Zvinonyadzisira, Ruzivo uye Kusagutsikana (2011)

Unogona Kuita Kuti Wawakaroorana Naye Asanyanya Kufarira Here?

Kana iwe wakaroorwa uye uchishandisa zvinonyadzisira, "Iwe da man!" Zvishoma mumagenjini ako 'kuenzana. Chokutanga, mhiko dzako dzemuchato dzinowedzera mikana yokuti vana vako vanobatana vachava nevanotarisira vaviri, nokudaro nekuvandudza mararamiro ehupenyu hwevana mapepa (vana) iwe unofunga kuti ndewe wako.

Chechipiri, uri kushandira chero munhu ari pakombiyuta yako zvakanyanyisa kuti murume wako mbeu, nokudaro achiedza kuparadzira mazamu ako kunyanya. Zvimwe ndizvo izvo chikamu chepfungwa chepfungwa dzako chinonyatsotenda. Iwe unoona, yakashanduka apo "kupisa" kwakaratidza "mukana chaiwo wekudyara."

Kuva "da man" kwakanaka, kunze kwekuti nhasi 24 / 7 zvinonyadzisira zveInternet zvinogona kuita kuti uropi husati hwakasiyana nezvose zvakaitwa nemadzitateguru ako panguva yekushanduka-shanduka. Kufanana naMaWest West, vazhinji vedu tinofungidzira kuti zvimwe zvechinhu chakanaka chiri ... kunyange zviri nani. Zvichida kwete. Apo kusununguka, kushanyira zvinonyadzisira kwakasvika pakuonekwa kwepfungwa dzepfungwa Norman Doidge akacherechedza chimwe chinhu chinotambudza pakati pezvinonyadzisira-achishandisa varwere:

Vakashuma kuwedzera kuoma mukushandurwa nevakaroorana navo zvepabonde, vakaroorana kana vasikana, kunyange zvazvo vachiri kufunga kuti vakanyatsonaka. Pandakabvunza kana chiitiko ichi chaiva nehukama hwekuona zvinonyadzisira, vakapindura kuti pakutanga zvakabatsira kuti vawedzere kufara munguva dzepabonde asi nekufamba kwenguva zvakange zvakashata. Iye zvino, panzvimbo yekushandisa pfungwa dzavo kuti vafarire kuva pamubhedha, munguva ino, pamwe chete neshamwari dzavo, rudo ruchiwedzera rwavaida kuti vafungidzire kuti ivo vaiva chikamu chenyori yepabonde. Ubongo Hunochinja Kwahwo, p. 104

Akati anonzwisisa zvinonyadzisa user:

Ndakaona chirongwa nezve porn nyeredzi nyeredzi. Ivo vakati vanogona kutaurira vasingagumi porn vanoshandisa nekuti hapana chavakaita chaigona "kukurudzira" murume kuti asimudze. Funga nezvazvo, kunyangwe vasikana vane hunyanzvi vakadzidziswa kuzadzisa kufungidzira kwevanhurume pabonde havagone kuenzanisa kukurudzira kwekuona zvinonyadzisira, kusanganisira vamwe vasikana vari chaizvo in zvinonyadzisira. Nguva dzose vakadzi vanongoda zvido zvedu havamiriri mukana.

Zvinonyadzisa sei nhasi zvekuita zvepabonde zvido zvako zvepabonde kune mumwe wako? Nokugadzirisa zvinhu zvitatu zvepfungwa:

  1. Chirongwa chekare chezvinyorwa chinotanga muhuponi hwemhuka dzose dzesimba. Iyo inokunda satiety yemasikati apo pane vazhinji vakaroorana vachikumbira kuti vaite zvepabonde. Funga kufanana nemwaka. Uye inonzwisisa mumwe nomumwe mutsva (kana kupisa chero chipi zvacho) pachikwangwani chako semukana unokosha wemarita.
  2. Kukurudzira zvikuru kunogona kukanganisa kufadza kwehuropi kwechinguva-kukwezva kuda kune mamwe mabhuku. Mumwe murume waanoziva anooneka zvishoma nezvishoma achikunyengera.
  3. Kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti kukurudzira kwakanyanya kwepfungwa dzepabonde / kukwidza kunokanganisa maramamiro maviri-kusungirirana maitiro.

Mugumisiro? Kusava nehanya.

Meet the Coolidge Effect

Chimbofunga zvinoitika kana iwe ukadonhedza gonzo rechirume muchizarira rine rinogamuchira gonzo rechikadzi. Kutanga, pane kuita bonde. Hafu yegumi nemaviri emakomputa gare gare iwo fireworks fizzle. Kunyangwe kana achida zvimwe, haafarire. Uropi hwemakemikari anozevezerana achiti, “Tumburuka uye uridze ngonono.” Nekudaro, kana mukadzi mutsva akazviratidza, kuneta kwake kuchapera nenzira inoshamisa kwenguva yakareba kuti akwanise kuyedza nesimba rake basa rekusangana. Unogona kudzokorora maitiro aya nevakadzi vatsva kusvikira murume oda kufa nekuneta.

Kubwinya kwake kunogona kushandiswa hakusi kuratidza kwekusagadzikana libido. Uyewo hazviwedzere kubudirira kwake-kunyange zvingaita (uye kunzwa kwenguva pfupi naye) nenzira iyo. Anotevera musikana mumwe nomumwe mutsva nekuda kwekubuda kwe dopamine muuropi hwake. Vanomurayira kwaari regai kusiya mukadzi asingadi kushandiswa.

Masayendisiti anoziva chirongwa ichi chehupenyu se "Coolidge Mhedzisiro." Iyo inoratidzika kumusoro kune mhuka dzevakadzi, futi, idzo dzakaonekwa dzichitamba nerudo zvakanyanya nevakomana vatsva. Kwete magene edu chete anoda kukwira mungarava seakawanda sezvinobvira kuenda nechamangwana, ivo vanodawo kusiyana kwemajini pakati pevana vedu.

Genesisi haamboregi. Panzvimbo pekufara "vakaroorana uye vakararama vachifara nguva dzose," nhoroondo dzemafi dzinoguma nevana uye vamwe vana-chero nzira iyo magene angavatora-Burnham naPhelan, vanyori ve Zvinoreva Genesisi

Dopamine ndiyo "Wakawana!" neurochemical kumashure kwezvose zvinokurudzira. Pasina iyo isu mhuka dzinoyamwisa taisazonetseka kuenda kudare, kutevera mugumo, kana kutodya. Kana dopamine ichidonha ndizvo zvinokurudzira. Yawn.

Ndichowo chinhu chinokosha kuColidlid Effect. Kana iyo yakanyanya kukonzerwa nemadzimai mamwechete, dopamini shoma inowanikwa nokuda kwekuedza kwake-kusvikira iye achienda kunotamira, achidzinga kure. Zvisina kupa musikana mutsva anoratidza.

Chimbofunga girafu iyi. Nenguva yechishanu gondohwe inosangana nemukadzi mumwechete, zvinomutora maminitsi 17 kuti aende. Asi kana akaramba achishandura nhaurwa dzevakadzi ... anogona kuita basa rake mumaminitsi mashoma maviri, katanhatu mumutsara.

Ramu bhuni dzinovhenekera kuitira ruzha kuitira kuti varege kusiya vakadzi vasina kufanana

Kusiyana nemakondohwe, vanhu vari vaviri vasungwa. Tine wired, paavhareji, kurera vana pamwechete. Saka, izvi zvinoreva here kuti hatina kukanganisa kuColidlid Effect? Kwete. Iyi purogiramu yekare inotenderera matiri, zvakare. Mumwe murume akati,

Ndakaona zvinyorwa pavakomana vane zvinodhura zvakanyanya "zvidhori zverudo." Mumwe mukomana aive nezvakawanda zvekuti anga achipererwa nemba mumba make. Kunyangwe idzi dzaiva mapurisa, anga atotanga kuvaona sevasikana vaakange awana nguva navo. Zvichida nei varume vachiunganidza zvinonyadzisira zvakawanda. Ini ndaifunga kuti ndiri kuunganidza rakanakisa dhatabhesi remufaro. Asi ini handikwanise kuyeuka ndichimbodzokera kumashure. Chikamu chinogombedzera ndicho CHITSVA chifananidzo, iyo inoverengeka mufananidzo ... iyo yerudo rudo chidhori.

Iyo yakasiyana-siyana yeIndaneti inogona kukanganisa mushandisi nguva dzose, sezvo ine zvinhu zvose zvinoramba zvichirwisa dopamine. Mufaro wekuvhima mufananidzo wakakwana unosunungura dopamine. Uyezve, pane nguva dzose chimwe chinhu chitsva, nguva dzose chimwe chinhu kinkier. Dopamine inosunungurwa apo pane chimwe chinhu chinomutsa kupfuura chinotarisirwa, zvichiita kuti masero emagetsi ave moto semapenzi.

Mukusiyana, zvepabonde nemumwe wako kwete nguva dzose zviri nani kudarika zvinotarisirwa. Kana kuti hazvipi zvisikwa zvisingaperi. Izvi zvinogona kukonzera matambudziko nokuti chikamu chepfungwa chepfungwa dzako chinotora huwandu hwe dopamine hwakaenzana nekukosha kwebasa-kunyange kana risingaiti.

Zvechokwadi, dopamine yehupenzi inoshandiswa pamoto inogona kukonzera mishonga-yakafanana yakanyanya kukumanikidza kudarika zvepabonde nemurume waunoziva. Mune Playboy kubvunzurudza gore rakapera, mutambi John Mayer akabvuma kuti angangoenda kune zvifananidzo pane zvepabonde. Akatsanangura,

Kuona zvinonyadzisira paInternet kwakachinja zvachose tarisiro yechizvarwa changu. Ungave sei uchigara uchigadzira iyo orgasm [ine munhu] zvichibva pane dzakawanda mapfuti? Uri kutsvaga iyo… pa100 yaunopika kuti ndiyo yaunopedzisa, uye hausati wapedza. Masekondi makumi maviri apfuura iwe waifunga kuti pikicha ndicho chakanyanya kupisa chinhu chawati wamboona, asi iwe unochikanda kumashure woenderera nekupfura kwako uye kuramba uchizviita wakanonoka kubasa. Izvo hazvinei nezve psychology yekuve nehukama nemumwe munhu? Inofanira.

Mayer muranda kuneColidlid Effect. Uropi hwake hunomusveta ne dopamine nguva imwe neimwe paanenge achitsvaga ku "ino." Ramba uchiyeuka kuti dopamine ndiyo chibatanidzo mune zvidhakwa zvose. Kogaine, somuenzaniso, uyewo mafashamo europi ane dopamine yakawandisa (nokudzivisa kubvazve kwayo).

"Sei mudzimai wangu asina kundiitira ini?"

Kushaikwa kwechido ndiko kwakakonzera kutadza kwemuchato wangu, uye kutadza kwehukama hwakatevera kune izvo. Ndiri mumakore angu makumi matatu, ndashandisa zvinonyadzisira zvakanyanya kubvira ndichiri kuyaruka, uye ndakapomera matambudziko angu kune vamwe vangu ("Ini handisi kukwezvwa newe" / "Ndinoshuva dai wanga uchiteerera zvakanyanya"), hutsva hwevamwe (" Ini ndoda kupa muviri wangu nguva yekubata kusvika kuhuropi hwangu ”/“ Ini ndoda kudarika wangu wekare ”), mafitness level, kudya, zera, kushushikana, kuita kunetsekana…

Kufanana nevanhu vakawanda, ndakaenda kuna chiremba, ndine muviri wakanga uchitonga chero hupi hwehutano husina kunaka, uye wakawana Viagra. Pane imwe nguva imba yangu yakakundikana, uye ini ndakanga ndisina kuroorwa zvakare, kushandiswa kwepabonde kwakapinda mukunonoka-kamwe kamwe pazuva uye kazhinji kaviri kana katatu nguva. Asi pandakaona kuti ndakanga ndisingachagoni kunyange kunyadzisira kunonoka pasina bvisa zvinonyadzisira, chimwe chinhu chakanga chakatsvaga. Chikonzero uye zvinoita sezviri pachena zvisinganzwisisiki ikozvino, hongu.

Ndine mumwe wangu mutsva wandinokwezva kwaari uye wandinogadzikana naye pabonde — asi handisati ndichigona kuita. Nekutenda iye akavhurika kuti ataure zvakajeka pamusoro pezvinhu izvi.

Chii chinoita kuti mudiwa wako atange kutarisa kwauri semafuta anotonhorera, kunyange kana vamwe vachimuona seanozvigadzira mapepa? Chimwe chikonzero chingava chiyero chekusimudzira kusinganzwisisiki kwezvinonyadzisira zveIndaneti. Kukurudzira zvikuru kunogona kukanganisa kufara kwehuropi hwako, kubudisa zviratidzo zvakasiyana-siyana. Tinozviziva izvi kubva kutsvakurudzo ichangobva kuitwa pamusoro vanobhejera, kudya, uye, zvechokwadi, vanoshandisa zvinodhaka. Uropi hunotanga kupindura zvakawanda kushaya simba kune chero dopamine is zvakapoteredza-zvakadai sezvakabudiswa newawakaroorana naye, "Honey, ndiChishanu Usiku."

Dopamine ndiyo gasi yeunoda injini yako. Kusanzwisisa kunoreva kuti kunyange kana iwe uine gasi yakawanda, yako V-8 inongomhanya pamakona mana. Uropi hwako hunongoberekwa hahupinduri kwaari sezvazvakaita kare.

Zvinoshamisira, kunyangwe kana bonde newawakaroorana naye asiri kukushevedza, unogona kunzwa kushuvira kwakanyanya kwechimwe chinhu chinowedzera (chinyorwa, chine njodzi). Iwe unoramba uchirovera pasi iyo dopamine accelerator nekuti uropi hwako hunoshuvira kunzwa zvakare kunaka. Sekuseka komutambi Bill Maher, "Hugh Grant aive naElizabeth Hurley kumba, uye aida Marvin Hagler muwigi."

Saka, sei taizove takachinja kuti tive vasina kunyanya kugutsikana mushure mekunyanya kukurudzira zvakanyanya? Zvichida kuti izvi zvinomhanyisa madzitateguru edu kuti awedzere satiety yavo chaiyo munguva yekubata nguva, kana apo pakakodzwa zvokudya zvepamusoro. Funga Kubudirira kweCoolidge pamapatya ane turbos.

Somuenzaniso, apo a Guinea pig akaputsika muchengeti yevakadzi, akakwanisa kubereka vana makumi mana nemaviri. (Apo akabatwa, akarara kwemazuva maviri akatarisa. Ubongo hunoda nguva yekudzoka kubva pakukurudzira kwakanyanya.) Patinowedzera huropi hwedu nezviratidzo zvakawanda zvevakaroorana vachikumbira zvido zvedu zvepabonde, uropi hwedu hunoona zvakafanana mazamu bonanza uye inotitungamirira kuti tinyengedze nekutora numbing mhinduro yedu yekufarira.

Kunze kwekunge iwe uchinzwisisa ichi chakavanzika chehuropi, icho chinokukurudzira kuti utsike gasi kunyangwe paunenge uine zvakawandisa, zvakaoma kuti ubatanidze isingagutsike libido nehuremu husingateereri. Mushure mezvose, zvinoita sekunge libido yako iri kusimba. Ichokwadi ndechekuti neurochemically inokonzera kusagutsikana kwakadzika muuropi kuri kukukurudzira kuti utsvage zvimwe kukurudzira.

Nzira dzekuti libido yako thermostat yakagadziriswa ingave: iwe unonzwa uchinetseka uye usingagutsikani kwenguva yenguva; unoda kinkier zvepabonde nemumwe wako; tsvaka wawakaroorana naye zvishoma kudarika / kuomesa kupfuura Internet; vanoda zvimwe zvinhu zvakanyanyisa, nezvimwe zvakadaro. Nyanzvi dzinotaura izvi "kubvumidza. "Rinogona kuratidza a kunyoresa kushanda kubasa muuropi.

Ndakatanga kutaura kune wangu zvakare zvakare. Ndakatsanangura kuti ndakanga ndisiri kure nokuti ndakamuwana achiita zvepabonde asingafariri, asi nokuti ndakanga ndakatarisa zvinonyadzisira zveIndaneti zvokuti aifanira kunge achizununguka nemakumbo ake, achiyamwisa bhiza, uye achiita bonde [transsexual] ini kuti ndibatanidzwe zvizere munguva yekuda rudo.

Zvinonyadzisira Zvinopesana Sei Nekubatana Kwepakati?

Kana kushamwaridzana kwepakati kunobatsira isu nevana vedu, saka sei isu tisingakwanisi kubatwa nekodzero yekutsvaga dopamine yenhoroondo ye "cyber"? "Zvinotyisa ndezvokuti, zvimwe chikamu nokuti tine utano hwehuropi hwunowira murudo. Iko kukwanisa kubatana kushamwaridzana kwakazara zvakakwana kuputika kwe dopamine kusarudza rudo rwedu. Mune 97% yezvipfuwo zvisingabatsiri, maitiro ehuropi aya ezvisungo zvisingaperi hazvipo.

Apo masayendisiti akafananidza nharaunda yevanhu vanogara pamwe chete nevanamwari varo vane hupombwe, iyo montane vole, vakawana zvinhu zviviri zvinokosha.

  1. Mhuka dzinoumba zvibvumirano zviviri, kana kuwira "rudo," ndizvo zvinowanzokonzerwa nekudhakwa. Vanowana dopamine yakakura kuputika kubva kune zvinodhaka. Ndicho chikonzero nei vazhinji vedu takanyengerwa nyore nyore nedopamine-inobudisa zvinhu nezvimwe zvinhu zvakadai seIndaneti nekubhejera?
  2. Kunyanya kuudza ndezvipi haana zvinoitika apo masayendisiti akafuridza mafungiro evasungwa vaviri nemakemikari anokurudzira. Izvi zvisikwa zvipenyu zvemhuka haisati yaumba zvakasarudzwa kune mumwe mushamwari. Iko kukurudzira kwekugadzira kwaive kwakavhara dopamine yavo-yakavimbiswa kusungirirana mishonga, ichivasiya sezvisizvo zvekare (zvinonyadzisa) zvipfuwo.

Kuva nehuropi hunotarisisa kune yakakwira yekuwira murudo inotsigira yako vaviri zvisungo. Unowana "kusungirirwa" pane mumwe wako, chero pasina musayendisiti anokushandisa zvinodhaka. Sezvineiwo, iwe unonamira pakumbundira sekushanduka kwawakaita-nekuti hapana mimwe miedzo yakawanda. (Ehe, kana muyedzo ukawira mumakumbo ako, magene ako anogona kutyora yavo dopamine chikwapuro.)

Zviripachena, zvisinei, kuti iko kushushikana uko kunokukurudzira kuti ude murudo kunova kusagadzikana kana iwe uchizadzwa nekuwedzeredza mafaro ezvepabonde. Pakarepo, iwo maseketi pane ako maviri bhendi zvinoenderana anozadzwa ne dopamine inosangana neyakagumbura mwe kupfuura mumwe wako. Inogona kuita kuti wawakaroorana naye asafadze, uye kuwedzeredza nzira yako yakakwana yekuita satiation.

Pane kurega "kubvisa," isu tinorwara masturbator kazhinji tinoita mutsika inonzi "edging": Tichizviisa kumucheto weguruva kakawanda, pasina ejaculation. [Kubvuma ruzivo rusingaperi rweInternet porn,] tinogona kusimbisa zvakanyanya zvepamusoro zvekuita zvepabonde kwemaawa akawanda. Ini ndiri mushandi anobatanidzwa mune dzimwe nhengo dzeInternet dzinotarisa, uye muongorori weimwe.

Vakawanda vedu tinoenda kure nekusiya mumwe munhu-zvepabonde, kunyange apo mumwe wake anoramba aripo uye achida. Isu tave tichigadzira izwi rokuti "kunyanya kusava nesimba" nekuda kwechiitiko chinowanzokwanisika chekukwanisa kuitora kuIndaneti, asi kwete kune mumwe wako.

Izvi zvinoreva here kuti munhu wese anoona zvinonyadzisira achasiya mararamiro ake? Kwete kwete. Zvisinei, kutsigirwa kwehutano hwekuti zvinoshamisa zvinokurudzira-kunyangwe mune zvinyorwa zvishoma zvinokurudzira kupfuura zvinonyadzisira zvepaIndaneti-zvinopindirana nezvisungo zvevanhu vaviri zvakatozviratidza mukutsvakurudza.

Maererano 2007 kudzidza, kungofanana nezvakawanda zvezvifananidzo zvevakadzi vanoita sevasikana zvinokonzera munhu kuti aparadze shamwari yake chaiye. Anotengesa pasi pake kwete pakukwezva, asiwo kune ushamwari uye huchenjeri. Uyewo, mushure mekuona zvinonyadzisira kushandiswa, zvidzidzo zvevarume nevakadzi pane a 2006 kudzidza vakataura kusagutsikana zvishoma neavo vaifambidzana navo-kusanganisira rudo rwemumwe wavo, kuoneka, chido chepabonde nekushanda. Uyezve, vakapa kukoshesa kwepabonde pasina kubatanidzwa mupfungwa.

Zviri pachena, kana iwe uchida kugara wakaroorana mune kugutsikana kwakakwana, unoita kuti basa rako rive nyore nekusarudza kwete kuti utange kuona mafungiro anoita kuti mumwe wako aone seHander Helper.

Saka, chii chiri mukati maro kune zvakagadzikana pair bonder? Kunze kwokuva nemari yekuchengetedza imba imwe chete, anowana hutano hwehutano. Somuenzaniso, kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti kuita zvepabonde kune zvimwe zvinobatsira pamuviri kupfuura bonyora. Inoburitsa neurochememikisi iyo kuderedza kushungurudzika zviri nani, uye zvigaro zvinowedzera kwemazuva. Uyewo, kushanda kwezuva nezuva kwehukama kunobatsira varume ne kuderedza ropa.

Indaneti haigone kuita izvozvo. Sezvakaita murume mumwe,

Mukufamba kwenguva, kufungidzira kunobva pakuona zvinonyadzisira kunoita kuti uzvidye mwoyo. Kuda zvinhu zvisingawanikwi ndezvisina kuchena uye zvisingagutsi.

Kusiyana, kusununguka kushamwaridzana ne kusimbiswa kune rudo kwete kungovhiringidza chete, asiwo zvinowedzera kusimbisa zvisungo.

Pakati pemakore apakati emhuri yedu, ndakarega kunamata mudzimai wangu. Panzvimbo pacho pane zvakawanda zveyoni kunamata kurumbidzwa kwekambani inoona zvinonyadzisira. Nguva dzose achiri muduku. Nguva dzose yakanaka. Always horny. Nguva dzose itsva. Nguva dzose anokwanisa kuwana mutezo. Uye kusambozadzika. Ini ichangobva kubudiswa zvachose kubva kune zvinonyadzisira, uye ndakadzorera mudzimai wangu kumeso ake. Imba yedu yakabuda munguva refu yakareba uye inovandudzwa. Isu tiri pedo kupfuura zvatave takaita kwemakore, mubhedha uye zuva rose. Ndiri kunakidzwa chaizvo nekureba kwenguva refu, kunonoka kusina vavariro-kunotarisira rudo kusingaiti zvachose-tinongotora pfupa uye tatanga zvakare zuva rinotevera. Ndinonzwa zviri nani, uye libido yangu inoita seyipo inoramba iripo.

Unoda Kuti Magetsi Adzoke Here?

Iwe unogona zvakare kugadzirisa unhu hwako hwepabonde kune wawakaroorana naye. Rega kuomesa kune zvinokonzera izvo zvinowedzera dopamine kupfuura zvaanoita. Yeuka, nzira yepakutanga muuropi yako nguva dzose inokukurudzira kuti uise pfungwa pane izvo zvinosunungura dopamine. Hazvina hanya izvo zvinonyanya kuderedza kushushikana kwako, zvinodzivirira hutano hwako, kana kusimbisa ukama hwako. Apo e-bhabhi inonyangadza, uropi hwako hunofunga kuti uri mubhizinesi-kupararira-chinhu chinonyanya kukosha.

Iye zvino zvaunonzwisisa kuti kukurudzira kwakanyanya sei nhasi kunogona kukanganisa kuonga kwako kwewakaroorana naye nekushambadzira nemamwe mapurogiramu atavistic muuropi yako, zviri kwauri.

Sezvo ndakarega kuita bonhora kune zvinonyangadza masvondo mashoma akapfuura zvinhu zviri kuchinja. Apo pandinoona mukadzi ane vhudzi refu achifamba nejasi rakanaka kana jasi, ndinowana kukurumidza kwenyama. Yakashandiswa kuva ini ndinoda kuve nekunyanyisa kunakidza zvinyadzisira kubva paInternet kuti uwane chero rudzi rwekusimudzira.

Mune mamwe mavhiki mashomanana kunyange mudzimai wake achamubatsira.

Kuti uwane zvimwe pakunzwisisa hutano hwee erectile, ona Gary's Erectile Dysfunction uye Porn slide show.

Pfungwa dzemurume ngochani pane ino nyaya (yakatumirwa pa "Vakanaka Varume Project"):

Ichi chinyorwa chaive chinhu chekuzarurirwa. Ndakafunga kuti ndakagumburwa pane yakatwasuka saiti yevanhurume iyi AM kuburikidza naThomas Matlock's NYT chinyorwa, "Munhu Ini Ndinoda Yakanaka Cuddle" uye nekudaro ichi chinyorwa. Ini handikwanise kutaura kune vese ngochani varume… ndega ndega, asi ini ndinotarisa ngochani macompadres seNzira PASI peiyo curve mukunzwisisa uye kupindura internet internet. Icho CHITSAUKO chevazhinji varume vanoita zvepabonde vanorarama vasina chavanonzwisisa nezvekuti izvi zvingakanganisa sei kugona kubatana nevamwe varume kune hukama hwepedyo. Ini handina basa nekuchema ndakabatwa, asi nediki (kunyangwe, ichikura) rutsigiro rwemuchato wevanhurume, zvinokanganisa mhedzisiro ye porn inoenda isingazivikanwe. Pakarepo ndinoziva kuti isu varume ngochani, mune yedu inofarira kukumbundira yekuve "bonde yakanaka," inogona kunamirwa mune imwe yedopamine swirl kweakawanda ehupenyu hwedu. Kutenda nekuratidzwa uku kwechokwadi kune zvimwe chokwadi zvekuwedzera pane hurukuro!

Updates

  1. Chirwere chekuongorora chirwere? Nyika inonyanya kushandiswa kurapwa kwekurapa, The International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11), ine itsva yekuongorora akakodzera kunyadzisira kunetseka: "Kunyanya Kuita Zvepabonde Zvirwere. "(2018)
  2. Zvinonyadzisira / kurara pabonde? Peji ino inonyora 39 neuroscience-based studies (MRI, fMRI, EEG, neuropsychological, hormonal). Vanopa rubatsiro rwakasimba pamushambadziro wekutsvaga zvinodhaka sezvo zvavakawana zvinongoratidzira zvakawanikwa neurological inonzi muzvinhu zvinodhaka zvinodhaka.
  3. Ichokwadi nyanzvi 'maonero panyaya yekuona zvinonyadzisira / zvepabonde? Urongwa urwu hune 16 yazvino zvinyorwa zvekuongorora & zvinyorwa nedzimwe nyanzvi dzepamusoro dzenyika munyika. Zvose zvinotsigira mufananidzo wezvinodhaka.
  4. Zviratidzo zvekudhakwa uye kukura kune zvimwe zvinhu zvakanyanyisa? Pamusoro peongororo makumi matatu dzichitsvaga zvakawanikwa zvinowirirana nekuwedzera kwekushandisa kwepabonde (kushivirira), kugara kune zvinonyadzisira, uye kunyange kubvisa zviratidzo (zviratidzo zvose nezviratidzo zvinobatanidzwa nekudhakwa).
  5. Debunking nheyo yekutaura isingatsigiswi inoti "chido chepabonde chakakwirira" inotsanangurira kubvisa zvinonyadzisira kana kukanganisa zvepabonde: Angangoita 25 zvidzidzo zvinokanganisa kutaura kuti bonde & porn vanopindwa muropa "vanongova nehupombwe"
  6. Zvinonyadzisira nezvinetso zvepabonde? Iri runyora rine zvidzidzo zve 26 zvinosungiridza zvinonyadzisira zvinoshandiswa / zvinonyadzisira zvinodhaka kune zvinetso zvepabonde uye kuderedza kukwezva kune zvepabonde. The fzvisingaiti 5 zvidzidzo muurongwa zvinoratidza causation, sezvo vatori vechikamu vakabvisa kushandiswa kwepabonde uye vakaporesa zvirwere zvepabonde zvisingaperi.
  7. Zvinonyadzisira zvinokonzerwa nehukama? Zvinenge zvichitsvaga 60 zvidzidzo zvinobatanidza zvinonyadzisa zvinoshandisa kuderera kwepabonde uye kugutsikana kweukama. (Sezvatinoziva zvose zvidzidzo zvine chokuita nevanhurume zvakashuma zvekare kushandiswa kwepabonde kunosanganiswa murombo zvepabonde kana ukama kugutsikana.)
  8. Kushandisa zvinonyadzisira kunokanganisa utano hwepfungwa uye hwepfungwa here? Pamusoro peongororo makumi manomwe neshanu inoshandisa porn kushandisa kune varombo hwepfungwa-manzwiro hutano & hurombo hwekuziva zviitiko.
  9. Kushandisa zvinonyadzisira kunobata zvitendero, maitiro uye maitiro? Ongorora zvidzidzo zvega - kupfuura 25 zvidzidzo zvinoshandiswa zvinonyadzisira zvinoshandiswa ku "un-egalitarian attitude" pamusoro pevakadzi uye maonero evanhukadzi - kana chidimbu chinobva mune iyi 2016 meta-analysis: Mamiriyoni uye Zvepabonde: Hurongwa hweHupuriro Hwekutanga, 1995-2015.