Ukusetshenziswa kocansi kwe-inthanethi okuvamile kunezingozi ezijwayelekile kubasebenzisi abaningi banamuhla. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukukhuphukela ezintweni ezeqisayo, ukugculiseka kwezocansi kanye nobudlelwano kanye nokulutheka. Kungase futhi kubandakanye ukulahlekelwa kancane kancane ukukhangwa ozakwethu bangempela (kanye ne-anorgasmia nokumiswa okungathembekile). Okungaziwa kakhulu iqiniso lokuthi ukusetshenziswa kwezikhawu kubeka engcupheni enkulu yokulutheka. Isibonelo, amahora angu-2 wokuzitika ngocansi okulandelwa amaviki ambalwa okuzithiba ngaphambi kwenye iseshini yocansi. Izizathu zingezebhayoloji, futhi kukhona indikimba yocwaningo lokulutheka ukusetshenziswa okuphakathi ezilwaneni nasezintweni zabantu abahlukumeza izenzakalo zobuchopho ezithintekayo.
Isibonelo, kokubili umuthi futhi ukudla okungenamsoco Ucwaningo lwembula ukuthi ukusetshenziswa okuphakathi kungaholela ngokushesha ukuguqulwa kobuchopho obuhlobene nomlutha (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umsebenzisi uyangena yini ngokugcwele). Izinguquko eziyinhloko ukuzwela okuyinto iqhuma isikhungo sombukiso sobuchopho ngezibonakaliso ezikhiqiza kanzima ukunganaki izifiso. Ngokwezwa, izijikelezo zobuchopho ezihilelekile ekugqugquzelweni nasekufuneni umvuzo ziba yizicabangela ezingqondweni noma ezihlobene nokuziphatha kokulutha. Lesi simo sokujula se-pavlovian siphumela ukwanda "ukufuna" noma ukunxanela. Ama-cues, njengokuvula ikhompuyutha, ukubona i-pop-up, noma i-yedwa, kubangela ukulangazela okukhulu kwe-porn. (Izifundo zokubika ukuzwa ukuzwela noma ukucubungula-abasebenza kubasebenzisi be-porn: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20.)
Izinguquko zobungani
Okumangalisa nakakhulu ukuthi izikhathi zokuziyeka (amasonto we-2-4) kuholele ekushintsheni kwe-neuroplastic lokho kungenzeki kumsebenzisi ongathathi ikhefu elide kangako. Lezi zinguquko ebuchosheni khulisa izifiso zokusebenzisa ekuphenduleni kwezimbangela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, i izinguquko zesistimu yokucindezeleka kangangokuthi ngisho nokucindezeleka okuncane kungabangela imbangela izifiso zokusebenzisa.
Ukusetshenziswa okungapheli (ikakhulukazi uhlobo lokudakwa) ingaveza futhi izimpawu ezinkulu zokuhoxisa, njengokungathembeki, ukucindezeleka futhi izifiso. Ngamanye amazwi, uma umuntu esebenzisa ngemuva kokuziyeka, kanye ne-binges, ingashaya umsebenzisi kanzima - mhlawumbe ngenxa ukuqina okukhulu okuhlangenwe nakho.
Ngokusekelwe kulolu cwaningo, ososayensi baye baphetha ngokuthi ukusetshenziswa kwansuku zonke kusho i-cocaine, utshwala, ugwayi, noma ukudla okungenamsoco akudingekile ukukhiqiza izinguquko zobuchopho eziphathelene nokulutha. Ukuzibophezela okungapheli kungenza into efanayo nokusetshenziswa okuqhubekayo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka Okuningi.
Ingabe inkolo iyisici?
Njengoba phakathi kwabasebenzisi bezithombe ezingcolile bezenkolo nabangabonisi, yiliphi iqembu elingase lihlanganise nabasebenzisi abengeziwe? Ucwaningo olunikeziwe olubonisa lokho Abasebenzisi be-porn zenkolo bakhetha ukungasebenzisi i-porn, cishe kunokwenkolo kunabasebenzisi bezwe abanjwe umjikelezo wokuzibamba. Okusho ukuthi abasebenzisi benkolo bangase babe "abasebenzisi abaphakathi." Ucwaningo lubonisa lokhu, ngokusho a isifundo esisha kubasebenzisi besifazane abashaya ucansi. Abacwaningi bathi:
Ezincwadini ezitholakalayo, singathola ubufakazi bokuthi izinqubo zomphakathi ezinzima kwezinye izimo zingase zibe nengcindezi ye-PU [ukusetshenziswa kocansi], ngoba zikhuthaza izikhathi zokugwema izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kulandelwa isikhathi sokuvimbela ukuphuza nokuphuza i-PU (Amakhadi, i-1983; UKraus, uMartino, et al., 2016; IZwiecha, uWilk, uKowalewska, uSkorko, noGola, 2017).
Abasebenzisi bezwe ngokuvamile babika ukuthi kuyaqabukela bathathe amakhefu angaphezu kwezinsuku ezimbalwa. Ngaphandle kokuthi babe abasebenzisi abangena ngezikhathi ezithile ngoba bezama ukuyeka ukusetshenziswa kocansi. Kuleso simo, kungenzeka ukuthi nabo bathola ukwanda kokucindezelwa uma belala phakathi kwezikhathi ezinde zokungasetshenziswa. Njengoba kunikezwe ucwaningo oluningi olucashunwe ngaphambili, lokhu kungenzeka kufanele kuphenywe ngokujulile. Kubhekwe kakhulu kubasebenzisi benkolo ngenxa yezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezithatha ukuthi “amahloni” iyona kuphela imbangela yale nto uma ukusetshenziswa kwezikhathi ezithile + ukuzitika ngokweqile okuholela ekukhuleni okuphoqelekile. Umcabango wokuthi inkolo yikho okwenza abantu bazibone beyimilutha ayisekelwa ngocwaningo lwakamuva.
Gwema ukuzitika ngotshwala
Kepha buyela ephuzwini eliyinhloko. Ukushaya indlwabu ngezikhathi ezithile (ngaphandle kokuzitika ngokweqile) kuncane kwengozi yokulutha umlutha kunephethini yokuzithiba echazwe ngenhla. Qaphela ukuthi ungalinganiseli ukuwela kuphethini lokuzitika, ngoba kungenza ukuthi i-porn yakho isebenzise kakhulu. Uma uzizwa unxenxwa, zama eminye yale mibono:
Izindlela Zokujikeleza Amandla
Kuthiwani ngokucabangela ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha?
- Hlanganisa, okunganciphisa iziphakamiso.
- Ngenkathi udedela umoya wakho uthinte kancane izinqa zakho / imisipha yakho ngamandla ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze uzizwe sengathi uyaphakamisa futhi uyigcine kanjalo uze ungabe usakwazi ukuyidedela kancane.
- Bamba umoya wakho ngamasekhondi angu-30.
QAPHELA
Izingcaphuno eziphakamisa ukuzitika ngokweqile nokubekezelelana yizici ezibalulekile ekusetshenzisweni okuyizinkinga kocansi:
Ngokuqondile, iseshini yokubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ende kunazo zonke umuntu ayezibandakanya kungenzeka ukuthi ihlobene nokuziphatha ngokweqile, ukubikezela ngokufanele ukwelashwa, ukuqina kwezimpawu ezinesipiliyoni, kanye nemizwa yokulahlekelwa amandla ngokuziphatha kocansi eqenjini lonke labahlanganyeli bokufunda. Okufanayo bekuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kumaqembu asemtholampilo nangaphandle kwemitholampilo lapho ebhekwa ngokwahlukana.
… ..Lokhu kungakhombisa ukuthi ukuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okunzima kwe-episodic kungaba yinkomba engcono yokwehla kokuziphatha kunokuziphatha okuvama kakhulu, okungahle kusondele kakhulu ezingeni lesifiso sobulili somuntu, izimo zengqondo zocansi, kanye nezinto azithandayo.
… Ukwehluka kokuqukethwe kwezithombe zocansi kudliwe (kusetshenziswe ocwaningweni lwamanje njengokusetshenziswa kwezigcawu zobulili ezingcolile okuphikisana nokuzikhethela komuntu kwezocansi - izigcawu eziqukethe ubulili bobungqingili, obuqukethe udlame, izigcawu zocansi zeqembu, izigcawu zocansi nezingane) zabikezela kakhulu isinqumo sokufuna ukwelashwa kanye ubunzima bezimpawu phakathi kwabahlanganyeli besifundo.…. Yize umphumela ochazwe ngokwawo ungachazi ngokuqondile ukubekezelelana noma ukungafuneki, njengoba ukuthambekela kokudla izinto zobulili ezingcolile ezinezici ezithile kungabonisa ukukhetha okuyisisekelo, kokuqala, kubonakala sengathi okungenani kungahambelana namamodeli wokulutha wokusetshenziswa kocansi okuyizinkinga
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