Amazwana: Abesilisa eJapan babhekene nokwenyanya okukhulayo kwezocansi nabalingani bangempela. Izindatshana ezedlule azikhombisanga imbangela yangempela, kepha lena yenza okungaphezu nje kokuthinta.
Ngama-ROGER PULVERS, ngeSonto, ngo-Ephreli 29, i-2012
“Uma ukwenqena kwabantu abasha ucansi kuqhubeka nokwanda ngalesi sikhathi, isimo sezinga eliphansi lokuzala laseJapane nokuguga ngokushesha kuzoba kubi kakhulu. … Umnotho waseJapan uzolahlekelwa ngumfutho wawo ngisho nangaphezulu manje. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, lesi sizwe singagcina sesishabalala sanyamalala. ”
Lesi sibikezelo esishaqisayo senziwa nguKunio Kitamura encwadini eyashicilelwa ngonyaka owedlule yiMedia Factory. UDkt Kitamura, udokotela obelethayo nodokotela wezifo zabesifazane ophethe owakhe umtholampilo wokuhlela umndeni eTokyo, ungumbhali wezincwadi ezingaphezu kweshumi zokukhiqiza kanye nempilo yezocansi. Manje, ngo “Sekkusugirai na Wakamonotachi” (“Abantu Abasha Abaphikisana Nezocansi”), ukhombisile ukuthi abantu abasha baseJapan bayaluvala ucansi nokuthi lokhu kuzobanemiphumela emibi esizweni.
Ake siye phansi ezisekelweni zezibalo.
Njalo eminyakeni emibili kwenziwa ucwaningo, ngaphansi kwe-Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare, ebuhlotsheni besilisa nabesifazane eJapane. Nanka eminye yemiphumela ephathelene nesithakazelo kocansi esekelwe ezimpendulo zabantu abathile be-1,500 abacatshangwa eminyakeni ngayinye ebhekiswe kuyo.
Abesilisa abaneminyaka engu-16-19 ngo-2008 “abangenayo intshisekelo kwezocansi noma abangayithandiyo”: amaphesenti angu-17.5 (uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angama-36.1 ngo-2010). Abesilisa abaneminyaka engama-20 kuya ku-24 ngo-2008 “abangenayo intshisekelo noma abangafuni ukuya ocansini”: amaphesenti angu-11.8 (uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angama-21.5 ngo-2010).
Eqinisweni, kuzo zonke izizukulwane zamadoda ngaphandle kwalabo abaneminyaka engu-30-34, izinga liye landa kakhulu eminyakeni emibili ukusuka ku-2008.
Isimo esifanayo sibonakala kwabesifazane.
Ngo-2008, amaphesenti angama-46.9 wabesifazane abaneminyaka engu-16-19 bathi “abanayo intshisekelo” noma “banqabe ukuxhumana nocansi” (uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angama-58.5 ngo-2010). Phakathi kwabesifazane abaneminyaka engama-20 kuya ku-24 ngonyaka ka-2008, amaphesenti angama-25 athi “awananxa” noma “anenzondo yokuya ocansini” (uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angama-35 ngo-2010).
Ukunyuka kwamakhilomitha phakathi kwe-2008 no-2010 nakho kutholakala kuwo wonke amaqembu e-age kuze kufike ku-49, abesifazane abakhulu kunemibuzo.
Ngamanye amazwi, okungenani oyedwa kwabathathu abasha abathandanga ubulili.
U-Kitamura uhlaziya ngokucacile ukuthi kungani kunjalo. Incwadi yakhe iphinde ihlanganise nemibiko yezinkhulumiswano eziningana nabantu abasha abaye emtholampilo wakhe.
Enye insizwa yathi inesifiso sokuya ocansini kodwa ukuthi ukuya ocansini nothile “kuyinkinga nje.” Abanye bathi bathanda amantombazane njengabalingiswa be-anime noma njengodoli ababonakalayo kunokuthile okungokoqobo - okuthiwa omakoti ababili. “Okungenani ngeke bakulahle,” kuphendula omunye obexoxwa naye.
Phakathi naleso sikhathi, uKitamura uthi ezinye izinsizwa ziza emtholampilo wakhe zikhononda nge-erectile disys function. Abanye bachaza ukuthi ukubuka ubulili obukhulu kakhulu kumasayithi e-Inthanethi kubashiye kunambitheka emlonyeni wabo ukuxhumana kocansi kwabantu. Abaningi bayavuma ukushaya indlwabu kaningi, ngaleyo ndlela banelisa zonke izidingo zabo zobulili ngokwabo.
UKitamura utshela izinsizwa ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu akuyona impilo; futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, “akusho ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu akuhoxi nhlobo ekulwisaneni nokulala nabanye.”
Kodwa usho ukuthi i-intanethi ishicilelwe, ngokubhala ukuthi, ngokugcwele ngokweqile kwemininingwane kanye nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kanye nenani lokuxhumana okwenziwe ku-intanethi kunokuba uxhumana nomuntu wangempela, “Umphakathi wanamuhla othanda ukusebenzisa i-Internet ube nomthelela omubi kakhulu kubantu abasha kulokhu.”
Ubuye akhombe nezici emphakathini waseJapan ezandisa lo mkhuba. Nazi ezinye zezizathu zokungayi ocansini ezinikezwe iziguli zesilisa zikaKitamura.
“Angizenzi ucansi ngoba angikwazi ukushada ekugcineni” - ngenxa yokungabi nawo umsebenzi omuhle.
“Kubiza imali ukuya ocansini” - ukuthenga izinto zokuvimbela inzalo, ukuba nefulethi noma imoto yakho, njll.
"Umphathi wami ungowesifazane futhi lokhu kungenze ngaphelelwa ubulili."
"Kunezinto eziningi ezimnandi okufanele zenziwe."
“Ngikhathele kakhulu ngemuva komsebenzi futhi angikwazi ukubiza isifiso sobulili.”
Incazelo “yokungayi ocansini” eyabekwa ngo-1994 yiJapan Society of Sexual Science, okuyinhlangano echwepheshe ebhekene nazo zonke izici zokuzala kwabantu, ithi lesi yisimo esenzeka lapho othile “engazange axhumane nocansi inyanga eyodwa noma ngaphezulu. ” Ukuthintana ngokocansi ngokwako kuhlanganisa inqwaba yezinto, ezinjengokuthi “ukuqabulana, ukuya ocansini ngomlomo, ukuphululana nokulala ndawonye ze.
Izifundo ekuxhumaneni phakathi kwamahora amaningi okusebenza nokuziphatha okungenacala kungaboniswa ukuthi abantu abasebenza i-49 noma amahora amaningi ngeviki babonisa ukwehliswa okuphawulekayo emsebenzini wocansi.
Ngokuphathelene nokwenyanya kobulili phakathi kwabesifazane, okulandelayo ngezinye zezizathu ezinikezwa iziguli zesifazane uKitamura azicaphune ku- “Young People Averse to Sex.”
“Ngikholelwa othandweni olumsulwa,” kusho omunye wesifazane osemusha, “yingakho ngingalwenzi ucansi.” Omunye umtshela ukuthi uzwa ubuhlungu lapho enza ucansi ngakho-ke uyakugwema. “Amadoda angcolile futhi ayahlubuka, ngakho ngihlala ngikude nabo,” kusho omunye. Ukhombe izici eziningi ezingcolile nezokuvukela kwabo, njengokuthi “unwele oluwele phansi luhlale ehlombe lakhe, namafinyila wamehlo ekhoneni lamehlo akhe, nentshebe engakhuli ngokulingana futhi ebukeka njengokukhanya luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka… futhi angikwazi ukumelana nakho lapho belokhu besula umjuluko, bese behamba befaka iduku elingcolile ephaketheni labo! ”
Mhlawumbe umkhwenyana womabili ubuhlobo obanele kakhulu kulona wesifazane omncane.
Kepha abanye abantu besifazane abasebasha, njengezinsizwa nje, bathi izinto abazithandayo zithakazelisa bona ngaphezu kwanoma yini ethinta ucansi - kanti abanye bathi abanakho ukuzethemba okwanele ekubukekeni kwabo ukuze baphume bahlangane nabobulili obuhlukile.
UKitamura uyavuma ukuthi ukusuka kude nokuziphatha kobulili kungaba yinto engagcini kuphela kwabasebasha eJapan. Uyabhala: “Imikhakha ebanzi yomphakathi waseJapan kuyo yonke iminyaka ingahle ibhekane nento enjalo.
Uya emininingwaneni engagunci ngemfundo yakhe yezocansi nokufika eminyakeni yobudala, bese enikeza iziphakamiso zokuthi ukungalali nobulili kungalungiswa kanjani ngokuzayo. Lokhu kufaka hlangana ukuhlinzeka ngemfundo yezocansi engokoqobo eyenzelwe izidingo zentsha yanamuhla, kanye nokwenza ngcono amakhono okuxhumana nentsha. Uthi, “Kakade, ubulili buyindlela yokuxhumana phakathi kwabantu.”
Yize kunjalo, naphezu kwayo yonke le mininingwane nedatha, ngisuke ekufundeni incwadi kaKitamura ngombono ongaqondakali wokuthi kungani isimo esibi kangaka njengokuphazamiseka kocansi sihlasele kakhulu izingane zaseJapan.
Abantu abasha emhlabeni wonke banamathele ezikrinini, kepha izibalo zamazwe amaningi zokuthiya ubulili azikho ndawo ezisondele njengalezo zaseJapan. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abantu baseJapan ezikhathini zangaphambili babesebenza ngokuzikhandla ngendlela efanayo, uma kungenjalo, ukwedlula manje; futhi bambalwa kubo ababenezimoto noma amafulethi angawabo. Kodwa-ke bakwazile ukukhiqiza imindeni emikhulu ngenkathi, uma lokho okushiwo nguKitamura kuyiqiniso, bejabulela ucansi oluvame kakhulu.
Ngaphandle kwesimo somzimba somuntu noma ukukhubazeka okunganciphisa izifiso zakhe zocansi, inkinga, engqondweni yami, ngesinye sezisusa.
Isizathu sangempela silele ukungabi bungqabavu okugcwele emphakathini waseJapan namuhla. Izici zokuziphatha eziphawule isizukulwane sezinsana ezisakhulayo ezakha impumelelo yaseJapane yangemva kwempi - sukuma uhambe, umoya wokulwa, umuzwa wethemba ngokuzayo ezinganeni zakho - ngokuqinisekile ziyashoda lapha manje.
Ngiyakholelwa ukuthi ukwenqena ukuya ocansini phakathi kwentsha yanamuhla yaseJapan, kanye nezinga eliphansi lokuzalwa eliwumphumela owodwa walo, kungaguqulwa uma abantu baseJapan bayo yonke iminyaka bengakwazi ukubuyisela ithemba kubo nakwinzalo yabo, abazalwe futhi njengamanje abangakazalwa.
Kungathatha ama-tango amabili kuphela, kodwa kuthatha isizwe sonke ukuthola indlela yaso ekubuyiseleni kabusha.
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