Eli nqaku libonakala Iphephancwadi i “NewYork”. "
Kwaye, kwaye mhlawumbi ngokukodwa, xa intombi yakhe ibanjengabesifazane abayikuyeka ukubukela kwi-intanethi.
Ndidibana nalo mfazi kwi-Broadway show, kodwa i-piece of action night, ndithi, wavela kum, wabuyela kwindlu yakhe yase-East Village, emva kokuba sithatha ngesondo malunga nemizuzu eyi-25, kunye noNeil Young bakhala ingoma ethi "Iza Ixesha" ukusuka kwipopopi etafileni layo. Ikhondom eyomileyo yayinomphefumlo ogcweleyo kum, kodwa ndade ndivele ndimi kabini ukuba ndibeke i-fresh, kwaye ndazi, njengoko ndandigcina ngiphulaphule, ukuba enye ikhondom ayinakuyenza imfuneko umahluko. Ukuba ndandishiya nje, izinto zazibe zidlala ngendlela abaye bazenza ngayo, ngeemfesane zokudideka nokungafaneleki kwinqanaba lomfazi kunye nokuxolisa kunye nokunyaniseka kum. Kodwa ngalobo busuku, ubuqili-bengazange bakwazi ukuphuma, ndazifumana ndihamba ngeendlela ezintsha: ndiyifake.
Kutheni ndifuna ukuba, umntu onempilo kwiminyaka yakhe yesithathu, kufuneka afake i-orgasm? Kwandifaka. Andizange ndibe neengcinezelo ezidityanisiweyo, endandizivile zinganciphisa ukuvakalelwa. Ndinezinto ezininzi zokuzivocavoca. Akuzange kubonakale kungakhathaliseki ukuba yiyiphi ibhinqa endiyenaye, okanye nokuba yintoni na ikhondom esayisebenzisayo, nokuba ngaba ndibe phantsi kweglasi enye ye-whiskey okanye ishumi, okanye ukuba siphulaphule uNeil Young okanye u-Al Green, njengoko ndafunda ngolu vavanyo kunye neposiso (ezininzi iimpazamo). Ngaphezulu kweenyanga, ndathabatha abatshutshisi ababini kwi-lineup kwaye ndacacisa kancane kancane. Ngaphandle, mhlawumbi, obalaseleyo.
"Uonografi? Yindlela entsha ye-synaptic. "Yiloo nto uJohn Mayer uthe kwintetho yodliwano-ndlebe no-Playboy. Uvuka ekuseni, uvule iphepha lezithonjana, kwaye likhokelela kwibhokisi yePandora yeziboniso, "waqhubeka. "Kusenokwenzeka ukuba kwakukho iintsuku xa ndabona i-300 vaginas ngaphambi kokuba ndiphume ebhedeni."
Ukugqithiswa kobuThintwa kunye nobunqabileyo akuyiyo iindaba eziphathekayo. Umbuzo osalokhu uhlala, nangona kunjalo, indlela le tsunami yezononografi echaphazela ngayo i-libido yindoda yaseMelika okanye, ngokuzingca. Okokuqala ndafumana isigxina kwiblogi ye-Sanjay Gupta ngu-Ian Kerner, umcebisi wezocansi, obhala ukuba wabona ukuphakama ngokucacileyo kwinani lamadoda eza kuye ngokuxhalabisa malunga nokulibazisa. UKherner waqhubeka ebonisa ubuninzi beengxaki "kwandiswe ngokukhawuleza kwe-intanethi" ekhokelela ekugqibeleni "ukuphinga," into endiyazi ngayo. Emva koko ndafunda nge-Yunivesithi yaseKansas efunyenwe ukuba i-25 ipesenti yamadoda asekholejini athi i-fgasgasms, eya kuthi, ndiya kuvuma, yayiduduza ngokumangalisayo ukuva. Kodwa bekude ndandidliwano-ndlebe namadoda amaninzi anemikhwa yokujonga imibala yoonopopasho (kunye nabafazi abambalwa abavulekileyo) ukuba ezinye izihloko ezingalindelekanga zaqala ukuvela. Umbono ongeyena nje uququzelele umdla wabomzimba kunye nomoya wokwenene ngesondo kwizinga eliphezulu leengxaki zegazi, kodwa kunokwenza uchungechunge lwemiphumo engalindelekanga-ebesetyhini.
Kwiminyaka emininzi, abantu abanama-wringers baye balumkisa ngesifo sengqumbo sobungqina obuya kubangela ukuba isiqhelo sesizwe siphumelele. Kodwa ukuba i-intanethi ye-intanethi isasaze ukugula, yinto engafana ne-Ebola kunye nokunye okunjengobanda obubusika. Isibonakaliso sokuqala samadoda amaninzi abahlala befumana ukubeka uphawu lweempawu zabo ezikhethiweyo ezingekho mthethweni kubonakala ngathi banqwenela ukuba baqabane babo. UJonas *, u-34 oneminyaka eminyaka ubudala, wathi kum, "Ndiya kwiSpankWire okanye i-X IiVideos-unokuyijika imifanekiso eqingqiweyo ye-dick. Ndiyithatha intombazana ekhaya ukusuka kwibhar, nangona kunjalo, kwaye ndiza kuba ngumzuzu xa ehla kum, kodwa xa ndibeka ikhondom kwaye siqala ukuya kuyo, kufana ne-Challenger iqhume-zonke iiflegi ziphakathi kwesiqingatha. "
Emva koko kukho uStefan, umqambi oneminyaka eyi-43, ongenayo ingxaki yokuvuka xa elala nomfazi wakhe. "Ukuze ndize, kunjalo, kufuneka ndiphendulele ukudlala izicatshulwa entlokweni yam endiyibonayo xa ndijonga i-porn. Kukho into elahlekileyo apho. Andihlali nomfazi wam; Ndiphakathi kwintloko yam. "
Njengoko uJohn Mayer watshela i-Playboy, "Unokuyenza njani rhoqo i-orgasm esekelwe kwizihlwele ezininzi? Ukhangele enye ifoto ngaphandle kwe-100 ufungayo iya kuba yinto oyigqibayo, kwaye awuyikugqiba ... Oko akuchaphazeli njani isayikholoji yokuba nolwalamano nomnye umntu? Kufuneka ukuba. "Ininzi yamadoda endandidliwano-ndlebe ndavuma ukuba nomkhwa ofanayo wokuzula ngokukhawuleza kwi-clip ye-porn clip ukuya kwi-clip clip (leyo ichaza ukunyuka kunye nokuthandwa kwe-" cumshot "kunye nezinye izihlanganiswa ngokukhawuleza). UKernner uye waya kutshatyalaliswa igama elithi "ingxaki yokulala ngesondo." Kubafundi abaninzi, ukuguqula iigesi ezivela kwimisitho yomlilo kunye ne-whiz-bangs kwi-calmatic calf of sexual efana nokushiya isigxina kwi-movie ye-Imax 3-D ukuhlola i flipbook.
"Ndandidla ngokuya ekhaya ukuya kulala nomfazi wam," kutsho uPerry, ummeli oneminyaka eyi-41. "Ngoku ndihamba emsebenzini ngethuba leyure ukwenjenjalo ukuba ndibuyele ekhaya ngaphambi kokuba ayenze aze ahlaziye i-pornography." Kuyo yonke incoko yethu, uPerry ugxininisa ukuba usenomdla kumfazi weshumi elinambini. Sekunjalo, uthi, akakwazi ukulinganisa neenkwenkwezi zoononophelo azijonga kwi-intanethi. Uthi: "Akunakuba nentsingiselo, kodwa bancinci, batsha, kwaye banomthi kwisaka ngaphezu komfazi wam," utsho. "Mna kunye naye, sisenza 'nto kunye nayo yonke into, kodwa kunoko yonke imihla, mhlawumbi kanye ngeveki. Kunjengokuba ndinalo 'omnye umfazi' ... kunye 'nelinye ibhinqa' lingamanyala. "
URon, i-27, umfundi wezakhiwo, wadibana nentombi yakhe xa bebancinci. Uya esikolweni kwelinye idolophu, kwaye uRon uthi kule minyaka emibini edluleyo, wayeneveki "iintsuku" zeenkwenkwezi ezithandwayo, ezithembele kuzo zonke iintsuku kunye nemvula yamanzi kunye ne-shaves, njengokungathi ulungiselela i-action-action. "NgoMvulo ngowamaGia Jordan," utsho. "NgoLwesibini kwi-Sasha Gray." NgoLwesithathu une-reprieve-iklasi yasePutukezi ebusuku. "Ndisoloko ndikhangele phambili kwiLwesine i-Kasey Kox," utsho. "Emva koko, ngeveki, ndihamba kunye nentombi yam." Ngamanye amaxesha, xa ebuyela kwindlu yakhe ngeeCawa, uRon uyachaza, ugijima kwiwebhu efuna abaviwa ukuba bachithe ixesha kunye nobusuku boLwesithathu xa lwakhe ulwimi. Uthi: "Andiyithandi ukukholelwa ukuba i-pornography ithatha enye into endiyenayo kunye nentombazana yam, kodwa ndihlala ndibathandana, kwaye ndihlala ndibaninzi, ngoko ndimele ndiyeke Cinga ngako xa ebuza ukuba kungekudala ukuba kutheni kufuneka abe nguye oza kuqala. Kwaye wayelungile; Ndiyicinga ukuba ndiphelile kuye. Kufana naso sonke ixesha kunye neenkwenkwezi eziziimfesane zibeka phantsi umnqweno wam intombi. Kwaye, ngezinye iindlela eziyinqabileyo, imfuno yam engqondweni, naye. "
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ukugqithiswa koonobumba kubangela abantu ukuba baxhamle kumaqabane abo ngeendlela ezininzi? Nangona uphando lwezocwangco luxubusha kakhulu kunye ne-barb-flinging (kunye namaqela enkolo ayithatha naluphi na uphando ukubonisa ukuba i-pornography kunye ne-masturbation ayilunganga), izazinzulu zicinga ukuba i-dopamine-oxytocin combo ikhutshwa kwingqondo ngexesha le-orgasm, "Isifo sengqondo semvelo," njengoko u-Andrea Kuszewski onguchwephesha wokuziphatha. Yisona sizathu emva kokulala ngesondo nomntu, mhlawumbi unomdla wokuba uqhotyoshelweyo. Kodwa akudingeki ukuba ulale ngesondo ukuze ufumane abo bantu be-neurotransmitter. Xa ubukela i-pornography, "udibene nalo," kusho uKuszewski. "Yaye loo makhemikhali enza ukuba ufune ukubuyela kwakhona ukuze ube nomvakalelo. Banokuthi, ngokwenene, umhla we-pornography.
Kwaye njengokuba i-tripod-in-the-corner-corner igxotha kwiindawo eziphakamileyo eziphezulu, ukuqonda kwethu ukuba sibukele ngesondo okanye ngokwenene sithatha ngesondo, sinokukhulula ngokuncedisa i-oxytocin. Ininzi yamadoda endandidliwano-ndlebe ndathetha malunga necala abayifumanayo ekubukeni abadlali babo abathandayo be-porn. Kodwa nabo babe nethambekelo yokuchaza isenzo sokubukela i-porn njengokuba besenza isondo sangempela abaye bathatha inxaxheba ekwenzeni ukutyalomali kwabo ngoononophelo konke okona. Uthando lukaKasey [Kox] luyamthanda xa uKasey [Kox] enxibe ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye emomothekayo ebhedeni lakhe, okanye ndiyayenza ngasemva, "kusho uRon, umfundi wokwakha. "Ndiyifumana ingcamango kaKasey kwaye ndivuliwe. Ndiza kuhlaziya. "
Yonke into ephakamisa umbuzo onomdla: Ngamanye amaxesha ukutshatyalaliswa kwamanye amaxesha, ngamanye amaxesha kubangelwa njani, ukuxhatshazwa ngesondo ngokuchanekileyo kubangelwa njani amaqabane ekupheleni kokufumana? U-Sadie, i-29, i-agent ye-real estate e-Boston, icaphuna umenzi wezobugcisa uNicole Blackman ukuba enze iphuzu lakhe: "'Akukho luzuko ekuzameni ukuthandana nabantu abayaziyo kuphela indlela yokudada-indoda emva komntu emva komntu emva kokuvuswa ngoonwabo. Kukho amaxesha adlulileyo, "u-Sadie uyaqhubeka," xa ndiza kuba nomntu kwaye ndicinga, uYesu uhamba noKristu, yintoni na uhlobo lwentsiphu yeentsipho ezibubububupho obubukeleyo? Ngaba uvele wambetha ikiti yam? I-dumbass!"
"Kukho ukuhluleka ukuhlula phakathi kwezinto eziphathekayo kunye neenyaniso," kusho uMonika, 27. "Omnye umfana waqhubeka ememeza esithi, 'Khawukhwele umkhweli, khawukhwele iqhude!' Ndandihleka ngokukhawuleza kwafuneka siyeke. "
Njengomphumo wokudibanisa ubungqina kunye neengcamango, abanye besetyhini baye bakhetha ukudlala ngokuzithandela kunye nemithetho emitsha ukuze bahlale banomdla abantu: Bazenza iinjongo zezononwabo ngokuzithandela. U-Sadie, i-agent ye-real estate, uthi, "Abantu abaninzi baye balindela i-PSE [i-" I-Star-Star Experience "] njengento eqhelekileyo-intshontshi yaxhamla, iyafikelela kuyo yonke indawo-kwaye ininzi yabasetyhini ingaphezulu uvuyo ukubonelela. Abambalwa banokuyonwabela, kodwa kuninzi kunzima. Ndicinga ukuba kukho ukwesaba ukuba ukuba abanako ukwenza ukuba kwenzeke, iqabane lawo liza kubuyela kwi-intanethi. "
UMonty, i-31, umdlali weQueens, ophakathi kweemifanekiso zokudubula achitha malunga neyure ngosuku ukukhwabanisa i-intanethi kwi-intanethi, uthi uyaphawule ukutshintsha. Uthi: "Ndandinentombazana eyayibonakala iyintambo yeentambo kunye noononophala," ushoyo. "Wayenalo mbono waseSoviet Union wayezama ukuphuma."
U-Evan, no-31 uthi, "Abasetyhini bajikeleza. "Ndiyintle. Ndiya kumfazi ovukayo. Kodwa ndiqaphele ukuba abafazi bafumana ilizwi elininzi ngoku. Okwenza into engingazi ngayo, okanye abafazi baqala ukulinganisa oko kwenzekayo kwi-pornography. Ukunyaniseka, kuluhlobo olunzima. Andiqinisekanga ukuba ndiyathanda. "
UTony, 48, umyili we-intanethi eSt. Paul, owahlukana nomfazi kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo emva kweminyaka engamashumi amabini yomtshato, uvakalisa ingcamango. "Ndisoloko ndicinga ukuba kushushu xa abesetyhini beefilimu zoononografi bathi izinto ezingcolileyo," ushilo. "Ngokuqhelekileyo, baxela ngokwenene into eyenzekayo, enikela umdlalo ngokudlala: 'Uyangifaka! Udade wakho eesile! Ndiyasela iqhude lakho ngoku! ' Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni na, yintoni eyenza kum. Kodwa kungekudala umfazi endinayo ndaqala ukuthetha zonke izinto, kwaye nje kuhlobo lwam lokususa. Wayebonakala engancinci. "
Kwaye ke i-conundrum ivela. Amadoda, ogqithiseleyo ngoononophala, elambile ngasese kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo ezenza izilwanyana. Abasetyhini, beqaphela ukuhla kwe-libidos yamaqabane abo, zama ukuphinda uhlaziye uhlobo lweemifanekiso abantu ababukele kwiikrini zabo zekhompyutha. Amadoda, ngenxa yoko, afumaneka ngokupheleleyo. Abafuni abafazi babo bokwenene kunye nabasetyhini babo abantombazana ukuba bahlale emzimbeni owodwa. Okanye, njengoko uRon echaza: "Khumbuza i-Ghostbusters? Uthandani uBill Murray wayenabo noDana, umlingiswa weSigourney Weaver? Uvakalelwa inhlanhla ukuba amvumele ukuba avumelane nomhla kunye naye, kodwa ke xa ebonakalisa emnyango wakhe, unesidemon, ehamba ezinyaweni ezine ngaphezu kombhede wakhe, umcela ukuba adibanise ingqondo yakhe. Kwaye uyangqinelwa ngokupheleleyo kwaye ayikwazi ukuphuma apho ngokukhawuleza. Ewe, yinto efana nayo xa intombi yakho iqalisa ngokukhawuleza ibanjwe njengendlovukazi oyimfesane. Uthi, 'Bantwana, uhamba phi? Ndifuna nje intombi yam. "U
Njengawuphi na uphando, ndagqiba ekubeni kuphande i-theory. Ndandivile malunga nento ethiwa yiSuku lweSizwe lokuSusa i-Unplugging, exhaswe yiqela lase-New-based Jewish-based Reboot, elikhuthaza abantu ukuba bathathe iholide yosuku olulodwa kwi-tech yabo. Kodwa ndikhethile ukuba ndikhendule ngendlela yam: ngokungafuni ukutyelela uluhlu oluqhelekileyo lwewebhusayithi ye-tawdry ndisoloko ndilala ngaphambi kokulala. Ngoku, ngokuqinisekileyo andizame ukugxeka i-pornography, okanye ukugqiba ukuba ayikho indawo ebomini babantu, nokuba ngaba bodwa okanye kwinkampani. Kwaye ndiya kuvuma ukuba ezinye iibini zitshatile zifumanisa ukuba yinto yokujika. Kodwa ukulungiswa kobuhlobo bomntu kunye nokuhlaziya ubuhlobo bomntu-mhlawumbi xa uhlala ulala ngaphakathi egumbini lokulala, ukhangela amehlo kwintsebenziswano edidekile kakhulu. Ngoko ke ndenza okuthile.
Ndaya ngaphaya koononophelo ngosuku. Emva koko ndazame ezimbini. Emva koko zintathu. Ngosuku lwesine, ndafumana inzuzo yokulala ngeshini. Kwaye kwakungekho nto eyayingenayo, nangona ndiyakwazi ukuthetha kuphela.
Bona kwakhona "Indlela endiyifumana ngayo kwi-Erectile Dysfunction ehlobene ne-Porn"
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