Ama-vibrator nezinye izijabuliso: Uma ukulungiswa kwehluleka (2011)

Ngithanda i-tee-shirt ye-Toy Toys[Bheka futhi Ama-Vibrator kanye ne- "Dead Vagina Syndrome" (ucwaningo kanye nomshini omkhulu)]

Ungawasebenzisa amathoyizi wezocansi noma i-Internet erotica ngokulinganisela? Impendulo ilele ebuchosheni bakho — hhayi kunoma isiphi iseluleko sangaphandle, ukuhlakanipha noma imfundiso. Kuya ngesimo semijikelezo yakho yomvuzo, indlela yokudla yobuchopho bakho yasendulo.

Yebo, ubuchopho bakho may ube sengozini enkulu ekuvuseleleni okukhulu ngenxa yokwakheka kofuzo noma ukuhlukumezeka okwedlule. Noma kunjalo futhi kubalulekile ukuthi hlobo luni lokukhuthaza osika ngalo ubuchopho bakho. Cabanga ngokwenzeka kulo wesifazane:

Ukusetshenziswa kwesidlidlizi kungamenza abe yisisulu owesifazane ngokuphelele. Ngaqala ukusebenzisa eyodwa ekolishi, ngicabanga ukuthi ngingowesifazane wanamuhla, onikwe amandla ocansi, futhi angikholwa ukuthi umsebenzi uwenze ngempumelelo kangakanani. Isebenze kahle kakhulu. Kungakapheli nenyanga, ngangingasakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm nesoka lami, futhi ezinyangeni ezimbalwa emva kwalokho, angibange ngisakwazi ukukwenza ngesandla sami. Isidlidlizi sangena kudoti futhi ukuphendula kwami ​​kwabuya emuva kwamasonto athile. Ngisho namanje, eminyakeni eyishumi kamuva, kwesinye isikhathi ngiye ngikhumbule ukukhuthazeka okukhulu. Kodwa-ke, angikhumbuli nakanjani ukuba nokuphendula ngocansi kwedwala.

Ngiye ngahlala kude ne-porn ye-Intanethi ngesizathu esifanayo. Kuyakhuthaza kakhulu, futhi ngiyazi ukuthi ngizosheshe ngixhunywe. Ngizamile ukushaya indlwabu kanye. Ngempela ngangena ngaphansi komzuzu owodwa (hhayi neze njengokuphila kwangempela!) Ngoba ukukhuthazwa kwakunzima kakhulu. Ubulili bempilo yangempela abusoze bakwazi ukulinganisa lokho. Mhlawumbe yimi ohlukile, kepha ngizazi kahle. Uma ngiqala ukusebenzisa i-porn ye-Intanethi njalo, ngizogcina sengingomunye walabo bantu abangasakwazi ukuvula ngaphandle kwayo. Cha ngiyabonga. Ngizogcina impilo yami yocansi-organic.

I-Orgasm isebenzisa izindlela zemvelo (cabanga iminwe nokucabanga) akunakwenzeka ukuba yinkinga. Kubuye kube nesizathu sokuthi ubuchopho bakho buguquke ekusebenzeni i-binge engavamile. Noma ukuzijabulisa ngezikhathi ezithile kokuthile okugcizelela ukuthi kungenzeka ukunciphisa ukuphendula kwakho ngokocansi.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuningi kakhulu ukuvuselela okungavamile kungaba kalula inkinga-okungenani kwabanye bethu. Kunganciphisa ukwehlisa ubuchopho, bese kuneliseka.

Nganginentombi eyayitshela ukuthi kunenkathi empilweni yakhe lapho eqala khona ukusebenzisa isidumbu sakhe. Kodwa wazithola engakwazi ukuhlukunyezwa nabalingani bakhe ngoba wayesebenziseke kakhulu. Washiya isidlidlizi, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi uthe wamthatha ngezinyanga ze-6 ukuze abuyele evamile.

Cishe isigamu sabathintekayo isifundo esisodwa bathi bakhathazekile ngokuncika ekuvuseleleni okungaphezu kwamandla we-vibrator.

'Okungajwayelekile' kubhekiselwa kwisikhuthazi esikhipha inani eleqile lamakhemikhali ezinzwa emjikelezweni wobuchopho. Lokhu kwenzeka lapho ubuchopho bethu bunquma ukuthi kukhona okuheha kakhulu kunanoma yini okhokho bethu abahlangabezana nayo ngokuvamile. Le wallop eyengeziwe ye-neurochemical iyasikhohlisa ukuthi sibhalise amandla ethu angajwayelekile njengabaluleke kakhulu. Yilapho-ke lapho singaluthwa kalula khona. (Ukuze uthole okuningi, bheka Izidakamizwa ezidakayo.)

Ukuze uqonde ukuthi i-superstimuli ephoqelelayo ingaba kanjani, cabanga ngalokhu: Lapho ososayensi benza "abalingani" bokwenziwa kovemvane ngezimpawu zehaba (okungukuthi, izimpawu ezisetshenziswa abesilisa ukuhlola ukufisa komlingani),

Uvemvane lwama-fritillary wesilisa ogezwe ngesiliva lwavuswa kakhulu ngosilinda ojikeleza osayizi wovemvane onemivimbo ensundu evundlile kune… ngowesifazane wangempela ophilayo wohlobo lwayo.

Akubona kuphela abesilisa abakhohliswa yisisusa sehaba. Izinyoni zesifazane zazikhetha ukuhlala enkulu, enamabala akhanyayo, fake amaqanda, futhi angazinaki ezakhe. I-Stimuli engavamile umbhali Deirdre Barrett ichaza izikhuthazi ezinjengokuthi “ukulingisa okuheha imizwelo yasendulo futhi, ngokungavamile, kudonsela ezingeni kunezinto ezingokoqobo.”

Manje, cabanga ngezinto ezithokozelayo ezikhanyisa ubuchopho bethu namuhla: imidlalo emikhulu ye-video, ama-casino ekhazimulayo, okudla ukudla okungenamsoco, izidakamizwa, amathoyizi wezocansi okwenza noma iyiphi i-penis, ingxoxo ye-cam2cam.

I-Internet uqobo izwa njengokucabanga ngokweqile… ukuntweza ngamathebhu amaningi kuvuliwe / kwenziwa imisebenzi eminingi, kubamba izinto ezithokozisayo ezisuka enetheni. Kufana nokuthi ubuchopho bami buhlala bufuna ukujabulisa okuthile manje. Ukufunda izincwadi akusangilungele.

Lezi yizilingo okhokho bakho abakwazanga ukuzibandakanya nazo kalula. Zingaholela ekuguqulweni kobuchopho okukhathazayo okunzima ukukuguqula. Isibonelo, ukulutha kwe-Intanethi kuhlotshaniswa ne- ukunciphisa kwezindaba ezimpunga ebuchosheni bentsha. Ukugembula okungokwemvelo futhi ukudla ngokudla ziye zaboniswa ukushintsha umsebenzi wobuchopho, futhi.

Singakhulisa ubuchopho bethu ngezindlela eziningi, kepha ukudla nobulili kuyathandeka ikakhulukazi. Ngokungafani nezidakamizwa, zombili sezivele zifakwe kumakhompiyutha womvuzo wobuchopho bethu njengokudingekayo ukuze kube khona (okubaluleke kakhulu). Kungakho abasebenzisi abaningi bekwazi, futhi benze, babambeke kuzinguqulo ezikhuthaza ukudla kanye nezocansi yize bengenankinga nokunye ukuheha. Amaphesenti ayisikhombisa nesishiyagalolunye AbaseMelika manje sebekhuluphele kakhulu, futhi isigamu siphelile. Ngu amanye ama-akhawunti, isigamu sezikhonzi zaseMelika zibika ngezinkinga okwabo ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn ekuqaleni kwe-2001.

Iqiniso ukuthi ubumnandi obukhulu "bemvelo" bungangena ekuzijabuliseni okuyingozi kwakho (noma othandekayo wakho)-noma ngabe bekubonakala kungenacala ekuqaleni, noma kungabonakali kudala abangane bakho. Lolu shintsho lwenzeka ngokungenacala endaweni egcwele ukuheha. Ama-Eskimo adla ama-seal blubber usuku lonke ngokumamatheka, kepha izingane eziningi zaseMelika ziyakhala uma zingatholi injabulo yeSidlo Esijabulisayo seMacDonald.

Amaphesenti angamashumi amahlanu nambili abesifazane asevele asebenzisa ama-vibrators ngokusho a Ucwaningo lwe-2009. Amaphesenti amathathu nanye abesifazane abasha basebenzisa i-porn. Enye insizwa ngubani balwa impi ende ukuze alulame ekusetshenzisweni kobulili, futhi aqaphela ukuthi ubuchopho bakhe buguqukile kangakanani, wathi:

Owesifazane oyedwa kwabathathu ontanga yami ubuka izithombe zocansi. Ngiyakhumbula ngangicabanga ukuthi kuhle kakhulu uma intombazane enhle ibuka izithombe ezingcolile. Kepha ngokungathi sína, lokhu kubi impela — akukuhle — empeleni kimi nakubantu bebonke. Angifuni nakancane ukuthi ubuchopho bomkami wesikhathi esizayo buthathwe kabi yi-porn, ngakho-ke impilo yakhe namakhono ami okwenza uthando abonakala eyisicefe futhi ehlambalaza. Jeez kuyabheda lokhu. Kuyadabukisa ukubona ukuthi ubuchwepheshe obubi buphazamise kanjani ubuchopho bethu ngenxa ye-porn ye-Intanethi.

Ocwaningweni luka-2011 okukhulunywe ngalo ngenhla abesifazane abaningi babika ukukhathazeka ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwesidlidliza kwaba nomthelela omubi ekusondeleni kobuhlobo babo kunokuba bezwe ukuthi kuthuthukisa ubudlelwane babo. Ngabe wena nomlingani wakho senidinga ukujoyina ama-somes amathathu ukuze nenze ucansi olwanelisayo (okungukuthi, nina nobabili kanye namathoyizi akho owathandayo nezikrini ezimbili zekhompyutha ezine-porn oyithandayo)? Uma ukugqugquzela okuvamile kocansi kungakwenzeli wena, ubuchopho bakho kungenzeka buguqulwe. Ngakho-ke, umbuzo uwukuthi, uyafuna yini ukususa isixuku futhi "uziqale kabusha" ukuze nikwazi ukujabulela ucansi omunye nomunye?

“Angikwazi yini ukunciphisa nje?”

Yebo. Kodwa ake sithi uthola lokho ayikwazi unciphise ngaphandle kokuthola izimpawu zokuhoxa? Lokhu kungabandakanya: “isidingo” esinamandla se-orgasm (noma ngabe ubunayo nje,umphumela we-chaser“), Sizizwa njalo singasabeli kangako ngesikhathi socansi, ukukhanga okunamandla kozakwethu bezinoveli, ukucabanga ngokugqugquzela okweqile, izifiso zobulili obuhlukumezayo noma obubuhlungu kakhulu, ukucasula abanye ngokungacabangi, noma ukuzizwa uphucwe okuthile, ukhathazekile, unganelisekile noma uphathwe ngokungafanele (“ oswele ”).

Lokhu kwesinye isikhathi kungaba yizimpawu zenqubo yokulutha umlutha emsebenzini. Khumbula, ingxenye yokuqala yobuchopho ibona izinto nemisebenzi ekhipha i-dopamine eningi ebuchosheni njengokubaluleka Kakhulu. Iyazintambo ukuba ibheke kubo. Noma kunini lapho usondela kwesinye, imijikelezo yomvuzo wobuchopho bakho yehla yenyuka njengendawo edidekile kaJack Russell. Lokhu kwaziwa njenge ukuzwela. Uma usebenze indlela ehloniphekile, ikhulula ukuqhuma okukhulu kwe-dopamine kunokujwayelekile, ukushayela izifiso ezifunayo.

Noma kunjalo, kukhona ubufakazi obukhulayo ukuthi ukuzwela empeleni kuvusa ukungafuneki-Nokuphendula okuyindikimba enjabulweni. Umphumela ungaba yisidingo sokuzitika kakhulu ufuna ukwaneliseka, futhi wehlise ukuphendula ngokocansi. Isibonelo, amadoda amadala abambelele ku "vanilla," namanje izithombe zobulili ezingcolile azibonakali zakha izinkinga zokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile okwenziwa ngamanye amadoda, ngokuvamile amancane kakhulu, abasebenzisa i-porn eyeqisayo kakhulu. Ukuze uthole okwengeziwe ngokuthi ama-superstimuli angabaduna kanjani ubuchopho buka lokhu uchungechunge lwevidiyo.

Ngokudabukisayo, kungaba lula ukukwenza shiya ngokuphelele i-superstimulus kunokuzama ukuyisebenzisa ngokulinganisela. (Ekuqaleni, kuvamile akukhathazeki kakhulu, noma kunjalo.) Isizathu sokuziqeda singaphumelela lapho ukulinganisela kuhluleka khona amanga kuleso sici esengeziwe se-dopamine ukukhishwa kobuchopho obuzwakalayo ekuphenduleni izikhala ezifakiwe. Ebuchosheni obushintshile futhi abuyele emuva evamile, ukulinganisela kusetha umthombo wamanzi ohlakaniphile ngezifiso zokuphindaphinda esikhundleni sokwaneliseka.

Ngamafuphi, "Yonke into ngokulinganisela" isebenza kuphela kubantu abathile, maqondana nezikhuthazi ezithile, ezinye zezikhathi. Ngokujabulisayo, uma ugwema isikhuthazi ozwela kuso isikhathi eside, izindlela zobuchopho ezinomsindo ziya ziba buthakathaka kancane kancane, futhi isifiso sakho sokudla siphindela emuva ebuzweni obujwayelekile. Ukungaguquguquki kuyakhokha. UMark Hyman, MD wenza leli phuzu maqondana nezifiso zenye i-superstimulus, ushukela:

Susa ushukela neziswidi zokufakelwa bese izifiso zakho zizophela: Iya kubanda turkey. … Kufanele ume ukuze ubuchopho bakho busethwe kabusha. Susa ushukela ocwengekile, ama-sodas, amajusi wezithelo, namaswidi okufakelwa ekudleni kwakho. Lezi yizo zonke izidakamizwa ezizokhulisa izifiso.

Kuyafana nokudlala ngezocansi nokusetshenziswa kwe-erotica. Kungaba lula ukubhekana nokukhathazeka okudingekayo kokukhipha futhi qalisa kabusha ubuchopho bakho kunokulwa nokulangazela okuphindaphindiwe ukuze ugcine ukusetshenziswa okulinganiselayo.

“Uma ufuna ukuphuma emgodini…”

Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungasebenzisa i-erotica noma i-vibrator yakho, zama ukuyeka ngokuphelele inyanga noma ezimbili. Ungabe uzizwa usubuyela emuva ekuzweleni okuvamile (noma ekubhekaneni nokuzwela okukhulu)? Ingabe kusihlwa ukudlala ngothando kunganelisekile kunokuba kusihlwa nge-vibrator yakho? Uma uphinde ubuyekeze, usubona yini izifiso ezimbi ngemva kwalokho? Njengoba wenza izivivinyo zakho, kukhula lula ukuqondisa imiphumela oyifunayo.

Ungabona ngisho nezinzuzo ezingalindelekile njengoba ubuchopho bakho bubheka ukulinganisela. Omunye wesifazane wabika ukuthi lapho eshiya umlenze wakhe omlingo (ngemuva kokuya ekamelweni eliphuthumayo nge-ovary elimele, kanye nephuzu eliqondayo evela kudokotela oya khona), naye wakwazi ukuyeka ukubhema nokuthuthukisa ukudla kwakhe, kokubili kalula .

Kulukhuni kunoma ngubani wethu ukwamukela ukuthi injabulo engenakalimaza iye yahlaselwa yingozi yokulimaza. Noma ngabe injabulo ishintshile noma cha (isibonelo, izithombe ze-Inthanethi esikhundleni sezintandokazi zothando), ubuchopho bethu bungenza, futhi kaningi benza, buyashintsha. Ukuphikisana ngokuthi ukuheha okuthile “kubi” noma “kuhle,” “kunesimilo” noma “akulungile,” kuseceleni. Imiphumela yayo kuwe kukhona okubalulekile, futhi i-mileage yakho iyohlukahluka kuye ngokuthi ubuzwe bobuchopho bakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi buguqukile, ukuthi ukuthanda kwakho kuye kwanda kangakanani, njalonjalo.

Kuyakhokhela ukuzihlola ngokucophelela ukuze ungahluphi ngempendulo yenjabulo yakho ungahlosile nge-superstimuli yanamuhla yokwenziwa. Nayi eminye imininingwane yokuqala evela kwabesifazane nabesilisa:

I-Porn akuyona inkinga yamadoda kuphela. Ngizitholela, uma ngishaya indlwabu, ngilahlekelwa yiwo wonke amajusi wami wemvelo agelezayo… ngakho-ke uma EKULUNGELE ukuba nakho, ANGIYONA! Kumele aqoqe ku-LUBE njengobuhlanya futhi kufanele ngiqhubeke nokuma ukusebenzisa i-lube eyengeziwe futhi uyakhungatheka nami. Ngisho nangakho konke okugcoba ngaphandle, kuba nzima futhi kujabulise kakhulu ngoba nginemicabango yokuthi ngithanda ukubheka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kunokuba ngome futhi ngilale ... Ngangihlale ngazi ukuthi lapho i-**** yakhe ilukhuni noma wayexhuga, ukuthi kungenxa yezocansi. Futhi wayehlala azi ukuthi ngizoshaya indlwabu nini ngoba ngangizoma.

Uma ungumuntu ongangena kwi-porn ye-Intanethi ngokulinganisela, hey, kuhle. Amandla amaningi kuwe. Kepha uma kungenjalo — futhi uyazi ukuthi awukho — kuzodingeka ume ngokuphelele. Ngazama isithembiso esithi “kanye ngesonto”; ayikaze ibambe. Kwakufanele ngiyeke ngokuphelele.

Ngemuva kokuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile okwesikhashana, ngibona ukuthi ukubuka amantombazane amnandi (anezingubo) kuphuma kakhulu kunangesikhathi ngijule kwi-hardcore porn. Ngicabanga ukuthi lokho kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi ubuchopho bami buqala kabusha — ukuthi sebuthole ukuzwela okujwayelekile kokugqugquzelwa okubukwayo.

Ukufingqa, "Uma ufuna ukuphuma emgodini, qala ngokuyeka ukumba." Ngokuphelele. Nikeza ubuchopho bakho isikhathi sokubuyela kubhalansi. Ekugcineni, izinjabulo ezicashile zizobhaliswa njengeziphundu futhi. Uma ubuchopho bakho bushintshe kakhulu, le nqubo kungathatha izinyanga futhi ungakhululeki. Kepha kufanelekile

QAPHELA: I-YBOP ayisho ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuyingozi kuwe. Yenza nje iphuzu lokuthi okuningi okuthiwa izinzuzo zezempilo bathi ukuhlotshaniswa ne-orgasm noma ukushaya indlwabu eqinisweni kuhlobene nokuxhumana okuseduze nomunye umuntu, hhayi i-orgasm / ukushaya indlwabu. Ngokukodwa, ukuhlobana okuphakathi kwezinkomba ezimbalwa zezempilo ezikude kanye ne-orgasm (uma kuyiqiniso) kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona ukuhlobana okuvela emiphakathini enempilo enokuziphatha ngokweqile nokushaya indlwabu. Akuzona i-causal. Ucwaningo olufanele:

Izinzuzo Zempilo Ezihlobene Nezocansi Ezihlukene (2010) wathola ukuthi ubulili buhlobene nemiphumela emihle, kanti ukushaya indlwabu kwakungekho. Kwezinye izimo ukushaya indlwabu kwakuhlobene kakhulu nezinzuzo zezempilo - okusho ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu ngaphezulu kuhambisana nezinkomba zezempilo ezimbi. Isiphetho sokubuyekeza:

"Ngokusekelwe ezinhlobonhlobo zezindlela, amasampuli, nezinyathelo, ukutholakala kocwaningo kuyahambisana ngokuphawulekayo ekuboniseni ukuthi lo msebenzi owodwa wezocansi (Ukuziphatha Kwama-Penile-Vaginal kanye ne-orgasmic response to it) kuhlotshaniswa, futhi kwezinye izimo, kubangela izinqubo ezihlobene ngokusebenza okungcono kwengqondo nokusebenza ngokomzimba. "

"Okunye ukuziphatha ngokocansi (okufaka phakathi lapho ukuziphatha kobulili be-Penile-Vaginal kungaphumeleli, njengamakhondomu noma ukuphazamiseka kude nokuzwela kwamapenile-ubulili) akuhlanganisiwe, noma kwezinye izimo (njengokushaya indlwabu kanye nokulala komzimba) kuhlotshaniswa nokusebenza kangcono kwengqondo nokusebenza ngokomzimba . "

"Imithi yobulili, imfundo yezocansi, ukwelashwa ngokocansi, nokucwaninga ngocansi kufanele kusakaze imininingwane yezinzuzo zezempilo ngokuqondile ngobudlelwane obuphakathi kwe-Penile-Vaginal, futhi kube nokunye okucacile ekuhloleni nasekuhloleni kwabo."

Bona futhi lokhu kubuyekezwa okufushane kokushaya indlwabu kanye nezinkomba zempilo: Ukushaya indlwabu kuhlobene ne-Psychopathology ne-Prostate Dysfunction: Amazwana ku-Quinsey (2012)

Kunzima ukuvumelanisa umbono wokuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuthuthukisa imizwa nokutholakele kubo bobabili abesilisa nabesilisa ukuthi imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu ihlotshaniswa nezimpawu zokucindezeleka (UCyranowski et al., 2004; Frohlich & Meston, 2002; Husted & Edwards, 1976), injabulo encane (Das , 2007), kanye nezinye izinkomba eziningi zempilo empofu ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, okubandakanya okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo (ICosta & Brody, 2011), izindlela ezingavuthiwe zokuzivikela ngokwengqondo, ukuvuseleleka okukhulu kwengcindezi yegazi ekucindezelekeni, kanye nokunganeliseki ngempilo yomuntu yengqondo kanye nokuphila ngokujwayelekile ( ukubuyekeza, bheka uBrody, 2010). Kunzima ngokulinganayo ukubona ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuzikhulisa kanjani izifiso zocansi, lapho imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu ivame kakhulu ukuhlotshaniswa nokusebenza kocansi okungafanelekile emadodeni (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das, Parish, & Laumann, 2009; Gerressu, Mercer, Graham, Wellings, & Johnson, 2008; Lau, Wang, Cheng, & Yang, 2005; Nutter & Condron, 1985) nabesifazane (Brody & Costa, 2009; Das et al., 2009; Gerressu et al., 2008; Lau, Cheng, Wang, & Yang, 2006; Shaeer, Shaeer, & Shaeer, 2012; Weiss & Brody, 2009). Imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu nayo ihlotshaniswa nokungeneliseki okuningi ngobudlelwano nothando oluncane lwabalingani (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009). Ngokuphambene nalokho, i-PVI ihlobene njalo ngokungaguquguquki nempilo engcono (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012), umsebenzi ongcono wezocansi (Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Nutter & Condron, 1983, 1985; Weiss & Brody, 2009), kanye nekhwalithi yobudlelwano obungcono (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011).

Ngaphezu kwalokho, nakuba ingozi encane yomdlavuza we-prostate yayihlotshaniswa nenqwaba ye-ejaculations (ngaphandle kokucaciswa kokuziphatha ngokobulili) (Giles et al., 2003) [Phawula ubufakazi obuphikisanayo, noma kunjalo: “Umdlavuza we-prostate ungaxhunyaniswa nama-hormone ocansi: Amadoda asebenza ngezocansi kuma-20 awo kanye ne-30 angase abe nomngcipheko ophakeme wesifo somdlavuza wesi-prostate, ucwaningo lubonisa. "], yimvamisa ye-PVI ehlotshaniswa ngqo nengozi encishisiwe, kanti imvamisa yokushaya indlwabu ivame kakhulu ukuhambisana nengozi eyengeziwe (ukubukeza isihloko, bheka uBrody, 2010). Mayelana nalokhu, kuyathakazelisa ukuqaphela ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuhlotshaniswa nezinye izinkinga zeprostate (amazinga aphezulu e-antigen athile kanye ne-prostate evuvukile noma yethenda) futhi, uma kuqhathaniswa ne-ejaculate etholwe ku-PVI, i-ejaculate etholakala ekushaya indlwabu inezimpawu ukusebenza kwe-prostatic okumpofu nokuqedwa okuncane kwemikhiqizo kadoti (Brody, 2010). Ukuziphatha okuwukuphela kocansi okuhlobene njalo nempilo engcono ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba yi-PVI. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukushaya indlwabu kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nezimpawu zempilo empofu (Brody, 2010; Brody & Costa, 2009; Brody & Weiss, 2011; Costa & Brody, 2011, 2012). Kunezindlela eziningana ezingaba khona ezingokwengqondo nezingokomzimba, ezingumphumela wokukhethwa kwemvelo okuxhasa izinqubo zezempilo njengezimbangela kanye / noma nomphumela wesisusa sokufuna, namandla okuthola nokujabulela, i-PVI. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukukhethwa kwezinqubo ze-psychobiological ezivuzayo zokukhuthaza ukushaya indlwabu akunakwenzeka ngenxa yezindleko ezinzima zomzimba ezingenzeka uma kungavimbela eyodwa kusuka ku-PVI ngokuyenza ingabalulekile enhlalakahleni (Brody, 2010). Ngokusobala ngokwengeziwe, ukushaya indlwabu kubonisa ukwehluleka okuthile kwezinqubo zedrayivu yezocansi nokuhlobana okusondelene, noma ngabe kuvame kangakanani, futhi noma ngabe kungenzeki ngokujwayelekile kuhlangana nokufinyelela ku-PVI. Kulokhu, kuyaphawuleka ukuthi imvamisa enkulu yokushaya indlwabu ihlotshaniswa nokunganeliseki ngezici ezithile zempilo ngaphandle kwemvamisa ye-PVI (Brody & Costa, 2009) futhi kubonakala kunciphisa ezinye izinzuzo ze-PVI (Brody, 2010).

Ekugcineni bheka le PDF - Ukuhlukaniswa Kwezenhlalakahle, Ezingokomzwelo Nezihlobo Ezingxenyeni Zokuhlaziya Ngokushaya Indlwabu Phakathi Kwabancane Abasha (i-2014)

“Ngakho-ke, bajabule kangakanani abaphendulile abashaya indlwabu muva nje uma beqhathaniswa nalabo abangazange? Umdwebo 5 wembula ukuthi phakathi kwalabo abaphendulile ababike ukuthi "abeneme kakhulu" ngempilo yabo kulezi zinsuku, amaphesenti angama-68 abesifazane kanye namaphesenti angama-84 abesilisa bathi bashaya indlwabu phakathi nesonto eledlule. Ukuhlangana okuthobekile nokungajabuli kubonakala kuqondile phakathi kwabesilisa, kepha hhayi abesifazane. Iphuzu lethu akusikuphakamisa ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kwenza abantu bangajabuli. Kungenzeka, kepha isimo semininingwane esehlukanisiwe asisivumeli ukuthi sikuhlole lokhu. Kodwa-ke, kunembile ngokomthetho ukusho ukuthi amadoda athi ajabule awakwazi kangako ukubika ukushaya indlwabu muva kunamadoda angajabule. ”

“Ukushaya indlwabu kuhlotshaniswa nokubika imizwa yokungafaneleki noma ukwesaba ebudlelwaneni kanye nobunzima ekuzameni ngempumelelo ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Izishaya indlwabu ezedlule nezinsuku ezedlule zibonisa izikolo eziphakeme kakhulu zokukhathazeka kobudlelwano kunabaphendulanga abangabikanga ukushaya indlwabu ngosuku oludlule noma evikini elidlule. Izishaya indlwabu ezedlule nezisonto eledlule zikhombisa izinga eliphakeme kakhulu lokukhathazeka kobudlelwano kunabaphendulanga abangazange babike ukushaya indlwabu ngosuku oludlule noma evikini elidlule. ”

15 imicabango on “Ama-vibrator nezinye izijabuliso: Uma ukulungiswa kwehluleka (2011)"

  1. Amazwana athunyelwe kuhlobo lwe "Psychology Today" lwalesi siqephu
    Owesifazane wabhala (ephendula othile othe i-athikili yethu ibizama "ukwenza abesifazane besabe ngokobulili babo"):

    Okungihluphayo kuyo yonke inkulumo ekhuthaza ucansi ukuthi ifuna ukuphika ukuthi ukudlidlizela okuningi kungaba nemiphumela emibi emzimbeni. Kungani sikwazi ukwamukela ukuthi ukulimala ezandleni kungabangelwa, oh I dunno, yithi isando sejack, kepha sifuna ukukuphika ngokuqinile ukuthi kungenzeka ku-clitoris? Kumele ngithi, ukudlidlizela okushisayo kuzwakala kumnandi, kepha kwangishiya ngindikindiki okubuhlungu okwakwenza ukuthi kusondele lapho kungenzeki ukujabulela ukuthintwa okuthambile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi — okusho ukuthi kwakumele ngikuyeke ngokuphelele ukubuyisa umuzwa.

    Ukufakwa okufana nokwami ​​nezindatshana ezinjengalezi akulona lapho kusongelwa khona. Kusezandleni zabantu abafuna ukusenza sibe namahloni ngokuhlola uhlangothi lwethu lwezocansi, abavimbela ulwazi futhi abakhawulele izingxoxo. Lapho sivulekile ngokwengeziwe ngezocansi kuzoba ngcono.

  2. Owesifazane ubeke lokhu ku-Yahoo

    Ngingowesifazane futhi ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ngiye ngazilahla kwabesilisa kanye nesifiso sobulili uqobo ngokubuka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili. Angicabangi ukuthi kumane kuyizinto ezithinta amadoda; abesifazane abaningi bayathinteka ngalokhu kunalokho abangathanda ukukuvuma futhi, yize kusobala ukuthi asikwazi ukuhlupheka ngokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile. Mina ngokwami ​​ngilahlekelwe kakhulu ku-libido ngento yangempela, futhi ngifaka okuningi kwalokho ekubukeni i-porn eningi kakhulu. Ukubona isitho sangasese sowesilisa empilweni yangempela akuzange kujabulise ngoba ngibabona ngaso sonke isikhathi ku-porn. Akukho ukugqugquzela okuvela ekubukeni ubulili obuhlukile buhamba ze. Kucishe kufane kimi manje njengokubuka izindaba zasebusuku.

  3. Owesifazane ubeke lokhu ku-Psychology Today
    ngaphansi kwesigatshana mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa kocansi okubangelwa ucansi:

    Nginenkinga ngqo ngaphandle kokuthi anginayo ipipi.

    Lapho ngifunda lokhu kungenze ngabona ukuthi yilokhu ebengihlupheka. Ngangingazi ukuthi i-Porn yayiyinkinga yami. Bengilokhu ngibheka i-porn, futhi ngiyilutha kusukela ngisemncane kakhulu. Ngineminyaka engama-24 kuphela futhi impilo yami yothando ingumzabalazo omkhulu. Umyeni wami uyaqonda ngandlela thile kodwa angikaze ngikwazi ngempela ukumtshela ukuthi bekuvelaphi, njengoba ngingamtshelanga ngokulutha kwami. Imayini iqale ngokujwayelekile, lapho ukuzwela kwami ​​ukuthinta kwehle kakhulu, selokhu ngaqala ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile. Futhi njengoba iphepha lasho, i-porn engiyibukile nayo yanda "ebukhali". Ngangivame ukuvula ubunqunu futhi manje ngisesigabeni lapho ngikhathazeke khona ngokuhlanzeka kwengqondo.

    Nginenkinga enkulu ekufinyeleleni noma yiluphi uhlobo lwe-orgasm ngaphandle kokugqugquzelwa kwe-clitoral nokunye ukucubungula okunzima ngami. Ngiyakhumbula ukuthi ngiyakwazi ukulala nobulili futhi ngizizwa ngingenayo imizamo eminingi.

    Angizange ngibheke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile isikhathi eside, futhi ngisanda kuqala futhi, futhi isikhathi sokuhamba asizange sikhulise i-libido yami kodwa singachaza ukuthi kungani ngangingenayo i-libido. Ngangivame ukuba ne-libido eyedlulele kakhulu futhi ngangingakwazi ukuyilawula, manje angithandi ngisho nokuthintwa.

    Ngicabanga ukuthi kimi, ukuyeka izithombe ze-porn kanye nokubukwa kungaba nzima futhi uhambo olude. Nginomuzwa wokuthi kungaba iminyaka ngaphambi kokuba ubuzwe bami buyabuya, uma lokho. Nansi ngokuthemba! Siyabonga ngokubhala lokhu futhi ungenzeleli ukunakwa kwami ​​kuphela kodwa abanye abaningi!

    Ngiyethemba ababhali bayaqonda ukuthi abesifazane, kanye nabesilisa, basebenzisa i-porn ukushaya indlwabu futhi. Ngasese ngibheja abesifazane basondele kakhulu kunani nobukhulu obusetshenziswa abesilisa futhi mhlawumbe yingakho abesifazane abaningi bedinga uhlobo oluthile lokukhuthaza ukufeza noma yini. Ama-vibrator ngusathane futhi ngizobe ngisusa okwami, lokho kuqinisekile.

  4. Omunye wesifazane obhekene nokulahlekelwa phansi
    Inikezwe yilunga lesigungu:

    Nginomngane wesifazane onama-orgasms akhe abe kanjalo-ke. Ubeneminyaka ebhema imifino futhi uthi akakwazi ukuba ne-orgasm enhle ngaphandle kokuthi abheme ukhula futhi ngaphandle kokuthi acabangele ukusetshenziswa. Ubuye nakwezocansi ezingcolile futhi akafuni ukukuyeka lokho.

  5. Intombazane e-Reddit

    Kubonakala sengathi akukho ukushayela ngocansi, kodwa bukela njalo izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye nezithombe. Noma iyiphi indlela yokushintsha lokhu? I-19yo intombi kanye nokuthunyelwe kokuqala, kuhle kakhulu kuwo wonke.

    Ngibe sezikhundleni zokuya ocansini (heh) kusukela ngingu-16, kepha ngiphuma ngehora le-11th njalo. Ubudlelwano obuthathu engibe nabo babuhlala bufushane ngendlela emangalisayo (izinyanga ezimbalwa, iziqongo) ngoba ngabheja ngokushesha lapho sengicindezelwa ubulili.

    Kwakungcono kakhulu, kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho isuka ekuqhumeni okomile (okungangingakaze ngiyikho) kumanothi angaphezulu noma ngaphesheya kwami ​​ngaxoshwa futhi ngokushesha angikhangwanga kumfana.

    Okwamanje, bengishaya indlwabu ngoba ngiyakhumbula (mhlawumbe kanye ngosuku) futhi ngibuka i-porn (cishe kathathu ngesonto) kule minyaka embalwa edlule. Kungani ngingenakukhanyiswa ngumfana empeleni Lapho futhi ngilangazelela ukungithokozisa?

    Ukhona omunye umuntu onokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo lapho ejabulela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile nokushaya indlwabu ngaphezu kokulala kobulili?

  6. Owesifazane on Reddit
    wabhala:

    I-SO yami yangaphambilini futhi sasinobudlelwano obude, futhi kulapho-ke ngaqala khona ukushaya indlwabu kanye nezocansi. Ngezinye izikhathi sasingabonani izinyanga ezimbalwa ngesikhathi, ngakho ngashaya indlwabu futhi ngibheka izithombe ezingcolile cishe nsuku zonke iminyaka engu-3. Ngonyaka wokuqala wobudlelwano bethu, ngathola ukuthi ubulili esasinabo babuthuntu futhi angikwazi ukuphuma ocansini nhlobo. Ngakho nje lapho eseqedile, ngangihamba ukuze ngiqede ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zakhula ngokweqile njengoba iminyaka iqhubeka, futhi ubudlelwane bezocansi enganginabo ne-SO yami baba sibi kakhulu.

    Ngine-SO entsha, sesibonane isikhathi esingaphezu konyaka. Ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bethu, wangitshela ukuthi ngenkathi senza ucansi, kubonakala sengathi ingqondo yami ibikwenye indawo nokuthi angixhumani naye nhlobo. Kwesinye isikhathi maphakathi nocansi, ngigcina ngicabanga ngento engiyibonile noma engiyifunde muva nje, esikhundleni SAKHE. Ngemuva kokuthi ngithathe isinqumo sokuthatha le nselelo ngifunde kancane ku-r / kareeza .. izinto sezingcono kakhulu phakathi kwethu. Ngizizwa uxhumano olunika amandla, futhi ingqondo yami ayidluli nhlobo. Ubulili buzwa kangcono, ukuba ne-SO yami kungcono, futhi ngikwazi ukwenza i-orgasm kube lula kakhulu manje ngocansi kuphela. Futhi, ama-orgasms angcono kune-PVO.

     

  7. Kusukela ku-Psychology Today

    UKim uphawule wathi: "Ukungasebenzi kahle ngokocansi kuyinkinga ekhulayo"

    Isihloko: Lokhu akusebenzi emadodeni kuphela!

    Kuyahlekisa ukuthi abantu besifazane asiqondi isidingo sokushaya indlwabu. Ucwaningo oluningi lwakamuva lukhombisa ukuthi amaphesenti aphezulu kakhulu abesifazane abashaya indlwabu, futhi kaningi! Kungani amathoyizi ezocansi abesifazane ekhona uma kungekho owathenga?

    Ngokuqondene nalesi sihloko, nami ngilwa nale nkinga ethile, futhi ngingowesifazane ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Ngivame ukushaya indlwabu njalo ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, futhi ngiqale ukusebenzisa i-porn ngoba ikwenza kube lula futhi kusheshe ukufinyelela ku-orgasm. Kodwa-ke, isikhathi ngasinye kuba nzima kakhulu ukufika kuvuthondaba, futhi eminyakeni edlule i-porn engiyibukelayo iye yaba ngokweqile / engavamile ukuthola inani elifanayo lenjabulo. Angikwazi futhi ukuvuthwa nesoka lami. Kuyiqiniso impela ukuthi i-porn iyakukhathaza, kepha uma nje ungasenayo i-orgasm ngaphandle kwayo, kunzima ukuyeka.

     

  8. Owesifazane on reddit
    posted this:

    Ngikwazi ukuza kuphela lapho ukushaya indlwabu ku-kinky porn (ikakhulukazi i-gangbang). I-SO yami nakanjani ayikho kulokho, futhi ngikhathazekile ukuthi ukuya ocansini njalo ngeke kungivule ngokwanele ukuze ngize. Kufanele ngikhathazeke ?? Ngingazilumula kanjani kulokhu?

  9. Ngijabule ngokuthi angibanga nakho okuhle ngamaVibrator
    Ngingowesifazane oneminyaka engama-40 ubudala, futhi nginomlando omningi uma kukhulunywa ngokushaya indlwabu. Ukufunda le ndatshana, ngiyajabula ukuthi isipiliyoni sami ngamathoyizi ocansi besingesihle. Cishe eminyakeni emithathu eyedlule, ngathenga isidlidlizi (ngoba ukugqugquzelwa kwedijithali kwe-clitoris yami, ukugoqa umcamelo, njll. Akusangigculisanga), kepha leli pipi lepulasitiki lavele lalikhulu kakhulu esithweni sangasese sami, ukungena - futhi bengingazi ngempela ukuthi ngingayisebenzisa kanjani le divayisi yokudlidliza ngenye indlela. Ngemuva kwesikhashana, unembeza wami omubi nawo wangibamba futhi ngawusebenzisa. Kamuva, ngezwa ngedivayisi encane, futhi ngalingwa ukuyithola, kodwa ngenhlanhla angizange ngiyithole! Noma kunjalo, ngingagcizelela kuphela lokho okushiwo ku-athikili:

    "Singakhulisa ubuchopho bethu ngezindlela eziningi, kepha ukudla nobulili kuyakhanga kakhulu."

    Ngempela, imvamisa bekungomunye wemilutha emibili ebengiboshwe ngayo esikhathini esedlule. Noma nini lapho ukudla kwakungeyona inkinga yami, ngokuqinisekile kwakuwukushaya indlwabu (kwesinye isikhathi ngisho zombili) - kufaka phakathi ukucabanga kanjalo, kanye nezinto zokufunda ezingafanele ezazingivula (kwesinye isikhathi ne-porn ethambile). Futhi ngiziqine ngokweqile ngezindlela eziningi. Ngeshwa, angikashadi, futhi ukuhlangana kwami ​​kokugcina ngocansi eminyakeni eminingi edlule. Kepha ngingumKristu futhi angikholelwa ocansini ngaphambi komshado, ngakho-ke angikwazi ukwenza enye into ngaphandle kokulinda!

  10. Umlutha wezocansi wowesifazane
    I-ExistenceTheoremizinsuku 7 Amaphuzu we-21 amahora angu-2 edluleOh, kholwa mina, abanye besifazane abadingi fap.

    Ngangivame ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile kunamadoda amaningi engiwaziyo. Ngingathola isifiso, bese ngichitha noma yikuphi ukusuka emizuzwini emihlanu kuya ehoreni ngifuna ividiyo efanelekile engizoya kuyo ngoba ngizithole nginesithukuthezi ngezinto ezindala ezifanayo. Ngaqala ngezinto ezithambile ngiseminyakeni eyishumi nambili futhi yaphenduka izinto ezingathandeki kakhulu engingazithola. Benginefolda ebangeni le-GB kwi-PC yami. Ngibeka amafayela ocingweni lwami nesidlali se-mp3 / sevidiyo ukuze ngifinyelele kalula lapho ngangingenakusondela kwikhompyutha. Ngithole i-akhawunti yesilingo esizeni se-porn ngoba ngabona i-gif engangivula kakhulu ngaze ngazi ukuthi intombazane ngubani.

    Ingxenye elandelayo ingumfanekiso othe xaxa nemininingwane yokuthi konke lokhu kuguqule kanjani (kuguqula) imibono yami kwezocansi, ngakho-ke ngizoqhubeka ne-NSFW ukuthi iphephe. ​​Lo mlutha wezocansi ushintshe impilo yami ngezindlela eziningi. Umqondo wokwenza kancane kancane uthando ubukeka ungangithandi. Nganginocansi lwe-PIV kuphela nomfana oyedwa futhi ngancela ngoba une-ED ngenxa ye-PMO futhi uzama ukuyilungisa. Kodwa-ke, ngenze ezinye izinto nabanye abafana. Bengihlala ngifuna ukubashaya futhi ngithole ukuthi kungijikisele kokuningi kunokukuthola kubo. Eqinisweni, angikaze ngifune noma ngubani ozongena ngami, ngisho nentombazane eyanikela ngemuva kokuthi ngiye kuye. Abafana abakwazanga ukungibamba ngomunwe kanzima ngokwanele; yonke into bekufanele ibe lukhuni kimi. Bengifuna ukubizwa ngonondindwa nesifebe. Ngacela ukushaywa ngempama futhi iningi labafana alikwazanga ukukwenza. Ubulili empeleni kwakuyikho konke kodwa kungithanda; konke okwakushoda empilweni yami yezocansi kwakuyikhamera nokukhokhelwa. Ngangizibheka njengabesilisa nabesifazane, kodwa ngangingeke ngizibone nginobudlelwano nowesifazane. Ngokuyinhloko konke engangifuna ukukwenza nabesifazane kwakuwukudla ngaphandle bese ngibafaka ngendwangu. Ngakho-ke bengingazikhombisi nje kuphela, nami bengibakhomba. Ukuhlangana ngokocansi nabanye kwaba nomuzwa wokuthi kulungile, kepha akukaze kungenzele okuningi. Ngangiqamba amanga ngokuthi kwakumnandi kanjani futhi ngangifaka ama-orgasms enkohliso ukuze kuphele. Kwakungathi akulungile, kungcolile, futhi ngangifuna ukushiywa ngedwa. Ngocansi? Ngingaba nama-orgasms aqine kakhulu futhi ngikwenze noma yikuphi ukusuka kwesinye kuya kwezihlanu ngosuku.

    Akekho owake wazi ngoba ngihle kabi lapho futhi izinkinga zami ze-PMO azange zibonise kuleso sici ngendlela esenza ngayo namanye amadoda no-ED. Kodwa-ke, umonakalo owenziwe kimi ngokwengqondo maqondana nobulili, ukuzethemba, nobudlelwano kubonakala kahle kakhulu. Futhi, kungenze ngafuna ukudlala ngothando nabantu besilisa kancane kakhulu. “Kungani ngidinga ukukhuluma naleya nsizwa enhle? Akasoze angenza ngithokoze ngokobulili ngendlela engizizwa ngayo ngedwa. ” Ngingaba nengxoxo nomfana oku-inthanethi, bese ngivele ngisukume ngihambe ngisuke kwi-PC ngiyoshaya indlwabu. Ngizobambezeleka ekilasini noma ngisebenze ngoba ngivele ngidinga ukungena kuleso sikhathi esisodwa se-quickie PMO. Nganginosizi futhi ngangifuna ukukushintsha. Akukaze kube muva nje lapho ngivumelana nazo zonke izindlela engishintshe ngazo kusuka kulokhu. Sengikhululekile ku-PMO izinsuku eziyisikhombisa futhi nginamahloni phansi lapho, iziqeshana zocansi ziyakhanya ekhanda lami kwesinye isikhathi futhi, ukuze ngibe nesibindi, kwesinye isikhathi ngizizwa sengathi ngifuna ukubamba umuntu wokuqala ohamba endlini yami futhi khipha ubuchopho bakhe nje.

    Ngakho-ke, madade abesifazane bakuthola nakanjani konke lokhu.

    http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/17xrb8/i_want_to_hear_from_the_women_on_this_site/c89v2u6

  11. Kusuka kwenye indawo
    Owesifazane osemusha uyabika:

    lokhu kukhulula kakhulu ukufunda. ngiyintombazane eneminyaka engama-20 futhi ngimuhle le yinkinga yami. Angikatholi abanye besifazane ababika ukuthi banenkinga nokho. Ngokusobala ababheki nje izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, heh. ngangididekile mega lapho ngangingakaze ngihlale namuntu unyaka wonke futhi ngangingakwazi nokuvusa isoka lami elisha engangazi ukuthi ngangikhangwa ngangokunokwenzeka kunoma ngubani. Ngangicabanga ukuthi kwakuwukuzazi nje (yize ngangingakhathazeki nhlobo) noma ama-hormone ami ayephethwe.

    Kwakungangezi nokho, ngifana nesibani sezempilo esikhanyayo phakathi kontanga yami ababelana ngocansi. Uma kukhona okuthile okwami ​​kwezemidlalo kufanele ukuthi kuqhume i-testosterone yami futhi kunginike onqenqemeni.

    Namuhla ngibonile ukuthi angikwazi ukuphuma ne-porn futhi i-Os yami ibingafani izikhathi ezimbalwa ezedlule. Kuyangimangaza ukuthi isoka lami likwazile ukwenza lokho. noma kunjalo, ngithole ngalokhu namuhla. noma yonke imininingwane engiyitholile iphathelene nabesilisa kunokufana okuningi. angikwazi ukuphuma noma ukuvuswa ngaphandle kwe-P, hhayi ukuvuswa ngaphambi kuka-M, ukubuka i-P eyedlulele kakhulu enezinto ezazingahambisani nhlobo nezimpilo zami zangempela, njll.

    Ngijabule kakhulu ukuthola umsuka wenkinga yami. Ukuqalisa kabusha kufanele kusheshe futhi kube lula uma ucabanga ukuthi angikaze ngibe umlutha * (nginesithukuthezi) futhi angizange ngizibandakanye ekuziphatheni okwehlisayo unyaka owodwa noma kaningi njengabanye. imiphumela yakho ingenza ngibe nethemba. injabulo! ^ _ ^ =

  12. Ngijabule ngokuthi angibanga nakho okuhle ngamaVibrator
    Kuthunyelwe ku-YBOP

    Ngingowesifazane oneminyaka engama-40 ubudala, futhi nginomlando omningi uma kukhulunywa ngokushaya indlwabu. Ukufunda le ndatshana, ngiyajabula ukuthi isipiliyoni sami ngamathoyizi ocansi besingesihle. Cishe eminyakeni emithathu eyedlule, ngathenga isidlidlizi (ngoba ukugqugquzelwa kwedijithali kwe-clitoris yami, ukugoqa umcamelo, njll. Akusangigculisanga), kepha leli pipi lepulasitiki lavele lalikhulu kakhulu esithweni sangasese sami, ukungena - futhi bengingazi ngempela ukuthi ngingayisebenzisa kanjani le divayisi yokudlidliza ngenye indlela. Ngemuva kwesikhashana, unembeza wami omubi nawo wangibamba futhi ngawusebenzisa. Kamuva, ngezwa ngedivayisi encane, futhi ngalingwa ukuyithola, kodwa ngenhlanhla angizange ngiyithole! Noma kunjalo, ngingagcizelela kuphela lokho okushiwo ku-athikili:

    "Singakhulisa ubuchopho bethu ngezindlela eziningi, kepha ukudla nobulili kuyakhanga kakhulu."

    Ngempela, imvamisa bekungomunye wemilutha emibili ebengiboshwe ngayo esikhathini esedlule. Noma nini lapho ukudla kwakungeyona inkinga yami, ngokuqinisekile kwakuwukushaya indlwabu (kwesinye isikhathi ngisho zombili) - kufaka phakathi ukucabanga kanjalo, kanye nezinto zokufunda ezingafanele ezazingivula (kwesinye isikhathi ne-porn ethambile). Futhi ngiziqine ngokweqile ngezindlela eziningi. Ngeshwa, angikashadi, futhi ukuhlangana kwami ​​kokugcina ngocansi eminyakeni eminingi edlule. Kepha ngingumKristu futhi angikholelwa ocansini ngaphambi komshado, ngakho-ke angikwazi ukwenza enye into ngaphandle kokulinda!

  13. Ngilahlekelwe ubuzwela ku-clitoris yami kusuka kudlidliza lami
    Ngilahlekelwe ubuzwela ku-clitoris yami kusuka kudlidliza lami

    Sawubona NoFap, bengilokhu ngiqamekela isikhashana manje futhi bengiphikisana ngokuthi ngifanele ngiqale yini uhlobo lweNoFap. Ngifunda i-hentai kancane futhi ngishaya indlwabu cishe nsuku zonke. Ngiyaqonda ukuthi ngidinga ukuyeka: Ngiphelelwe umuzwa obonakalayo kwi-clitoris yami kusuka ku-vibrator yami, ngizithola ngiphikisana nabangane bami besilisa ngengqondo, futhi ngilahlekelwa yisikhathi esiningi esibalulekile okufanele ngabe ngisisebenzisa emisebenzini yomsebenzi.

    Kodwa-ke, ngesaba ukuthi uma ngiyeka, ngingahle ngibe nokuqiniseka ukuthi amaFapstronauts amaningi ahlangabezane nawo futhi / noma angazizwa eheheka ngokwengeziwe kubangane bami besilisa. Nginophathina ebudlelwaneni obude, futhi angifuni ukudlala ngothando ngephutha noma nginikeze izimpawu zokuthi nginentshisekelo uma ngingeyona. Ukucacisa, ngicace bha ekuziphatheni kwami ​​ngamazwi ukuthi ngisebudlelwaneni obumnandi obujabulisayo futhi anginantshisekelo kunoma ngubani omunye umuntu, kepha angifuni ukuthuthukisa noma iyiphi indlela engeyona yokukhuluma ethi ngenye indlela.

  14. Inyanga eyodwa ayikho i-porn, ukushaya indlwabu noma izidudliza
    Inyanga eyodwa ayikho i-porn, ukushaya indlwabu noma izidudliza

    Ngingowesifazane oneminyaka engu-26 ubudala. Ngangibuhlobo obuhle obungenamkhawulo wesikhathi eside lapho ngakwazi khona ukusebenzisa i-porn ukuze ngithwale i-slack. Ngemuva kokuba ubuhlobo buphelile, nakanjani ngandisa ukusetshenziswa kwami ​​kobulili nsuku zonke. Ngahlangana nomngane wami manje futhi senza ucansi njalo. Kodwa-ke, lapho ngisasebenzi ngaphandle kwezinyanga ezimbalwa, nganginomzimba wokushaya indlwabu izikhathi eziningana ngosuku. Ngesikhathi efika ekhaya, angikaze ngizizwe sengathi ukulala ocansini noma ubulili nje akuzange kube nomuzwa wokuthi kuhle.

    Ngabuyela emsebenzini kodwa ngiseneminyaka yokushaya indlwabu futhi ngibheka i-porn okungenani i-2-3x ngosuku. Ngabona ukuthi wayevame ukungikhipha ngomlomo (wayesebenzisa sonke isikhathi!) Futhi angenakukwazi ngezandla zakhe.

    Sekuphele amasonto amane kungekho ukushaya indlwabu, i-porn noma ama-vibrator futhi ngizizwa ngingowesifazane oshintshile !!! Ukuya kwethu ocansini ndawonye sekuthele kakhulu futhi kwaxhuma kakhulu. Anginazo izithombe ezingcolile ezihamba ekhanda lami. Uyakwazi ukungisusa kalula manje ngazo zombili izandla nezandla futhi nginomuzwa wokuthi ugcwaliseke kakhulu. Ngimlangazelela ngokumelene nokulangazelela i-porn. Ngisathola izikhuthazo kodwa ngiyakwazi ngokwengeziwe futhi ngizimisele ukuzilawula.

  15. Owesifazane - akakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm namadoda, kuphela eyedwa: indaba yempumelelo

    Hi!

    Vele ushaye phansi ukuze wabelane ngenqubekela phambili yami kuze kube manje.

    Ngaqala i-nofap ngoJanuwari, izinsuku ezingama-247 ezedlule ukucacisa. Isizathu sokuba ngikwazi ukuzikhipha ngendlela engangiyithanda ngayo kodwa ngangingakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm nomlingani wami (noma yimuphi umlingani), noma yini abayenzile noma ngabe bazama kanzima kangakanani.

    Emuva lapho ngangineminyaka engu-19 ngangingakaze ngishaye indlwabu ngaphambili empilweni yami, futhi ngangivame ukwenza i-orgasm kuphela kusuka ocansini lwe-PIV kimi-phezulu (engibona ukuthi akuvamile, njengoba abesifazane abaningi bedinga ukugqugquzelwa, kepha angizange). Ngeminyaka engu-20 ngase ngithole ukunambitheka kwama-orgasms, futhi lapho engashadile ngathola unogwaja odlangile - iphutha elikhulu, ama-PIV O awakaze abonwe futhi, noma olunye uhlobo lwe-O nanoma ngubani. Eminyakeni eyi-14 elandelayo ngangikwazi O kuphela kunogwaja, ngenkathi ngicabanga (noma ngibheka izithombe ezingcolile). Eminyakeni eyi-6 eyedlule ngangihlenga unogwaja futhi ekugcineni ngafunda ukusebenzisa isandla sami, kepha ngisafanele ngicabange noma ngibuke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ku-O. Ngangikwazi ukwenza i-orgasm kuphela nomlingani wami, uma ngangiziphatha ngendlela eqondile ngesikhathi socansi futhi ngicabange, ngakho ngangingekho. Angiphindanga ngavuswa ngokomzimba nomlingani wami. Mina yize lokhu bekungenxa yokuthi besikade sindawonye iminyaka ecishe ibe yishumi futhi inhlansi ihambile - kepha empeleni kungenxa yokuthi ingqondo yami ibone kuphela isandla sami kanye namaphupho angenangqondo njengomthombo wenjabulo ye-orgasmic.

    Ngakho-ke, ngondliwe ukukwazi ukuzenelisa nokuzizwa ngiphukile lapho, nginqume ukuzama i-nofap. Ngiyeke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi angikaze ngiyibuke kanye selokhu ngashiya, okwakungeyona inkinga njengoba ngangiyibuka izikhathi ezimbalwa kuphela ngenyanga futhi angikaze ngiyilutha. Nganginqatshelwe kuwo, noma ngabe ngayibuka nje izikhathi ezimbalwa ngenyanga. Ngiphinde ngazama ukuyeka i-MO, ebengiphumelele kahle ngayo, nginemigqa emide, kepha-ke ngizoba neviki elingavamile lokuphinda ngibuyele lapha nalaphaya. Okubaluleke kakhulu nginqume ukuyeka ukucabanga ngezinto ezingezona ezingokoqobo noma zocansi. Le micabango yayihambisane nokuvuka kwami ​​kanye ne-orgasm iminyaka eyi-14, futhi yimicabango yayo eyayiphazamisa ukusebenza kwami ​​kocansi ngokomqondo.

    Kube nezindaba ze-2 ezidinga ukuhlunga;

    • Ngokomzimba - ngangine-female version of death grip. Bengingakwazi u-O kuphela uma ngigcoba i-clit yami ngengcindezi ethile, isiqondiso nejubane. Ngakho-ke ngase ngikhutshiwe ngokuphelele kunoma yiluphi olunye uhlobo lokuthinta kimi, ingasaphathwa eyomunye umuntu.
    • Ngokwezengqondo - nginezinguqulo zesifazane zombili i-PIED futhi DE. Ngangikwazi ukuvuswa ngokomzimba noma ngifinyelele O uma ngabe ngivele ezweni elihle noma ngibheka izithombe ezingcolile. Akekho noyedwa okwenzekile empilweni yangempela okwabangela ukuvuvukala ngokomzimba kimi, noma ngabe ngabe ngiyingozi futhi ngiyaxolisa ngezocansi. Ngakho-ke, O nomlingani wayengenakwenzeka.

    Yile ndlela okuhambe ngayo kuze kube manje;

    Izinsuku ze-20 + ze-arousal zaqala ukuthuthukisa
    Usuku lwe-40 + nocansi luqala ukuzizwa okuningi okujabulisa kakhulu
    Usuku 47; Nganginomuntu wami wokuqala o-O ocansini ngomlomo - endaweni eqondile yokuma ubuso nobuso (ngisadinga leyo nto yokulawula) - baqhubeke nokuba nalokhu kusukela lapho
    Usuku lwe-70 + phakathi nesigaba sokuphindaphindiwe, sikwazi ukuya ku-MO ngaphandle kokucabangela ngokokuqala ngqa, kusuka othintana yedwa. Futhi uyakwazi u-O kusuka ekuthinteni okuthinta umzimba nokuthinta kunokuba ucindezeleke kakhulu.
    Usuku lwe-200 + ngesikhathi esisodwa sokuphindaphinda, okwazi ukuhamba nge-MO ngaphandle kokuhlangana okuqondile okokuqala, ukufanisa ucansi. Kakhulu ukwanda kokuthambisa ngesikhathi socansi - kwesinye isikhathi kumazinga we-gushy
    Usuku 246 (izolo!); Ngibe no-O wami wokuqala ngocansi lomlomo ngenkathi ngilala phansi - Okubaluleke kakhulu, lena yi-orgasm yokuqala engake ngaba nayo empilweni yami lapho ngangingaqondile / phezulu, ngakho-ke angilawuli ukunyakaza. Ngakho-ke ngokomthetho, kungokokuqala empilweni yami ukuthi ngikwazi ukulala futhi ngiphumule ngenkathi omunye umuntu engiletha ku-orgasm, ngaphandle kokufaka kimi

    Lapho ngibeke khona 'okokuqala' ngaphezulu, ngiqonde okokuqala ngqa, empilweni yami yonke.

    Ngakho-ke kungithathe izinyanga eziyi-8 ukufika kuleli qophelo. Angisakwazi ukuphuma ku-O kusuka ocansini lwe-PIV njengangaphambili ngaphambi kokuba ngiqale ukushaya indlwabu, kodwa ngikholelwa ukuthi kuzokwenzeka uma ngiqhubeka nalokhu, njengoba ngikwazi ukuya ku-MO manje. Ikhono lomzimba likhona (obekungakaze kube khona ngaphambili, bengingakwazi ngokomzimba lapho ngingu-PMO'ing kanye nefantasy MO'ing ngaso sonke isikhathi), kumane kuyicala lengqondo lokulibuyisela emuva ocansini langempela ukuze libonwe phuma manje.

    Ngokumangazayo i-MO'ing yami ayikaze yehlise ukushayela kwami ​​ucansi noma ukukhanga kwami ​​kubalingani, noma amandla ami okusondelana. Ngahlala ngingumuntu ocansini kakhulu kulo lonke umlutha wami we-MO. Angisasebenzi kahle. Futhi njengomuntu ocansi kakhulu, lokhu kwakungicasula kakhulu.

    Kufanelekile ukusho ukuthi ukubamba ukufa, i-PIED ne-DE konke kubonakala kakhulu kowesilisa, ngezitho zocansi ngaphandle futhi okusobala kakhulu. Kepha kowesifazane, lapho konke kucocekile futhi kungaphakathi, awukwazi ukusho. Awazi ukuthi kunenkinga isikhathi eside, ngoba awukwazi ukuyibona. Futhi kanti indoda izidingo ukuvuswa ngokomzimba ukuya ocansini, owesifazane akenzi. Ngiyakujabulela ukuzwa kwe-lube, kepha ngichithe iminyaka eyi-14 ngithembele kuyo ngoba umzimba wami ubungaphenduli. Ukube bengiyindoda, nginesiqiniseko sokuthi bengizokuhlunga lokhu ngokushesha nje lapho izingcezwana zami ziyeke ukusebenza kahle, esikhundleni seminyaka eyi-14 phansi kulayini. Manje sengineminyaka eyi-30, futhi ngichithe yonke i-20 yami ngomlutha we-MO kuphela ngiziphendula. Sonke lesi sikhathi bekungazi nakancane ukuthi inkinga ibiyini empeleni.

    Noma kunjalo, iseluleko sami yilokhu. Uma ngabe i-porn noma ukushaya indlwabu kuthinta nganoma iyiphi indlela isifiso sakho sobulili, ukuphendula kwakho komunye umuntu, umsebenzi wakho wezocansi noma ikhono lakho lokuthola i-orgasm, manje yisikhathi sokuqala ukuthatha isenzo. Kungathatha isikhathi eside, kungathatha isikhathi eside impela, ukuzithiba ngeke kubekezeleleke kwesinye isikhathi, futhi uzobuyela emuva ngezikhathi ezithile. Ngezinye izikhathi uzozizwa sengathi ayisho lutho, ukuthi ayisebenzi. Kepha kuthanda sebenza. Uma uzama, futhi uthule uthuli bese ubuyela kuwo ngemuva kokuwa, kancane kodwa ngokuqinisekile, ingqondo yakho izobe iphinda ixhumeka ngemuva, ukuzwela kwakho nokuphendula kwakho kuzoqala ukubuya. Kimi, ukuphindisela kabusha kubaluleke kakhulu kuze kube manje, hhayi nje ukuziyeka. Ukube bengingenaye umuntu engizodlala naye, obekwazi izingqinamba zami futhi ezimisele ukungibekezelela futhi angisize ngikufunde futhi, bengingeke ngikwazi ukwenza lokhu, ukushayela kwami ​​ucansi kuphakeme kakhulu ukuthi ngingahamba nje ngaphandle kocansi. Umlingani wami, oyi-PA esalulama uqobo, unginikeze umlomo omnandi izinyanga, masonto onke, ngazi kahle ukuthi kungenzeka kungabi khona i-orgasm kuwo, kepha uzimisele ukukwenza noma kunjalo, ngoba nje kungijabulisa futhi kusiza ingqondo yami ukuthi iphinde ifunde. Lolu hlobo lokudlala nokuqonda oludingekayo.

    Ungabambeki kakhulu ezintweni zezinsuku ze-90. Angikaze ngibe umlutha wezocansi futhi kungithathe isikhathi eside kunalokho ukufika lapho ngikhona manje, futhi angisekho lapho ngifuna ukuba khona okwamanje. Yicabange njengendlela entsha yokuphila ezoqhubeka, bese uyibekezelela :)

    Ngethemba ukuthi ngizobuya lapho ngizosho ukuthi ama-PIV orgasms ami abuyile :Dkodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi, ngizoqhubeka, ngoba ukukwazi ukuqamba amanga futhi ngithole injabulo futhi O ebusweni bozakwethu kungcono kakhulu! :)

    LINK - Owesifazane - akakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm namadoda, yedwa kuphela - indaba yempumelelo kuze kube manje!

Amazwana zivaliwe.