Okokuqala angisiyo ipenguin yakho engazazi ukuthi utholakalaphi yomphakathi. Ngiye kudokotela wezifo zengqondo, ngatholwa nginesifo esilinganiselayo kuya kokukhathazeka okukhulu kwezenhlalo futhi ngafakwa emithini yokwelashwa. Ngiyazi ukuthi ubhekene nani. Ngiyazi ngejubane le-adrenaline olutholayo lapho umuntu ongamazi esondela eduze kwakho, cishe isifo senhliziyo osizwayo lapho uzama ukukhuluma ngesikhathi sekilasi noma umhlangano (njengokungathi wake wakwenza), ukuhamba wedwa okude ongakuthathi ukubhekana nakho izihambi, amahloni angenasisekelo lapho ubheka omunye umuntu emehlweni, udonga olukhulu olufaka phakathi kwabantu ongabazi.
Ukujuluka, ukuthuthumela, ukwethuka, ukuzizonda, izifiso zokuzibulala; Ngidlule kukho konke.
Bengizama i-NoFap iminyaka emibili manje futhi lena yinde kunazo zonke engiye ngazishiya. Kuzwakala njengesikhathi eside ukuyeka nje ukushaya indlwabu kodwa angiboni ukuthi imizamo yami edlule iyizehluleki. Bangisizile impela, bangenza ngabona ukuthi sengingashintsha.
Angisabhekani “nokuhlushwa” engikuchaze ngenhla. Cha angisiye umuntu omusha, hhayi uvemvane lomphakathi. Ngisenguye uqobo kodwa angikhululekile emaketangeni esiwabiza ngokuthi yi-social phobia. Kule minyaka emibili edlule ngenze ukuxhumana okuningi, ngathola abesifazane abaningi, ngenza abangane abaningi kunangesikhathi seminyaka yami yokuqala engama-25. Ngizizwa nginelisekile futhi ngikhululekile esikhunjeni sami futhi udonga engilubeke phakathi kwami nabanye abantu lwaludilikile.
Isihloko sithokozisa kakhulu futhi umuntu ongenathemba kuwe uzogxuma uphume futhi athi awekho amaphilisi omlingo empilweni kanti ukwesaba umphakathi akwelapheki. Kodwa-ke angikwazi ukubiza iNoFap nganoma yini ngaphandle kwepilisi yemilingo -noma imunyu kakhulu- futhi isihogo singisebenzele. Kwakungeyona ukuphela kwento engangiyenza impela, eminyakeni emibili edlule:
- Ngiye ngavuma emndenini wami nakubangane bami ukuthi nginovalo lokuxhumana nabantu futhi ngokungahambisani namaphupho ami amabi kakhulu abangangibukeli phansi ngawo.
- Ngafuna usizo kochwepheshe.
- Ngisebenze ngokomthetho.
- Ngifunde izincwadi eziningi ngokuzisiza, ukudangala, ukwelashwa kwengqondo, ukukhathazeka komphakathi.
Kodwa-ke into ebabayo yayiyeka ukuchitha isikhathi sami nge-porn kanye nokushaya indlwabu. Uma unokukhathazeka komphakathi / i-phobia, sicela uzame nje. Ungangikholwa. Thatha sengathi ngiyimbumbulu, nginehaba, ngenza yonke into ngokuphelele. Kodwa zibuze nje; yini okufanele ulahlekelwe uma uyeka ukushaya indlwabu izinsuku ezingama-90?
Akudingeki ulahlekelwe ngaphandle kokuthola impilo yonke. Isiyeleliso esisodwa esibalulekile nokho: I-NoFap akuyona ukugibela bushelelezi. Isimo sakho ngeke sithuthuke, kube nezikhathi ezikhuphukayo nezingaphansi. Kwesinye isikhathi kuzokhula ngisho nokudangala nokukhathazeka kwakho. Kepha namathela kuyo uzobona ukukhanya ekugcineni komhubhe.
tl; dr: I-NoFap isizile kakhulu ekukhathazekeni kwami kwezenhlalo / phobia, izame ngenxa yama-fucks.
LINK - Kubantu abalwa nokukhathazeka / i-phobia yomphakathi: Yebo, iNofap yiphilisi lomlingo
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