Hapana mhosva, hapana chinetso?
Munguva pfupi yapfuura murume wechidiki akazviratidza pane yangu saiti foramu achibvunza mibvunzo nezve bonhora. Zuva rimwe chetero, ndakaverenga kuti dunhu reSpain riri kukurudzira pachena kuita bonhora kuvana vane "Mufaro uri mumaoko ako pachako”Mushandirapamwe. Nguva pfupi yapfuura, National Health Service yeBritain yakauya nemushandirapamwe wakafanana wakatemwa kuti, "Chirwere chezuva chinochengetedza chiremba kure. ” Kunyange zvine vavariro yakanaka, kuedza kwakadaro kune mutsindo here?
Icho chokwadi ndechekuti, kunakidzwa kwemashura hakusi mumaoko edu. Zviri kunyanya mune yedu ubongo-Chigumisiro chemaurochemical bursts. Pasina ivo, kanagasm ingadai isingakanganwiki kupfuura burping. Izvi zvine zvakakosha zvinosvika pakusvika pakunakira maitiro ekuita bonhora. Mune past post, Ini ndakarondedzera izvo varume vanga vachigovana pamusoro pekuti kudzikira bonhora kazhinji kunogona sei kutarisira kusatarisika, hunyanzvi hwemagariro, uye kunyangwe rudo rwekunzwa. Mune ino posvo, ini ndichafunga kuti nei inorema, isinganyadzise-isina bonyora ingangoita yakawanda yekukwirisa bhomba sekunyadzisa-kwakazara bonhora.
Nemhaka yekuti inobata sei ubongo hwedu, kuita bonhora kunosanganisira ngozi mbiri dzisingatarisirwi nyore nyore.
1. Escalation Pitfall
Kunyangwe bonhora iri yechisikigo, zvakare zvakajairika kuti kutsvaga kwegasm kuwedzere nyore nyore. Izvi zvinonyanya kuitika kana kurudziro yakabatana nayo iri kazhinji kana zvakanyanya. Mienzaniso yekusasimba kusingawanzove kuita bonhora pamwe chete nekutyisidzira kana kutenda kwekuti munhu ari "kuenda kugehena," kana kuita bonhora kune zvinonyadzisira zvepaInternet zvanhasi. Mukupesana, kusimba kwakajairika kungave kuri mwana kuwana bonyora kutenderedza nguva yekuyaruka pasina mhosva yekufungidzira. (Izvi hazvireve kuti kuita bonhora hakugone kumanikidza kuburikidza nekuzvitsvaga-kwakanaka - asi hazviite.)
Orgasm inogona kubereka kwete chete mishonga-yakafanana yakakwirira, asiwo neurochemical kupora nguva sezvo uropi hunodzokera kumbaostasis. Izvo zvakanyanya kukurira kuputika kwechirwere chepfungwa panguva yemaargasm, yakaderera yakasara sezvinongoita uropi. Mune vamwe vedu isu tinogona kudzorera tinogona kutora maitiro e kunyanya kufarira zvikonzero nekuda kwekunakidzwa kunopindura mhinduro ari muuropi, (zvinyoro kana zvakaoma) utera, kushushikana, kuzvidya mwoyo kana, mukuderedzwa kwepabonde, kuregerera (nemhaka yekuratidzwa kwekutambudzika kune vanamwari vane utsinye). Mhedzisiro inowanzova chido chekuzvipa-mishonga pamwe zvimwe bonhora. Vazhinji havanzwisise kukwira kwetsika kudzamara vasununguka kubva kuchirume kwechinguva vobva vadzokera kwairi.
Nhasi, "kana uchinyanya kuzviita iwe uchinyanya kuzvida" kazhinji zvinokanganisika nezve libido ine hutano. Asi zvingangodaro zvakafanana nekunyaradza kudya. Kuzvitora sehutano nekuda kwekuti zvakasikwa zvinodzivirira kuongororwa kwemhedzisiro yazvo. Isu tinonyevera vabereki nevana nezve njodzi dzekumanikidza kudya kwekudya zvisina tsarukano kana kumanikidza mitambo yemavhidhiyo - asi isu hatisi kuda kuratidza mwero pakuita bonhora, kunyangwe hazvo hunyanzvi hwehuropi hunokanganisa kumanikidza kwese.
Zviri nyore kuudza vana kuti vadye maveji avo pane kutsanangura kuti kuita bonhora kunogona kudzikamisa kushushikana pabonde munguva pfupi, asi zvoita kuti kushungurudzika kwepabonde kunotevera kuve kwakanyanya. Zvichida hurukuro dzemhuri dzakawanda dzinofanira kutenderera neyakaomesesa mubairo wedunhu uye nemabatiro ainoita nzira dzinotsausa dzekuti "hongu". Rangarira izvo makonzo aive akaoma saka ivo vanogona kusvitsa bharuti kuti vatsigire muchengeti wemubairo (kunyanya sean orgasm)? Vanorova muvhiri kusvikira vadzika.
Freud mwana, Rudolf von Urban (Zvepabonde Kukwana uye Imba) rinopa zano kuti kana vana vakaitwa kuti vazive iyo "escalation snag" (uye vasingambonyadziswa nezvebonde), ivo vanogadzirisa chinetso chekutsvaga huwandu hwakakwana hwebonyora pachavo. Mushure mezvose, isu vanhu tine mamwe magiya anopfuura "echishanu" uye "asina kwazvakarerekera" kana zvasvika pabonde. Vana vanogona kuchinjisa yavo yekuzvidzora mhasuru kuti vauye nenguva yekuita bonhora iyo isingakure, kana kurega hope dzakatota dzichimhanya munzira yavo, kana kuwana kurovedza muviri kwakasimba, kana kuwana mudiwa. (Kubata maoko, kunamatira mumwe munhu, uye kutandara pamwe chete zvakanyanya kunonyorera bongo-bonder brains sesu, kunyangwe kana kusangana kusiri iko kuita.)
Zvisinei, pasina ruzivo pamusoro pekuti kushungurudzika kwepabonde kunogona kuwedzera sei kana munhu achiedza kupedza nguva dzose nguva iyo inomuka, vana vanogona kukandirwa pamutambo wekutsika usina kutonga. Kana vakaderera vachiita zvokugombedzerwa, havazivi kuti chii chakaitika, nzira yekudzokorora, kana kuti chii chichawana. Zvechokwadi, vangave vasingazivi kunyange maitiro avo is kumanikidzika, kana kusuruvara, kazhinji kuita bonyanyeri ndizvo zvinowanikwa pakati pevamwe shamwari. Kana iwe uri kudya Twinkies uye chips nguva dzose kudya nokuti shamwari dzako dziriwo, iwe haufaniri kufunga kuti ubvunze kuti sei kuda kwako shuga namafuta zvakanyanya.
Iyi haisi poindi diki. Vanoshandisa zvinorema vanoshandisa zvinonyadzisira vanosarudza kucheka kazhinji vanowana zvakanyanya kusagadzikana zviratidzo zvekusiya. Ivo havanzwisise kuti zviratidzo zvakadaro ndizvo Zvakajairika. Ivo zvakare havazive kuti zvinotora nguva yakati rebei kuti huropi hutangezve (kudzoreredza kuenzana).
Zvinoshamisa kuti kunyange dai vasina kukwidziridzwa mudzimba dzinodzvinyirira zvepabonde uye vachinzwa kusanyadziswa pamusoro pepabonde, vamwe vanofunga kuti kuzvidzora kwezviratidzo sekusazvidya mwoyo, kusava nekunyangadza, kutsamwa, uropi hwehupfungwa, misoro yepamusoro, kushuva kwakasimba, nezvakadaro ndezvimwewo mubayiro wekuderedza zvepabonde, panzvimbo pane chiitiko chisingatarisirwi chayo zvakatarisana. Kuziva kunokonzera kuderedza shure kunoratidzika senzira inotyisa, saka kukura kunoratidzika seyo chete nzira.
2. Zvisina Kudiwa Kudzidza
Kufuridzira kunotyisa ndiko ruzivo rwakasimba rwekudzidza nokuti majini edu anoda kuti tifunge chinhu chose zvine chekuita nekugadzira vacheche kana kutodzidzira. Nhasi, mwana padandemutande anogona kutora chikamu mune zvakawanda zvekusimudzira bonde kuita mune rimwe zuva masikati asina kana kubhadharisa yake, (yaimbove) yakaganhurirwa, kufunga. Mukupesana, yedu yekuvhima-inounganidza huropi yakashanduka apo bonde rinonakidza neanovhura naye raive risinganzwisisike genetic bonanza.
Kunyanya dopamine yakabudiswa maererano nekukurudzira kunonyanya kukoshesa uropi hunoisa kune chiitiko (s), uye zvakanyanya uropi nhare dzacho. Zviripachena, kutarisa bonde nembudzi hazvireve kuti kwakakodzera kunyorwa sechiitiko chakakosha, asi edza kuudza yako limbic uropi izvo!
Iyi imwechete yekudzidza / wiring maitiro anogona kuburitsa mhedzisiro inoshungurudza kupfuura mbudzi kupenga. Semuenzaniso, "zvakarambidzwa" uye "zvitadzo" (ndokuti, zvine njodzi) bonde rinoburitsa huropi nezvose dopamine ("gotta it!") Uye adrenaline (kutya). Aya ndiwo maitiro ekudzvinyirira bonde kunogona kupa zvimwe zviitiko zvakajairwa zvepabonde neyechirangaridzo chinodhaka-senge aura. Kuti uwane pfungwa yekuti zvakanaka "zvine njodzi" zvinogona sei kunzwa, verenga Nei chikwata chebonde chichipisa, umo munhu anoshungurudza kuva kunze kwekamuri yepamusoro nokuti anoshuva iyo yakachinja nyika.
Mazuva ano zvinonyadzisira zvepaIndaneti zvinogona kukurumidza kugadzirisa uropi. Kunyadzisira kunogadzira neurochemical wallop, kunyanya mune diki, epurasitiki bongo. Uyezve, inogara iri nyaya. Kutsvagurudza kunozivisa kuti utsva-pane-chinodikanwa chinonyanya kukwezva-uye tsika kugadzira. (Ichowo chiri shure kwekukwezva kwemuchina we slot uye zvese zvinokanganisa zveInternet. kukurudzira - uye nguva yekudzoreka ine bundu - yaimbove yakachengeterwa vanhu vanobva mudzimba dzinodzvinyirira pabonde.
Sezvo Thomas Paine akambocherechedza,
Imwe tsika yakareba yekusafunga chinhu chisina kunaka inoita kuti ione sekuti yakarurama, uye inomutsa pakutanga kudanidzira kunotyisa mukudzivirira tsika.
Kuita bonhora pachako hakusi kukanganisa, asiwo zvisinganyatsonzwisisiki kuti ingakanganisa sei uropi inogona kunge isinganyanyi kutarisa. Iko kukanganisa kunonzwisisika patinenge tisingazivi zvishoma nezvekuti tinotengesa sei ubongo hwedu, apo taitenda kunyadziswa ndiyo nzira chete yekuita bonhora pakuzvidzivirira kuzvidzora, uye apo kusununguka kwepabonde zvisina kufanira kwakanga kusina kufanana-uye naizvozvo kudarika-kukurudzira zvishoma (pre-Internet).
Nhasi, zvakadaro, "Bonhora zvakajairika, saka usanyara" inogona kunge isiri iro ruzivo rwakakwana rwevana vanotsvaga mhinduro. Kuwana zvisizvo tsika dzinogona kupinda munzira yekuumba hukama hwakanaka. Iko nguva yekuisa pfungwa dzedu pamagariro ezvo ndokutangazve kukurukurirana pamusoro pekudzidzira mhirizhonga nekusimbisa kukosha kwekuenzanisa?
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CHERECHEDZA: YBOP haireve kuti kuita bonhora kwakaipa kwauri; kungoita pfungwa yokuti vazhinji vezvinonzi utano hunobatsira vakati kuve nehupombwe kana kuita bonyora zviripo chaizvoizvo zvinobatanidzwa nehukama hwepedyo nemumwe munhu, kwete mararamiro / mhombwe. Kunyanya zvakananga, kutaurirana kwakabatana pakati pezviratidzo zvishomanana zvehutano zvakasarudzwa uye orgasm (kana ichokwadi) zvichida kungobatana chete kunobva kuvanhu vane utano hwakanaka izvo zvinowanzoita mune zvepabonde zvakawanda nekuita bonhora. Havasi chausal. Zvidzidzo zvinokosha:
Ihukama Hwehutano Makomborero Akasiyana Zvepabonde (2010) akawana kuti zvepabonde zvakabatana nemigumisiro yakanaka, apo kuita bonhora kwakanga kusiri. Mune zvimwe zviitiko kuita bonhora kwakange kusina hanya nehutano hwehutano-kureva kuti kunyanya kurara kunobatanidza nehutano hwevarombo. Mhedziso yekudzokororwa:
"Kubva pane nzira dzakasiyana-siyana, samples, uye zviyero, tsvakurudzo dzinotsvakurudza dzinonyatsoenderana mukuratidzira kuti kuita zvepabonde imwechete (Penile-Vaginal Sexual and the reaction response to it) inosanganiswa, uye mune dzimwe nguva, inokonzera maitiro anobatana nekunaka kwepfungwa uye kushanda. "
"Mimwe miitiro yepabonde (kusanganisira iyo Penile-Vaginal Kuita zvepabonde haibatsiri, sezvinoita makondomu kana kukanganisa kunze kwepenile-vaginal sensations) hazvina kusiyaniswa, kana mune zvimwe zviitiko (sekuita masturbation uye kurara kwepabonde) zvinopesana nekunaka kwepfungwa nemagetsi . "
"Mishonga yekuita zvepabonde, dzidzo dzepabonde, kurapa zvepabonde, uye tsvakurudzo yekuita zvepabonde zvinofanira kuparadzanisa tsanangudzo yehutano hunoenderana nePenile-Vaginal Sexual, uye inowedzerawo zvakanyanya mukuongorora kwavo uye kupindira."
Uyewo ona kuongorora kwenguva pfupi kwebonyora uye utano hwehutano: Kuita bonhora kunobatanidza nePsychopathology uye Prostate Dysfunction: Ongororo pa Quinsey (2012)
Izvo zvakaoma kuyananisa iwo maonero ekuti bonhora inovandudza mamood nezvakawanikwa mune vese vanhukadzi iyo yakakura bonyora frequency inosanganiswa nezvimwe zvinodzvinyirira zviratidzo (Cyranowski et al., 2004; Frohlich & Meston, 2002; Husted & Edwards, 1976), kushoma mufaro (Das , 2007), uye zvimwe zviratidzo zvinoverengeka zvehurombo hwepanyama uye hwepfungwa, izvo zvinosanganisira kushushikana (Costa & Brody, 2011), nzira dzekuzvidzivirira dzepfungwa dzisingakure, kuwedzerwa kweropa reactivity kushushikana, uye kusagutsikana nehutano hwepfungwa nehupenyu hwakawanda ( pakuongorora, ona Brody, 2010). Izvo zvakaenzana zvakaoma kuona kuti kuita bonhora kunosimudzira sei zvido zvepabonde, apo kuwanda kwe bonhora kunowanzo kuve kwakabatana nehusina basa pabonde muvarume (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das, Parish, & Laumann, 2009; Gerressu, Mercer, Graham, Wellings, & Johnson, 2008; Lau, Wang, Cheng, & Yang, 2005; Nutter & Condron, 1985) uye vakadzi (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das et al., 2009; Gerressu et al., 2008; Lau, Cheng, Wang, & Yang, 2006; Shaeer, Shaeer, & Shaeer, 2012; Weiss & Brody, 2009). Kukuru kuita bonhora kazhinji kunoenderana nekusagutsikana kuzhinji nehukama uye kuderera kwerudo kune vamwe (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009). Mukupesana, PVI inowirirana kwazvo zvine hukama noutano huri nani (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012), zvirinani zvepabonde basa (Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Nutter & Condron, 1983, 1985; Weiss & Brody, 2009), uye hukama hwepedyo hwehukama (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011).
Uyezve, kunyange zvazvo ngozi shoma yekenza yeprotate yakabatanidzwa nehuwandu hwe ejaculations (pasina tsanangudzo yehupombwe) (Giles et al., 2003) [Cherekedza humbowo hunopesana, zvisinei: "Chirwere cheprostate chinogona kuenzaniswa nemakondomu evanhukadzi: Varume vanoita zvepabonde mune zve 20s uye 30s vanogona kuisa njodzi yakanyanya yekenza yeprotate, tsvakurudzo inoratidza. "], iri PVI frequency iyo inosanganisirwa pamwe nekuderedzwa kwenjodzi, nepo kuita bonhora kazhinji kunowanzoenderana nekuwedzera njodzi (kuti uongorore pamusoro penyaya iyi, ona Brody, 2010). Panyaya iyi, zvinonakidza kucherechedza kuti kuita bonhora kunoenderanawo nemamwe matambudziko eprostate (yepamusoro prostate yakatarwa antigen mazinga uye kuzvimba kana nyoro prostate) uye, zvichienzaniswa neijaculate yakawanikwa kubva kuPVI, iyo ejaculate yakawanikwa kubva pakuita bonhora ine mamaki e hurombo hweprostatic basa uye kushoma kubvisa marara zvigadzirwa (Brody, 2010). Hunhu chete hwepabonde hwakaenderana nehutano hwepfungwa uye hwepanyama ndiPVI. Mukupesana, kuita bonhora kunowanzo kuve kwakabatana nemaindices ehurombo hutano (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012). Kune akatiwandei anogona kuita epfungwa uye ehupenyu mafekitori, ayo angave mhedzisiro yesarudzo yechisikirwo inofarira hutano maitiro sechikonzero uye / kana mhedzisiro yekukurudzira kutsvaga, uye kugona kuwana nekunakidzwa, PVI. Mukupesana, kusarudzwa kwe psychobiological nzira dzinopa mubairo kukurudzira kuita bonhora hazvigoneke nekuda kwemutengo wakasimba wemuviri waizoitika kana ukadzora imwe kubva kuPVI nekuiita isingakoshese kugara zvakanaka (Brody, 2010). Zvakawanda zvinonzwisisika, kuita bonhora kunomiririra kumwe kutadza kwenzira dzebonde kutyaira uye hukama hwepedyo, zvisinei hazvo zvingave zvakadaro, uye kunyangwe zvisingawanzoitika zvinosangana pamwe nekuwana PVI. Panyaya iyi, zvinechekucherechedzwa kuti yakakura bonyora frequency inosanganiswa nekusagutsikana neakawanda mamiriro ehupenyu pasina PVI frequency (Brody & Costa, 2009) uye inoita kunge inoderedza zvimwe zvakanaka zvePVI (Brody, 2010).
Pakupedzisira ona PDF - Kushamwaridzana, Kushushikana, uye Kushamwaridzana Muenzaniso Mukurara Kwepabonde Pachiri Kuyaruka (2014)
“Saka, vanofara sei vanopindura vanoita bonhora munguva pfupi yapfuura kana vachienzaniswa nevaya vasina? Mufananidzo 5 unoratidza kuti pakati pevaya vakapindura avo vakataura sevasina "mufaro" nehupenyu hwavo mazuva ano, 68 muzana yevakadzi ne84 muzana yevarume vakati vakaita bonhora mukati mesvondo rapfuura. Kushamwaridzana zvine mwero nekusafara kunoratidzika kunge kwakaenzana pakati pevarume, asi kwete vakadzi. Pfungwa yedu haisi yekureva kuti kuita bonhora kunoita kuti vanhu vasafare. Zvinogona, asi muchinjiko-chikamu chikamu che data hachibvumidze isu kuongorora izvi. Zvisinei, ndezvechokwadi kutaura kuti varume vanozviti vanofara havana mukana zvakanyanya wekumhan'ara bonhora munguva pfupi yadarika pane varume vasina mufaro. ”
“Bonhora rinechekuitawo nekutaura manzwiro ekusagona kana kutya muhukama uye nematambudziko mukufambisa hukama hwevanhu zvinobudirira. Yepashure-zuva uye yapfuura-svondo vanoita bonhora vanoratidzira zvakanyanya hukama hwehukama huwandu hwehuwandu kupfuura vanoita vakapindura vasina kuzivisa bonyora muzuva rapfuura kana muvhiki rapfuura. Mazuva apfuura nevhiki rapfuura vanoita bonhora vanoratidzira huwandu hwakanyanya hwehukama hwehukama kupfuura zvinoita vakapindura vasina kuzivisa bonyora muzuva rapfuura kana muvhiki rapfuura. ”
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