abẹlẹ: Age 29, male, single, not religious, addicted to extreme/fetish porn in several genres, PMO’ed 2-3 times in most days with few hours of porn in a day. MO history of 17 years and PMO 12 years. Doing NoFap in hard mode (no porn, masturbation, edging, sex and minimum fantasizing).
Iroyin: If you have PMO addiction this 90 day challenge is best way to take major first step. It can feel that 90 days no porn or masturbation is bad option if you have PMO’ed daily. It’s true, there’s no easy way out from problem that most likely took years to develop.
Does this 90 days mean that I’m cured from porn addiction? No. It means that i didn’t use porn for 90 days. This challenge gives option to break cycle of daily PMO and take some distance from problem to make better decisions about future. Now when sitting at day 90 it really doesn’t mean anything. What is meaningful is next 12-24 months, can i stay away from porn or not. That is meaningful at this point.
Benefits from NoFap: Saved 200-300 hours in 90 days because i didn’t watch porn. My computer and phone is clean and anyone could use it without finding out my porn secrets. Now i can be honest about my porn use, will people believe is another question.
I’m more capable to feel emotions again. I can be sad, happy or feel pleasure. I would say that my mood has been more stable now than before and i’m more happy now. I couldn’t be totally honest about my porn use and i suspect that it was like dark shadow around me.
Confidence, energy and motivation: No major changes but i think that those are little better now.
With women: I think that my hesitation with women is lower now. Another thing is that sometimes i notice that i have done or said something that actually was ballsy confident thing to do. I would say that difference before and after is that now i don’t need to try so hard and things just happen more naturally. Is this placebo? It can be but on the other hand because i’m more horny it’s more likely that i naturally act in that way.
There have been few situations where women have done something that makes me wonder do they know that I’m not doing PMO. Maybe i just seem more friendly or approachable when I’m not on PMO and that explains these situations. This could be placebo again.
Sexually i feel recovered. I feel horny and i would like to get sexual release. Real sex would be most attractive option now. I feel that i was years in sexual flatline when i used porn.
Things that i learned when doing NoFap: I learned that PMO totally killed my natural sexuality and libido. My daily porn use didn’t reflect my needs for sexual release. I used porn because my brain needed stimulation not because i needed sexual release. I realized how much i used MO and PMO to escape from negative things/feelings.
Milestones during 90 days: First milestone was 30 days. Getting 30 days was extremely hard. It took long time and several relapses to get there. My opinion is that If you can get 30 days it’s likely that you can make it to 90. Also i felt that major emotional progress started after 30 days.
Another milestone was days 62-70 when my libido came alive. At the day 60 i felt that i was like 70% rebooted but then it magically happened, urges exploded and my libido was alive. I felt that i was rebooted at day 70.
Hardest days: For me hardest days was 62-70 when urges were very high and there was no way to avoid those. These urges were different than early days because now i needed sexual release.
Day 7 was very hard. Brain wanted stimulation but i didn’t need sexual release. 7 Days is something that you can do it again in 7 days and that makes relapse look like attractive option. If you are at 30 days you have more to lose.
Relapses. What did they do for me?: I relapsed several times. I think that these relapses were breaking daily cycle of PMO. I don’t know if those relapses affected to this streak.
My opinion is that relapses are like playing first few tracks from full album in random order, over and over again. After few times you know what to expect but you don’t know anything about last tracks of album.
When will you know how 90 days will turn out? When wondering how you can be sure how you will feel at day 90, I would say that you need to be at day 90 to know for sure. M aking any long term evaluations would be mistake at 30 days. Even at day 60 i would have made wrong assumptions how things will go when i hit 90.
Negative sides of NoFap: There were negative things like difficulties to sleep, blue balls and headaches. Biggest is sleeping, i used PMO when i didn’t get sleep and it seems to be hard to replace with anything.
Awọn alalá ti o rọ: I didn’t get wet dreams.
If i would start now what i would do differently? I would keep daily log for myself. I would write how i feel at that day and how strong urges are. It would be nice to read now.
Lakotan: 90 Days was hard but it was worth it. This was probably best thing that i could do in my situation. I would recommend this to anyone who has PMO addiction.
Thanks for reading! If you have questions feel free to ask.
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abẹlẹ: 29 y/o male, single, not religious, addicted to extreme porn, PMO’ed 2-3 times in most days with few hours of porn. Now doing NoFap in hard mode [no PMO].
Iroyin: It has been 75 days since last masturbation. Only thing that i can say that after day 60 urges have exploded to the new record. Really positive thing is that now I’m horny for the first time in my life. When i was on PMO i was never horny without stimulation. I always wondered how it feels when guys told that they are horny and they need to get laid.. now i know how it feels. It has been really hard to get any sleep when I’m this horny. I was expecting and hoping that horniness would happen but i didn’t know that it would take over 70 days. Otherwise it has been stable ride.
Fun awọn ti o ni ife sibẹ ko si awọn ala ti o wa ni oru lati NoFap.
Nipa ibajẹ ori afẹfẹ mi: Mo fẹ lati kọ nipa iwa afẹsodi ori afẹfẹ mi. Ọpọlọpọ eniyan ni NoFap mọ ohun ti o tumọ si jẹ oloro onihoho ṣugbọn mo fẹ lati pin diẹ ninu awọn imọlẹ si si koko-ọrọ yii. Mo ro pe awọn eniyan ko le kọwe ohun ti afẹsodi onibaje tumọ si wọn.
O le jẹ awọn okunfa ti o ba wa ninu iṣesi idaduro.
I believe that many non addicted people will think that porn addiction means that I’m obsessed by watching any type of porn. This is not true at all. I’m sure that people think that because i’m porn addict it means that i have seen many “famous big money porn movies”. This again is not true at all. I have seen probably only 15 movies like that.
Emi yoo sọ pe awọn apakan meji wa ninu afẹsodi ori ere onihoho mi: Wiwa ati wiwo. Ni otitọ Mo jẹ ohun mimu diẹ si wiwa ti ere onihoho ju wiwo rẹ. Mo ti yan yiyan lalailopinpin nipa ere onihoho ti Mo wo ati ṣawari. Nigbati o ba n wa nkan ti o nira pupọ lati rii o bẹrẹ lati gba akoko pipẹ. Mo ṣe iṣiro pe wiwa n gba 80-90% ti akoko ati wiwo 10-20%. Nigbati mo wa nkan ti o nira lati wa, Mo ni igbadun diẹ sii.
Nigbati awọn eniyan ba sọrọ nipa ilosiwaju ti ere onihoho, fun mi o tumọ si eyi: Akọkọ inu mi dun lati ri diẹ ninu awọn ihoho ti kii ṣe ihoho tabi awọn aworan ti o tutu pupọ, lẹhinna Mo nilo ere onihoho diẹ sii, lẹhinna nkan titun ati iyalẹnu diẹ sii. Mo jẹ iyanilenu lati rii diẹ sii ati nkan titun. Ni akoko kanna Mo fẹ lati rii iru awọn obinrin pato diẹ sii, awọn ipo pataki, awọn igun kamẹra, awọn iṣe… Iye awọn ohun elo ti o dara fun mi nlọ pupọ. Ni ọpọlọpọ awọn igba kan Emi ko le rii ohunkohun titun ati ti o dara nitorina ni mo ṣe nilo awọn ẹya diẹ sii ti ere onihoho .. Paapaa iyalenu diẹ sii ju ti tẹlẹ lọ. Nigbati mo ṣe wiwa yii, Mo n ṣatunṣe nigbagbogbo ni akoko kanna.
Nibẹ ni awọn akoko nigba ti mo gbiyanju lati da lilo lilo ere onihoho ṣugbọn emi ko ni iṣakoso fun lilo mi ati sẹhin ani jinlẹ ju ibiti mo ti wà.
Mo lo ọpọlọpọ awọn taabu nigbakanna ati nigbati mo rii nkan ti o dara Mo ṣii si taabu miiran lati duro. Nigbati mo ni awọn ohun elo to dara, Mo yan oju iṣẹlẹ ti o dara julọ ati ifowo baraenisere si ejaculation. Ohun elo ti Mo rii lakoko ilana wiwa ni iye odo lẹhin ejaculation. Emi ko wo fidio kanna fun igba meji, Mo nilo nkankan titun nigbagbogbo lati wo ati ṣawari.
Fun mi ilana yii ti wiwa ati wiwo di nkan ti ko si nkan miiran ti a fiwera. Kọ soke ati tu silẹ lati inu eyi jẹ nkan ti paapaa ibalopọ deede ko ni afiwe. Mo ranti pe awọn ọdun sẹhin Mo n ronu pe ibalopọ ko dara bi ere onihoho ati pe o jẹ otitọ. Awọn obinrin gidi ko le dije pẹlu ere onihoho o kere ju nigbati o jẹ afẹsodi si ere onihoho.
Mo gbagbo pe ni akoko kanna nigbati wiwo ere onihoho gbadun nla, awọn ohun miiran bẹrẹ si ni idojukọ .. Ko si ohunkan. Mo fẹran onihoho lori ọpọlọpọ awọn ohun miiran ni aye. Ere onihoho ni awọn ipa buburu si aye mi ati boya diẹ sii ju i mọ.
Mo ti lo ere onihoho lati saa kuro ninu iṣoro, insomnia, awọn ero buburu, awọn iṣoro ibasepọ, awọn iṣoro miiran, nigbati mo wa lainidi tabi daamu. Lilo ti ere onihoho ni a fi opin si fidimule si igbesi aye mi. Mo nireti pe mo le gbe laisi ọjọ laisi iṣaro ojoojumọ ti onihoho.
Ojo iwaju onihoho? Mo fẹ lati mu eyi wa nitori nigbati mo bẹrẹ lilo ere onihoho Intanẹẹti nipa 12-13 ọdun sẹhin. O nira lati wa awọn aworan ti o lewu julọ. Mo dajudaju pe ohun elo wa nibẹ ṣugbọn o wa ni ipamo diẹ ati gidigidi lati wa. Bayi o rọrun lati wa awọn fidio ni kikun ti iru ere onihoho kanna. Mo ro pe ninu aworan nla kan, awọn eniyan ti nlo ere onihoho ti wa ni idinku diẹ sii fun ohun ti wọn nwo ati pe iwọn ka deede deede. Emi ko sọ pe o yẹ ki a gbesele ere onihoho ṣugbọn o jẹ nkan ti mo ti ṣe akiyesi.
O ṣeun fun kika!
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