Kunemizwa eminingi evame ukuhlotshaniswa nobulili: uthando, injabulo, injabulo, mhlawumbe nokuphumula. Kodwa kulabo besifazane abaningi, umuzwa owodwa wobulili oza engqondweni ungumnyama: ukwesaba.
Esifundweni samuva, u-Debby Herbenick, uprofesa nomcwaningi wesondo e-Indiana University School of Public Health, wathola ukuthi cishe ingxenye yesine abesifazane basebekhulile e-United States sebezwe besaba ngesikhathi sezocansi. Phakathi kwabaphenduli be-347, i-23 ichaze ukuthi umuzwa wesaba ngoba umlingani wabo uzame ukuwaphazamisa ngokungalindelekile. Isibonelo, owesifazane oneminyaka engu-44 oneminyaka engu-17 ubudala wabhala ukuthi lowo mlingani wakhe "wabeka izandla zakhe emphethweni wami lapho engingaphefumuli khona."
Ubulili bungabandakanya ukuchithwa kwe-consensual, kodwa akukhona okwenzekayo lapha, njengoba u-Herbenick echaze izethameli ngesikhathi sephaneli ku-Aspen Imibono: Impilo, ehlanganyelwe yi-Aspen Institute futhi I-Atlantic. Esikhundleni salokho, "lokhu bekusobala ukuthi akukho muntu owakhulume ngakho futhi wavela kumuntu," esho. Izigameko eziningi zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi phakathi kwabafundi eyunivesithi yakhe manje ziphakathi kokungqubuzana kwama-nonconsensual. Ngokusho kocwaningo lwakhe, amaphesenti angu-13 amantombazane asebenza ngezocansi aneminyaka eyi-14 kuya ku-17 asevele ephikisiwe.
Isizathu sokuthi izingane ezincane zikwazi mayelana nesenzo sobudlova esinjalo obunonya, kungenzeka ukuthi i-porn, kusho uDan Savage, umlobi wezocansi kanye nomphathi I-Savage Lovecast, owabe esephaneli. Futhi akusona ushintsho olulodwa oluphazamisayo olungahle lusekelwe ku-porn, longeze uKat Julian, umhleli ophezulu ku I-Atlantic futhi umbhali we-a Indaba yamuva yamaphephandaba omagazini ekuziphatheni ngokobulili kubantu abasha. Ngendaba yakhe, ukhulume nabesifazane abaningi abathi abalingani babo besilisa babonakala bebheka lokho abakubonayo kuyi-porno, besuka noma bangena ngaphakathi lapho bengakakulungeli.
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