Isicatshulwa sabo sezesondo sele silibali lomnye umntu ukuze bangazakheli eyabo imibono emnandi.
Ithunyelwe ngoSeptemba 13, 2017 Gina Rushton Intatheli ye-BuzzFeed, e-Australia (unxibelelwano kwinqaku lokuqala)
UDominic * wayeneminyaka eyi-12 xa wayeqala ukubukela iphonografi kwi-Intanethi kunye nokuziphulula amalungu esini.
"Kude kube ziinyanga ezimbini ezidlulileyo bendikhangela [iphonografi] ubuncinci iiyure ezimbini ngosuku," uneminyaka engama-28 ubudala waseSydney entshona uxelele iBuzzFeed News.
"Ndakhe ndazibukela izinto ezininzi ezingaphaya komntu oqhelekileyo.
"Mhlawumbi ndandiphulula amalungu esini kuyo yonke into eyayingekho kudlwengulo okanye uhlobo lokuziphatha okubi ngokwesini."
Ngokuqikelela kukaDominic, wayebukele ngaphezulu kweeyure ze-6,000 ze-porn kwi-Intanethi ngaphambi kokudibana kwakhe okwenyani okwenyani kwi-20s yakhe yokuqala.
"Ndiye ndabona ukuba yingxaki xa ndiqala ukulala nentombazana yam yamaphupha kwaye andikwazi kwenza kakuhle njengoko bendifanele ukwenza."
Wayenengxaki yokuvuswa kwaye wayekiswa ngaphambi kwexesha.
"Ngeentloni ezigqithisileyo kunye nokudideka ndenze uphando kwaye ndafumana abanye abafumana iingxaki ezifanayo," utshilo.
I-Dominic inxibelelene nabanye abafana kwiReddit "abakhuthazana" ukuba bayeke ukuphulula amaphambili kwimifanekiso engamanyala.
"Ndizamile ngokunyanisekileyo ukuyeka ukubukela i-porn kunye kangangeenyanga ezimbini ngoku," utshilo.
Into ebizwa ngokuba "kukungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile" kukungakwazi ukufumana okanye ukugcina ulwakhiwo ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo ngenxa yokuvezwa kakhulu kwemifanekiso engamanyala.
Uhlolisiso lwakutsha nje lweVictor ye15 ukuya kwiminyaka ye-29 ifunyenwe phantse i-70% yamadoda aphononongiweyo abukele i-porn okokuqala kwiminyaka eyi-13 okanye abancinci kwaye uninzi (i-84%) abafana abancinci kunye ne-19% yabasetyhini abancinci Ukubukela iphonografi mihla le okanye ngeveki.
"Ke phakathi kweminyaka eyi-11 kunye ne-17 bajonge umndilili weeyure ezimbini ukuya kwezine ngeveki kwaye ukuba banamava okuqala ezesondo kwi-17, banesidanga se-bachelors kwi-porn ngaphambi kokuba babe neyabo yokuqala. Ukwabelana ngesondo, ”umcebisi kwezobudlelwane eSydney kunye noochwephesha kwezesondo u-Alinda Small uxelele iBuzzFeed News.
"Ndijongana nesiyobisi se-porn nabafana abangakwaziyo ukuphuma endlwini kuba bachitha iiyure ezintlanu okanye ezintandathu ngosuku bebukele, ngamanye amaxesha kuvulwe izikrini ezibini okanye ezintathu."
"Ndinabathengi abaninzi abakwiminyaka yabo yama-20 ubudala abanditsalela umnxeba bathi bane-erectile dysfunction kwaye inxulumene nokusetyenziswa kwe-porn."
Kwakukho iindlela ezimbini eziphambili zokuba iphonografi iphazamise ukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo phakathi kolwalamano lwabo, utshilo uNcinci.
"Banokwazi ukuba nolwalamano olusenyongweni kunye neqabane labo eliyindoda okanye labasetyhini kodwa xa lifika kwinqanaba lokungena baphulukana nokwakheka kwabo kuba iphonografi ibonisa oku kulindelwa okungenangqondo kokulungiswa okukhulu nokuyigcina ixesha elide," utshilo. .
"Indoda eyindoda ibuthathaka ngendlela engathethekiyo ngokwesondo."
Omnye umcimbi onxulunyaniswa nesiyobisi se-porn kukuphuhliswa kwe "idiosyncratic masturbation technique".
"Ukuba uqhele ukutsala nzima kwilungu lakho lobudoda akukho lungu lobufazi okanye indunu eya kuphinda yenza olo hlobo lokungqubana kunye nobunzima."
Xa uSmall ebuza abathengi bakhe "ithini ingcinga yakho yesondo?" uthe uhlala edibana nokuthula.
“Izizukulwana ezidlulileyo beziya kujonga iPlayboy kwaye bazenzele awabo amabali kodwa amadoda, ngakumbi, akasenakuyenza loo nto,” utshilo.
"Xa bebukele iphonografi kakhulu, isondo labo liye laba libali lomnye umntu ukuze bangazakheli eyabo imibono emnandi."
Omncinci wacela abanye abathengi ukuba baphulula amalungu esini ngomfanekiso endaweni yoko, kodwa ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo "kwakubuhlungu kwaye akuyomfuneko" ngenxa yoko kwakusempilweni ukuphulula amalungu esini rhoqo kwiintsuku ezintathu.
I-porn ikwajika into elindelekileyo ukuba ababhinqileyo bayibeke ngokwabo, kusho uNcinci.
"Imodeli yabo yesiqhelo ijonge kwimifanekiso engenazinwele ze-pubic kunye ne-labias egqibeleleyo kwaye ngoku bayayicela nzima kwaye iyakhawuleza kuba bacinga ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo leyo."
* U-Angus waqala ngokuphatha iphonografi kwi-Intanethi xa wayeneminyaka eyi-13.
"Xa ndandiphakame kakhulu ukuba likhoboka lam, ndandifumana naphi na iiseshoni ze-masturbation orgasm (PMO) ezine ukuya kwezisibhozo ngosuku," uneminyaka eyi-27 uxelele iBuzzFeed News.
Uye wabona indlela akuthandayo itshintshile kule minyaka ilishumi izayo.
“Iqale ngokulunga, i-vanilla hetero ngesondo kunye nentombazana eyintombazana,” utshilo.
"Ekugqibeleni yavela [kulawulo lwabasetyhini], yahambisa imifanekiso engamanyala kunye nemifanekiso engamanyala."
Nje ukuba abe neentlobano zesini kwi-16, uAngus wafumana ubunzima kwi-orgasm.
Andizange ndikonwabele ukulala ngesondo xa ndandiphulula amaphambili kwi-porno kuba isini kubomi bokwenyani asikho nzima njengokuba kunjalo kwi-porn, utshilo.
Kufana nokuhamba usuka er rollercoaster uye kwiswing swing.
Emva kokufunda izifundo ezimbalwa kwi-Intanethi, uAngus wagqiba ekubeni eneminyaka eyi-25 ukuba imeko yakhe ye-porn iyamchaphazela "ngokwengqondo nangokwabelana ngesondo".
U-Angus akazange abukele i-porn kwiintsuku ze-20 ezidlulileyo.
"Ndihambile kwiintsuku ze-170 ekuqaleni kwalo nyaka, kodwa ndaphinda ndabuya."
Iphonografi ilikhoboka kwaye ndibone iimpawu zokurhoxa ekuyekeni.
"Oku kuya kuvakala kuyinto ehlekisayo kodwa ndicebisa ukuba kutshaye icuba kunokuhambisa iphonografi."
Ukusukela waqala ngokuphulula amalungu esondo ngaphandle kokujonga imifanekiso engamanyala, uAngus uqaphele ukuba ii-erections zakhe “zimile kwaye zomelele ngakumbi”.
Ukuchukumisa kunye nokubona umfazi wokwenyani kunomdla ngakumbi kum ngoku ekubeni ndiyekile.
Isazi sempilo yezesondo, Tanya Koens, uthe wabona abaguli abanemicimbi eyahlukeneyo yokuxakaniseka ngokwesini evelayo ngenxa yokuxhaphaka kwabo babelana ngesondo.
"Ngenxa yokuba iphonografi ifumaneka ngokulula la madoda ayehla emngxunyeni onogwaja we-porn apho ajonga khona kwaye oku noku kwaye bagqibela ngokuchitha ixesha elide bekwimeko yokuvuka kwaye kuthatha ixesha elide ukuzishiya," UKoens uxelele iBuzzFeed News.
Uye wabhekisa nakwizigulana "ezinesimbo se-masturbation" esingenakuphindwa "nomntu othambileyo, ofudumeleyo, o-squidgy": "Ungabafaka kwi-headboard ukuba ubuzama neqabane."
"Ngokusisiseko, ndibenza ukuba baphulula amalungu esini bema ngxi kwaye kwimizuzu yonke bajonge iphonografi kwimizuzwana ye-10 kufuneka bajonge kude kwaye bacinge ngemizimba yabo hayi kwiscreen," utshilo.
"Yindlela yokubonisa ekhupha abantu entloko nasemizimbeni yabo apho kululonwabo khona."
Ngamanye amaxesha uKoens ubuza abathengi "baphulula amalungu esini ngesinye isandla" kwaye benze "nokuphefumla kunye nomsebenzi wokuhamba" ngokusekwe kwimigaqo ye-tantric.
Imifanekiso engamanyala ebandakanya “imifanekiso engamanyala yesini” yayigqwetha ukuqonda kwamadoda “ngendlela esebenza ngayo imizimba yabasetyhini”.
"Abantu bacinga ukuba kufuneka baye kuyo njengeenkwenkwezi ezingamanyala kwaye kuyindlela eqinisekileyo yomlilo yokuqinisekisa ukuba abanasondo silungileyo," utshilo.
"Yinto yesondo exhaphake kakhulu kwaye ayiphilanga okanye yintoni eza kugcina amantombazana athandana nawo enomdla ngaphezulu kweenyanga ezintathu."
Amaqabane ababhinqileyo kubaxhasi bakhe bahlala bethatha ukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo buqu kwaye bashiyeka beziva "bengathandwa kwaye bengathandeki", utshilo uKoens.
Kodwa iphonografi ayizange ithathe indawo yesondo, wathi: "La madoda awaze athelekise amantombazana abo kunye nemifanekiso yabasetyhini kwi-porn ayisiyiyo enye indawo okanye uthelekiso kubomi babo besondo obukhoyo."
Abanye abantu "abaze bayifumane indlela yabo yokubuyela kumaqabane abo" kukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn, uDan Auerbach, ugqirha wezengqondo kunye nomcebisi kwezobudlelwane kwii-Associated Counsellors kunye neePsychologists uSydney uxelele iBuzzFeed News
"Amandla ezesondo athathwe kwenye indawo kwaye ingqumbo enobutshaba iba yinto engathethekiyo yokuhlala kude omnye komnye okanye isondo liba ngumatshini kwaye oku kuba yinto eqhelekileyo," utshilo.
"Iziyobisi ezingamanyala zinokunxibelelana kakhulu nokungcakaza kuba unayo le mingcele engenamda kunye neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuvuselela onokubona ubuso bomdlali weqonga, ingxolo, imilo, imibala kunye nobukhulu kunye nezixhobo zongcakazo ezakhelweyo ukuze zikunike imivuzo eyongezelelekileyo olindileyo oyifunayo. ngaphandle. ”
"Kodwa iphonografi, njengokwabelana ngesondo okunyanzeliswa ziziyobisi, kunokusinika impumelelo ngokukhawuleza kwaye kunciphise unxunguphalo oluninzi kodwa njengazo zonke izinto ezinomdla ngakumbi kwiidosi ezincinci siye sizive singenamdla kubo kwaye sonakalisa isuphu."
* Amagama amadoda ekwenziwe udliwano-ndlebe ngeli nqaku atshintshiwe ukuze kulungiswe iinkxalabo zabo zabucala.
UGina Rushton ungumnyatheli weendaba zeendaba zeBuzzFeed News kwaye isekelwe eSydney.
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