Ukubiza zonke i-Skin-Hungry Cuddle Sluts (2010)

Iyakwazi njani ukucinga ngokwaneleyo?

Uziva "ucimile" kwaye uzibuze ukuba wenzeni ngayo? Unokuphathwa yindlala. Ukuba kunjalo, isondo esedwa sinokuthi singaphilisi uvakalelo lokuba into… ayilunganga.

Uphendulela ukuba iimfuno zesondo azikho nje iimfuno ze-orgasm. Iimfuno zesondo nazo ulwalamano iimfuno. Kwababini bobabini beebhondi ezinjengabantu, ukubamba ngothando kunye nokusondelana, ubuqabane obuthembekileyo "ziimood meds." Oko kukuthi, yethu ubuchopho bubekwe ukusivuza ngokuzibandakanya kuzo ngokuvelisa i-neurokimikhali ezinokunika iimvakalelo ezifanelekileyo.

Ukuchaza oku ngokwahlukileyo, eyona miyalelo iphambili yeesekethe zomvuzo wethu wokuqala kukutya, amanzi, ukubopha kunye nokudibana. Ngoku obu bomi banamhlanje abuzifezekisi iimfuno zethu zonxibelelwano olusondeleyo kunye nokudibana kakuhle, umvuzo wethu wesekethe "ujonge ngeenxa zonke" ukugcwalisa isithuba kwiimvakalelo ezilungileyo nangona kunokwenzeka. Njengokutya okungenamsoco, i-intanethi ye-intanethi yinto ekhuthazayo enokusenza sikhohlise ekucingeni ukuba sifumene umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu. Njengokuba omnye umntu echazayo, “Akukho bhinqa ngokwenyani ongaphakathi kuwe, kodwa uziva ngathi ukhona. Ufumana umvuzo ngokujonga uxande oluqaqambileyo, okukhuthaza ukuba uhlale apho endaweni yokuphuma. ”

Okulusizi kukuba ii-solo orgasms aziboneleli ngokufanayo i-neurochemical cocktail njengoqhakamshelwano lokwenyani-kwaye nosukelo lwabo kunokuba lula lube kukunyanzelwa ngenxa yolu lwanamhlanje ukuxubusha oononophelo okanye ii-vibrator ezingaphezu kwezinto. Njengoko siyilungisa i-orgasms engakumbi ngesishukumiso esinamandla, ngokubanzi ukuziva uxhalabisayo kunokwakheka ukwaneliseka.

Kumnandi xa lonke ulwabelwano lwethu ngesondo / lokuchukumisa / lokudibana luhlangatyezwa kwiphakheji enye entle, efanelekileyo: umthandi. Kodwa uninzi lwethu kufuneka siwele nezinye iintlango kubomi bethu bokuthandana. Benza ntoni abahambi entlango ngokwesiko? Intloko ye-oasis. Nazi ezine ezingamashumi amabini ananye ezifumene ii-oases zazo ngokuqhatha abahlobo.

Umntu wokuqala (owesilisa):

Ndinomhlobo obhinqileyo onezibonelelo, kodwa izibonelelo kukuba uyathanda ukuza kube kanye ngeveki kwaye avele nje abukele njengoko sibukele imovie. Uyintombi nto, kwaye ingumbono olungileyo kuthi ukuba singaze silale ngesondo sinikwe imbali yakhe. Kukhulula kakhulu kum ukuba ndiyeke i-NEED ukuba ndilale. Kwixesha elidlulileyo ukuba umfazi onomdla kum wayenendawo yam, ndiza kuba nesondo esisodwa. Kodwa ngoku ndinokuphumla nje ndibe.

Umntu wesibini (owesilisa):

Emva kwengcaciso ende kumhlobo wam malunga nendlela endandicinga ukuba ndibulawa yindlala, wakhawuleza wakhulula idyasi yakhe wazongena nam ebhedini yam. Ndothuke kakhulu yindlela awathatha ngayo ngokulula. Sahlala malunga neeyure ezi-2, sihleli ngokuchasene nebhodi yam yentloko ngengalo yam ndayijikelezisa kunye nentloko esifubeni. Besithetha kakhulu, bekuthe cwaka amaxesha napha. Incoko yayivulekile. Sityhile iimfihlo kwaye zivakala zendalo. Ndiqinisekile ukuba le nto ngeyingazange yenzeke ukuba besingaganga.
Uthixo wam, iimvakalelo zokhuseleko zazingakholeleki. I-soooo nje, andazi, KULUNGILE. Ndicinga ngoku kum: Nantsi indlela indoda nomfazi ekufuneka behambelana ngayo. Ngendlela engeyiyo inkanuko, ndaziva nje ukuba ndiyindoda ndiyifaka le ntombazana esifubeni sam kwaye ndiyikhusele. Ndabe ndiyibona nasebusweni. Ujonge nje ekhululekile, ekulungele ukulala. Andizange ndizame ngabom ukugcoba ixesha elizinzileyo ngaphambili, ke ezi mvakalelo zintsha. Ndimele ndivume ukuba okunye okuchukumisayo kwakuvusa inkanuko — kwakhona, andiqhelananga nonxibelelwano olungajoliswanga kwinjongo- kwaye bendinemvakalelo yebhola eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ngorhatya kodwa bekungalunganga kwaphela.
Emva kokuba emkile, ndacamngca kancinci kwaye ndicinga ntoni? Zimbalwa kakhulu iingcinga. Kwakumangalisa! Ngokuqinisekileyo ndiza kumcela ukuba enze le nto kwakhona.

Umntu wesithathu (ibhinqa):

Sobabini sazi ukuba ayizukukhokelela kwisini. Kwakungayi kukhokelela ekuphuzeni. Kwakuyinto nje yokugungqa, ukubamba kwaye mhlawumbi ukubamba xa siziva sithanda njalo. Kubandakanye ubunqunu obupheleleyo, nangona kunjalo. Kwaye uyazi ntoni? Oko kwakulungile.
Khange sibeke mida ngaphambi kokuba siqale, kodwa akazange awele naliphi na elingaphakathi. Wavulwa kancinci xa singena ebhedini kunye, into awayeyinyani ngokupheleleyo ngayo. Uthe bekukufuphi ukuba kungenzeki ukuba umfana angavulwa kancinci xa engena ebhedini kunye nentombazana enomtsalane, ephantse ze-kwaye uya kufumana umthi wakusasa. Kodwa oko 'kuguqulwa ngokwasemzimbeni' kunye 'nokufuna ingqondo ngokwesondo' kwahlukile.
Wayeqaphela ukuba agcine amalungu akhe esini kude nam xa eme nkqo, kwaye andizange ndizive ndingonwabanga kwaphela. Kwaku-asexual ezukileyo. Kwakudibanisa. Siza kuhlala siba ngabahlobo ngoku, kwaye saba nencoko emide, ethembekileyo malunga nobudlelwane kunye nokwabelana ngesondo kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zezinto. Ukophula i-taboo malunga nokuba ze kunye kwenza ukuba kube lula ukwaphula i-taboos malunga nokwamkelekileyo ukuthetha ngayo. Yayingamava amnandi, athembekileyo okwazi ukulala ze kunye nomfana onokuthi ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ndinomtsalane kodwa ndingasisebenzisi gwenxa isikhundla sakhe nokuba sincinci.
Ngoku ndiza kuwola nabani na. Ndiya kubamba nabani na, ngaso nasiphi na isini, okoko nje bathanda-ukuba nje bacocekile kwaye bandenza ndizive ndikhululekile. Akukhathazi mntu. Iyandenza, kwaye nabani na endimbambayo, ndonwabe ngakumbi.

Umntu wesine (ibhinqa):

[Kwinyanga enye emva kokuba lo mfazi efunge amadoda ixesha lokuba afundele iimviwo zobungcali, waqala waphuthelwa kakhulu, nto leyo engazukuphendula nakuluphi na unyango.]

Ngenye imini, xa ndandithetha nomhlobo wam, ndazibuza ngokuvakalayo, "Ndagqibela nini ukuchukunyiswa?" Kwakukude kakhulu ndaye ndachukumiseka, kangangokuba nokuwola okuvela kumhlobo waziva ndingaphandle. Ndabona ukuba ndiyakulangazelela ukubanjwa; Ndaziva ndingento yanto kwaye ndiphelile ngaphakathi.
Kwaye ndaqonda ukuba amandla am aguquke ngendlela engafanelekanga, endiyekanga ukuba ndingakwazi ukunika uthando kunye namandla kumhlobo kunye nosapho. Umhlobo wesetyhini, endixoxile ngaye, wathi wayeqaphele ukuba xa engakhange aphelelwe inyanga, uyaba nomsindo kwaye athukuthele kubantu, anciphise amathuba akhe okuza kuba nesondlo nabo.
Kanye emva kwale ncoko, kwavela ithuba lokuba umhlobo ongumfana eze apha. Indawo yayicacile kuthi ukuba sithuthuzelane kungekho ezinye i-ajenda. Siye sazimela kangangeyure, sincokola nje malunga nosuku lwethu. Ndacinga, “Ndiza kulala kamnandi ngokuhlwanje!” Kwaye voilà. Ngethuba lokuqala kwiinyanga ezintathu, ndiye ndalala mzuzu ndalala ndavuka ndihlaziyekile. Ngorhatya olulandelayo, sabukela imovie saza sangana. Ndaziva ndimnandi iiveki. (Waya eMzantsi Melika kungekudala emva koko.)
Ukuthetha nomhlobo wam omtsha, ndiye ndafunda ukuba unesivumelwano kunye nomntu awayethandana naye. Bobabini bebesazi ukuba ekugqibeleni "abalunganga" omnye komnye. Ukanti ukunxibelelana kwabo rhoqo, nokwenyama kuyabavumela ukuba bakuphephe ukuya kwihlabathi njengabantu abasweleyo, abangatshatanga. Ucacisile, "Ndicinga ukuba amadoda ayawushiya umdlalo wabo ukuba khange bathandane okwethutyana." Amandla akhe ayelungelelene; wakwazi ukugxila ekufezekiseni injongo yobomi bakhe, kwaye wabunandipha ubomi. Ukudibana nabasetyhini abatsha kwakungekho mzamo kuye, kuba wayenempilo ngokupheleleyo kwaye ehamba-lula. Xa wadibana nebhinqa elitsha elinokubakho kwiqabane, akazange azive enesidingo sokungxamela ebhedini aze alahle ithuba lokukhulisa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Funda ngakumbi ngamava akhe "Ngaba Unesikhumba Esilambileyo?"

Unokwenene kangakanani ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo?

Ukunyanzelwa kwale mihla kusenza ukuba sonke sanele ngokwabelana ngesondo ngokuphulula amalungu esini phantsi kweemfuno zethu ezisisiseko zokuchukumisa kunye nokuthembana. Ngenxa yoko, uninzi lwethu alunalwazi lwendlela indaleko eyasibumba ngayo. Umzekelo, ibingumcimbi wamashumi nje okoko oososayensi bafumanisa (ngokumangaliswa kwabo) ukuba iintsana zeenkedama eziyinkedama zikhetha ukuthambisa "oomama" belaphu le-terry elingenalo ubisi "koomama" bocingo lwenkukhu olunobisi. (Mamela i bonisa umdlalo oonomathotholo malunga nalo mzamo.)

Iintlobo zokunxibelelana ngokuphandle zivela kwinto yokuba i-oxytocin, i-hormone ekhiqizwayo ekuphenduleni ukuthinteka okuthandwayo, izixhobo zokubala kwe-cortisol (i-hormone yoxinzelelo). I-Oxytocin inokunciphisa intlungu (oko kukuthi, ukwandisa ubuhlungu beentlungu) ngokubangela ukukhululwa kwe-endorphins, okwandisa iimvakalelo zentlalo kunye nokusebenza. (Ngakumbi isayensi emva kwezibonelelo zokuchukumisaNgaphezulu kwako konke, ukuchukumisa okukhuselekileyo kuyasebenza kwaye kuyathuthuzela umvuzo wethu wokuqala wesekethe, ngenxa yoko akunakulindeleka ukuba siwele kubambeleyo bokwenza izinto.

Ngoko, ngubani oasis oasis olandelayo? Uyazi nawuphi na onokukuhlakulela ukuxhumeka kohlobo lomhlobo? Nazi ezinye iingcebiso:

Ngaba ungaqinisekanga ukuba ungayifaka njani isihloko? Yabelana ngenqaku malunga nomxholo kwaye ufumene oko umhlobo wakho acinga.
Abahlobo abaye bahamba ngokugqithisa izikolo zonyango, okanye ukuqeqeshwa kwezinye iindawo zokuphilisa, ngokuqhelekileyo bayamkela ukutshintshisa ukuguquka kunye nokuqeqesha kwimida ephilileyo.
Yiya ku ikhefu, okanye uceba omnye wakho kunye nabahlobo.

Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ukukhwela yinkonzo kuwo wonke umntu. Ukuthintela kwakho kukunceda kakhulu umhlobo wakho njengoko uyenzayo, kwaye abantu abavuthayo benza umhlaba ube yindawo eyonwabileyo.

isilumkiso: Ukuba uyazama le ngcamango, ungakhawuleza ugqibe kwelokuba, ingcinga yale mihla, yaseNtshona yokuba 'abantu banokuchuma ngokutya okuncinanana kwisini esingaqhelekanga kunye nokuphulula amaphambili' kulungile…elalimele kakhulu.

IZIMVO NAMANQAKU

Ndicinga ukuba izimvo zalo mfazi ziphefumlelwe:

Kufana nokuqeqesha isilwanyana ngokwenene. Ukuba uqeqesha inja uqala ngokulula kwaye ungalindelanga kangako. Nje ukuba bafunde iziseko ezimbalwa njengokuhlala, yiza uyilahle ungaqala kwimiyalelo enzima kakhulu efana 'nokuhamba isithende'. Ekuqaleni kufuneka ulindele ukuba bazokuziphatha gwenxa, kwaye ngezinye iintsuku abazukuphendula konke konke. Kodwa ukuba unomonde emva koko bayayeka ukuhlafuna iisiliphu zakho kunye nokuchamela kumgangatho wekhitshi kwaye uya kuba neqabane elithembekileyo. Ndicinga ukuba kulula ukuqeqesha abazala bakho kunabafazi abatshatileyo abade kuba abanamava amabi nawe ukuba ulibale kuqala. Umzala unjengokuqeqesha injana kwaye umfazi ufana nenja yokuhlangula…
Ndivele ndaqala ukumgona yonke imihla, okoko nje ingathi ukhululekile. Ekuqaleni yayikukucinezela nje okukhawulezayo, ngoku kukuwolana okufanelekileyo. Ndafumana omnye umntu endandihlala naye ebhodini saza saqala ukuqalisa ukwangana kweqela. Umzala wam usafana nje 'nobabini niyinto engaqhelekanga', kodwa ndicinga ukuba uyayithanda ngoku. Ngoku ukuba ukhululekile xa ephathaphatha ndizama ukutyhala imida kancinci: Ukuphulula amagxa akhe, okanye ukubamba isandla sakhe ngokufutshane. Uhlala emangalisiwe okomzuzwana, kodwa angabuyi. Ngale njikalanga ndingene ndaya egumbini lakhe ukuze ndithethe naye ngelixa bendithetha bendingacingi ukuba ndiqala ukubetha amagxa akhe. Undibuzile ukuba kutheni ndilapho ndamxelela ukuba ndikhona ndizokumhlupha ngoba bendidikiwe kwaye elinye iflatmate yethu liphumile. Ndibuzile ukuba ndiyamkhupha na wathi hayi ke ndaqala ukumthambisa kakuhle. Ukhalaze ngelithi ndizakumenza alale edesikeni yakhe, kodwa ndiyithathe njengoncoma.
Ndicinga ukuba ngaphezulu malunga nentsingiselo esemva kokuchukumisa kunokuba uchukumise ngokwawo. Ndicinga ukuba abanye abantu banokufunda le nto ndiyifundileyo kwaye bacinge 'ukuphulula amagxa abo abazala ??? Ayilunganga '. Kwaye ukuba bendisenza oko kuba ndimfumene enesini ke oko kuya kuba yinto engalunganga emehlweni am. Kuya kufana nokulalana. Into kukuba, andimfumani enomdla. Ndimthanda ngokungathi ngubhuti kunomzala nyani. Besisondele ekukhuleni kwaye ngoku sobabini sikwiminyaka yethu yokuqala ye-20 kwaye sihlala kunye. Into kukuba, kwezinye iintsapho ke ukuphulula umntakwabo okanye umzala emagxeni kunokuba kwinqanaba eliqhelekileyo lokuchukumisa, kunye nenqanaba lokuchukumisa elinempilo kakhulu kunoko uninzi lwabantu kuluntu lwanamava alo.
Kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba ucinga ntoni xa uchukumisa umntu, kwaye uqaphele ukuba uzimisele ntoni kumnwe wakho. Ukuba iinjongo zakho azikho luthando ke uzame ukunqanda ukuyenza. Kunzima xa uziva uswele kodwa uya kufumana umvuzo kunye nawo.

Iingcebiso zokukhwela umhlobo

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Ndidibene nomhlobo wam ongumhlobo kwitshomi yakhe phezolo, naye ebefuna ukulala, kwaye bendingazi ukuba iyaphi. ”
Ngaba kubonakala ngathi ucela ukuba ulale naye, okanye ngaba awuqinisekanga?
Into andifuni ngokukodwa ukulala naye (ujonge kwaye andifuni nje ukuba nolwalamano naye), kwaye ndonwabile ukuba ngabahlobo nje. ”
Nokuba ungene ebhedini naye, awufanele ulale ngesondo!
Kuvakala ngathi akukho nqabileyo yesondo, kodwa uhlobo oluhle.
Ngaba unomdla wokumnika into enhle, ede, ekhuni? Ukuba kunjalo, mhlawumbi ufuna ukulala naye, ngaphandle kwesondo. Nazi ezinye iingcamango malunga nendlela yokusingatha imeko:
Ukuba kukho into engaqinisekanga malunga nokuba uyakumema ukuba ulale naye, ungacacisa: “Uyandimema ukuba sichithe ubusuku kunye nawe?”
Kwaye ukuba impendulo ngu-ewe, ungathi "Ewe, andifuni ukwabelana ngesondo, kodwa ndi_ndizokonwabela ukugoba ndilale nawe. Ngaba ungathanda ukuyenza loo nto? ”
SUKUNIKE isizathu sokuba kutheni ungafuni ukwabelana ngesondo, ngaphandle kokuba uyabuza. Ukuba uyabuza, ungatsho ukuba une-ED kwaye ngekhe ubenakho ukuyifumana. (Oko kuya kunciphisa inkxalabo yakhe yokuba uyamlahla.)
Ukuba uyaphuma, awukho mbi kunokuba ude ubaleke ngaphandle kokubuza. Ukuba uyavuma ngokwemigqaliselo yakho, yinto enkulu!
Emva kokuchitha ubusuku kunye, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba nembono engcono yokuba uyafuna ukuphinda uyenze kwakhona. Unokufumana umtsalane unyukile. Ukuba ufuna ukulala naye kwakhona, qiniseka ukumxelela! (Kusenokwenzeka ukuba akanakukwazi ukuyifunda ingqondo yakho.) Wangana kakuhle, kwaye umxelele ukuba, “Ndikonwabele kakhulu ukulala nawe. Ngaba ungathanda ukuyenza kwakhona ngelinye ixesha? ” Ukuba uthi ewe, unokucebisa ngexesha lokuba nibuye kunye. Qaphela ukuba khange uthethe nto konke malunga nokuba uyamthanda okanye ufuna ukuba nolwalamano naye. Ungaqhubeka nokulala kunye, kwaye usathandana nabanye abantu ukuba uyafuna.
Ukuba unengxaki ekukhetheni ixesha lokuhlangana kwakhona, okanye kubonakala ngathi ebenentlonipho kwaye engafuni ukulala nawe kwakhona, ungathi “Kulungile, ukuba ungathanda ndibuye ngelinye ixesha, nditsalele umnxeba. ” Oko kushiya umnyango uvulekile ukuba angatshintsha ingqondo yakhe. Ewe ukhululekile ukuba umbize, naye.
Ukuba awufuni kuchitha obunye ubusuku kunye naye, mbulele nje ngentlonelo ngokuba uphumelele, kwaye musa ukwenza naziphi na izibonelelo zokulala kwakhona.
Kwaye ewe ukuba awuziva ulala naye kwaphela, awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze njalo! Kodwa ke andiqondi ukuba kutheni ungavakali udidekile kwisithuba sakho sokuqala. Kuvakala ngathi ubuzicingela okwesibini, malunga nokuba ubugodukile naye.
Ndandiziva ndingakhululekanga kwaye ndinxunguphele kuba ndandingaziva ndiyindoda! ”
Ukuba uyazibophelela kuwe (kunye neqabane lakho) kwi _not_ukulala ngesondo, kuyasusa uxinzelelo, kwaye ungonwabela nje ukukrokra kunye nokuphumla (oku kuvakala ngathi bekufuneka). Akunyanzelekanga nokuba uphume, ukuba awufuni. Kukuwe, kuba usete imigaqo. Kwaye ukuba wenza i-boner, kwaye wonwabile, ungamxelela ukuba ngekhe ihlale, ngakumbi ukuba uzama ukufaka ikhondom. Unokuthi, "Ndifuna ukonwabela ukukubamba-kwaye ndifuna nokulala kancinci!"