Abacebisi balwa 'isibetho sephonografi', iingcali zengqondo uSeema Hingorrany kunye noYolande Pereira, ugqirha wabantwana, uSamir Dalwai (2015)

Kwiiveki ezimbini ezidlulileyo, kwisemina yokuqala yelizwe yokulwa "ubhubhane wephonografi," ngaphezulu kwe-103 yabacebisi, ulutsha olwenzisayo, abafundisi, oonongendi kunye nabanyangi abaphuma kumarhamente ahlukeneyo nakwindawo zokucebisa zehlabathi bacamngca ngembali yesigulana enebali likaMathew. "Njengabantu abaninzi, uMathew ujonge iphonografi kwiwebhu rhoqo emva koko," ucacise isifundo ngaphambi kokuba angene kwi-accountant eyimpumelelo yokwehla kwesiyobisi. "Kungekudala, isiqingatha somhla womsebenzi kaMathew sathathwa sikhangela iwebhu kwi-porn," laqhubeka ibali. "Imifanekiso yezesondo, iminqweno kunye neminqweno emikhulu ilawula iingcinga zakhe. Elona qabane lakhe limthandayo yilaptop." Ukuqukumbela, ababekho bacelwa ukuba batshatise ungenelelo lomlutha, owayesele enetyala kakhulu, elinamanyala kwi-porn elukhuni, ebandakanyeka kulwalamano olungaphandle komtshato kwaye elangazelela ukushiya umfazi wakhe.I-seminar, eyenziwa yiSnehalaya Family Service Centre, eyasungulwa yi-Bombay Archdiocese kodwa leyo ibangela abantu bezo zikholo zonke, isiphumo sophando lweenyanga ezintandathu malunga nemikhuba yokubukela ubulili kwiipariti ze-16, iikholeji ezisixhenxe kunye namaziko asibhozo . Uphando lubonise ukuba umkhwa uyaxhaphaka kwaye ukwanda. Nangona bekujoliswe kwisampula esilumkileyo sokholo, ngaphezu kwe-50% yabaphenduli babengamaKristu. Kwisemina kwakhona, i-70% yabemi bebuKristu.UFan Cajetan Menezes, owayeqhuba inxenye yesemina kwaye engumlawuli weSnehalaya. "Nokuba ubukela imizuzu engama-20 ye-porn ngeveki, iyakutshintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo kunye nobume bengqondo," wongeze watsho. Ukongeza, kukho unxibelelwano phakathi kwe-porn kunye nobundlobongela kwabasetyhini, utshilo uMenezes. "Kithina, iphonografi lulwandiso lokuxhaphaza abantu ngokwesondo, kunye nokurhweba ngabantu basetyhini, yiyo loo nto sithathe amanyathelo abukhali ngalo mbandela." 

Abanye abacebisi besixeko kunye nabanyangi nabo babonile ukuphakanyiswa okuphawulekileyo ekubukeni i-porn. "Umguli ngamnye wesibini ongena ngokungathandabuzekiyo utyekele ekuboneni iphonografi, ”utshilo ugqirha wengqondo uSeema Hingorrany. Kunyaka ophelileyo ndibone ukutsiba okuyi-30%. Uphuhliso kugqirha wabantwana, uSamir Dalwai, ubone imeko efanayo ebantwaneni. "Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zokuwohloka kwezemfundo namhlanje iphonografi," utshilo. Kwesinye isihlandlo, indlela yokuziphatha yenkwenkwana eneminyaka esixhenxe ubudala kunye neengxaki zemfundo, kubandakanya nokubetha abanye abantwana, zalandelwa kwi-porn. "Utata wayebukele iphonografi kwaye akazange azicime iisayithi kwisikhangeli ecinga ukuba umntwana mncinci kakhulu," ukhumbula uDalwai.

Elinye lawona matyala mabi Hingorrany wakha waphathwa yayingumfundi wobunjineli, owayebukele iphonografi iiyure ezili-14 ngosuku. “Wayengaziphumelelanga iimviwo zakhe, ezenzakalisa ngokuphulula amalungu esini ngokugqithisileyo kwaye wayenengxaki yoxinzelelo kunye nemibono,” ukhumbula uHingorrany. Iingcali ezininzi, nangona kunjalo, zithi ayinguye wonke umntu olikhoboka. Ngapha koko, ugqirha wezesondo uPrakash Kothari akaboni monakalo ekusebenziseni iphonografi njenge-aphrodisiac ukuba iphakathi. Uthe abanye abantu bacinyiwe kukuvezwa kakhulu. “Ifana negulab jamun. Ukuba unayo yonke imihla, ulonwabo luyalahleka. ”

Inani labasetyhini ababukele iphonografi nalo liyenyuka. U-Hingorrany uthe kuwo onke amadoda angama-10 amakhoboka, unezigulana ezithathu zabasetyhini. Kwimeko enye ekhankanyiweyo ngexesha lesemina, umlutha wobugqwetha wafunyanwa ngempazamo njengoxinzelelo lwasemva kwesithuba de isigulana sicoceke. Olunye uhlangothi lwempembelelo yokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn kunokuba kukungasebenzi okanye ukungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile. Ingcali kwezosapho u-Yolande Pereira, owayeqhuba inxenye yale semina, uthe, “Iipesenti ezingama-XNUMX zamadoda nabasetyhini, abeza kuthi nge-erectile dysfunction okanye i-libido ephantsi, emva kokundwendwela iingcali zesini kunye nee-urologists ngaphandle kokuphucuka, banembali ende yokubukela iphonografi. ”

I-Hingorrany iqikelelwa ukuba abahlanu abaxhamli be-porn-10 baxhamla kwi-libido ephantsi ngenxa yokuphila kwabo okungenabungozi, ukuxhatshazwa kwimifanekiso yesondo kunye nexhala. "Ndandinomfana owafika wandixelela ukuba ubukele iphonografi kakhulu kwaye xa esiya kwenza intombazana, akakwazi ukuyenza kwaye wothukile," wakhumbula uHingorrany, "Ndacacisa ukuba wayezikhathaza ngokubukela kakhulu ngayo. ”

Abanye babo bezimasa isemina ezifana nogqirha wengqondo kunye nomcebisi uNilufer Mistry, osebenza kwisibhedlele iMassena, ziingcali kwezomlutha kwaye bezizimasa ukuphucula izakhono zabo. Xa ebuzwa ukuba uyavuma na ukuthatha amanyathelo abukhali kwi-porn, wathi, "Ndiyakholelwa ukuba nantoni na ekunciphiseni isempilweni, kodwa iphonografi iyakhobokisa."

Abanye bebevolontiya besonto benethemba lokuba i-seminar yayiza kubanika izixhobo zokujongana noononophala obugqithisileyo.

U-Noreen Machado waseparishini yase-St Theresa e-Bandra, ongumququzeleli weseli yosapho, wayenethemba lokuba iza kumnceda ancede abazali abanabantwana abasokolayo yile micimbi.

Kwixesha elizayo, uSnehalaya uthemba ukuqala iqela lokuxhasa abaxhatshazwayo bezononophelo, kwakhona ukhuseleko kunye neendlela zokuzimela ngasese zikhoyo. Banyathela ngokucophelela kuba amazwe aphesheya awaziwa ukuba athabathe i-stalkers kunye ne-perverts, abajoyina ukuxhatshazwa ngabaxhatshazi abasengozini kunye nabatshatileyo babo.