Kwinxalenye “yamakhwenkwe kuphela” yokwabelana ngesondo kunyaka wesihlanu, utitshala wasixelela ukuba “ukuba uphulula amaphambili, kulungile—yinto engokwemvelo ngokupheleleyo.” Ndiye ndanqwala ndisazi yabe ikhala intsimbi ndabaleka ndaya ebaleni lokudlala ndibuza wonke umntu ukuba yintoni le nto yokuphulula amalungu esini.
Kambe ke, kwiminyaka emihlanu okanye emithandathu eyalandelayo, ndalivala elo xesha. Kwishawari, kwikhompyuter yosapho, nakwibhedi emdaka endihlala kuyo newele lam (uxolo mfondini). Xa ndophuka izihlahla zozibini nditsiba eluphahleni, iiplastikhi zam azizange zibe ngumqobo, zazingumngeni. Iyamangalisa into eyenziwa ngumntwana oneminyaka eli-14 ubudala ngobhontsi nangomnwe ongaphambili.
Yayiyixesha elimnandi lokuyibhuqa, iqiniswe koko kwakuxelelwe ziiklasi zokwabelana ngesondo kunye neemagazini zeMen's Health. Bathi: “Yindalo. "Ilungile kwi-prostate yakho." Senza into ebekekileyo, into elungileyo.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba yonke loo nto yayibubuxoki? Kuthekani ukuba ukuxhawula izandla kunye nabangasebenziyo akusiyo i-tonic ehlaziyayo eyenziwe ukuba ibe yiyo? Kuthekani ukuba ukusetyenziswa okukufutshane kwe-intanethi ye-porn phakathi kwabafana abancinci kusiguqula sibe liqela lamandla aphantsi, ukubuyisela umva koluntu? Yiloo nto i-fapstronauts ephantse ibe yi-60,000 kwi-Reddit's r / NoFap ibhodi iye yathetha ukususela kwi-2011. Ngokuyinxenye iphefumlelwe nguGary Wilson's intetho ye-TedX "Uvavanyo olukhulu lwe-Porn," i-NoFap ifana nezinxila ezingaziwa kwi-masturbator. Esikhundleni samanyathelo e-12, "banomngeni wokugqibela" - akukho ukuphosa umphathi kwaye akukho manyala we-30 okanye i-90 iintsuku.
INoFap izele yimiyalezo ekhuthazayo evela kubafana kunye namantombazana abomi babo butshintshe ngokwenyani ukusukela ekubetheni kwakhe. “Ndinobomi obam kwaye ndiyabuthanda,” izithuba zeRedditor newblue52, ecocekile kangangeentsuku ezingama-72. “Ndikwimeko entle ebomini bam, ulusu lwam luqaqambile kunokuba kwakunjalo ngaphambili, kwaye ndingoyena mntu ndizithembayo ndakha ndazenza. Ndinentombazana ethandekayo, yaye emva kokuba siye sabelana ngesondo, ndiyijonga emehlweni ibe ndiyakwazi ukuyithanda.”
Iifapstronauts zihamba phambili, zibanga ukuba nokuba awucingi ukuba unomcimbi, kufanelekile ukuzama ukuyeka-nokuba lixesha elifutshane. Ngoko, ngomoya wokufuna ukwazi, ulusu olucacileyo kunye nokuzithemba, ndagqiba ekubeni ndinikezele.
Kwakunzima kunokuba ndandicinga. Ayifani nokuba bendibetha yonke imihla ngaphambili, kodwa xa usebenza ekhaya, kuhlala kukho ithuba lokutshixa iqhosha elikhawulezayo ezintlanu. Iintsuku ezintlanu zokuqala zazilula. Kodwa ngomhla wesithandathu ndatyibilika. Makhe ndikuxelele, i-post-cum yehla iyinkangala kwaye ihlazo xa konke okwenzileyo konakaliswe ikawusi. Kuba worse xa nawe uziyekile.
Ngoko kwakubuyela kwibhodi yokuzoba. Xa iintsuku ezintandathu kunye nesixhenxe zijikeleza kwakhona, ndaphantse ndabetha udonga (kunye ne-ham). Kungelo xesha apho ndaqala khona ukufumana ukuba yintoni na iFapstronauts malunga nayo. Iphonografi iyakhobokisa.
Emva kokuba ndityhale umqobo weveki enye, izinto zaba lula. Ekuqaleni kweveki ezimbini, i-fapping yayiyekile ukubhalisa kuluhlu lwam lokwenza. Eyona nto yayisele iqalisile ukubhaliswa yayingamaphupha—amaphupha acacileyo nancangathi. Khange ndibenalo iphupha elimanzi okoko ndicinge ngayo yonke into yokuzingcolisa emva konyaka wesi-5, ngoku ibifana noMdlalo weZihlalo zobukhosi XXX (ususe ucoceko lwamaxesha aphakathi) ngalo lonke ixesha ndivala amehlo am.
Ndiyabulela uthixo ngokuba ndinentombi. Ndandinophondo njengomntwana oneminyaka eli-15 ubudala, ngaphandle kokukwazi ukukrazula izihlandlo ezihlanu ngosuku. Kwaba ngathi ziintsuku ezingama-40 kunye nobusuku obungama-40, ngaphandle kweentsuku ezilishumi ezimfutshane, kunye nothando oluncinci, uJosh Hartnett omncinci, kunye nesidoda esingakumbi. Ndivinjwe ivalve yokukhulula, ndandivuthela imithwalo efana noRon Jeremy, ngaphandle kokuzibamba. Intombi yam yacatshukiswa ekuqaleni, yaza yangathi ixhelekile.
Kodwa into endayiqaphelayo kukuba ndandinexesha elininzi lokukhululeka. Ukuba uthatha isiqingatha seyure ngosuku ukubetha, oko ziiyure ezintathu ezinesiqingatha ekupheleni kweveki. Ixesha lam lokuhoya lalinde kwaye ndakhuthazeka ngakumbi, kwaye nangona ndingazange ndilufumane olo lusu lungenasiphako, ndincoma ngokupheleleyo umceli mngeni weentsuku ezingama-30. Isihogo, ubuncinci, zonke iphonografi zintsha ngexesha ubuyela kwi-Intanethi.
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