Ingabe umfana angagcina ethembekile ngokugqoka i-oxytocin?
"A isifundo eshicilelwe ngoLwesibili kwi-Journal of Neuroscience kutholakale impahla entsha ngokumangazayo ye-oxytocin, ethola ukuthi lapho abesilisa ebudlelwaneni bomuntu oyedwa bethola iphunga lezinto, babe sebebeka isikhala esithe xaxa phakathi kwabo nowesifazane omuhle ababesanda kuhlangana naye, ” wabhala i I-LA Times maduzane.
The imiphumela yabamangaza abacwaningi. Babecabanga nge-oxytocin konke amadoda amasentimitha eduze kwamantombazane amahle. Esikhundleni salokho abantu abazinikezele ubudlelwane bathuthele ekude lapho behlushwa nge-oxytocin (futhi kuphela lapho kudosiwe). Ubufakazi obengeziwe bokuthi Ukubambisana kokubili kubalulekile hhayi amasiko.
Kodwa-ke "i-hormone yothando" ingenza kanjani ukuthi amadoda angaqapheli angahlali kude nabalingani abathandekayo, abanoveli? Impendulo iyamangaza. Ngaphambi kokuthi sicabangele ukuthi amadoda afuna ukuhlala ethokoziswe ngamathambo angagcina kanjani i-oxytocin yawo emazingeni amahle, ake sicabangele kafushane izimpande zokuziphendukela kwemvelo kanye nezisekelo zebhayoloji zokuzihlanganisa. Bathwala impendulo.
Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi ukuhlanganisa izimbhangqwana (kuphela i-3-5% yezinhlobo eziluthisayo) kuvela ezinkambisweni ezifanayo eziphethwe yisibopho somnakekeli wasencane. Njengoba kuchazwe kabanzi ngokugcwele Indlela Evilaphayo Yokuhlala Uthandweni, isibopho esiphakathi kosana nomnakekeli sidalwa, futhi siqiniswe, ngokuziphatha okuzibophezelayo (okwaziwayo njengama-attachment cues).
Ukwakha isibopho esiqinile-ngisho naphakathi nosana nomnakekeli-lezi ziphathamandla zidinga ukuthi zenzeke cishe nsuku zonke isikhathi eside. Ekugcineni ubuchopho bungakwazi ukuhlanganisa inhlalakahle yenduduzo nomuntu othile / obuncelisayo (isibopho). Ngaphandle uma kuphulwa ukugabisa okunzima noma ukucindezeleka okunye, or esikhundleni sebhondi entsha, ingahlala impilo yonke. Le yindlela esingabala ngayo abazali bethu, izingane, izilwane ezifuywayo… futhi noma, uma sinenhlanhla, esishade naye.
Ukusekela okuyisisekelo
I-mechanics ngemuva kwamandla ezinkomba zokunamathisela ilula efile. Ukuziphatha okujwayelekile (ukuxhumana kwesikhumba kuya kwesikhumba, ukuxhumana kwamehlo, ukuthinta othandekayo, ukukhulisa, njll) ukukhulula i-oxytocin engxenyeni yobuchopho obubizwa ngokuthi i-amygdala futhi phumula. Ngaphandle kwalokhu kukhululeka okubangelwa yi-neurochemically, asibopheli. Sihlala siqaphile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ukucindezela kobuhlobo okuningi kuhlula amandla we-oxytocin ku-amygdala, izibopho ziyabhidlika. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi umsebenzi we-amygdala ukugcina izivikelo zethu zivulekile ngaphandle uma sizizwa siphephile (okungukuthi, sikhululekile). Ngokusobala, lapho sibeka engcupheni kakhulu izibopho zethu zobuntwana, kulapho sidinga khona ukuthoba kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba sizizwe siphephile ngokweqiniso, futhi kulapho thina (ngaphezulu) sisabela khona ekucindezelekeni kobudlelwano njengamanje.
I-Oxytocin, emazingeni afanele emijikelezweni elungile yobuchopho, iyindlela enamandla yokugcina izivikelo zethu ziphansi phakathi kwethu nanoma ubani esixhumene naye. Kodwa-ke kukhona nenye into ekuhlanganiseni: isifiso, esinikwe amandla yi-dopamine. Yilapho ukusondelana ngokocansi nokudlala ngothando kungena khona. (Okuningi ngomzuzwana.)
Buyela ku-oxytocin. Njengoba nje i-oxytocin encane kakhulu inqabela izibopho, kunjalo nakakhulu. Ngakho-ke, i-synthetic ngokweqile kwe-oxytocin kungabangela izigqila ezimbili ukuba zibophezele. (Lo mphumela ongathandabuzeki cishe uhlobene no izinhlobo ze-receptors ukuthi i-oxytocin, namakhemikhali e-neurochem, okuyinto ebophayo, ibophezele-kuye ngokuthi kunani elithunyelwe.)
I-Oxytocin nayo ingenza izilwane ezincelisayo zizivikele ezincane zazo, futhi zihlukumeze ngabangaphandle. Eqinisweni, bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane ababili ababoshiwe ngamabhanoyi ngezinye izikhathi bahlasele abanye abantu abadala abalahlekile ngokuphambene sex. Njengoba i-oxytocin (kanye nomzala wayo osondelene ne-neurochemical, i-vasopressin) ingemuva kwalokhu kuziphatha kwe- "us v. Them", akuyona yonke into emangazayo ukuthi i-hit ye-oxytocin ingenza umuntu wesilisa ongumlingani agcine ibanga phakathi kwakhe nabesifazane abadala abangaziwa.
Ngokusobala, i-spray yamasongo asetshenziselwa ukuhlolwa kwe-oxytocin akuyona indlela ekwazi ukukhuthaza ukuthembeka. Imiphumela emibi engahlosiwe kwenzeke lapho i-oxytocin igoqa ikhala ebuchosheni ngezikhathi ezinwetshiwe.
Iphuzu eliyinhloko wukuthi ebuchosheni bama-mammalian, ukuziphatha okubambisene kubonakala kubonisa inani elilinganayo le-oktocin ekwenzeni futhi liqinise ukunamathela-zonke izinto zilingana. Ukudonsa ukubhalisa njengokuvuza (ngaphandle uma othile ehlanganyela ocansini eliningi kakhulu).
Eqinisweni, a Ucwaningo lwezwe le-5 Imibhangqwana ephakathi kweminyaka eminingi ithola ukuthi amadoda abenga ukukhanda / ukukhwabanisa kwakungumqondo obalulekile kokubili ukwaneliseka ngokobulili futhi injabulo yobudlelwano. Amadoda ayeyazisa kakhulu le misebenzi ngaphezu kocansi. Okungenzeka, ochwepheshe bacabanga ukuthi injabulo yokuqabula-njengokuzibophezela-yokuziphatha yavela ekulethweni kokwenza injabulo kokudla okuhlafunwayo kusuka kumama we-primate kuya kosana ngaphambi kokufika kukaGerber's.
Ukukhiqizwa kokuphefumula kwe-oxytocin
Abacwaningi bacabanga ukuthi amadoda angakwazi ukuyeka kude nesilingo ngokuzibandakanya ngokuzibandakanya e-oxytocin-ukukhulula ukuziphatha okuhambisana nabalingani babo. Ngaphakathi isifundo esigcwele, abacwaningi babike ukuthi ukuxhaphazwa kwamakhemikhali e-oxytocin,
Kungenzeka ukuthi kuncike ebuhlotsheni obuseduze obusondelene nabalingani babo besifazane kanye nokusondelana okukhulu phakathi kwabo.
Ngamanye amagama, isimilo sokuhlangana nomuntu oshade naye kuyisu elihle uma umuntu efuna ukuziqhelanisa nabesifazane abangaziwa.
Abaphenyi abashisekayo ngokulandelayo bacabangela ukuthi ukuya ocansini kuzoba yindlela “esobala kakhulu” yokukhuthaza ukukhishwa kwemvelo kwe-oxytocin. Lesi siphetho ngokungangabazeki besisekelwe eqinisweni lokuthi, njengoba abathandi beqala ukukhohlisa i-oxytocin kancane kancane ikhuphuka ize ifike kuvuthondaba. (Isithombe sivela ekuhlolweni kwegundane futhi sikhombisa ukuthi i-oxytocin inyuka kancane kancane ize ifike ejaculation.)
Nokho, ngokugcwele ubuqotho, abacwaningi bavuma ukuthi ukukhululwa kwe-oxytocin akuyona othembekile phezu komvuthwandaba:
Ukuba khona okulula nokuthinta komlingani wabo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi esithile ngesikhathi kungase kube ngokwanele, (ucaphuna isifundo lokho kukhombisile ukuthi "ukuthinta okufudumele" kunciphisa izimpendulo zokucindezeleka, ikakhulukazi emadodeni).
Ngamafuphi, konke uhla of ukuziphatha okuthandekayo (izinhlamvu zokunamathiselwe) kungenzeka ukuthi iphumelele, njengoba nje abacwaningi bevuma ngokuthobeka.
Kuthatha amabili kuya kwe-tango: i-oxytocin ne-dopamine
Faka ucansi. U-oxytocin uphakeme ngesikhathi sezocansi-eside ngaphambi komvuthwandaba. Nokho, ngemva kokuphefumula, ihlaselwa ngokushesha. Kanjalo i-dopamine, i i-neurochemical ngemuva kwesifiso (ngoba i-prolactin iyaqhubeka futhi ezinye izinguquko ze-neurochemical vimbela i-dopamine). Njengoba i-dopamine sags, isifiso sokuhlanganisa ukuncipha futhi i- "Miss Right Now" yakho ingahle ifane ne- "Miss Please Disappear."
Lokhu kubalulekile ulwazi kwabanye abathandi, njengoba kuchazwe ku Ingabe Amagciwane Ayokugcina Ngothando? Vimba noma yi-dopamine noma i-oxytocin futhi izilwane azibopheli kwabalingani noma inzalo. Akumangalisi ukuthi ama-bonders amabili anokuxinana okuphezulu kwama-oxytocin receptors ezingxenyeni zemijikelezo yomvuzo wobuchopho ekhipha i-dopamine. Ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi le nhlanganisela ichaza ukuthi kungani ama-bond bonders efisa i- Ikakhulu oshade naye.
Ngakho-ke, ingabe ukwehla kwe-oxytocin ne-dopamine ngemuva kokuvuthwa kungavimbela izibopho? Ukufunda umlobi-owazi uRene Hurlemann akucabangi. Wayecabangela ngasese ukuthi imiphumela yokubopha i-oxytocin ekhishwe ngesikhathi socansi ngesifo somvuthwandaba ingase ihlale isikhathi eside kunesikhathi esifushane lapho i-oxytocin egazini legazi ibonisa khona. Lokhu cishe kuyiqiniso; kungenzeka ngempela kwamanye amadoda.
Kodwa uthando kanye / noma ukuziphatha kobulili ngaphandle Umvuthwandaba unenzuzo esobala yokungabangeli ukwehla ngokushesha kwe-oxytocin ne-dopamine. Futhi kungenzeka ngokufanayo ukuthi uthando olunjalo lunomphumela omuhle oqhubekayo ekuziphatheni—nezibopho. Eqinisweni, sicabanga ukuthi umphumela we-oxytocin oqhubekayo ungase ubangele ukuzwana okumangalisayo izithandani ezibikayo ebudlelwaneni obugcizelela ubulili obuvamile, obumnene ngaphandle komgomo wokufinyelela kuvuthondaba.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungenzeka ukuthi ukuwa okuphindaphindiwe kwe-neurochemical ngemuva kuvuthondaba akubhalisi njengokududuzayo kubo bonke abathandi, noma kuvimbele namandla abo okubopha. Khumbula i-movie Lapho uHarry Met Sally? UBilly Crystal uthe imizuzwana engamashumi amathathu ngemuva kokwenza uthando wayelokhu efuna ukuphuma embhedeni ahambe. Lapho ebuzwa ngalokhu, omunye umuntu wathi, "Yebo, ngicabanga ukuthi yileyo ndlela amadoda amaningi azizwa ngayo. 'Buhlungu, sengiphelile! U-Elvis ushiye isakhiwo. Indoda enamafutha isihlabelele. Ngiyabonga-nokuhle. "" Akukhona ubufakazi obuqinile besifiso sokubopha.
Lesi sigaba sokubambisana singase sishiye amanye amadoda angathandeki kumlingani wabo okwamanje ulambile ezinye izikhuthazo. A umjikelezo wegazi wemvelo kungenzeka ukuthi usebenze, mhlawumbe uguquguquke izinsuku ezithile kwabanye amadoda (futhi abesifazane), nokubona okuguquguqukayo kokushintsha ngaphambi kokubuyela ekhaya. Ngamafuphi, i-orgasm ingaphezu kokuphakama okuqinisekisayo kwe-oxytocin.
Ukuvama komvuthwandaba kungase kube ukuhluka okubalulekile lapha. I-Mexican Abacwaningi basanda kubonisa ukuthi uma izilwane zesilisa zihluma ngaphambi kokuba zithole imiphumela ye-neurochemical ye-satiety (okungukuthi, uma i-ejaculate njalo kaningi), umphumela ungaphinda uvelise izimpawu zokusebenzisa izidakamizwa futhi uphakamise ukukhathazeka. Abesilisa ngokuyinhloko bahlengwa ngosuku lwesine ngemuva kokufinyelela ekuziphatheni ngokocansi, kodwa hhayi emuva kwe-libido egcwele kabili amasonto.
Ihlanganisa i-201
Ubulili obuthandanayo buhlala buletha izinzuzo kodwa ngeke njalo kuholele othandweni olukhulu nasekubophaneni. Ukube uvuthondaba beluyisihluthulelo sezibopho eziqinile kubantu bekungafanele ngabe siyakubona Okuningi imibono ehlala njalo kunanoma yikuphi manje ukuthi ukugubha isisindo senkambiso kanye nezimpikiswano ezihlangene ezifinyelelekayo kalula ngezindlela zemvelo nezakhi?
Isimo sinzima. Ukuziphatha ngokobulili ngokuvamile kuhlanganisa imisebenzi eyenzeka ngokuziphendulela ekuziphatheni okuzibophezelayo: ukuxhumana kwesikhumba kuya kwesikhumba, ukuthinta, ukuxhumana namabele, ukumanga, njalonjalo. Bonke bangakwazi ukukhulula i-oxytocin ngaphambi kokuba kufike umvuthwandaba (futhi noma ngabe wenza njalo noma cha).
Kodwa-ke, i-orgasm ephakeme uqobo ingaphatha umyalezo oxubile we-neurochemical. Ithumela abanye abafana ekuqhumeni okwenziwe ngamakhemikhali. Amadoda amaningi futhi alangazelela “isikhathi somhume” isikhashana ngemuva kwalokho. Abanye abesifazane bayathinteka kakhulu.
Kungenzeka yini ukuthi izibopho eziqinisanayo zixhomeke ekuvuthweni kokuqala kokukhwelana (kusekelwa ngamakhemikhali ezinyosi wesikhashana, athokozisayo ngokwengeziwe) alandelwa ukuxhumana okuhlala kududuza, ukuthintana okungaphezu kovuthondaba oluvamile? Izazi zezinto eziphilayo zezilwane zikhomba ukuthi kwizibopho ezihlala njalo eziningi kokuxhumana okushintshanisiwe kuyinto enhle kakhulu: ukuhlangana ndawonye, ukuzilungisa, ukugoba umsila, njalonjalo. Njengokuziphatha komuntu okuvusa inkanuko, ukukhweza nakho kuyindlela evamile yokubopha ezilwaneni ezibhanqiwe. Kodwa-ke, ama-primates ahlukahlukene ahlanganyela kaningi ekukhuphukeni, ekuhlikihlweni kwezitho zobulili ngisho nasekuhlanganiseni ngaphandle kwe-ejaculation.
Isiphetho sendaba: Uma ama-orgasms amaningi nowakwakho engayidambisi i-amygdala yakho, aqinise isibopho sakho, noma akusize uhlale kude nabesifazane abangaziwa, ungafisa ukukhulisa imvamisa yezindlela zokuziphatha zakudala zokubopha (ukuqabulana, ukuganga, isikhumba- ukuxhumana kwesikhumba) kanye nokuziphatha kwe-flirty esikhundleni salokho.
Uma uzizwa unesibindi ikakhulukazi, cabanga ukuhlanganisa la maqhinga kaningi, nothando ubulili ngaphandle komgomo wokuphefumula. Udinga ugqozi lokuzama into engajwayelekile kangaka? Nakhu ukuhlolwa komuntu oyedwa:
Umgomo wami ekugcineni ukunikeza Karezza ukudutshulwa nentombi yami kwakungomunye waba “benders” bami be-orgasm. Nganginama-orgasms e-11 ezinsukwini ze-6, futhi ngangizizwa nginjenge-crap. Bengingalali. Ngibe nalolo hlobo olukhathele, olungakhuthazwa, umuzwa we-blah. Isimo sami sengqondo ngentombi yami sasingenandaba nhlobo. Ngakho-ke kulobubusuku siwudubule. Kwakumnandi, futhi wayekuthanda, okuyinto engikhulula ngayo. Sahamba kancane, sazama izikhundla ezahlukahlukene, futhi sazijabulisa nje ngokukhululeka nangendlela evusa inkanuko. Ngangimangele kancane ukuthi ngikwazile kanjani ukuzigcina ngingaqhamuki futhi ngathola nje "indawo" lapho ngangizwa kahle futhi angithandi ukuthi ngangikhuphuka. Ngihlehla ngibuye ngibuye ngibuyele kulesi SIDINGO esijulile kuye, bese ngibuyele emuva ngijabulele imizwa nje. Ngimangele impela ukubuka iwashi futhi ngathola ukuthi besikwenza cishe ihora lonke.
Ngemuva kwaloko siye esidlweni sakusihlwa nabangane bethu abambalwa. Emotweni esasisendleleni, sasithinta kakhulu futhi sithanda abantu. Sobabili besizizwa nje "WOW" mayelana nakho konke. Esidlweni sakusihlwa, ngangikumdlalo wami: nginobuhlakani obusheshayo, ngiyathandeka, ngigxile. Ukukhathazeka kwami kwezenhlalo nomuzwa wokungakhululeki emphakathini kwakuphansi kakhulu. Ngazizwa nginesibindi. Sifike ekhaya sangatha eminye imizuzu engama-30 ngaphambi kokuthi abuyele ekhaya. Ngimkhombisilei-orgasm v. ukusebenza”Video futhi wayithanda kakhulu.
Le recipe yokubambisana nokuphila okuhle kuye kwaba khona izinkulungwane zeminyaka. Ucwaningo lwakamuva mayelana nokuthi izibopho eziqhamuka ngempela zinikeza usizo ekuchazeni ukuthi kungani indlela yasendulo yokuya ocansini ingenza amadoda ajabule futhi anelisekile ngokobulili ekuhlotsheni okuhlala njalo.
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