Lokhu kwavela ku http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/riy4u/i_think_i_understand_a_large_part_of_nofap/.
Ngamaqiniso; umqondo ukushiya i Ukuba umlutha wezithombe, noma ngabe lokho kuyizithombe zocansi, ukushaya indlwabu, noma zombili (futhi imvamisa ziyahambisana). Inhloso akukhona ukuba yizindela ezinganaki ucansi, kodwa kunalokho ukuthuthukisa impilo yakho yezocansi ngokuya ngokusebenzisa "ukuqala kabusha kobuchopho". Kusukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ubuchopho bethu sebujwayele kakhulu ohlangothini olubonakalayo lobulili mbumbulu, obusesikrinini kangangokuba asisabeli nje ekuqabukeni kowesifazane noma ukuthintwa okuncane. Siqala ukubeka izaba zokungaphumi sihlangane nabantu noma ukuthola amantombazane ngoba sesijabule kakhulu siphila ezweni lethu lamaphupho, lapho ungazithokozisa khona futhi ungakhathazeki ngokuthola omunye umuntu ozokwenzela kona.
Ukubeka ubuchopho ngale ndlela akunampilo, futhi kuholele ezinkingeni eziningi ekamelweni labesilisa nabesifazane abaningi. "Inqubo yokuqalisa kabusha" yenziwa ngokunikela nge-PMO (i-porn, ukushaya indlwabu, i-orgasm) okungenani izinsuku ezingama-90, ukuvumela ubuchopho bakho babuyele emuva. Ubuchopho bakho buzophulukisa, buyeke ukulimala okungathandeki okwenziwe yi-porn kuyo futhi ukwazi ukubuka ubulili ngokukhanya okungcono, okusondele kakhulu.
Phakathi nale nqubo, abanye abantu bakhetha ukuba nezinhlayiya uma nje bevela ekuziphatheni kwangempela (nakuba kuthiwa kunciphisa inqubo yabanye abantu). Ngomuntu siqu, ngihlela ukuhamba ngaphandle kocansi noma ukushaya indlwabu. Ngizoba nobulili, kodwa ngihlela ukuhamba ngaphandle okungenani izinsuku zokuqala ze-30.
Sekukonke, uzikhipha ekubeni umlutha; noma yini oyicabangayo kusho lokho kuwe. Uvumela ubuchopho bakho nomzimba wakho ukuthi uyeke ukuncika kuwo. Cishe akuyona eyabo bonke abantu, kepha ngifunde yonke imihlomulo ebonakala ngathi ivela kuyo futhi nginqume ukuthi ngiyakufuna lokho kimi, ngakho ngiyayidubula 🙂
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