwa ngegama lakhe. Kusobala ukuthi uPrause akaboni nkinga ngokuhilela izingane ezifundweni mayelana nocansi.
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"Uma ukhuluma ngezocansi zentsha, abantu bazothi ukhuthaza ukukhombisa izingane izithombe ezingcolile," wabhala. “Kwenzeke kimina nakwabanye engisebenza nabo. Inonya, ihlambalaza, futhi iyesabeka. Yingakho kunezifundo ezimbalwa zobulili bentsha. Ukusatshiswa okumsulwa. ”
Ngafinyelela kuPrause ngamcela ukuthi achaze ukuthi uzokufunda kanjani "ubulili bobusha" ngaphandle kokwephula imithetho yamanje mayelana nokonakalisa izingane kanye nokwephula iminyaka yemvume futhi angitholanga mpendulo. Ososayensi abadala bangakufunda kanjani ubulili bezingane lapho izingane zingakwazi ukuvuma ukuya ocansini? Ngabe lolo hlobo locwaningo lusebenza kanjani? Kuyathakazelisa nokuthi izazi zobulili ezibubula ngokungatholakali kwabancane ocwaningweni lwezocansi ngokusobala abazi ukuthi zibukeka zinengeka kanjani kubantu abajwayelekile abangakaze bacabange ngezingane ezenza ucansi.
Ukuziphatha kukaPrause ku-inthanethi maqondana nezinhlangano ezilwa nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye neRhodes kubhalwe kahle futhi kuyinqaba ngempela. I-Your Brain on Porn iqoqe izithombe-skrini eziningi zokuziphatha kwakhe ku-inthanethi ezihlanganisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwezikhulumi ze-Ted Talk ezikhuluma ngokulutha kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye nokulimala kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Kubonakala sengathi impikiswano enkulu kaPrause ngomphakathi wosizo lokulutha kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile ukuthi ukholelwa ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zilungele abantu hhayi umlutha. Kubonakala sengathi le nkolelo imholele empini yokuhlambalaza noma ubani ongavumelani naye.
Udumo aluthandi ukuxhunywa embonini yezocansi futhi uthi uhluke ngokuphelele futhi ungusosayensi. Kepha uhambela imicimbi yezimboni zocansi futhi uthwetshulwa nezinkanyezi nabaphathi be-porn futhi unxenxa esidlangalaleni nezinhlangano zemboni yezocansi ukuvimba umthetho abangawuthandi. Lowo nguyena osepinki ngakwesokunene.
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I-California Proposition 60 bekungumthetho ukuthi kudingeke amakhondomu kwimikhiqizo yezocansi ukuze kunqande ukusakazeka kwegciwane lengculazi. UNdlovukayiphikiswa wawuphikisana nalomthetho kanye nabanqobi bezimboni ezinkulu ze-porn. Uyabonakala ku-Twitter axhumana njalo futhi avikele imboni yezocansi nabasebenza ezocansi.
Icala likaRhode lithi uPrause wamsola ngokuthi "ungumuntu odlubulundela, ongqondongqondo, ohlukumeza ngokwesikhashana, umgqugquzela udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane, i-cyberstalker, ngokuya ngemithetho yokuvinjwa / engathintwa ehlobene neqembu elidlubulundayo [i-h] adle iqembu futhi usabisa ngokudlwengulwa." Kukhona ubufakazi bokungenani kwalezo zinto ezingamanga abonakalayo.
Ngemuva kokuthi uPrause athumele ku-Twitter ukuthi wenze isikhalazo se-FBI ngeRhodes, wafuna lo mbiko ngoMthetho Wenkululeko Yolwazi. Lokho akutholile kuqinisekisile ukuthi wayekwenzile.
“Mnu. Rhodes othandekayo,” kufundeka incwadi evela kwi-FBI iphendula i-FOIA. I-FBI isiqedile ukusesha kwayo amarekhodi aphendula isicelo sakho…Asikwazanga ukuthola noma yisiphi isicelo sefayela eliyinhloko futhi; ngakho-ke isicelo sakho sivaliwe ngokomthetho.”
Naphezu kwalobu bufakazi bokuthi uPrause akakaze afake noma yimuphi umbiko onjalo kwi-FBI, uyaqhubeka nokuphinda isimangalo esidlangalaleni, okuyinto icala likaRhodes elithi iyalimaza idumela lakhe. URhodes akayena yedwa umuntu azama ukumhlambalaza ngemibiko yamaphoyisa engamanga. UPrause uphinde walandela uGary Wilson, uthisha we-physiology onentshisekelo ethile ezintweni zakamuva ezitholwe yi-neuroscience, owasungula i- Your Brain and Porn. UPrause usola uWilson njalo ngokumlandela nokuba nemibiko eminingi yamaphoyisa ngokumhlukumeza. UWilson uthi akukho okuyiqiniso futhi unemibhalo yokukusekela. UWilson ubhale kuwebhusayithi yakhe:
Ngenkathi uPrause eqhubeka nokuqamba amanga athi "uyisisulu," nguPrause oqale konke ukuxhumana nokuhlukumeza abantu kanye nezinhlangano ezibhalwe kuleli khasi. Akekho kulolu hlu oye wahlukumeza uNicole Prause. Izimangalo zakhe zokuqamba ngokuba yisisulu "sokuzingela" noma ukungaziphathi kahle kwabesifazane "bezishoshovu ezilwa nezocansi" azinayo i-iota yemibhalo eyodwa. Bonke ubufakazi abunikezayo buzenzele: i-info-graphic eyodwa, ama-imeyili ambalwa avela kuye aye kwabanye achaza ukuhlukunyezwa, nezincwadi ezinhlanu ezingamanga zokuyeka nokuyeka izincwadi eziqukethe izinsolo ezingamanga. Uzobona nobufakazi bezikhalazo eziningi ezisemthethweni uPrause azifakile kuma-ejensi ahlukahlukene okulawula - axoshwe ngokuphelele noma aphenywa futhi achithwa. Kubukeka sengathi ufaka lezi zikhalazo mbumbulu ukuze aqhubeke afune ukuthi izinhloso zakhe zonke "ziyaphenywa."
Mhlawumbe okubonisa kakhulu umlingiswa kaPrause kule ndaba yicala lakhe lokuthi uRhodes ungumNazi futhi ungumuntu othanda ukugqama kwabamhlophe, njengoba kuchaziwe ecaleni. Lokhu akufanele kumangaze noma ubani obelokhu elalele kusukela ngo-2016. Lapho nje u-SJW engavumelani nothile, lowo muntu uba ngumNazi. Ubugebengu bukaRhodes? Wavumela umhlaziyi wezepolitiki uGavin McInnes ukuthi axoxisane naye ngesikhathi esasebenzela iVice . Futhi njengoba uPrause ethole ukuthi uRhodes ukhulume noMcInnes ngesinye isikhathi futhi akazange amphonse isiphuzo ebusweni, ubelokhu emsola ngokusekela iProud Boys (eyaba senkingeni enkulu ngokulwa emgwaqweni no-Antifa). Kuseyinto enzima, ngombono wami, ukubiza iProud Boys ngokuthi yiqembu lokuphuza labesilisa, kodwa empeleni uRhodes uphike iProud Boys ngokuthi “iqembu elinobudlova” izikhathi eziningana. Wayengakaze abe yilungu, noma umsekeli. Akukho Fap ongakaze abe yipolitiki futhi uzinikele ekuhlinzekeni usizo lokulutha kunoma ubani oludingayo. Lokhu akumvimbeli uPrause ukuthi aqhubeke nokumxhumanisa “nabamhlophe abakholelwa ekuqineni” ngokusebenzisa ubudlelwano obubuthakathaka bengxoxo eyodwa noMcInnes, naye ongeyena ummhlophe okholelwa ekuqineni.
Icala kufanele libe nokuthakazelisa ukulibuka njengoba kuvula izitatimende ku-Twitter zokuhlolisiswa okusemthethweni. Ngabe uPrause uzobekwa icala lokushicilela izinsolo zamanga ezinkundleni zokuxhumana?
UMegan Fox ungumbhali wencwadi ethi “Believe Evidence; The Death of Due Process from Salome to #MeToo.” Landela ku-Twitter @MeganFoxWriter
Qaphela: Ukusakazwa kwezinye izitolo: “Izimpi zobulili ezingcolile ziba yimfihlo ku-No Nut November” , nguDiana Davison we -The Post Millennial . UDavison uphinde wakhiqiza le vidiyo yemizuzu eyi-6 mayelana nokuziphatha okubi kukaPrause: “Ingabe Izithombe Zobulili Ezingcolile Ziyalutha?” , kanye nalesi sikhathi sokuhlukunyezwa/izinsolo ezingamanga zikaPrause: Isikhathi Sesikhathi Sempi Yezemfundo se-VSS.