Xhumanisa ukuthola iphepha elingaphezulu
Njengamadoda ashiye i-porn futhi alulama kokungaziphathi kahle ngokobulili obuhlanganyelwe, i-ED eyenziwe nge-porn ibonakala ngokuyinhloko ngenxa ukubeka impendulo yabo yezocansi ku-inthanethi ye-porn kunokuba abalingani bangempela. Ubunzima babo abubangelwa "ubungqingili." Eqinisweni, abesilisa ababika inkinga ba-njengoba nje leli phepha le-2020 liphakamisa - kwesinye isikhathi "ama-hypersexourse" futhi kwesinye isikhathi hhayi.
Kunezindlela ezimbili amadoda abona ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kubangele ubunzima bawo:
- Ukuhlola ukuthi angathola yini ama-erections futhi aqobekile ngaphandle kokusebenzisa i-porn. Uma bengakwazi, kodwa can bavuke lapho besebenzisa i-porn, lapho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi babekise umukeli wabo ku-porn. Bona Ukuhlolwa kwe-PIED video ukuthola incazelo egcwele. Cabanga ngalesi sivivinyo esivela ku- “Ingabe Izithombe Zobulili Ezingcolile Zase-Internet Zibangela Ukuhlukunyezwa Ngokocansi? Ukubuyekeza nge Imibiko Yomtholampilo. "
Ochwepheshe abahlinzeka usizo lwezempilo abahlose ukubuza ukuthi, "ngabe isiguli singakwazi yini ukuthola nokukhulisa ukweneliseka okwanelisayo (kanye nomvuthwandaba njengoba kufiswa) lapho sihambisa indlwabu ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-Intanethi". Uma engakwazi, kepha angakwazi ukufeza lezi zinhloso kalula ngocansi lwe-Intanethi, ukungasebenzi kwakhe ngokocansi kungahle kuhambisane nokuzisebenzisa.
- Ukuqeda i-inthanethi ye-porn yesikhathi nokubona ukuthuthuka kwempendulo yazo yezocansi, njengoba kwenziwa izifundo eziningi namanye amaphepha. (Okuningi ngezansi)
Ukuthola okwengeziwe ngesimo se-porn bukela le vidiyo ngomuntu osindile.
Iphepha elisha le-2020: alinakusitshela lutho ngezinkinga zobulili ezivuselelekayo
Umkhankaso wabezindaba ohlelwe ngokucophelela (unoPrause & Ley enkabeni) wenziwa ukuze "uhumushe" leli phepha ngenhloso ye-propaganda njengoba nje litholakale esidlangalaleni. Ukuqagela, ngenxa yokuthi iningi lababhali balolu cwaningo bangamalungu we iwebhusayithi eveza obala ezocansi (Zenginfringes uphawu lwentengiso lwendawo yami, Futhi tweets futhi enza ucwaningo olukhethwe ngo-cherry lokho kusinikeza izintshisekelo zomkhakha wezocansi), inkulumo-ze ehlobene yamemezela ukuthi i-PIED ayiphikisiwe.
Ukuphendula lo mkhankaso ohlanganisiwe, isazi se-neuroscient tweeted, bebona ukuthi abenzi benkulumo-ze babeqasha, “amanga afana nalawa athi inja kaPavlov isakwazi ukuconsisa amathe (kuzwakala izinsimbi!), ngakho-ke akunamphumela wokulungisa isimo.” Kungani angasho lokhu? Ngoba abacwaningi bebengayihlolelanga kahle i-hypothesis leyo ukusetshenziswa kocansi ingabeka isimo ekuphenduleni ngokobulili – hhayi kuphela “kubantu abathandana nobulili obufanayo.” Yize kunjalo abasabalalisi benkulumo benza sengathi banakho.
Ngakho-ke, nakuba porn shows njengoDavid Ley funa leli phepha linikeze ubufakazi bokuphikisana nokuziphatha okubi kocansi (PIED), empeleni alitsheli lutho ngalo.
Ukuqala, i-PIED ukungakwazi ukufeza ukwakheka nomlingani. (Kwamanye amadoda, impendulo yenjabulo encishisiwe ngemuva kwalesi simo ikhula kakhulu kangangokuba ekugcineni bayibona impendulo engakhinyabezeka ngisho noma besebenzisa i-porn, kepha lokho kuvamile kakhulu.)
Iqiniso ngukuthi amadoda ane-PIED angavame ukufeza ukwakheka nge-porn. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuvusa kwabo kuvuselelwe izithombe ezingcolile! Bangakwazi "ukuhlahlela insimbi," kepha futhi kungenzeka ukuthi banesimo se-porn abanenkinga nocansi oluhlukanisiwe, noma ukuthola ama-erections ngaphandle kocansi. Abaphenyi abazange bahlole izimo zakamuva.
Kunoma ikuphi, lolu cwaningo aluzange luhlole i-PIED. Kuhlole kuphela ukuphendula ngocansi ngenkathi ubuka i-porn. Futhi zonke izihloko (i-MSM, noma amadoda alala namadoda) kwakungabathengi be-porn - yize abacwaningi bengabelananga ngesilinganiso abasisebenzisile ukunquma lokhu ekubhaleni kwabo.
Iqiniso ukuthi kokubili izifundo nezilawuli zase sezithole ithuba ukubeka impendulo yabo yezocansi ku-porn. Azikho izifundo noma izilawuli ezabuzwa ukuthi ziqede ukusetshenziswa kwazo ukubona ukuthi ukusebenza kwazo kocansi kuyathuthuka (okuyindlela ethembekile kunazo zonke yokuthola ukuthi isimo se-PIED sisebenza).
Ngeshwa, zonke izifundo kanye nezilawuli zazinokuphendula okuphansi kocansi. Cabanga ngaleli phepha: Ukukhubazeka kwe-Erectile no-Ejaculation Ngaphambi Kokweqile Emadodeni Obulili Bobulili Bobulili Bobulili Nezixuku: Ukubuyekezwa Okuhlelekile Ne-Meta-Ukuhlaziywa Kwezifundo Eziqhathanisa (2019). Kubikwa ukuthi abesilisa abalala nabesilisa banamazinga aphezulu okuwohloka kwe-erectile, ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kanye nomlutha we-porn (CSBD).
Yize kuyathakazelisa ukuthi bekungekho umehluko ophawulekayo phakathi "kwama-hypersexual" nabanye, lo mphumela awukuphikisi ukuthi kungenzeka ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn ukubeka isimo sezimpendulo kubathengi be-porn.
Yize laba balobi bephika, iPIED “yinto.” Amaphepha ayisikhombisa abukezwe ontanga kukhombisile kuze kube manje ukuthi lapho iziguli ziqeda ukusetshenziswa kwe-digital porn, ukungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi okungapheli kuphulukiswa. Kukhona ezinye izifundo ezingama-32 ezengeziwe ezixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn nezinkinga zocansi noma ukuvuswa komzimba omncane ngesikhathi sobulili obuhlanganyelwe. Ucwaningo olunezingcaphuno. Ngaphezu kwalokho, Izifundo ezingaphezu kwama-75 zixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kokunye ukwaneliseka kwezocansi nobudlelwano. (Njengoba sifana nathi konke Izifundo ezibandakanya abesilisa ziye zabika ukusetshenziswa okuningi kocansi okuxhunyiwe abampofu ubulili noma ukwaneliseka kobudlelwano.)
Kuphathelene, kepha akumangazi ukuthi uDkt Ley nabanye bangayimelela kabi i-PIED futhi basonteke okutholakele okungekho emthethweni kwinkulumo-ze engasekelwa. Ukhona kunxephezelwa imboni yezocansi Ukuqinisekisa abasebenzisi be-porn ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwayo akunangozi.
Leli phepha elisha "aliphindi" ucwaningo lwango-2007
Umkhakha we-porn shill kanye nomlobi walo mbhalo wePrause nesikhekhe sakhe Umthetho ngephutha bathi leli phepha elisha esifanayo njengezivivinyo ezichazwe ngonyaka we-2007 ku Isahluko sencwadi nguBancroft noJanssen (futhi nombhali-mbhalo waleli phepha elisha). “I-Psychophysiology Yezocansi., Isahluko: Imodeli Yokulawula Okubili: Indima yokuvimbela ucansi nokuzijabulisa ekuvusweni nasekuziphatheni ngokocansi.. ” Umshicileli: I-Indiana University Press, Umhleli: Erick Janssen, pp.197-222. Xhumanisa isahluko
Noma kunjalo leli phepha elisha alifani nokuhlolwa kwangaphambilini, futhi nakhu umehluko:
Umehluko # 1 - Ucwaningo lwe-2007 lwaxoxisana namadoda angakwazanga ukuvuswa yi-porn ukuhlola imbangela engaba khona.
Okokuqala, ngokungafani nocwaningo olusha lwe-2020, abaphenyi be-2007 baxoxisana ngamaphesenti angama-50 ezinsizwa (isilinganiso sobudala beminyaka engama-29) abangaqondakali ngokuvuswa kovivinyo lwe-porn kwelebhu, futhi baveza ukuthi ukwanda kakhulu kwe-porn kwakuyimbangela enkulu. Ososayensi bachaza ukuthi amadoda ayevame ukubuyisa imigoqo lapho i-porn isiphenduke yonke indawo. Kucashunwe ocwaningweni luka-2007:
Lapho sisebenzisa lo mklamo (nezinhlobo ezimbili zefilimu yocansi, ukuphazamiseka kanye nemfuno yokusebenza) kulesi sampula esisha, kodwa-ke, sihlangane nenye into ebingalindelekile, kepha ethokozisayo. Amadoda ayi-50, noma acishe abe yi-25% yezifundo zokuqala ezingama-29 (asho ukuthi iminyaka yobudala = iminyaka engama-XNUMX), akazange aphendule kulolu thokozo lwezocansi (okungukuthi, ukuqina kwe-penile okungaphansi kwama-5% kweziqeshana zamafilimu ezingekho ngaphansi; amadoda angu-8 abene-0% ukuqina). Lokhu, olwazini lwethu, esinye sezifundo ezimbalwa ze-psychophysiological lapho amadoda azibamba iqhaza aqashwa khona emphakathini - kithi, ezindlini zokugeza, imitholampilo ye-STD, imigoqo nokunye.
Kwezinye zalezi zindawo, ukuvuselelwa kwezocansi (kufaka phakathi izikrini zevidiyo) kusendaweni yonke, futhi lokhu, ngokuhambisana namazwana avela kubabambiqhaza ngokuntuleka okuthakazelisa kakhulu, okukhethekile ("niche"), noma okwedlulele noma “kinky”, kwasenza cabanga ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi inani eliphakeme ngokungajwayelekile labangabhaleki lihlobene namazinga aphezulu wokuvezwa nokuhlangenwe nakho ngezinto eziveza ucansis.
Umehluko # 2 - ucwaningo lwe-2007 olunqunywe ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn lwalunobangela!
Abaphenyi baphinde bathi, "Izingxoxo ngezihloko zagcizelela umbono wethu wokuthi kwezinye zazo ukuvezwa okuphezulu kwe-erotica kwabonakala sengathi kuholele ekuphenduleni okuphansi ku-erilla ye-vanilla sex kanye nesidingo esikhulayo sokwenza into entsha, ukuhlukahluka. "
Izingxoxo nezihloko zaqinisa umqondo wethu wokuthi kwezinye zazo ukuvezwa okuphezulu kwe-eerotica kubonakala sengathi kuye kwaholela ekuthwalweni okuphansi kwe "vanilla sex" i-eerotica kanye nesidingo esikhulayo sezinto ezintsha nezokushintshashintsha, kwezinye izimo zihlangene nesidingo sokucacisa kakhulu izinhlobo zezinyathelo zokuvusa ukuze zivuswe.
Umehluko # 3 -2007 ucwaningo ungeze ukuhlolwa kwe-2 okususelwa ku-porn-indased low arousal.
Abaphenyi ingeze isivivinyo sesibili ukuze icatshangelwe i-porn-indased low arousal. Ukuhlolwa kwesibili kufaka phakathi iziqeshana ezintsha, ezinde, ezihlukahlukene kakhulu, futhi kuvunyelwe izifundo ukuba zikhethe iziqeshana ngokwazo. Noma kunjalo abaningi abaphendulanga!
Sahlela kabusha isifundo futhi nginqume ukuqeda ukuphazamiseka nokusebenza kwesidingo sokusebenza kanye nokufaka iziqeshana ezintsha, ezahlukahlukene, kanye neziqeshana zamafilimu ezinde. Futhi, esikhundleni sokwethula izihloko ngeqoqo lamavidiyo akhethwe kusengaphambili (“akhethwe ngumcwaningi”), sibavumela bazikhethele iziqeshana ezimbili ngokwazo kusethi engu-10, okuboniswe ukubuka kuqala kwayo kwamasekhondi ayi-10 okubandakanya nohlu olubanzi lwezocansi isimilo (isb. ubulili beqembu, ubulili bezinhlanga ezithile, i-S & M, njll.). Siphinde saqasha ezinye izifundo ze-51 futhi sathola ukuthi ngokwakhiwa okuthuthukile namanje amadoda angama-20, noma cishe ama-25%, awaphendulanga kahle kuma-video clip ezocansi (ukuqina kwe-penile okungaphansi kuka-10% ukuphendula ifilimu ende ekhethwe yibo).
Ucwaningo lwango-2007 luhlole "abaphenduli abaphansi" ngawodwana, futhi lwabika ukuthi: "abahlaziyi baphakamise ukuthi njengoba inani lamafilimu angashayi mkhuba abonwe ngonyaka owedlule landa umhlanganyeli kungenzeka ukuba achazwe njengomphenduli ophansi."
Umehluko # 4 - Ucwaningo lwe-2007 aluzange luhlole ubungqingili
Ucwaningo luka-2007 aluzange luhlole ukuqina kwegazi. Ucwaningo lwango-2020 lwenzile, futhi lwaqhathanisa iqembu le-hypersexuality nezilawuli. (Noma kunjalo bekungekho kuhlolwa ngakunye kwezici ezinegalelo ku-ED, njengakwangonyaka ka-2007). Lokho kusho, iqembu lama-hyp2020sexual lama-XNUMX lalinalo impendulo engatheni yezitho zangasese kuneqembu lokulawula:
Ababhali babe "belawula" ngenxa yezizathu ezithile zokuphikisana - ukuze ngobuciko baphendule izimpendulo zalawo maqembu amabili bese baphetha ngokuthi amaqembu awaphendulanga ngokuhlukile komunye nomunye. Kuyabonakala futhi, banikezwe izisusa zabo ze-pro-porn kanye nenhloso yokwenziwa kwenkulumo-ze.
Ngakho-ke, qaphela porn shillek shrieking okungelona iqiniso. Cabanga umthombo, bese ubheka ngokucophelela okutholakele. Njengoba kunjalo kaningi, inkulumo-ze mayelana naleli phepha ayibonisi okuqukethwe kwayo kwangempela, okungahambisani.
Sekuyisikhathi sokuphenya ngesimo socansi esenziwe ngocansi, futhi uyeke ukusidida ngokusetshenziswa kocansi okuphoqelela. Abaningi abaye balungisa ukuthanda kwabo ngokobulili futhi bavusa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile akubasebenzisi abaphoqelelayo nokho banenkinga yokuphendula kabi ngokocansi ngenxa yokusebenzisa kwabo i-porn. Kuyadabukisa.
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