UJason akakholelwa ukuthi ufikile kulokhu: Ulele embhedeni, ehamba, enesifazana enhle - futhi akakwazi ukuvuleka. I-self-echazwe ngokuthi "umfana ovame kakhulu kakhulu," ogama lakhe liye lashintshwa ngenxa yezizathu zangasese, ekugcineni uthathe le ndlukazi ngemuva kwezinsuku eziyisihlanu zobulili - kodwa manje ukuthi lezi zinsuku zithintekile, akukho lutho oluthintekayo.
Cha, uJason akazange ahlasele isiteleka se-11th-hora yesiteleka esingazelelwe. Empeleni, inkinga yakhe impela: Ubukele izithombe ezingcolile zobulili. Ukubuyisela impilo yakhe engashadile, obanikazi be-36 oneminyaka engu-ubudala ubudala, abahambise ukudla kwakhe okungenani kanye ngosuku. "Ngangivame ukuziqhenya ngamakhono ami ezocansi, kodwa lapho ngiqala ukushaya indlwabu ukuze ngithole izithombe ezingcolile, ngivame ukuba nomuntu osebenza nabo," kuchaza umhlali waseMpumalanga.
UJason akayona yedwa umfana oye wawela phansi kule nkinga. A Julayi 2014 funda ku-Journal of the American Medical Association Ukuzizwa kwengqondo kutholakale ukuthi amadoda aneminyaka engu-21 kuya ku-45 owayebukele izithombe eziningi ezingcolile zobulili - ezichazwe okungenani amahora amane ngesonto - wayenomsebenzi omncane ezindaweni zobuchopho ezihlobene nesenzo sobulili kunabo ababuka kancane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ucwaningo lwe-2013 oluvela ephephandabeni le-Christian Post lwathola ukuthi ngaphezu kwama-50 amaphesenti alabo ababuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-Internet babika ukuthi balahlekelwa isithakazelo kwezocansi nomlingani wabo. "Abeluleki bezocansi babona iziguli eziningi kakhulu ezithembela ku-pornography - ezidinga - ukuze zivuswe empilweni yangempela," kusho ochwepheshe bezocansi nobuchwepheshe bezobuhlobo u-Yvonne Fulbright.
Ngakho-ke, kungani uxhumano oluthe xaxa-uxhumano olwedlulele-oluphuthumayo lukhula? Ngenxa ye-Intanethi, kulula kunanini ngaphambili ukufinyelela ku-porn, ngakho-ke abantu abaningi bayibhekile. Yize abantu bevame ukuvuma ukuthi bayakubukela njengoba benza, ama-66 amaphesenti amadoda namaphesenti angu-41 wabesifazane abheka okungenani kanye ngenyanga, ngokusho kocwaningo lwe-JAMA Psychiatry. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi lokho kwakunjalo, amadoda amaningi aqala ukuxoshwa ekukhuliseni umuntu. "Uma amadoda ehlaziya i-pornography amaningi, ngokuyinhloko baqeqesha imizimba yabo ukuba bathembele kulolo hlobo lokuvuselela ukuze bavule esikhathini esizayo," kuchaza uFulbright.
Enye i-biggie: isici esivamile. U-Ian Kerner, ochwepheshe bezocansi baseNew York City, uthi: "Njengoba kunezinhlobo eziningi zezintambo ezingcolile zobulili ezitholakala kuyi-intanethi, amadoda athile ajwayele ukubuka abesifazane abahlukahlukene njalo. "Futhi uma leyo ntsha ingadalwa kabusha empilweni yazo, ingase izwe ingaphenduki."
Noma kunjalo, ukubheka izithombe ezingcolile kungabe kunempilo futhi kuphephile, uma ungayidluli. Akukwenzelisi bonke abantu ukuthi bahle kancane. Eqinisweni, abanye bacabanga ukuthi kubasiza ukuba bagweme izifiso zabo zobulili ezinzima.
"Ngibheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nsuku zonke, futhi uma bengingakwenzi, ngicabanga ukuthi ngizohamba phambili ngaphambi kokuba ngibe nobulili - kungisiza ukuba ngikhulule ukucindezeleka ukuze ngiziphathe kangcono empilweni yangempela," kusho uBen, i-26, i-bartender eBed-Stuy ofisa ukugcina igama lakhe lokugcina liyimfihlo.
Kodwa uma i-libido yakho noma isoka lakho lithatha ukushaya? I-Kerner iphakamisa ukunciphisa i-porn yakho ukudla noma ukuthatha i-detox yesonto eli-3. "Uma ngabe i-porn ayitholakali, iningi lamadoda lizoqala ukushaya indlwabu ezithombeni zezintombi kanye nabafazi babo kunabesifazane besendlini," usho kanje. "Lokhu kungabenza bazizwe besondelene kakhulu nabalingani babo, okungekho okungakhulisa i-libidos yabo."
Enye indlela: I-Mimic porn's innovative factor ngokushintshashintsha ngamathoyizi amasha, izikhundla zobulili noma indima. "Ukwenza noma yini entsha kukhishwa i-hormone dopamine enjabulo, engakusiza uzizwe ujabule ekamelweni," uKerner weluleka.
UJason wathatha indlela yakhe yangaphambili futhi wanqanda ukuthi izithombe zakhe zobulili ezingcolile zithinte isikhathi esisodwa ngemva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa. "Nansi indlela engiyibona ngayo: Ngangivame ukudla ukudla okushukela, futhi manje ngidla ama-omelets we-veggie ngoba aphilile. Ngangivame ukubukela i-ton ton porn, futhi manje sengiphindele emuva, "kuchaza.
Futhi ukuqagela ngani? I-detox yakhe ibonakala iyasebenza. "Ake sithi nje ngine-hookup ngesonto eledlule - futhi angizange ngidumale!"
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