Ndiluphawu lwendlela eyoyikekayo enokwenzeka kuwe. Ndingumzekelo wokuba kutheni ufanele wazi ukuba ukufakela i-porn yingxaki enkulu. Andingomntu weminyaka eliwaka ozama nje ukuzicela umngeni njengomfuniselo. Ngeendlela ezininzi, olu ibe luhambo olude lobomi.
Kum ukuphulula amalungu esini ndisemncinane kwakhokelela ekubeni likhoboka le-porn njengomntwana osemtsha okwathi ekugqibeleni kwakhokelela ekubeni ndenze izinto ngendlela engafezekanga ngokweemvakalelo/nobudlelwane bomzimba kunye namantombazana nto leyo eyakhokelela ekubeni babe neentlobano zesini nezilwanyana kwaye emva koko babesemngciphekweni omkhulu wokwabelana ngesondo kunye nabafana abavela kwi-craigslist kunye nethiyetha yabantu abadala kunye namahenyukazi abasetyhini, Abaqhankqalazi, iimasseuses, njl. Kumatyeli aliqela ndiye ndakhe ndahamba ngenqanawa ndazama ukuchola abantu ababhinqileyo abaqhelekileyo abahamba okanye abalinde kwisikhululo sebhasi. Iiseshini zam zokuphulula amalungu esini kule minyaka idlulileyo zibandakanya izinto zasendlini, ukutya, iimpahla/izihlangu zamalungu osapho olubhinqileyo, ukusebenzisa owam umchamo namadlozi, njl. njl. Iingcamango zam- unokucinga. Ukufunda amanqaku ephephandaba kunye nokubukela iividiyo ezihlabayo zamadoda agulayo, ndiyazi ukuba kukho inqanaba elibi kakhulu emva koko, kwaye ndiyabulela ukuba andizange ndiyenze loo nto.
Okukhona ndizama ukuyeka, kwaba mbi ngakumbi. Kufana nokuchola ukhwekhwe. Kukho amaxesha apho ndiye ndacoceka iinyanga kwaye ngamanye amaxesha xa bekuphindaphindwa yonke imihla. Nazi iingcebiso zam:
I-1) Fumana ingcambu yengxaki usebenzisa ubuchule beengqondo zokuzihlola. Nyaniseka kuwe nakumntu-up. Vuma uzixolele. Uninzi lwemikhwa emibi ivela kwiimvakalelo ezingasonjululwanga kwasebuntwaneni okanye kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo, izinto ongenakuzixelela mntu, izikhalazo ezifihlakeleyo oye waba nazo. Ihlala igxile kubudlelwane nabazali, usapho, abafundisi-ntsapho, abo ufunda nabo, ukuziva ulixhoba okanye unikwe ubomi obungafanelekanga. Kufana nokuba uziva unesiphene ngoko sebenzisa i-fapping / i-porn ukuze ugcwalise umngxuma emphefumlweni wakho. Ukuba awukwazi ukufumana izixhobo kwi-intanethi, kufuneka ufumane uncedo lwengcali ukuze ukhokele kwicala elifanelekileyo. Inyaniso nasiphi na isazi sengqondo esixabisa ityuwa yakhe siya kuqonda ukuba uyayigqithisa kwaye uxakeke yiyo, kwaye uya kuzama ukukunceda ukunciphisa umonakalo. Ingxaki ingqondo yethu ifakwe kwiintambo zokuzonwabisa kwaye kufuneka iqhubeke iyithatha kwinqanaba elilandelayo njengempendulo yoxinzelelo. Kodwa sinokuphinda silawule.
2) Chonga ipateni yakho kunye nemikhwa. Yazi xa uqiqisa kwaye usenza izivumelwano nawe ezingamaqhinga nje. Yiba nethemba kunye nokholo lokuba ukuba unokucoceka okwethutyana ukuba izibongozo ziya kuthotha, ukuba izibongozo ziqhelekile, ukuba ingqondo nomzimba wakho uya kuziphilisa, ukuba uphinda ubhale iskripthi sakho somkhwa ingqondo yakho iya kuphinda ilungelelanise entsha. iseti yemiyalelo. Qonda ukuba ukuziva une-horny yimvakalelo "nje" kwaye akufuneki uzive unyanzelekile ukuba wenze okuthile kuyo, njengokuba ungenzi kuzo zonke ezinye iimvakalelo zakho. Yenza enye into.
3) Ungavumeli iimpazamo ezidlulileyo, izono, kunye nemithwalo ikubambezele phantsi. Abantu baqalekisiwe/basikelelwe ngokuzisola ngexesha elidlulileyo kunye nokuxhalabela ikamva. Silibala ngephakade ngoku. Sinamandla okuphila ngoku kwaye sibe nelifu elilungileyo mhlawumbi lekamva. Xa ndivuma zonke izenzo zam zesondo ekuqaleni kwesi sithuba, unokucinga ukuba ndigxothiwe kwaye ubomi bam buphelile. Eneneni, ndingaqhubela phambili. Izigwebo zakho azinamsebenzi kubomi bam; Awukho ezihlangwini zam. Sonke siye sazenza izinto esineentloni ngazo. Kodwa akuyomfuneko ukuba senze ubomi bethu bube sisihogo esiphilayo yonke imihla. Akuyomfuneko ukuba sizohlwaye. Kufuneka siqale phantsi ngomzuzu ngamnye. Vele ubuyisele iteyiphu umva kwaye ufunde kuwe. Awubuyeli ezantsi kwentaba. Enyanisweni, akukho ntaba kwaphela.
4) Thatha ulawulo emva. Vele uyivavanye xa kufika ikhwelo kwaye uwedwa. Akukho mntu ukunyanzelayo ukuba ufikelele kwi-porn okanye uqale u-edging. Le yimikhwa emibi oyifundileyo, kwaye unokuyiyeka. Zilumkele iingcinga neemvakalelo kodwa ungathobeli. Iingcinga ziya kuzama ukukuqinisekisa ukuba ukufanele ukufezekisa i-orgasm, ukuba unelungelo ngenxa yokuba akukho mntu ukhathalela iimfuno zakho, ukuba akukho nto inkulu, iya kuba lixesha lokugqibela, ukuba uyayifuna ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, ukuba kuqhelekile, kwaye nayiphi na ingxoxo okanye uhlengahlengiso. Xa uphinda ubhala iskripthi sakho, uya kwakha i-immunity.
5) Cima iimemes kwaye ikulawule Ndicinga ufikile nakwenye indawo. Ukuba unamathele ekubaleni iintsuku kunye nemivimbo ngaphandle kokujonga umfanekiso omkhulu, awuyi kukhaba umkhwa. Ngaphezulu kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuziva unetyala kwaye uzinikele kwaye uphinde umjikelo kwaye ukhathazeke. Ukuba unengqondo yokucinga ukuzixolela kukudlula kwamahhala kwi-fap (efana nomKatolika ovumayo kumfundisi aze enze isono esifanayo), usendleleni engalunganga. Musa ukugxila “ekutyibilikeni”. Ngenye imini, xa sele usendleleni elungileyo, uya kukhululwa kwaye ungakhathazeki malunga nemibandela enjalo. Uyakuphila ubomi kwaye ube ngaphaya kwezi patheni zokucinga. Yazi ukuba le yinkqubo eqhubekayo. Unokuchacha ngokupheleleyo ngokusebenzisa imigaqo.
6) Yintoni intsingiselo yobomi? Imikhwa elungileyo ibandakanya ukudala, nokuba kukubhala, ukucwangcisa, ukuzoba, ukumodareyitha, ukucula, ukudanisa, ukwenza nantoni na. Imikhwa emihle iquka ukunceda abanye, ukufundisa abanye nokuba ngumzekelo omhle. Fumana ukuzonwabisa ngokwenene. Yenza umoya ophilileyo. Fumana imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla enemveliso. Funda ngalo lonke ixesha. Abanye benu bacinga ukuba niyayazi yonke into. Ngokwenene sinethamsanqa ukwazi i-1% yalo lonke ulwazi. Hlala ufunda izinto ezintsha, funda izihloko onomdla kuzo kwaye ufunde ezintsha. Gcina ingqondo evulekileyo, njengesipontshi. Ukulandela ukuthanda kwakho okukhethekileyo. Okwangoku ngokusekwe kwixesha olichitha kuyo, kunye nokugxila ngokweemvakalelo, i-PMO yintando yakho. Ukuba uwe kwinqanaba lam, ukuba ngumthengisi wesondo kukuthanda kwakho. Uyazi ukuba kukho enye into! Ixesha lokutshintsha!
7) Fumana ngokomoya. Mhlawumbi sele unobuntununtunu. Usenokuchasa unqulo olulungelelanisiweyo, kodwa kwanenzululwazi ayinakuyiphendula le mibuzo mikhulu ngesiqalo sobomi, indalo iphela, nokuqonda ngendlela eyanelisayo. Gxininisa kwizihloko ekutyholwa ukuba iziko liye lachithwa ukuze uve ukuba kukho into enkulu kunawe. Yeka ukukholelwa ukuba abantu baphezu kwekhonkco lokutya kwaye bazi yonke into. Kukhokelela ekuzinquleni nasekuzisizeleni. Ikhokelela kwi-nihilism, kwaye xa sele ungenasimilo unokwenza izinto ezininzi ezimbi. Yenza inkqubo yenkolelo engundoqo ekusondeza kumandla akho apheleleyo njengomntu, hayi esona siseko sisezantsi sokuzanelisa. Jonga phezulu, hayi phantsi.
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