Ngifuna ukujoba ukuhleleka kokuhlupheka kwethu okufanayo lapha. Ngangivame ukuba umuntu ohlaselayo kakhulu ongathola okubi kukho konke. Ngisengakwazi nakanjani.
Kepha ikhono eliphikisayo liyasiza futhi - ukuthola okuhle kukho konke.
Nakhu engikutholile KUKHULU ngokuthola lo mlutha -
- Ngokuwunqoba, ngifunde izifundo ezibalulekile ngokuzithiba, indlela engqondo yami isebenza ngayo futhi iyakwazi ukufaka ucingo / i-rewire ngokwayo. Ngiye ngafunda indlela engcono yokunqoba izidakamizwa futhi ngiyakwazi ukufundisa abanye lamakhono.
- Ngokwazi ukuthi angikwazi ukuyibuka KONKE, noma ukubuyela ekuluthekeni, kudala indlela yokuzibandakanya kocansi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi angisoze ngachitha isikhathi ku-porn futhi. Ngenkathi abanye abantu, okungenzeka ukuthi bangabi "imilutha" basazomosha isikhathi esibalulekile kuyo ngoba abesabi imiphumela emibi. Ake sibhekane nakho, i-porn, mhlawumbe ingenye yezinto zokuchitha isizungu ezimosha kakhulu. Ngokungafani nethelevishini efana ne-Breaking Bad noma i-Dexter lapho ungafunda khona okuthile noma uhlangane nemicabango / imizwa emisha, unokuthile okwandisa umbono wakho ngesintu, i-porn ayilutho nje olubonakalayo.
- Ngokunqoba umlutha, kunginikeza ukuzethemba okukhulu futhi kufakazele amandla ami angaphakathi. Futhi ngikholelwa ukuthi ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, iningi labesifazane alineme neze ngomcabango wokuthi amadoda abo ahlala ebuka amavidiyo abanye abantu ababhinqayo, futhi kungenzeka nokuthi badele abesifazane babo bangempela ngenxa yalokho. Kuya ngokujwayeleka kakhulu ukuthi abesifazane bakwamukele futhi bakwamukele, babonakale bezimisele ukujabulisa futhi bavule ingqondo, kepha empeleni, lokhu kungukukhetha abantu besifazane abaxhaswe ngakho. Manje ngiyazi ukuthi iningi labesifazane abaningi alinankinga nalo futhi liyazijabulisa ngokwalo, angiyena umuntu ongenalwazi noma olondolozayo onjalo - KODWA NGISAYEKA - ngikholelwa ukuthi kunalowo muzwa ophikisayo lapho wabesifazane abaningi. Ngami ngisukuma ngithi, CHA, akukho empilweni yami nhlobo, ngifuna kuphela abesifazane bangempela, ngithola ukuthi lokho kuyibhonasi empilweni yami.
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