Long story short, it was only a few months ago where I was a heavy PMO addict (late night and/or early morning addict). I felt like I was going to be “forever alone” and I would say FALSE things like “She is too good for me. She is a 10, and I am a 2”. I have journeyed a long long way since. …
Dit is verreweg die gelukkigste pos wat ek hier moes skryf, en ek het geen idee gehad dat ek ooit so iets sou skryf nie ... ten minste nie enige tyd nie. Ek weet dit is 'n lang gelees, maar ek het geen twyfel dat hierdie storie (en agtergrond in my ou post) baie van julle kan help nie!
Ek het self op 'n Eurotrip gegaan. Eendag toe ek 'n toeriste-aantreklikheid besoek waar ek 'n baie mooi vrou opgemerk het. Sy het gelyk of sy ook alleen was. Ek het gedink: "Wow, ek wens ek kon haar ontmoet. Miskien ... net ... MAG !!! "Ek het dadelik geweet as ek nie ten minste" hallo "gesê het nie, dan sal beslis niks goed gebeur nie. Wat het begin as 'n "Verskoon my, kan jy asseblief 'n foto van my neem ... wil jy hê dat ek die guns moet teruggee?" Het vinnig in 'n gesprek verander en ons het onsself voorgestel. Ons was albei alleen, dus het ons albei die plek saam verken. Ons het mekaar leer ken en vinnig 'n band gevorm. Ons het selfs selfies saam begin neem.
We got done with the place around lunchtime.
I asked her if she wanted to get a beer with me. We walked the narrow streets looking for place to eat. The drivers were crazy in this town so I stuck my arm out in front of her to keep her safe if she was about to cross. I even grabbed her hand a few times. She didn’t mind! A few more moments of those, she ended up wrapping her arm around mine and held on tightly. We walked all around town like that. Here’s a tip fellas, always remember to protect and cherish our women!
Lunch/beer was amazing. We bonded, having heart-to-heart conversations. It was wonderful. She was a complete sweetheart! We lost track of time and stayed there for a long time. After that, we took a train to another place. She shared some music with me on her mp3 player. We got off a stop as a slow song came on. I put one of the earbuds on her, and one on me. I grabbed her hand, pulled her close, and we slow-danced right there in the middle of the train station. I spun her around, she loved it. We kissed after the song ended. I don’t know how I did this successfully (from getting her to dance with me to the kiss), but I was 100% sure she was NOT going to reject me. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith. We ended up in a park, where we stayed for hours. From more dancing, laying/rolling around in the grass, and running around chasing each other. I told her how beautiful she was. She also told me she thought I was beautiful!!! We attempted find a place to go dancing, but couldn’t find any. However, there was a guy singing while playing an acoustic guitar at a square. It was good enough for us! I took her in my arms right there and we danced for so many songs. We walked to get dinner. Some hooligans were yelling at us, offering drugs and stuff… I just pulled her closer, held her tighter, and kept walking. She was amazed by that, called me a real gentleman, just unlike any guy she ever met. I loved protecting her! Honestly, on my end, I felt very safe when I was with her too.
We got dinner and we ended up starring at each other a lot.
We knew that the night was coming to an end, and she had to fly out super early the next morning. She said, because of the distance, can we agree that we don’t know what can happen in the long-term? She said she wanted to be friends. I usually HATE the words “I just want to be friends”, only because I have been hurt by girls who said that, and those girls turned out to NOT be true friends at all, but I digress… as for the European lady, I totally understood the context she said it in. She’s not coming to USA anytime soon, and I don’t know when I will be in her area anytime soon. It wouldn’t be fair to make either of us wait for the other, while we are still trying to figure our own lives out. Life isn’t fair, but at least we had one of the most romantic memories ever. I will forever cherish this moment. I do know that we have a beautiful friendship going! We will keep in touch. Sure we connected on Facebook, and we also traded home addresses. I want to send her a postcard to thank her for a wonderful day. Btw, we have been talking just about every day since I got home!
So I walked her back to her place. She was flying out early the next morning, would have loved to spend at least another day with her. I put on a slow song on my phone and we shared a last dance in the square. After that, we just couldn’t let go of each other. Didn’t check, but I’m sure we were there for at least 20 minutes. We just stared into each other’s eyes. She said she loved my eyes. I love her eyes too. We kissed, hugged tightly, and stared at each other for what felt like an eternity. She assured me “It’s not goodbye, just see you later.” Maybe we can meet somewhere again in the summer! I know the idea of an American guy and a beautiful European lady falling in love in such short time can be like a fairy tale, but for those 12 hours, we made it work. This is not one of those “European girls are easy” stories. It wasn’t like I made out with a complete stranger at a nightclub within 1 minute. We really did get to know each other, we had heart-to-hearts. I’m telling you, I’d much rather get into a lady’s heart than into her pants. I gave her mine too. Btw I have given my heart too easily to so many of the wrong ladies in the past. I have been careful since. I don’t want to fall too hard, but I swear the European lady and I have made a legit connection in those 12 hours we had.
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I did this without a stupid/dirty pickup line.
I did this without calling her a degrading name. For a little while, I browsed for books on how to meet women; and I never bought or read a single one. I search out “pickup artists”, many have been proven to be fake, didn’t need that bs! I was able to be myself. I am in disbelief (only cause it felt like it was a dream), but I am proof that I can be the perfect gentleman for the right lady who will appreciate it!
Ek het geen twyfel dat dit 'n voordeel van NoFap was nie. Ek het in November 2016 NoFap begin en in die daaropvolgende maande. Ja, ek het baie keer teruggekeer, ek het dit nooit verby die dag 49 gemaak nie. Die 40's was altyd een of ander manier my vervloekte reeks. Vandag is Dag 47 van Poging #9, maar dringend is laag! Ja, ek is positief dat dit te danke is aan 'n wonderlike dag wat ek gehad het.
There have been many noticeable benefits all the same! Most noteworthy, I have been doing a whole lot better with women. I have been making it a point to talk to them more, meet them, etc. I can also make them laugh, I never knew until now, but yes, I can be a funny guy! My mind has just been a whole lot clearer. I still don’t consider as “improving” with women, but rather unlocking the full and true potential with women that I had all along! Literally a few months ago, if I saw the European lady, I bet I would have just thought dirty thoughts about her, and then think poorly of myself such as “why couldn’t I find someone like her?” Looking back, I cannot believe that there was a time when I said the words “I’m not good enough for her. She is a 10, and I am a 2”. No one will EVER hear me say those words again. I came a long way from that bullshit. When I told the European lady beautiful she was, she also said I was beautiful!!! My heart melted, for the longest time, I (WRONGLY) believed I would never have that effect on a lady… I am freeing my mind, every day, getting better and better. I am “developing super powers with women”! You all can too! =]
Another side note, NoFap challenge has gotten me into exercising like crazy.
I have been swimming, lifting a lot. Even on the days when I “don’t have time to go to the gym”, I would do 100 pushups, even if it was in my room. I got great results with that. I caught ladies looking at me. The lady in Europe… ohhh she felt up my arms bigly!
Ek het reeds genoem dat ek verskeie kere herleef het, en ek het nog steeds werk om te doen. Ek is beslis dankbaar vir die paniekknoppie. Ek het baie van die motiverende dinge wat dit my gelei het, gered. Mees merkwaardige sou hierdie video wees. Ek sou sê dat dit selfs 'n rol gespeel het in die motivering van my om vroue te ontmoet en uiteindelik te sê "hallo" aan daardie pragtige Europese vrou. Ek is verbaas dat hierdie video nie meer virale is nie. Daar is 'n belangrike lewensles van hier af.
"Die lewe beweeg redelik vinnig. As jy nie ophou om rond te kyk nie, kan jy dit misloop. "
Wenke:
1) Glo in jouself. Jy is meer as wat jy geword het
2) Wees jouself; Dis die maklikste ding wat jy kan doen. Ek kan dit nie genoeg beklemtoon nie, maar dit gaan nie oor die verbetering van vroue met vroue nie, maar dit gaan oor die ontsluiting van die ware en volle potensiaal wat jy met vroue gehad het.
3) Doen die werk. Wees selfversekerd. As jy wil sê "hallo", doen dit. Die enigste ding wat erger is as om verwerp te word, is as jy niks doen nie, wat sal verseker dat niks sal gebeur nie.
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