Ukubuyela emuva akusho ukusetha kabusha ngokuphelele! Ungazilimazi ngokuqhubekayo ngokubhaka.
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Isihloko esivamile engikubonayo kokuthunyelwe okuningi lapha ukuthambekela kokuthi, ngemva kokuphindaphindiwe, hamba uhambo lwezinsuku ezimbalwa ezilandelayo. Imicabango yokuthi uma usuvele uhlulekile ungase uyisebenzise ngokugcwele. Ngokwenza lokhu ngicabanga ukuthi yikuphi okuhluleka kwethu ukuyiqonda ukuthi, nakuba sesibuyele emuva, akusho ukuthi yonke imizamo yethu phakathi nezinsuku ezedlule noma amasonto ayize. Ubuchopho bethu bungumapulasitiki kakhulu futhi bunamandla okuphawulekayo okuzishintsha ngokushesha. Ngisho noma ungahambanga izinsuku ezigcwele ze-90, usenganikeza ubuchopho bakho isikhathi esiningi ukuze usebenzise kabusha. Ukuphindaphindiwe akupheli ngokuphelele lokho. Ngiyazi ukuthi abanye benu laphaya banenkinga ebalulekile ngokulutha kwe-PMO futhi abakwazi ukuhamba isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinsuku ezimbalwa ngaphandle kokubuyela emuva, kodwa khumbula ukuthi ngisho noma uhamba ngezinsuku ze-3 noma ze-4 kuphela ngaphandle kwalo, kusekhona ukuthuthuka okukhulu ngaphezu kokwenza kanye noma izikhathi eziningana ngosuku. Kuzo zonke izinsuku kanye nehora lonke ulahla, unikeza ubuchopho bakho isikhathi esiyigugu sokuphulukisa.
Udinga ukuphatha ubuchopho bakho bokubuyiselwa njengoba uthanda umlenze ophukile. Ake sithi uphule umlenze wakho nodokotela akutshela ukuthi kufanele ugqoke ukuphonswa futhi ungafaki isisindo emlenzeni wamasonto e-6. Cabanga ukuthi emva kwamasonto e-3 ushesha futhi ngephutha ubeke konke isisindo sakho kuwo. Kulimaza okuningi futhi wesaba ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ulimele kakhulu. Yini engcono kakhulu ukuyenza kule simo? Mhlawumbe ugweme ukubeka olunye uhlobo emlenzeni futhi unike isikhathi sokuphulukisa. Okufanayo kuya ku-NoFap, kodwa uma ubhejane ngemuva kokuphindaphindiwe ngokuyisisekelo kufana nokuthi "Yebo, sengilimazile umlenze wami. Ngingahle ngihambe nomncintiswano nawo manje. "
Ubuchopho bethu banomkhuba wokufuna "ukushiya umkhumbi" noma nini lapho sihluleka. Kwakukhona isifundo esenziwe eNyuvesi yaseToronto lapho abantu basebenzisa ukudla kwekhalori kwansuku zonke ukuze badle ucezu lwe-pizza bese bezwa futhi bakala amakhukhi ahlukene. Iqembu elilodwa latshelwa ukuthi i-pizza iqukethe amakholori amaningi kunalokho okwenziwe futhi ayedlulile umkhawulo wokudla kwekhalori, kanti elinye iqembu labikwa ukuthi lisalokhu lingaphansi komkhawulo wabo. Ingxenye yonke ye-cookie-ukunambitha kwakuyisimiso sokukhohlisa abahlanganyeli; ukuhlolwa kwangempela kwakuwukubona ukuthi bangaki amakhukhi abazokudla. Lokho abathola ukuthi abantu abakuleli qembu ababecabanga ukuthi babedlulile umkhawulo wabo wekhalori babevame kakhulu ukudla amakhukhi amaningi kuneqembu elingazange lidle. Bheka noma yikuphi ukufaniswa ku-NoFap lapha? Kubonakala sengathi uma siphumelele ngomgomo esizibeke wona, ubuchopho bethu buyeka ukucabanga nokuqondisa futhi buzama ukuthola konke okusemandleni ngenkathi kuthola kahle. Lokhu ukuthambekela okumelwe uqaphele futhi usiye masinyane. Kanjani?
Lungiselela ukwehluleka. Ngezinye izikhathi kunomuzwa wokuthi ngeke sibuyele emuva - njengalokhu sithole lokhu ngaphansi kokulawula futhi ngeke siphumelele esilingweni futhi. Futhi-ke sizitholela inyanga, noma ngisho nonyaka, sihlehlise emgwaqeni bese sidlala esandleni sethu sisavele siphenduka. Kungenzeka nakakhulu kakhulu kithi. Okudingayo ukukwenza ukulungiselela lokhu. Lokho engingakuleka ukuba ukwenze ukuthola iphepha noma ukudala idokhumenti yombhalo lapho ubhala okuthile emigqeni ye:
"Ngiyaqaphela ukuthi ukuphindaphindiwe akukwenzanga yonke inqubo. Ngenze intuthuko eningi ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule futhi ngizoqhubeka nalokhu uma nje sinamathele kule nselele futhi ngingena ebhodini. Manje ngizohamba ngihambe, ngidle futhi ngisethe kabusha ibheji lami futhi ngiphinde ngizimisele ngokuzikhethela nangesiyalo kunanini ngaphambili. Nginamandla kunalokhu. Ngeke ngiphule. "
Uma ubuyela emuva, khona-ke funda ngokushesha lokho ozibhalele wena futhi uqhubeke nezinye izinyathelo. Hamba ukuhamba - kuzosiza ukusula ikhanda lakho - futhi ugeza, elinomthelela wokuhlanza kwengqondo kakhulu kuwe - uzizwa sengathi uchitha isikhumba sakho futhi uzalwa kabusha. Bese ubuya kabusha ibheji yakho bese uzizwa ukuzimisela ngaphakathi kwakho ukuqala kabusha. Bheka hhayi njengokwehluleka kodwa njengethuba lokufunda nokuziphikisa ngokwengeziwe. Yibone njengethuba lokubuya liqinile futhi lihlakaniphile kunanini ngaphambili.
Khumbula, sonke siyahluleka. Kuyinto yethu yokuzikhethela futhi siqhubeke sihamba lokho ekugcineni sinquma impumelelo yethu.
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