Fapstronauts bakusihlwa…
Ngiza kuwe namuhla ngesipho esikhulu kunazo zonke engingayinika noma ubani, ngikhipha ngaphandle mahhala ngoba ngizizwa ngingakufanelekile ukuhlakanipha kwayo, nakuba ngabe kungukuthi ngifake isingeniso esinzima sokuthi ngiyitholile.
Okokuqala, cabanga ngalokhu okulandelayo; Ufuna ukuyeka ukukhula, kepha ngandlela thile uvele 'unikeze' bese ufap. Izidakwa zifuna ukuyeka ukuphuza, kepha ngandlela thile zimane 'zinikeze'. Abadla Izidakamizwa bafuna ukuyeka ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa, kodwa ngandlela thile bavele 'banikeze'. Abantu abangaphumelelanga bafuna ukuphumelela, kepha baqhubeka nokwenza izinto 'abazaziyo' ukuthi zingakhiqizi ukuzuza leyo mpumelelo.
Ngigxile kulezi zimo nakwezinye eziningi ezifanayo futhi ngayihlanganisa nolunye ulwazi olungajwayelekile olwaluzungeza ikhanda lami ukufika esiphethweni esiqinile sokuthi…
"AYI BODYI YAKHO"
Kulungile, awukho. Ungumgibeli osemkhunjini ogama lakhe elikhulu ukufuna 'induduzo ngazo zonke izindlela. Ayinikezi ama-shits amabili mayelana 'nezifiso zakho eziphakeme'. Uma ungenawo umzimba olawulwayo, uzokwazi UNGALOKOTHI finyelela imigomo onayo ekhanda lakho. Abaningi abaningi abalahlayo babulawa yizidakamizwa zabo naphezu kwesifiso sabo sokuyeka.
Ngempela uvumele lokho kuhlale. Awumzimba wakho, ungumgibeli.
Siyazi ukuthi nalokhu kuqinisile ngokubheka ngokwesayensi ngenxa yocwaningo olwenziwe engxenyeni yezobuchopho (indlela yokuphila) ekugcineni ebeka izimpendulo zethu.
Kodwa-ke, njengokuphazamisa amandla futhi njengokuthuthumezayo njengalezi zindaba, kunikeza ithemba elingokoqobo futhi elingasebenza. Awehluleki ngoba uqalekisiwe. Awulokhu ubuyela emuva ngoba ubuthakathaka. Uhlulwa kule mpi, lempi yempilo ngoba awulawuli umkhumbi 'ogibele kuwo'.
Uma uke wakhwela ihhashi uzoqonda ukuthi uma unomoya omnene futhi uphambanisa nehhashi ekuqaleni uzosisebenzisa futhi udle utshani uphinde uphume ngaphandle noma yini oyifunayo. Kodwa-ke, uma ugibele ngokuqinile, ngeziqondiso ezicacile futhi usebenzise iziphakamiso ezifanele ngesikhathi esifanele uzoba nehhashi ngaphansi kokulawula okuphelele.
Umzimba womuntu ufana naleso sikhombiso nje kuphela esiyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Umzimba owugibelayo ufuna into eyodwa ngokuyinhloko, ukuphepha (/ induduzo). Uma ungayinikezi ngokuphepha ngemilayezo ecacile nokuhlela okuqinile, uzobe unganakwa. Lokhu kuhle ezimweni zokusinda, umzimba uzothola izindlela zokuzigcina uphila uma kungenzeka. Kodwa-ke, umphakathi wanamuhla unzima kakhulu ukuthi izidingo eziyisisekelo ezigculisayo kuphela. Udinga ukuhlelwa, ulawulwe futhi uphumelele, ngaphandle kwalokho izinga lakho lokuphila lingaba lincane.
Ukuthola kabusha ukulawula Ngokusobala akulula njengokuhlela izinsuku zakho kangcono… uma unezilonda ezinzima kuzodingeka wakhe kabusha ukwakha phansi, ukuthola kabusha ukulawula usuku nosuku. Ngangivame ukuba umlutha omkhulu, noma yini futhi konke kwakuwumdlalo wami, manje sekukhishwe kwaba yimilutha emibili eyinhloko, ukufakela nokuchofoza okusha. Lokhu okulandelayo yindlela engize ngayo kulo 'mbukiso wokugcina', angiphelele, kepha ngiseduze kakhulu. Lokhu kuyasebenza, ngizamile yonke incwadi yokuzisiza ngaphansi kwelanga futhi ngicwengekile ngokuzijwayeza nangolwazi lwecebo lokusebenza elilandelayo, lakho.
Uhlelo lwesenzo:
I-1) Thola ukuthi iziphi izifiso zakho kuqala. Vele uhlale uphinde uphuphe, uyenze ngaphambi kombhede lapho umzimba usendaweni ekhululekile kakhulu. Sebenzisa irekhodi lezwi. Yiba njengenhlanhla njengoba ufuna, ukuyiqiniso kungenye indlela yokuzibeka phansi. Ufuna ukuya esikhaleni, kuhle. Ufuna ukwakha i-MMO enkulu elandelayo, kuhle. Ufuna ukuba nomnikazi we-asteroid, kuhle. Ufuna ukuhlala emhumeni ezintabeni, kuhle. Noma yikuphi okuyiqiniso kuwe, kuyiqiniso kuwe, hamba nayo. Ungabi namaphupho amancane, isifiso sakho sokuphila sivela ezifisweni zakho. Okukhudlwana nokuhlambalaza kuncono kakhulu!
2) Qonda ukuthi kunjalo IZINTO ZAKHO lokho kuchaza wena. Kuhle ukufunda okuthile okushukumisayo futhi ufane nokuthi, "Manje ngizozuza konke engikufunayo!" uzithole usubuyela kusikwele 1 ngosuku olulandelayo, ngokuzisola okungeziwe. Lokhu kwenzeka ngoba ukugqugquzela njenge-porn, noma izidakamizwa kuphakeme. Uzizwa umuhle lapho ufunda okuthile okukhuthazayo / okushukumisayo ngoba kukugcwala ngama-endorphins ne-dopamine. Kuhle ukwenza injini iqale kodwa akukho okunye, ingumzimba ophakeme. Ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi uyayifeza imigomo yakho, udinga imikhuba emihle ezokusa lapho yize 'unemizwa' noma 'isimo' sakho. Lokhu kunzima, kuthatha isikhathi namandla kepha imikhuba emihle ngumehluko phakathi kwezigidigidi nokwehluleka. Kulula kanjalo.
3) SUSA ZONKE IZINKINGA! Ngokuzimisela! Lesi esikhulu, yingakho kufanele ususe zonke izithombe zakho ezingcolile, ubeke i-k9 blocker yakho yokuphepha, uqiniseke ukuthi awukho endaweni yakho ye-fap njll. Umzimba uyisidalwa semikhuba, uma isimo sakho samanje sithuthukisa imikhuba ethile kufanele uguqule kakhulu leyo ndawo ukuze nje uzinike ithuba lokuthi ungaweli emikhubeni yakudala. Isibonelo, sekuphele iminyaka emibili ngingaphuzi. Bengiwumlutha wotshwala futhi ngiwumlutha wezidakamizwa ngaphandle kwemingcele, manje wonke umuntu ohlangana nami uthukile ukuthi ngiyakwazi ukungaphuzi futhi ngibe mncane kangako, ngithola izincomo njalo futhi 'ngifisa sengathi bengingawe' ngaso sonke isikhathi. Iyini imfihlo yami? Ngingumuntu othile onamandla amakhulu. Cha! Ngivele ngahlala ngaphuma kunoma iyiphi indawo lapho bengizolingeka ukuba ngiphuze noma ngikhuthazwe ukuphuza ngize ngibe namandla ngokwanele kimi ukwazi Angizukuphuza. Ngisho nomzimba wami awusaphayi kangako, sekufike ekuboneni ukuthi awusaphuzi. Kodwa-ke, ngiyazikhukhumeza ekubuseni kwami, isihogo cha, ngiyazi ukuthi ngokwanele izimbangela ezingafanele zibangele ngesikhathi esingalungile ku indawo engalungile futhi ngingazama ukuphuza futhi. Noma kunjalo, ngiphatha zonke izinto zangaphandle ukuqinisekisa ukuthi akakaze kwenzeke!
4) Lalela umzimba wakho! Kufanele ube yingcweti ekuqondeni izimpawu, izidingo namaphethini omzimba wakho. Imvamisa ngine-streaks izinsuku ezimbalwa, bese yonke into idilika njengendlu yamakhadi. Lapho ngicabanga kakhulu ngalokhu kungenxa yokuthi ngivumele ukushelela okuguquguqukayo 'okukodwa', lapho ngithole ithuba lokukulungisa. Lokho kuguquka okukodwa okuncane kuqale umphumela we-domino owonakalise konke. Manje kunzima ngendlela emangalisayo ukuba ngaphezulu kokuhlukahluka komuntu siqu kepha unesikhathi, futhi unenketho. Faka umsebenzi wansuku zonke wokuletha ulwazi lwakho kuzo zonke izicelo ezincane ezifika engqondweni yakho LUNGAKHO INGXENYE YEMPILO YAKHO EPHAKATHI bese uzibhalela phansi 'izidingo zomzimba'. Isibonelo, angifuni ukulala phakathi nezinsuku zaphakathi nesonto, ngakho-ke lapho ngivuka ekuseni bese ngithi kimi, “urghhh, vuka kabi ngeminye imizuzu eyi-15” ngiyazi ngokushesha ukuthi umzimba ulawula. Ukulala ngaphakathi akuyona eyami kuthanda nokho kubukeka sengathi ngiyakwenza. Futhi, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi okufunayo nokufunwa ngumzimba kuhlukile futhi kwesinye isikhathi kuyaphikisana. Okokuqala funda umehluko, bese uqinisekisa ukuthi wakha impilo yakho ekufezeni izifiso zakho eziphakeme.
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5) Ucezu lokugcina lwe-jigsaw. Leli phuzu ngiligcinele ukulihlala, ngoba liyinkimbinkimbi futhi alincikile kusayensi eqinile kepha kulokho engikuqondayo ezincwadini eziningi, eziningi engizifundile ngokulutha, amandla, impumelelo njll ... le yingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu kepha enzima kakhulu isibalo somuntu siqu.
Umzimba wakho ungavuka phezulu.
I-Dopamine, yisitha sakho esibi kunazo zonke! Kuyingxenye ebalulekile yemishini yethu yokuphila kodwa ivuselelwe kakhulu emphakathini wanamuhla. Ikakhulukazi nge-porn. Ngicela ngibhale izinto ezimbalwa ezenza i-spike dopamine engibeka umzimba ngokuqinile esihlalweni sokushayela, naphezu kokuphikisa kwami. I-Nicotine, i-Caffeine, Ukudla Okudlayo, I-Sugar, Intsha, Ubulili, Ukuzijabulisa Kakhulu.
Uma umzimba wakho uthola ukunambitheka kwe-dopamine, njengoba kuboniswe ekuhlolweni okuningi, kuzongena ku-dopamine oblivion uze ulale, uphazanyiswe noma kufanele uphule umjikelezo ngenxa yomsebenzi njll. Kukhona ukuhlolwa okudumile okufundwe Amakhompi, kulezi zinja zokuhlola babe nama-electrode agxilwe ku-dopamine receptors. Lezi zimpondo zazikhethe. Ukushaya i-lever ezoshukumisa i-dopamine receptors noma ifake i-lever ezobanika ukudla. Kwakuyinto / noma ukuhlolwa. Umphumela, eziningi zamagundane alambile. Lezi zinja zizoshaya leli lever kunokuba zidle, kuze kube lapho zizozibulala khona. Cabanga ngenani lezilutha ezenza into efana nalezi kodwa ezingeni lomuntu.
Manje ngaphansi kwezimo ezijwayelekile lokhu akuyona inkinga enkulu. Ungaphila impilo ehloniphekile ngemilutha ye-dopamine. Kodwa-ke, uma ukhetha ukwenza okuthile okukhethekile ngempilo yakho kufanele ubeke ipulagi enkulu kunoma yiziphi izimbangela ze-dopamine ngaphambi kokuthi uqale ukulwa nomzimba. Lokhu kusho ukuziyeka ngokuphelele kubo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngiyahamba lapho umzimba wami uphezulu kwi-dopamine, ngiyazi uma iphezulu ku-dopamine ngoba izaba ziza isigidi ngomzuzu 'oh, ukubukeka okukodwa'. 'Sizoqeda imizuzu emihlanu'. njll. Lapho sengiphezu kokuzindla kwami futhi angikaze ngibangele ngokweqile i-dopamine yami ngosuku olubekiwe, ukukhula akuyona inkinga, izikhalazo azikaze zingikhathaze. Kodwa-ke uma ngenze okuthile, njengokuphuza ikhofi eliningi noma ukudlala ngothando nomuntu engingamazi angenzi lutho olukhiqizayo emahoreni ambalwa alandelayo. Ingqondo yami ifuna ukushaywa okulandelayo kwe-dopamine. Kukimi ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi ngiphinde ngilawule futhi ngithulise umzimba ubuyele esimeni esigxile kokunye.
Kuwe kuwe ukuvimbela ukuthi uhlale usondele eduze kwaleso simo sengqondo ngokuvimbela ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuziphatha okubangelwa i-dopamine spikes.
Lona ngumthwalo wakho.
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Umbiko wezinsuku ze-90
Ngokwenza ngokusemthethweni i-'NoFap Challenge '… kwangithatha iminyaka emi-2 yokuhluleka njalo nokudumazeka okungapheli kepha ukuphikelela ekugcineni kwaba nemiphumela futhi ngingasho ngokuphepha ukuthi ngingeze kumlingiswa wami ngizizwa' njengendoda enkulu '- hamba kimi.
Njengoba lo mphakathi ube yisici esikhulu empumelelweni yami ngizozama ukubuyisela 'isoso lami eliyimfihlo' emphakathini nginethemba lokusiza abanye. Ngingabhala iposi elide impela ngichaze zonke izeluleko zami namasu kodwa ngobuqotho bengizizwa sengathi ngichitha isikhathi sami nesakho, ngakho-ke ngizohamba nomgomo oholele empumelelweni yami…
HLAWULA UKUQALA OKUPHAKATHI KWE-BEING
Ngiqonde ukuthini ngalokho? Yebo, kunengxenye yakho efuna ukuyeka ukukhula, ikakhulukazi kuwo wonke umuntu oza lapha okungukuthi 'uqobo lwangempela' noma 'ukuzithanda kwakhe'… empeleni kunguhlobo lwakho olungafaki idolo lakho kumasokisi… It i-badass, ukuziqondisa, ukuzilawula, ukuzazi kwezinga eliphakeme okungeyona nje inkawu engenazinwele isudi. Uhlobo lwayo ofuna ukuba yilo.
Kodwa-ke, awuhlali ukwazi ukuba yileli badass elilandelayo wazi - kungani?
Empeleni, kimi nakwinani eliphakeme labantu abahlushwa izindlela zokuziphatha eziluthayo (njalo ezenziwa nobuntwana bakho) kubilise ukungabi namandla okuzethemba. Okusho ukuthi lapho umzimba wami uzohlangana nokungaphatheki kahle ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba futhi uphakamise ukuthi i-fap njengesixazululo bengingeke ngikwazi ukukhumbula ngokucacile nangokomzwelo (I-RAGING CLUE) ukuthi kungani nginqume ukungabe ngisaba khona. Lokhu kuntuleka kokuqina kokuthi 'Ngingubani' kwaholela ezizathwini eziningi ezisuka engqondweni yami ezagcina ziholele ekutheni umzimba wami uthole indlela yawo, kaninginingi (iminyaka eyi-2 yokuzama i-nofap, nsuku zonke, ukudumala kwakuyindodana yangempela).
Ngikwazi ukuphula lezi zinsuku ezingapheli ngokuzakhela ukuqhubeka kokulalela ngokugcwele inothi yomsindo mayelana namagugu ami, ukufunwa kwami, ukwesaba kwami nokubaluleke kakhulu ukuzibheka kwami… Inothi lomsindo belilungiselelwe ukukhulisa nokwakha ifayili le- ukukhumbula inkumbulo yokuthi ngangifuna ukuba ngubani… Ekugcineni njengoba ngathola okuhle ngokwanele ekwakheni inkumbulo engokomzwelo maqondana nokuthi kungani ngizibophezela ku-nofap lapho umzimba wami uzophakamisa ukuthi kufakwe njengendlela yokubhekana nengcindezi yayo ngizokwazi ukukhumbula ngokusobala ukuthi kungani lokho kwaba ' umqondo '… Ukhiye wangempela ukuthi ube nenkumbulo engokomzwelo enamandla amakhulu kakhulu ukuthi ingagibela ngaphezu kwanoma yimuphi' umzimba 'okhiqizwe ngokomzwelo - lokhu kudinga isikhathi nomzamo nokucwengwa okungapheli, akekho ozokwenzela lokhu.
(“Izinto zememori ezingokomzwelo zijula kakhulu futhi yiso kanye isizathu engingafuni ukungena 'kwizeluleko namasu' ami njengoba sonke sihluke ngokuphelele ekuchazeni lokhu ngokuningiliziwe ukusiza icala lakho elithile lithathe cishe izincwadi ezintathu futhi izifundo ze-udemy, ezingekho kuzo ezizokusiza njengokuhlala phansi nephedi nepeni ucabange ukuthi kungani uzoba ngcono kunabo bonke abantu obaziyo… Empeleni ungumshayeli we-'Space Ship You 'kanye neyakho umthwalo wemfanelo wokuthola i-Instruction Manual ngokusebenzisa ubunjiniyela obuguqulayo izindlela zakho zokuziphatha. Kungathatha isikhathi eside kakhulu kodwa uma usufunde indlela yokundiza awunakunqandeka. ”)
Ngisenohambo olude phambi kwami kodwa ngithole ngokusemthethweni inkanyezi eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka kanti yize lokho kungenangqondo kwabanye, kwabancane kimi abangahlala bafunde leli sayithi bazizwa bengenathemba ngemuva kokubuyela emuva, ngemuva kokuhlela amahora we-4-5 ( Indaba eyiqiniso, izindaba eziningi zeqiniso) iqiniso lokuthi sengizuze into ebengicabanga ukuthi ayinakwenzeka lingeze kumlingiswa wami, langeza izintambo ezintsha emnsalweni wami ... kuzwakala ngokweqiniso ukuthi sengikhulile, inkanyezi yami encane eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ifakazela lokho nami… lokhu indawo yokuziqhenya, yokuzazisa enginakho manje engikuthola njalo kuwufanele ngokuphelele umzabalazo nokujabha okungapheli. Wena KUFANELE ukujoyina nami lapha, ukukhula akusizi ngalutho futhi kungaphansi kwanoma yimuphi umuntu omkhulu ongachithe isikhathi sakho nayo.
Ukuthula nothando…
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