Ukuthotyelwa kwekhondomu ingaba yinkqubo yesofthiwe, kungekhona i-hardware
Inkqubela phambili ikhulile kusetyenziso lwekhondom yolutsha ukunqanda ukwanda kwe-STIs. UBill Gates uqinisekile ukuba iikhondom ezingcono ziyakwandisa ukusetyenziswa kwekhondom ngokwenza ukwabelana ngesondo kube mnandi. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, “isiseko saKhe Uya kunika i-$ 100,000 isibonelelo kuye nabani na onezicwangciso ezithembakeleyo zokwenza ikhondom ethi 'ivakalelwa kukuba yongeza ulonwabo.' ”Kuyabonakala ukuba, emva kwe- $ 100k yokuqala, umntu ngamnye kwabangama-80 abaniki-zicelo angafaka isicelo sesibonelelo sokulandelela esifikelela kwi-1,000,000, XNUMX yeedola.
Ukuba kukho iplani yekhondom engcono kwi-ethers, le kroti ye-monster ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuyifaka kwifom yezinto eziphathekayo. Nangona kunjalo…
Ngaba ukutshatyalaliswa okugqithisileyo kuyisithintelo esikhulu sokusetyenziswa kwekhondom?
Ukuba ayisiyiyo, ukonyusa iikhondom ngekhe kwenze lukhulu ekwandiseni ukuthotyelwa kwekhondom. Kungabonakala kungaqondakali ukubuza ukuba ngaba ukungqubana ngumba onikiweyo wokuba ukuvuswa kwesondo kuhlala kuncitshiswa ngokusesikweni kwifomula "Ukuxubana okungakumbi kunye ne-erotica = isini esingcono. Duh! ”
Nangona kunjalo kukho imiqondiso eyoyikisayo yokuba le fomyula ijonge eyona nto iphambili ekusetyenzisweni kweekhondomu ngobuvila: ukonwaba kwendalo ngokwesini kukwehla kobuso kukhuthazo oluninzi. Ngokudabukisayo, iimpembelelo zokugcwala ngaphezulu zibonisa ngeendlela ezimbini:
- Ukwanda kwezinga inkathazo yokusebenza ngokwesondo, yaye
- Ukufuna ukuvalelwa ngokwesondo, ukuziphatha ngokumngcipheko.
Ingxaki yokusebenza ngokwesondo
Ibhulogi ethandwa kakhulu u-Andrew Sullivan kutshanje ekubhekiselele kulo mkhuhlane 'yabafana abanefloppy dick.' Izilungiso ezingathembekanga ziphelisa umdla ekusebenziseni ikhondom. Yintoni eyona nto imbi ngakumbi emva kokuya exesheni xa wena, okanye iqabane lakho, nithandaze ubudoda benu ngekhondom?
A Ucwaningo lwe-2002 ingxelo yokuba i-32% yabasebenzisi abakhondom abancinci babeneengxaki zokulungisa ngenxa yokusetyenziswa okungaphephile. Ngu 2006, inani liye lafika ku-37% .Qaphela ukuba ii-tube sites (amahhala, amavidiyo anononopopasho ehlawulekayo) kubonakala ukuba yanda inani abafana babika iingxaki zengqesho zesini, kwaye iishubhu zivela kuphela kwi-2006, umntu kufuneka azibuze ukuba yeyiphi ipesenteji yabasebenzisi abancinci abasenkingeni ngoku?
Ubuncwane obuncinci kumnandi kukuba impendulo yendalo yengqondo ku khuthaza kakhulu. Ngokucacileyo, ukuhla kwentsilelo kuhamba ngokukhawuleza, kwaye akuwona wonke umntu ochaphazelekayo ngokufanayo. Abo ke, kunjalo, bathambekele ekubambe (okanye ixesha elide) ukuvuselela okukhulu ukuphumeza isigxina. Omnye umntu,
Wam sichaze indlela endibonakala ngayo kude ngexesha lesini. Ndacacisa ukuba kwakungenxa yokuba andingenalo umdla wakhe wesondo kodwa ngenxa yokuba ndandidlulile kakhulu [ngoonobumba be-intanethi] ukuba wayeya kufuneka ukuba aguqe ngeenyawo zakhe, atyeke ihashe kwaye agxothe [i-transwoman] ukuba ndivuselele ngexesha lokulala naye.
Cinga le mpendulo kwi-poll ye-2012 yamakhulu wabasebenzisi bezononono abazama ukuyeka. Phawula ukuba bangaphi abantu abajongene no-ED, ukungathandabuli ngokwesini kunye nohlobo olukhethiweyo, okanye ukungakwazi / ubunzima bokungcwina. I-44 yeepesenti ezithintekayo ukunciphisa ububele besini okanye ubumnandi besondo. Ngaba kunengqondo ukulindela ukuba loo madoda awamkele iikhondom zaluphi na uhlobo? (Cofa ukuze ukhulise imifanekiso.)
Ngesiqhelo, ngaphezulu kweepesenti ezingama-60 baxela ukuba ukuthanda kwabo kukhule ngokugqithileyo "ngokugabadeleyo" ngokuqhubeka nokusetyenziswa. Abanye babekhathazwa, abanye babengekho (de kwaba ichaphazela ukusebenza kwabo ngokwesondo):
Ukufuna ukuvalelwa ngokwesondo
Isiphumo esinye esiqhelekileyo sokuncipha kobuntununtunu kulonwabo ngokwesondo kukuhla kweemvakalelo zokwoneliseka; ingqondo ifuna ngakumbi nangakumbi. Ngapha koko, ukonyusa amandla okuziva ubaluleke kakhulu kwiibongo eziphendula ngokuziphatha kulonwabo lwemihla ngemihla ngokwesondo kangangokuba abanye abantu ngokwendalo bafuna ukuxhaphaza ngokwesondo. Imifanekiso engamanyala kakhulu ayonelanga.
Umngcipheko kunye nezinto ezintsha zonyusa ukukhutshwa kweemichiza ze-neurochemicals ezinomdla kunye ne-euphoric kwingqondo yomvuzo wesekethe-ihlala ilandelwa kukuhla ngakumbi kobuntununtunu kulonwabo, ukwanda kweminqweno, kunye nomnye umjikelo wokunyuka.
Iingcali zibiza ukufuna ukukhuthaza "ukufuna iimvakalelo zesondo." Ayothusi into yokuba kwamva nje yafumanisa ukuba abo babika iingxaki zokuziphatha ngokwesini nabasemgangathweni nabo babeka phezulu kwi-sensation-seeking.
Sifumanise ukuba ukufuna iimvakalelo zesondo bekuhlala kungangqinelani kwaye kunxulunyaniswa nokuziphatha ngokwesini kwabantu abancinci…. Olunye uphononongo, kuvavanywa ngokukodwa indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesini enxulumene nabantu abancinci kunye nabantu abadala, ngokufanayo bafumene ubudlelwane obomeleleyo phakathi kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha kunye nokufuna imvakalelo yesondo.
Yeyiphi ukuziphatha ngokwesini?
- Sexual Adventurous: (i) namava ngamatye; (ii) ngesondo kunye nomlingani omnye wesini; kunye (iii) nesini sokulala kunye nomlingane odibeneyo kwi-intanethi;
- Ithuba loLuntu: (i) ubudala kwiminyaka yokuqala yokulala (kwiminyaka); (ii) amava ngobusuku obunye busuku; kunye (iii) nenani lobomi beentlobo ezahlukeneyo zesini (1 = iqabane le-1; 7 = i-20 + iqabane).
- Ulwabelana ngesondo: (i) ekhokhelwa / ehlawulwa ngesondo (kwimali okanye ngohlobo).
Ngelishwa, abantu ababanjwe ekufuneni ukukhangela bafuna ukulungiswa okunamandla kunokuba ikhona ikhondom i no kunika.
Ukungakhathali okubangelwa kukufuna iimvakalelo zesondo kuyaziwa kwindawo yamafanasini apho "ukuxhasa ngasemva" (isondo elingakhuselekanga) kuqhelekile nangona kukho umngcipheko ophezulu wosulelo. Njengokuba inqaku elimalunga neGates likhankanyiwe ngasentla, “Ngaphandle kwemikhankaso yokwazisa nge-HIV kunye nolwazi malunga neekhondom, Ipesenti ze-50 zama-gay madoda awazisebenzisi, kwaye inqanaba le-HIV phakathi kwamadoda athandana namanye liyenyuka ngenxa yalo. … Ngokweziko loLawulo lwezifo, ngo-2010, Amadoda abelana ngesondo kunye namadoda babhalisela ipesenti ze-63 ze-HIV. "
Ukufuna iimvakalelo zesondo, kunjalo, kunxulumene "nesifo se-floppy dick" -kungahlali kwindawo yamafanasini. Yatsho Indoda ephawula ngebhlog kaSullivan:
Ndiyakwazi ukukuxelela kumava - njengomntu oneminyaka eyi-33 oneminyaka engama-gay indoda ehlala eViagra iminyaka eyisixhenxe, owanikwa i-tablet yam yokuqala kwindoda eneminyaka eyi-30 eyayixhomekeke kubo, onobuncinane kunye nabahlobo be-gay "abanako ukuhlala nzima ngamakhondom", ngubani owaziyo abafana abalwa no-ED kwi-20 yabo yokuqala, kwaye uyazi abantu abaza kuvela kuphela xa ebusweni bomntu - kukho into eyenzeka kubafana abaselula kule mihla.
Ubuchopho abuyiyo izesondo
Ikhondom entsha inokunyusa uvakalelo lwe-penile, kodwa uninzi lomceli mngeni wesini esikhuselekileyo unokulala kwisoftware yengqondo. Amava ethu okonwaba ayenzeka phakathi kweendlebe zethu, hayi phakathi kwemilenze yethu. Ukugqwesa kwengqondo yomjikelezo wobuthongo obunobunkunkqele kubangela ukonwaba okungafunekiyo kunye nokufuna okulandelayo. Ukunyusa nje ukungqubana kwilungu lethu lesini akunakwanela.
Sifanele sikhumbuze omnye nomnye ukuba sinokuthintela njani uvelwano lwethu xa sifuna ukuphucula ukhuseleko lwezesondo. Oku kuya kuba yinto elula: Yenza uvuselelo olusisiseko kuze kube yintsholongwane evakalayo ekunandiseni ubumnandi. Oku kungathatha iinyanga, kodwa iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba iibhokhwe zeplastiki. Omnye umfana,
Ndacinga ukuba ndiza kuyikhumbula ukuyifaka kwi-porn, kwaye bendihlala ndicinga ukuba abafana abangakhange babeyinqaba okanye iinkolo zebhola. Mhlawumbi ndiyinqaba, kodwa ubulili buziva bungcono kwaye ukulungiswa kwam kunamandla. Ndiyakwazi ukuhlala ixesha elide / elifutshane njengoko ndifuna, kwaye ndiyonwabela ngesondo kunye nekhondom. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ndiyenze iseshoni nganye ukubetha okrwada, ukukrwitshwa, ukubethwa, iseshoni ye-f-k.
Kanye njengokuba iziqhamo kunye nemifuno iyadika kwingqondo esele i-Chips zeetapile ziye zaba yiyo de rigueur, I-sex dayday is uninspiring ngelixa ubuchopho budibaniswa kukuzonwabisa. Ngaphezulu, jonga oku Intetho yeTEDx ngumbhali weengqondo uDocklas Lisle umbhali Umgibe Wenjabulo.
Emva kokuba uqonde indlela ubuchopho busebenza ngayo, kubonakala ukuba kukho iindlela ezimbini zokuphucula ukuzonwabisa ngokwesondo. Option One: Unako ukulinganisa ukuvakalelwa kwesondo-kwaye usebenzise ingozi yokuzibona unganeliseko olukhulu (izifiso). Inketho yeBini: Unokukhusela ububele bakho bobuchopho ekuzixhaseni ngokwesondo ngokufunda ukuhlala kunye nokuphuphuma okwexeshana. Inzuzo yale khosi kukuba imisebenzi yezocwangciso zemihla ngemihla iyaqhubeka isinika ukuvakalelwa okwaneleyo ukubhalisa njengenandi.
Ngaphezulu kwexesha elide lokuziphendukela kwemvelo, iimeko zethu zisoloko zisishukumisela kwiNketho yeBini. Ukunyaniseka kwabafazi kwenza kube nzima ukugqithisa ngesondo. (Ngaphezulu, khangela oku udliwano ndlebe nabalobi of Iimvelaphi eziPhakathi nguprofesa we-biology we-UCLA uJay Phelan noTerry Burnham PhD.)
Namhlanje, nangona kunjalo, okusingqongileyo kuyasityhalela kuKhetho lokuQala. "Iziva" kanye kwixesha elifutshane kuba ubuchopho bethu buguquke phantsi kweemeko zokunqongophala kwaye bathanda ukuvuswa kwesondo kunye nokuvuthwa kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo iziphumo zokubaxiweyo ngokuthe ngcembe zikhokelela Ngaphantsi ukuzonwabisa ngokwesini kwabancinci abaselula, okwenza iikhondom zisetyenziswe.
Nangona kunjalo inyanzelisa i-nirvana ye-erotic ye-nonstop sensation sensation, iyayijonga imeko yendalo yengqondo yokunciphisa impendulo yayo kukunyamezeleka okungapheliyo. Ngamanye amagama, ifomula "yokuvuselela ngakumbi = ulonwabo ngakumbi" ngelishwa ijika ibe nethemba eligqithisileyo njengengxaki ye-neuroscience. Qhubeka.
Injongo eluntwini yeGates ilungile. Ngoku, kufuneka athathe inyathelo elilandelayo afumane umhlobo wakhe uWarren Buffet ukuba axhase ngemali uphando olujolise kwiziphumo zomzimba zexesha elide zokugqwesa kwisistim sezesondo. Oko Utyalomali luya kuhlawula izabelo ezininzi: Abantu abaninzi baya kufunda ngendlela yokufumana ulonwabo oluzinzileyo ngokwesondo. Iikhondom ziya kuphinda zibonise imiqobo emincinci kulonwabo ngokwesondo. Kwaye "ubhubhane wefloppy dick" kungekudala uza kuba yimemori embi.
Ukuqala kwam ukuba neentlobano zesini ndineminyaka eli-19 ubudala, ugqirha wam wamabhinqa wandicenga ukuba ndithembele kwindibaniselwano yokubulala amadlozi (kum) nakwiikhondom (kuye). Xa ndambuza, "Ngaba iya kuyonwabisa le nkwenkwe yam?" Uthe, "Uya kuyenza ukuba uyambeka." Wayenyanisile.
Ukonwaba ngokwesondo akufuneki kubenzima ukufezekisa njengoko siqinisekile ukuba kunjalo. Cinga ubuchopho, hayi iikhondom.
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