Apo Indaneti Iri Nani Kupfuura Vanhu (2012)

Cyber ​​erotica: Ko mapikisi angaderedza kushuva kwekushanduka-shanduka here?

Scott Adams, shasha iri kumashure kwa "Dilbert," achangobva kunyora chidimbu chinonzi The Digital Crossover. Heino chidimbu,

Kungoti bonde nemuchato munyika yakafananidzwa… zvazova nani pane chaicho chinhu, hapana munhu anozonetseka nemari, kushushikana, uye kusagadzikana…. Vanhu havasi kuve vachiwedzera kunakidza nepo iyo Internet iri kuwedzera kupindwa muropa. Crossover yevamwe vanhu yakatosvika…. Sezvo iyo Internet painodzidza kutarisira uye kufudza zvishuwo zvako nekuwedzera kwakaringana, kupindwa muropa kwako kunowedzera.

Ari kutaura chokwadi kuti crossover iri kutoitika-kunyangwe kwete nesarudzo yekuziva. Nyaya yemurume uyu iri kuve yakajairika.

Ndiri pakati pemakumi maviri emakore uye munhu anotambura neichi chinoratidzika chitsva-chakapetwa 21st Century Broadband-inotyairwa ED kusagadzikana. Ndakave nemikana mitatu yekurasikirwa nehumhandara hwangu nemukadzi chaiye wenyama neropa uye ndakakundikana nguva dzese (sezvazviri, vakadzi ava vanga vari pamubhedha wangu uye vakagadzirira kuenda, kupfeka, asi handina kukwanisa kuzviita. Ndakave nemimwe mikana, uye kunyange vamwe vasikana vairara pamubhedha wangu, asi ini handina kufamba nekuti ndaiziva kuti handaizokwanisa kuzviita… kunyangwe pakati pemakore gumi nemasere kusvika makumi maviri nemaviri). Ini handiende mune zvakadzama asi nguva yega yega ndainzwa zvinonyadzisa zvisingaite, zvinoshungurudza uye zvinokuvadza. Ini handisi ngochani mune diki-diki (ini ndiri mukutsamwa kuita bonde,) asi ini ndaisakwanisa kurara nevakadzi ava.

Dai ndaigona kusarudza izwi rimwe chete kutsanangura zvarakanzwa pandakayedza kurara navo, ndaishandisa izwi rekuti 'mutorwa.' Zvainzwa zvisiri zvekuita uye zvekunze kwandiri. Zvakaita senge ndakave nemamiriro ezvinhu ekugara pamberi pechidzitiro uye ndichichinjisa nerufu-kubata makore ese aya zvekuti pfungwa dzangu dzinozviona kuti kuita bonde zvakajairwa pane kuita chaiko bonde. Ndinogona kuomesa zvinonyadzisira, hapana dambudziko, asi kwete kune hupenyu hwangu ndinogona kuomera mukadzi chaiye.

Kune vazhinji vashandisi, yanhasi cyber erotica inoratidza zvakanyanya kukurudzira pane kungofungidzira pamusoro pevasikana vari mu sweaters rakasimba vanogara pedyo navo muAlgebra. Asi, yakarongedzwa uye zvepabonde chaiyo sechishandurwe se, inoti, chokoti uye sitirobheri? Zvichida kwete-kunyanya kana munhu achisarudza kugadzirisa zvepabonde kubva pakuyaruka mberi. Kupararira / hupfungwa huri kuyaruka huchashandurwa kune tambo zvakasimba kune chero chinokonzera zvepabonde. Pakazosvika makore makumi maviri uropi hwave yakagadzirirwa kumashure isina kushandiswa.

Zvechokwadi, wechiduku anoshungurudzika wepabonde anonyadzisira uyo anoda kuva nehutano hwezuva nezuva rimwe zuva arikudzidzisa mutambo wakaipa. Anogona kugumisa pasina chaipo nekusawirirana pakati pezvinofungwa neuropi uye izvo mudzimai chaiye anopa. Pashure pemakore achishandiswa vachishandisa zvinonyadzisira seIndaneti sechinhu chinokosha chekuita zvepabonde, vamwe vashandisi vanoda basa guru, uye mwedzi, kuita shanduko kune vakaroorana chaiwo. Izvi zvinowedzera zvipingamupinyi izvo vamwe vanozogadzirisa paIndaneti.

"Shift inoitika"

Tsanangudzo yaAdams inoratidzawo kuti kukwezva kwemuviri kwakanyatsobatanidzwa nekugutsikana pabonde zvekuti 2-D hotties iri nani pane 3-D isiri-so-hotties. Kutsvaga pfungwa iyi, anopedzisa kuti kana usiri mukomana anokwezva, 2-D hotties sarudzo dziri nani pane chero vakadzi chaivo vaungangorara navo. Zvakare, anofungidzira kuti, nekufamba kwenguva, kunyangwe vanhu vane sarudzo dzakanakisa dzemagariro uye dzepabonde vachasiya kusangana nevanhu vachida mafaro eInternet akafuridzirwa.

Chinyanyisa, kana kuti chakanyanya kuoma, kushandiswa kweIndaneti kunogona kutungamirira vashandi kusvika pakuguma kuti kupisa kuri nani. Chokutanga, uyo anoshandisa zvinonyadzisira anoshandisa kuwedzera kugutsikana chete maererano nehuwandu uye huwandu-kwete kukwana kugutsikana. Asi vamwe vashanduri vanocherechedza zvakasiyana-siyana mushure mekushandisa zvinonyadzisira sekuenzaniswa nehutano chaihwo:

Ini ndiri murume akatwasuka uyo anofarira kuona asina kupfeka uye zvinonyadzisira mifananidzo uye mavhidhiyo evakadzi vachimira uye vachiita bonde, sezvinoita shamwari dzangu dzechirume. Nekudaro, ini handina chokwadi chekuti vanozviita kweanosvika maawa matatu panguva. Kunyange zvakadaro, mupfungwa uye mumuviri ndinonzwa zvakanaka kwemaawa mashoma. Asi zvino ndinonzwa ndakaneta zvakanyanya mupfungwa, dzimwe nguva senge IQ yangu yakatemwa nepakati uye handigone kufunga zvakanaka. Kana ndikaita izvi pakati pehusiku, mhedzisiro zuva rinotevera rakaipisisa. Izvi hazviitike kana ndikangoita bonhora ndisina kutarisa zvinonyadzisira panguva imwe chete, kana mushure mekunge ndarara nemusikana wangu. Izvo hazviitike kunyangwe ndikaita bonde remukanwa pane wangu musikana uye ndoshandisa yakawanda nguva ndichitarisa kune ake akavanzika nhengo kana. (Izvo zvinoitikawo kune imwe nhanho kana ini ndikatarisa pazvinonyadzisira uye ndisingaite bonyora musi iwoyo).

Kuenzanisa kupisa hakusi iko chete chikonzero 2-D hotties inopfuura chaivo vadyidzani. Pane chimwe chikonzero chinonyengera. Ubongo hwakashanduka kuenda ku (re) waya panzvimbo yakasimba kune chero chavanosangana nezviitiko zvepamusoro. Maitiro echisikigo aya anodzora tarisiro yenguva yemberi nekuteerera, zvichibatsira vanhu kujairana nenzvimbo dzavanogara.

Zviripachena, zvinodzokera kumashure apo zvinokonzeresa zvekumanikidza zvinomanikidza zvakakwana kukunda nzira dzehuropi dzekuti "ndapedza" maitiro, uye kukanganisa nzira dzechido. (Maona Sei Ndichiwana Iko Porn Inonakidza Zvichifadza Kupfuura Mudiwa?) Vamwe vashandisi vanotambura zviratidzo zvinorwadza:

[Mutsva wokutanga, ane makore 23] Ndakanga ndiri kutungamira mune hutungamiri hwakashata hwakanaka nemafungiro emanzwiro, manzwiro ekusava nemafungiro uye nyaya yakashata ye ED kuti ini ndinozofanira kuita bonhora nemapoko ose maviri ndichiona zvinonyadzisira kuti iite semi-yakaoma, iyo iyo pa23 isiri yakanaka.

[Mutsva wechipiri, ane makore 20] My ED yakatanga kufamba zvishoma nezvishoma 2 - 3 makore akapfuura. Uye yakanyanya kuipa mugore rapera. Ndakasvika pane imwe nguva pandakanga ndisingawanzooni matanda emangwanani uye zvikamu zvakawanda zvehupenzi hazvingandiiti chero chinhu. Hafu yenguva yandinozofambisa nedick dick. Ndaizopedza maawa akawanda ndichishambadzira zvemuenzaniso "waipisa" zvakakwana. Uye chii chaiva "kupisa" nhasi chakanga chisingafadzi mangwana. 

Adams anogona kunge akarurama nezve kwatiri kuenda, asi kutasva kunogona kuve kwakanyanya bumpier uye kwainoenda kunogutsa zvishoma pabonde kupfuura zvaakaratidza.

Chii, kutenga kondo chaiye?

Mune hook-up / dhijitari nharaunda, mwero uye hukama hwakasimba haukosheswe zvakanyanya. Wadii kutora zvese zvaungaite iwe, handiti? Muchokwadi, Adams anonongedza kuti kukwikwidzana necyber vixens vakadzi vechidiki vatove "kuwedzera mutambo wavo," waanotsanangudza sekuita bonde zvakanyanya. Pane fungidziro yekuti kuita zvebonde kuri kuendesa zvese zvakakosha kuve nazvo, pamwe nekuti zvinoteedzera kwazvo kumagumo-pane-kudiwa neInternet.

Asi kudanana / hukama hwepedyo hunogona pakupedzisira kubatsira kudzivirira uropi panjodzi dzekuwedzeredza. Muchokwadi, zvinogona kubuda kuti isu zvirinani kuve nazvo zvishoma zvishoma zvepabonde pane zvatinofunga kuti tinoda (asi zvizhinji zvekushushikana rudo), kupfuura isu tiri mungozi zvisingaperi.

“Kukanganisika” kwehunhu hwekudanana kunogona zvakare kubatsira mukubudirira, kugutsa kwenguva refu kubatana, izvo zvinogona kubatsira vese vana nevanoda ivo pachavo. Izvi zvinogona kunge zvine zvakawanda zvekuita pamwe neurochemical mhedzisiro yekugara uchibata nerudo uye hwepedyo, hukama hwakavimbika. Kune zvimwe:

Tinokurudzirwa nekupisa, tinowanzotadza kuona kuti ubongo hwedu hwakashanduka kuti hutipa mubairo nemanzwiro ehupenyu hwekutsinhana kugunzva rudo uye ushamwari hwatinoda. Izvi zviitiko zvinoshanda sekusagadzikana nekufunganya. Kusiyana neizvi, kukurudzirana kwepabonde chete kunopa mhedziso pfupi kwenguva pfupi, uye zvakanyanya zvinogona kutirega kunzwa tiora:

[Age 29] Makore maviri chete apfuura ini ndaigara ndine shamwari zhinji. Yakamboda kubuda. Ndinoyeuka manzwiro andakaita pandakangoona musikana mumugwagwa. Handina kumbobvira ndada zvinhu zvekuzviita kuti ndifare. Kwaive kunzwa kwemukati… iro simba… mbishi simba, iro rakandichengetedza kumberi kumativi ese. Kuita bonhora ndiyo yaive tsika yangu yemazuva ese. Uye ini handina kumbonzwa chero yakaipa mhedzisiro nekuda kwayo. Exercise… shanda… uchiita zvekutamba… chivimbo. Zvese zvaive zvakakwana.

Pandakazopinda mune ino porno tsika 2 makore apfuura, zvaive zvisiri kupindwa muropa; yaingova rubatsiro rwekuita bonhora. Asi munguva pfupi yakawedzera kusvika pakubata chibharo, mhuka, bonde rechisimba. Hapana chikonzero chekufungidzira zviitiko zvebonde nemusikana wangu kubva kare kare. Ndainzwa kudada kwazvo kuti ndaisada chero musikana. Ndakafunga kuti, “Ndiri kuzvibata pachangu. Vanhu mapenzi chaiwo kuenda kune hukama hwakazvipira. Michato… !!! Nditarise! Ndini wekupedzisira munhu !!! Ndinogona kugara ndega. ”

Asi zvaive zvisizvo zvachose. Zvinonyadzisira zvaindidya kubva mukati. Pasina chinguva ndakanzwa kushushikana… hutsi hwehuropi ... kunetseka munharaunda ... matambudziko ekugaya. Uropi hwangu hwepakutanga hwakanga hwakasungwa. Handina kukura ne porn. Ndosaka ndichiona musiyano zvakajeka.

Tiri kusangana nematambudziko edu?

Pasinei nekuonekwa, vanhu ndeve pair-bonding species. Kusiyana ne97% yezvinyama zvinokanganisa tine utano hwehuropi hunotitadzisa kudanana. (Ona Sei Bonobos Ichiita Maitiro Akashata?.) Zvipfuwo zvepakati-hukama zvinowanzobatana nemafambiro ekubatana nguva nenguva pamwe chete zvepabonde-kwete zvepabonde nguva dzose panzvimbo yekubatanidza maitiro. (Ona Kuramba Murudo Monkey-Style.)

Imwe mitambo yedu yakasiyana-siyana-yevasungwa inoratidza kuti hukuru hwepabonde hunobva pakusanganiswa kwekumutsa uye kudziya kubva pakubata, kuvimbana, kudanana, nezvimwe.kubata kuzvibata”Nyaradza uropi (iyo inobatsira kuumbika kwehukama hwehukama), nokudaro nenzira yakasununguka tichiwedzera pfungwa yedu yekugara zvakanaka.

Saka heino mubvunzo unonakidza: Pasina masimba ekukurudzira pabonde, ko isu patinogumira mune zvekuita bonde zvinokwenenzvera edu chirongwa chisingatauriki chekubatana kunyanya kubudirira, tichisiya isu zvimwe kugutsikana zvakakwana? Izvi zvinoreva kuti, kune hutano hwakanaka hwakagadziriswa kutibatsira kuti tirambe (zvakanyanya kana zvishoma) zvakabatanidzwa kune wawakaroorana naye achishandisa kusanganiswa kwepabonde nekubatana maitiro?

Unogona kukunda kugadzirisa zvepabonde kuita kuti urege kuvimba uye kusagutsikana muhukama nekuti yedu yakashanduka inoda zvinopfuura "zvebonde chete" haasi kusangana? Iyi pfungwa inogona kuve yakajeka, asi, chaizvoizvo, chikamu chikuru chevakadzi chinoshuma kusingaperi kusagadzikana uye misodzi pashure pepabonde. Varume, zvakare, vanogona kutarisana nekudengenyeka kwemaitiro shure zvakanyanya kuwedzerwa. Iyi mhinduro inogona kuva chiratidzo chekuti tiri kupfuura zvakanyanya kunaka kwekuita zvepabonde uye / kana kusaita basa rakakwana rekugadzirisa zvido zvedu zvekuda kwevanhu muhukama hwedu.

Zvinofadza, kana mumwe munhu achiburitsa kubva nhasi ever roman cyber erotica uye zvekuita zvepabonde, ukama hwakanaka hunogona zvakare kuva chinhu chinoshamisa chevakuru vakawanda. Zvechokwadi, danho iri rinogona kusanganisira iyo kusagadzikana kwekutadza kubva kudopamine-cranking, "novelty-as-aphrodisiac”Zano rakadzidzwa paWebhu, pamwe nechido chekuisa parutivi fungidziro dzakakurumbira.

Sezvineiwo, kuwirirana kukuru hakureve hako zvishoma zvepabonde, asi zvinogona kureva kuongorora rudomaking approaches iyo inowedzera kugutsikana kunowanikwa kuburikidza nekubatisa maitiro kunze kwekuwedzeredza neuroendocrine yedu muyero pamwe chete nejollies kakawanda.

Kugadziridza kwakadaro kwakakodzera here? Zvinoenderana nekukwezva kwaunoita iwe kuti "Iyo Dhijitari Crossover" senzvimbo yekupedzisira. Sezvineiwo, tsika yedu inogona kuve iriko nekukurumidza kupfuura zvainofunga. Zvinoenderana naAdams kana vanhu,

kuenderera mberi nehunhu hwavo hwekukora nekuwedzera kupokana… iyo Dhijitari Crossover iri pasi pemakore gumi kubva.

Zviri nyore kutarisa, vhidhiyo yakarongedzwa zvine hungwaru pakukwira kunokatyamadza kweJapan mu "asexuality" uye basa iro "Kufambidzana Sims" inogona kutamba.

Updates

  1. Zviratidzo zvekudhakwa uye kukura kune zvimwe zvinhu zvakanyanyisa? Pamusoro pezvidzidzo zveCNNX zvinowanikwa zvinowirirana nekuwedzera kwekushandisa zvinonyadzisira (kushivirira), kugara kune zvinonyadzisira, uye kunyange kubvisa zviratidzo (zviratidzo zvose nezviratidzo zvinobatanidzwa nekudhakwa).
  2. Debunking nheyo yekutaura isingatsigiswi inoti "chido chepabonde chakakwirira" inotsanangurira kubvisa zvinonyadzisira kana kukanganisa zvepabonde: Angangoita 25 zvidzidzo zvinokanganisa kutaura kuti bonde & porn vanopindwa muropa "vanongova nehupombwe"
  3. Zvinonyadzisira nezvinetso zvepabonde? Iri runyora rine zvidzidzo zve 30 zvinosungiridza zvinonyadzisira zvinoshandiswa / zvinonyadzisira zvinodhaka kune zvinetso zvepabonde uye kuderedza kukwezva kune zvepabonde. The fzvisingaiti 5 zvidzidzo muurongwa zvinoratidza causation, sezvo vatori vechikamu vakabvisa kushandiswa kwepabonde uye vakaporesa zvirwere zvepabonde zvisingaperi.
  4. Zvinonyadzisira zvinokonzerwa nehukama? Pamusoro peongororo dze 60 dzinoshandisa zvinonyadzisira dzinoshandisa kuderedza zvepabonde uye kugutsikana kweukama. (Sezvatinoziva zvose zvidzidzo zvine chokuita nevanhurume zvakashuma zvekare kushandiswa kwepabonde kunosanganiswa murombo zvepabonde kana ukama kugutsikana.)